February 2016 Babies - The time for scans is fast approaching!

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Some sad news here guys, after only joining last week I may be leaving the thread from no symptoms to feeling this week like I had the hangover from hell I ended up at a and e yesterday with heavy bleeding, after much prodding and probing and blood tests they concluded they couldn't tell anything from the scan (retro vetted uterus) so I have to sit out in limbo until Monday it sounds petty but I'd give anything to be worrying about my birth plan right now, don't forget how lucky you are ladies xx

Oh pixie that's awful.

fx for you on Monday.

So sorry to hear that pixie. What a horrible time. Hope you are being looked after. Fingers crossed for you tomorrow. xxx

It doesn't sound petty at all Pixie I've lost 3 and I completely understand that feeling.

Big big hugs to you and I'm thinking of you

Good luck for Monday pixie.

Thinking of you, Pixie

Spanoo, sweetheart, it's good that we can come here and share, right? It's not as though we have to share the gory details, we just sometimes need to get it out. I'm struggling with the deceit more than anything; me and dh are the envy of my friends as we 'have such a fantastic relationship; he is so amazing, Purdie'

Thanks, everyone, for support. I wish I could leave but I can't. He is a sahd and brilliant at it. We are fucking poor and that is unlikely to change.

Brummie, at the time, I guess forceps were needed - I just couldn't push her out. I couldn't even feel her head or a sensation of her body moving down my birth canal (thanks, epidural). I guess the secret is to not have an epidural and my logic says that at home with a pool would be a massive change in my psychological abilities to cope. Or am I talking horse shit?

Pixie, I'm sorry I missed your post. Did they try a transvaginal scan? Couldn't they hear a heartbeat with one of those? We know from one of the Jellies on here that heavy bleeding may not be the end, so try to have hope.

pixie

purdie I had forceps because I was "too mardy and lazy to push properly" not exhausted after 36 hours of labour with no pain relief I shit you not, thats what the MW said. She denied me gas and air, pethidine, epidural. Shouted in my face several times. I was screaming in agony every time she made me push. It didn't feel right. Student MW snuck out and fetched a Consultant who took one look and told the MW to leave the room. As it turned out, my boy was back to back, brow presentation and had his elbow at the side of his head - my cervix had swollen and trapped him. Because she'd been forcing me to push for 3 hours. I don't want to describe how they got him out but my ex said it looked like a slaughterhouse. 47 stitches. Surgery. PTSD and a boy whos almost blind and has needed several eye surgeries. This was all on just gas and air.

I was induced early with DD and the labour and birth was fast and simple.

Thinking of you pixie and those having shit times at home

Hurray for new thread-

Meds are taking the edge off the sickness but now leave me so tired I still can't really get anything done. Oh well- at least I'm not vomiting.

We leave for holiday in a week.. I really hope I get the energy back or risk being a giant wet blanket.

pixie hoping its just a horrid scare and everything will be ok for you cant imagine how scary it must be for you

stocking that sounds utterly horrific! did you make a formal complaint? Thank god for that student!

Pixie - I am sorry to hear your news. I know how scary and worrying it is.
I'm 8 weeks today but two weeks ago I had an enormous bleed coupled with clots and cramping. I too spent some time in A&E and after an internal they told me to try not to worry as the cervix was closed.
Well, I had to worry for a further 4 days before they were able to offer a scan. I'd resigned myself to the fact that I'd probably miscarried - yet there on the scan was a healthy yolk sac, with a blob and a heartbeat.
The scan also confirmed that the bleed came from an area right next to the sac and would come away at a later date - which it has/is.

Don't give up just yet. All may be well yet. Remain optimistic (as my DP did - there was never a bad outcome in his head) and rest up. I will be thinking of you.

Thinking of you Pixie, I hope everything turns out to be ok.

Purdie and Spanoo I'm sorry you're both having such a hard time at home. Purdie is there a chance that you will be able to make peace with what's happened?

Stocking your birth story has sent chills down my spine. The first part is so similar to mine yet we escaped the horror that you and your little boy went through. You're a brave and strong woman.

My news is that there is,no news. I'm eleven weeks today and was told on Friday that I won't be hearing anything about my scan date for another week or two. So we've booked a private one for Saturday - dating, nuchal, bloods etc, results within three days. Stuff the nhs. I only wish we lived nearer to the clinic as they do private births too.

mayo It was a Nottinghamshire hospital. FWIW, the MWs I had when having my DDs at another Notts hospital were just brilliant. So compassionate, very good at talking me down. I can't sing their praises enough. My best friend gave birth at that bastard hospital 2 years ago and had a very similar experience. Mine experience was 10.5 years ago, I'd only just turned 18 when I had DS. Considering my DDs almost slid out, very little effort from me, my body just pushed automatically and I didn't have to force it, it makes me all the more angry that my body was telling me something was wrong and I was ignored.

It's amazing how variable experiences can be, depending on where you are. My midwives were amazing, really supportive of my wishes and went well beyond the call of duty when things went wrong. It was the bloody doctors/surgeons who decided that my innards needed permanently rearranging. Sadly I'll have no choice but to trust a surgeon with this baby.

purdie hope you're ok. It's really difficult when people around you think your home life is perfect. Hope you've got some RL support as well as on here.

for those that have already given birth - is the midwife that you see through the pregnancy for appointments generally present at birth?

i dont get how that would work or they would need to be on call 24/7!

Stocking, rarely have I heard such grotesquerie and disrespect and unprofessionalism at a birth. That woman has issues. How brave you are. Do you have closure, do you think

May, only this afternoon I have decided to continue as we are. Some wise person once told me 'pick your battles' and I have decided I have bigger fish to fry: I have a baby here and one on the way; I am hanging on to my tenuous contract by the skin of my teeth; I am suffering physically with this pregnancy; what has happened isn't a deal breaker (although it may have been were I wealthy and had a nanny).

It could be worse: he could be gay

Thanks to everyone who has been supportive. I have amazing friends and a very tight and loving family who are fiercely protective of me since I recovered from alcoholism. You still feel lonely, though, when it is your husband who has let you down. I'm kind of sick of being the strong one; the one with the scruples; the linchpin of our family.