December 2015 #3 - riding out the first trimester!!

[ChandlersFarang]

Noticed we were getting a bit full in the last thread! Roll up, roll up for more scanning, puking, worrying and other distractions to take us through the first trimester!

Quickly checking in from phuket . Fortunately no nausea today but have that rocking thing that you get after being on boat, never had it after a flight. Thailand isn't quite the same when you are pg and have a toddler, am wrapped up in a robe ready for bed. No diving or partying for me!

Just wanted to say chandlers sorry you are feeling crap. My consultant actually doesn't recommend any multi vitamin in the first trimester, only folic acid... Even though I am mildly vitamin d deficient (oh the irony living in the sun), he said to wait. I don't know why, maybe because of nausea and reasons you mention!

chops hope all ok. Cramps are normal but do see midwife if they are stressing you and / or are really painful.

Ps empty flight DD had seat all to herself but, no, wanted to sit on mummy's knee the whole flight, she did not sleep at all and I watched 10 mins of a film whereas DH got drunk and passed out. Parenthood!

That blog post is TERRIFYING! I'm still naively thinking it won't be like that, though

Had my booking in! MW said to stop tracking everything I eat and just eat a balanced diet. That's a relief!

It was all fine apart from the beginning when I had to explain about my previous chem pg (the month before this pg) and she really didn't understand what had happened so I had to go over it about 3 times and was on the verge of tears!

She also perked up a lot when I asked about Hypnobirthing. That's also a relief because I so desperately want to be supported at hospital.

Almost fainted when she took my blood (but I was starving and stupidly decided to have a look at the needle whilst it was in my arm!).

chops sounds stressful at work! Hope the cramps ease off. Hopefully just stretching or trapped wind!

Ps Jebel! Your journey sounds fun! Lol. I am quite nervous about a flight I have to take in a couple of weeks.

MissMrs Welcome to the denial club... I plan to remain here until December

Hello ladies!
Hope everyone is doing ok. I'm playing catch up on the thread as have had a stressful week with some brown spotting so have been quiet on here. Saw the Gp on Tuesday who referred me to EPU today. Consultant said brown on wiping isn't anything to worry about and they scanned me. Saw bean measuring 9+4 with heart beating so am very relieved. Hoping that MMC risk drops now as am determined to relax and enjoy being pregnant....easier said than done! Me and BF having a bbq to celebrate the good news. Will catch up on thread and how everyone is doing x

That blog really made me chuckle. I do remember asking my mum why she hadn't told me how hard it is at the beginning first time round! Its good to read a more realistic view but everyone has different experiences and struggles, totally depends on the baby. DS was super laid back and slept a lot which was lovely so I'm expecting a hard work second!

I don't know where I'm at weeks wise with my scan putting my forward so I think I'm 10+3. I look about 4 months pregnant, the bloat has come on big time! I'm not feeling sick any more but the tiredness is crippling, really hope it eases off.

Those of you doing long haul flights, well done! I got motion sickness on the train today. Hope everyone's keeping well. 12 weeks scan will be coming thick and fast soon!

That blog really made me chuckle. I do remember asking my mum why she hadn't told me how hard it is at the beginning first time round! Its good to read a more realistic view but everyone has different experiences and struggles, totally depends on the baby. DS was super laid back and slept a lot which was lovely so I'm expecting a hard work second!

I don't know where I'm at weeks wise with my scan putting my forward so I think I'm 10+3. I look about 4 months pregnant, the bloat has come on big time! I'm not feeling sick any more but the tiredness is crippling, really hope it eases off.

Those of you doing long haul flights, well done! I got motion sickness on the train today. Hope everyone's keeping well. 12 weeks scan will be coming thick and fast soon!

Phew fizzie great news!

jebel I got that after my flight last week! Plus it feels like I'm on the sea when I get out of a lift! I just realised that must have been my first ever symptom! That happened the week before my bfp when I got out of a lift and I thought it was strange but its happened a few times since!

assassin my tummy is huge today! My jeggings are feeling awfully tight!

