March 2016 Babies!! Our Grape-sized babies are getting Bigger!

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Thought I'd start our new thread as the old one is full up!

Q I think it's completely normal not to put on any weight in the first trimester, loads of people I know actually lose it - my best friend lost 9 lbs.

It's only later on they worry a bit if you don't put on anything.

Just enjoy it :)

Q I'm the same weight too and started in the normal BMI range, +/- the standard one large shit deviation. I'd like to think we don't have too much to worry about there and that it will come later.

that's reassuring,

I'm a natural worrier anyway so I think I'm somehow looking for things to stop me getting excited if that makes any sense, DP keeps telling me I'm such a pessimist and to just be happy. He's the one looking at what to do with the nursery and stuff while I keep saying 'we will see, wait until we know it's ok' etc etc.

to be fair I'm a little more than I should be (had started running 3 weeks before getting bfp) at 10 stone 9 - had put on a stone since starting an office job just over a year ago.

so glad MN is back up and running, can't for the life of me remeber what I've changed my password to with all these new rules thoough so hope I don't have to enter it again anytime soon.

Q - it's just everything I'm embarrassed about; I'm normally so house proud but the house is a mess, I always wear make up but currently none on... etc! Really going to have to harrass the estate agents today though if nothing happens.

Oh and I know how you feel about the wait... I'm 12+3 and scan isn't for another week. I've always been a pessimist while DH is the optimist but I am a lot more positive this time round. Well, for me, anyway!

12+3 here today too (according to my private scan anyway, according to the day I thought I ovulated I am only 11+3) and scan is next week Thursday...feels like ages.

Q I am 1kg lighter than I was at my booking in appointment! I seem to have a huge bloated tummy though (deffo not a bump yet) so no idea what my body is doing but everything was fine at my scan so I'm sure it's nothing to worry about.

TriJo

Beautiful have you looked in the cistern? Sometimes the bit of wire that connects the mechanism to the handle becomes unhooked. Or the floaty thing gets wedged so the cistern won't refill. If I were you I'd ask the plumber neighbour, but then shut all the internal doors and make a clean path to the relevant area.

But then, I'm not at all houseproud. I hate cleaning. As long as the house looks better than you see on those hoarding/Kim & Aggie type programmes I'm happy (with sanitary kitchen & bathrooms). I'd love an uncluttered permanently tidy house but we're just naturally lazy messy.

maybebaby yeh I'm pretty sure I'm less than 12+3 but I guess I won't know unless next week. This pic was from this morning...

DH is pretty handy and bought a new toilet flusher before he went to Scotland but even he couldn't do it. Plumber neighbour is at work ironically, ha! But that is a good idea actually...

Need a rant grrr - was dp's brothers birthday a week ago, with morning sickness and grannys funeral and dp looking after me and things we completely forgot to take a card and present round.

Dp's wife has now said if we can't make the effort to even post a birthday card then they are withdrawing their offer of their old cot bed to us and will sell it elsewhere.

it's a god damn card. I don't really care about the bed, we will buy our own, it's the pettiness of a 37 year old woman over a bloody birthday card which wasn't even for her.

(bear in mind in 4.5 years of dp and I being together I have never had card nor present off them for my bday)
I think I'm just being hormonal and getting annoyed at little things, but even dp thinks she is being a bit weird about it.

anddddddd breath

been looking online for all those who were wondering about maternity wear, found that figleaves.com have some lovely looking things.

indomitable I just read your toilet flusher fixer idea, and laughed to myself at how techy we all sound in describing how to repair it haha.

Q that is pathetic of them! I'm always surprised at people like this. I don't think I'd even dignify that behaviour with a response.

(Reminds me of the time I got told off for not being dramatic enough when my friend told me of her dad's illness. I'd said all the right things, been sympathetic, asked about treatment, etc. What was she expecting? Wailing and self flagellation?)

I don't know the technical terminology! Doesn't stop us having valid suggestions!

Omg Q that's pathetic! Especially because you've never had a card from them! Seriously what?

I've been having a lot of trouble with DH's family over the past few weeks. Not really ready to share on here, but it has been spoiling what should be an amazing time for me and DH. Think positive, think positive...

Q how ridiculous of them, some people...

Bit worried about telling DH's family I'm pregnant...we'll be visiting them to tell them after my scan. They like me and I like them but about six months ago his mum said something like 'but of course you won't want kids for ages yet, maybe, as you're so young'. I'm 26 and he is 31 so I think they think I'll be waiting til I'm in my thirties.

Also because we aren't married (I call him DH as can't stand DP for some reason) and because we have only been together 3 years. Whereas DH's older brother and his wife have been together for 15 years and only just had their first (SIL is 35).

families are crazy sometimes,

all dp's brothers and their wives know about our pregnancy, so do his mum and dad.

