February 2016 Babies - The time for scans is fast approaching!

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Yes, but all that bloody mincing ...

So sorry Purdie and pixie and anyone else struggling at the moment.

stocking can I ask if the bad notts hosp was qmc? And do you think it was the hospital in general or the midwife in particular that was the issue? I had DS at City and have to say they were mostly brill although there were definitely some midwife's that I found it harder to get along with (I spent a month there lucky me!) and I do worry about getting one that I don't click with this time round.

stocking i pmd u to ask if it was qmc! I have heard bad things :/

i will need to self refer to either qmc or city when i move so am a little nervous about making the choice - being so young i only know one person that has had kids and although city were good in the delivery, her baby was very poorly afterwards and they were less than great with the aftercare! (mum and baby all ok and healthy now)

glad to hear your experience with city was good tired i think thatll end up being my choice

wow i've just found you and we're four pages in. I'm being very quiet, just vomming away and reading what everyone else says......carry on

Everything I've herd (so far!) says city is far better primary. My DS was early and spent a few weeks in city neonatal, they were very caring with him and very supportive of me so I'd recommend! Glad your friend & baby ok in the end x

Heard! Hate this bloody iPad sometimes!

pixie got my fingers crossed for you

purdie, so glad to hear you've got support and I really hope things settle down so you feel a little better. Thinking of you.

stocking I'm another person who shuddered at your story, that is horrendous. I'm so sorry you had to go the through that, especially so young. I hope that midwife was sacked and barred.

mayo I had something similar to a doula when ds was born. She was a colleague but very spiritual and I asked for her support as I was on my own and in a different country. She kept my hopes up and didn't let me despair until I knew for certain ds was going to die, which meant I had enough strength for the labour. She then held my hand all through the labour. I couldn't have done it without her and I credit my good health to her - I would have been in much worse a state of she hadn't been there. I don't know if she still is but after that she started training to be a doula.

I have a fear of anyone telling me what to do during the birth - I'd freebirth if I had the guts!

It's crazy how much difference there is in different areas with the run up, birth and after care! I saw loads of different mw with ds I've not got any major issues with birth and hosp. I was really pleased that someone had warned me that u are just left to it on the ward so not didn't bother me too much.
I'm not happy with the lack bf support though and am actually looking into private support of that this time.
personally I didn't have much of a birth plan on the advice of friends cos it can easily go tits up and cause extra stress if u have a fixed ideas. I did research things though and give dh instructions.
Sorry for waffling
does anyone know what the chances of being over due twice are? I'm a bit scared to look it up. I went 13 days over and it was pure hell. I wide definitely opt for an earlier induction if given the choice this time!

City is AMAZING. Highly recommend. I had a complicated and lengthy stay there during DD1s pregnancy (caused by damage done due to forceps) and I couldn't have felt safer there. They ooze competence and professionalism, even when I was constantly snotting all over them, they were brilliant.

Kings Mill is the one to avoid. My school friends brother and his DW were recently involved in a law suit against them due to mishandled birth. It is the worst thing I have ever heard in my life.

I'll be going to Peri Natal Psych out at QMC - anyone who has birth trauma, speak to your MW about a referral.

thanks for the advice tired and stocking. City it is!

truly in awe of the ladies who have come through traumatic labours, i can imagine an easy birth is still fairly difficult to forget letalone one with horrific incidents and unsupportive healthcare profs around

Ah, didn't consider kings mill. Yes, they seem to be in the news frequently...never a good sign!

I know what you mean primary, I wonder how women are brave enough to try again sometimes. I think I went in with my eyes closed with DS and thought once you were past 12 weeks it was plain sailing, and that the birth would hurt but would 'work' iyswim- didn't really consider complications.

Heard so many horror stories since that I wonder why we put ourselves through it sometimes especially after DS has been a pain in the bum all day like today!

Wow marsaday, I would go with a travel kettle and add water porridge pots.

I'm gonna be honest and say that I have virtually no memory of DS birth, just the odd flash back that leaves me a sweaty gibbering wreck for days and after all the issues with DD I just wanted her out safely and that overrode any fear. The human brain is a marvellous thing. says the psych patient

On another note, hello fellow Nottinghamshire folks! I wish I still lived more Nottingham less Mansfield way sulks

stocking that's truly shocking what was done to you. Fair fucks to you for getting through it and going on to have more DCs.

spanoo if my mum was on this thread it'd be a medical marvel she'd say your DP sounds like he needs a good kick up the arse. I hope his wobble is over with now and he's more supportive going forward.

purdie sorry to hear you're having to stay when you don't really want to. Saying that, I left my first marriage when DD was 4 and I hadn't a pot to piss in, it was hard and we were homeless for a while (not on the street, had to stay with various relies). Not a decision to take lightly although in my case my exH was abusive so in the end we had to get out.

Monty, the problem is we have a fabulous relationship in spite of his Achilles heel, and as someone who was once an alcoholic and tore a path of carnage through the lives of my loved ones, I know the power of forgiveness. That doesn't mean I'm a pushover, but it does mean my goalposts are a little wider than they used to be...

It could be worse: He could be Caitlyn Jenner.

Charlotte, come out from underneath your rock and talk to us.....

can i join please? websites saying due febuary 25th second baby!

and do you have a fb group? we had one on my last bus and it was fab!

Welcome mum there is a fb group I think - not sure who is in charge of it!

Mumofnearlytwo if you PM me your r
name I'll add you to the FB group

purdie I hope you can work it out so. Forgiveness is bloody hard though, for both sides, I think. I hope you can get back to where you were before this, if possible

mayo no, I heard Domino is great but the one I'm going on is the Early Transfer Home scheme. I go to the midwives in (don't want to out myself too much!) a certain south county Dublin hospital, which is very very close to where I live, but first I have to see the consultant in Holles St at the end of this month to get cleared for the midwife clinic.

So from 20 weeks onwards I'll (hopefully) go to the midwives and gp for alternate visits. Deliver in Holles St, straight home and then midwives to me for 3 - 5 days. Did it for DS and it was fab.

The worst part of postpartum hospital imprisonment was having a catheter dangling from my snatch for 24 hours and those Bounty bastards flogging their shit. Oh, and families of a certain culture filling the ward with their unnecessary number.