Whoops just let a tiny bit of wind slip on the bus as tummy hurts from keeping it all in at work. Smells like something died.....

Haha, that made me laugh chops!

I think I'm getting another cold, got that scratchy throat thing I usually get the day before it all kicks off... just in time for our holiday on Saturday, urgh.

Haha chops, at least that will maybe help with the bloating!

Hi
I've just found this thread
I'm 35, 2nd baby, edd - 1st December (midwife) 6th December (me) dating scan 26th May

Hi everyone, I've managed to get very behind, sorry. And now for a bit of a rant!

We've told my mum and in- laws this week (didn't have a choice as my mum was here for my birthday and would have known if I didn't have a drink). My in law's were really lovely, and I guess so was my mum, but is it really wrong that she sort of irritated me by saying straight away that she'd already guessed - and then proving it later by presenting us with two baby bibs which she had brought with her as she 'just knew'.... ah I'm probably being hormonal and irrational!

She says she's getting annoyed with me that I'm 'not more excited' and am 'focusing on all the negatives' - possibly because she's caught me absolutely knackered after a crap last week or so at work, still no booking appointment from the hospital despite now being 10+2, and the reality of the fact we have a harmony scan today and all that those results could potentially bring....

Am I abnormal that I'm not super excited about it all time? The whole reason we hadn't wanted to tell anyone until 12 weeks (or later if we need cvs) was so that the initial worries would be over, but now I'm getting grief for not being able to engage properly in conversations about things like what the baby will wear for its christening (!) or how many days a week she can child mind for when I go back to work in 2016!! Urghhhh!!!

I know it's lovely that she is excited, but I just need to put my head down and not think about it all too much until we get some 12 week results and know that all is/isn't ok.

Anyways, sorry for ranting, just needed to get it out!!

Hope you're all well.

Hummingbird I completely get where you're coming from. I don't feel that excited yet but I think I will after the 12 week scan. I had to stop my mum from buying stuff already. Though we did have to go pram shopping the day after I told her. It's great that she's excited but I'm still cautious at the moment. There's plenty of time to be excited yet!

Thanks JCandy, good to hear I'm not the only one!

Hummingbird - if we weren't all scared, we wouldn't all be on here sharing stories and getting reassurance. But grandparents, I've now discovered, are truly mental!

Grit your teeth for the next few weeks and then when you feel ready, join in the excitement. In the meantime, look after you.

And I'll see you an over-excited mum and raise you an over-protective MIL. We told them Monday. I've had 4 text messages saying 'hope you are taking it easy'; 'enjoy the wedding this weekend but not too much mind and nothing strenuous - you've got precious cargo' and other gems! I'm no longer a person or her DIL, I'm merely the receptacle for her grandchild. I checked with my SIL, apparently this goes on for the next 7 months and then she starts 'joking' that she'll take them and DH home and look after them - ie: my bit's done!

I can feel hormones being my excuse for chewing her out when really, I just think she's being an insensitive eejit!

Hunmingbird I hear ya! I had to tell a couple of people here in Thailand early and they were getting well ahead of themselves. Very glad our families are a long way away and hopefully being fooled by my Facebook updates involving partying and beers, haha!

Fizzie, congrats on your scan!! I'm trying out your attitude too since mine on Monday - promised DH I wouldn't worry anymore. Actually I haven't worried, even despite getting so sick (diahorrea, not puking for once!) in the last couple of days that I've lost 3kgs... And can only eat clear soup for now. No time for nausea or cravings sadly, just trying to stay hydrated! Don't get sick in the first trimester ladies!! Waiting I do think there might be an element of IBS going on here as I used to get it a lot, then this year I food poisoned myself twice in quick succession which I think has triggered it again! Was in so much pain last night I was in cat pose on the sofa sobbing! What a shambles!! Feeling much better today luckily, and made a quick call to the doc to check the baby won't starve (it won't!) which was reassuring.