Don't think they're too bothered about us not being married, we both have good jobs and a mortgage etc. I'm 28 and dp 27 and been together 4.5 years so not that soon really, just think this one SIL likes to be centre of attention and so when things don't go her way she likes to use things against us (shes the same with most of the family apparently)

screw them all - we are all happy with our lime sized babas, who needs all of those oddballs

Me and DH only got married in December - our other babies were born out of wedlock

In fact, I was pregnant with our first within 10 days of getting together with him...

Wowee Beautiful! That must have been a surprise

Families are weird. I hope I'm not that weird when I'm someone's MIL.

Yep it was a huge shock! No one expected him to stick around either so I'm very glad we proved them wrong.

I've only got one son (well, at the minute anyway!) So should only be a MIL to one person... hopefully I'm a nice one! Anyway she should like me as I'm raising him to be very independent and capable... he's 6 and can do the laundry!

me and DP have been together nearly 11 years (met in uni) and aren't married yet. not sure when we will, if at all. neither of us really fancy having a wedding - the whole expense of it and being the centre of attention isn't really our thing tbh. not against it as such and we have talked about having a registry office wedding but haven't got round to it. I feel we should for legal reasons but its the effort of organising it.

when I got pregnant with DD I was a bit worried about telling his family as his mum is quite religious, goes to church every Sunday etc. his mum didn't bat an eyelid though. whether she cares we're unmarried I don't know, but she's not the type of person to force her opinions on others so shes never mentioned it nor seemed bothered by it in the slightest. his dad wants us to get married - hasn't said so outright but has said a few times that he things people who get married have stronger relationships as a result. I disagree completely and have had a few spirited debates about it haha.

DPs (younger) brother on the other hand was completely weird about us having a baby before getting married. a few years ago when we started to think about having kids I mentioned it to him and his then gf (now wife) and she said 'but you have to get married first!'. I honestly never had thought that before and I told her so. fast forward two years and I got pregnant with DD - DP told his brother and the first thing he said was 'was it planned?' - which to me is quite a rude question personally - and the second thing he said was 'are you going to get married?'. and then a congratulations! very strange. DPs brother and SIL got engaged and married within three months last year. we couldn't work out what all the rush was about but apparently it was because they wanted kids. so I guess they couldn't bear to have children out of wedlock. is it that big an issue these days? maybe I'm naïve or just a bit clueless about societal expectations haha. I've got five siblings, three have kids and all out of wedlock, my brother got married after his DD was born. so to me it wasn't strange not to get married at all but maybe just my family likes living in sin

marmite no my family aren't big wedding people either, I think that's why I've never been so bothered.

I do think we will get married as I have unfortunately seen too many women get screwed over after splitting when not married (not that I like to think about my OH in those terms but practically speaking!) but we will wait until this baby is a good 2/3 years old. I don't want small gaps between kids so I think we won't have another one til after that anyway. Getting married will be on the list after having this baby and moving house!

Just had to pick out the part of your post marmite about people asking if it was planned - i can't believe how many people have asked me this and I agree it is such a rude question!! One of dh's relatives went even further and asked how long we had been trying - as it happens, this is a much longed for lime baby which took 18 months of ttc to make, but that is very private information to me which we have not shared with anyone. I just mumbled something about it taking a little while and swiftly changed the subject but inside was like OMG!

wow, Me, that is incredibly rude. Something as personal as how long you were ttc is definitely not an appropriate question to be asked! I have told some people how long me and DP were trying for this baby, but never have I been asked, it was more when discussing the pregnancy I felt comfortable with those people to share.

Funnily enough with DD we weren't asked by anyone else if it was planned or not - I think most people just assumed as we had been together for a long time it was planned and for most people the fact we were unmarried was neither here nor there. either that or they were polite enough not to ask!

My word, some people are SO rude!! As long as child has happy parents the they are well equipped to be brought up perfectly!! Gah I'm not married to my DP and luckily no one has ever judged this....I dare them!! Haha. For me I would love to be married, I hate not having the same name as my Dd. We are engaged but I scoff at the expense of a wedding to make that happen!! I keep mentioning Grenta but fear I have a groomzilla on my hands!!

Scan update, all perfectly well with my little blob, due 12th March!!

Ironically it's 4 years to the day I went for my Dds first scan...she was originally due 10th March but arrived on the 3rd...hopefully they won't have matching birth dates too!!

We are very close to having made a honeymoon baby - I am due one day short of 10 months after our wedding! I'm going to get so much stick over that from my relatives when I'm back home next, it's a very traditional Irish Catholic timeframe

Getting married is a very individual choice though, we thought it was and is the right choice for us but it won't be for everyone. We ended up having a slightly bigger day than anticipated (75 guests on the day) but didn't spend over the odds thanks to the euro rate crashing earlier this year. We didn't get into any debt, which is something we're thankful for now with a baby on the way within the year.