Jebel, your doc is wise. I'm not going to bother with the multivitamins til maybe the second trimester, or if I get constipated, lol! welcome to Thailand!! It's all about the comfy robes and chilling!!

Sweets that link was a shocker! Just spoke to my buddy in the UK who is currently in week 3 and she's still coming to terms with it all - but is also loving it which is good hear! She doesn't know about me yet, cannot WAIT to tell her when I get home! 4 weeks to go, bring it on!

Welcome, ifonlyitwasnotme not long til the 12 week scan now - good luck!

hummingbird, I completely understand - my mum is going a bit overboard at the moment too, and I just want her to slow down a bit and wait a few weeks. My scan's next Friday, and I'm really counting down the days. If that goes well, then afterwards I think I'll be able to start feeling excited

Hope everyone else is having a good Friday.

I'm trying to work out if I'm coming down with some sort of virus, or getting my first (very late!) bout of morning sickness - have felt really nauseous since I woke up, and the usual comfort food (= almond croissant) is just not working, I've had one bite and it's made me feel worse.

Humming I am excited but I am also shit scared. I am certainly not excited all the time. I am terrified it's all going to end. It's hard to be a sort of zen, mother-earth type when you don't know that it's going to be ok. Also I am knackered. I have cramps. My boobs hurt etc.

Your mum needs to lay off.

Both our mums really annoyed me by "knowing". I know it's completely irrational but I didn't get the reaction I wanted.

Panic stations here. My bloat hcompletely disappeared overnight. My booking in is tomorrow. I hope they can offer some reassurance. :(

Btw for those who are suffering from constipation, go to Boots and buy some Fybogel. It's a gentle pregnancy friendly solution. I had to resort to that a few weeks ago, then I ttriumphantly exclaimed to DH that I'd got the desired "result". Poor man.

Chandlers I do hope you feel better soon. Get some rice down you.

Oh god edinburghdancer, your MIL sounds like a nightmare!! Going on as if you don't realise you've got 'precious cargo', silly woman!

Oh and sorry all of you for scaring the bejeesus out of you with that link I kind of like it though, because of the beautiful smiley photo you see at the end when she starts to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm really glad I've read it - got to go into these things with eyes open!

Morning everyone.

Hummingbird and others, I totally get the not being excited, I'm still terrified. Though thankfully we haven't told our families or anyone yet. My best friends know, and they were with me every step of the way through what happened with my dd, though I have actually been avoiding them a bit lately because any time I tell them how terrified I am they tell me to think positive. And I know that is the right advice to give but I keep thinking that if there is something wrong with this baby, all the positive thinking in the world won't change the outcome. So sorry to be a debbie downer, its just very difficult.

I have my 12 week scan next Thursday, I'll only be 10 weeks, though after that I'm expecting a series of appointments between that scan and the 20 week scan. My consultant will be able to start taking measurements and looking at bones etc to see if history is going to repeat itself
The issue with my dd was an abnormality with her bones, her wee limbs were severely shortened and her rib cage was very narrow and and odd shape. It meant that her lungs could never form properly because her heart took over the entire rib cage. I just can't even bear the thought of hearing bad news again, I really don't think I would be able to cope. I just can't imagine myself at home with a wriggly, crying newborn and any time I try to visualise it I panic.

I'm so sorry this is such a negative post, I suppose I am just struggling a bit because dd's anniversary is now only 4 days away and it really is bringing back memories extremely vividly.

Oh no, babyfaced, sorry to hear you are having such a tough time. Your experience with your DD must have been unbearable, and of course it's easy to see why you are so nervous this time.

Wish I could say something to help, but all you can do is wait for the scan (less than a week!), and at least then you'll have an idea of the prognosis. Was the issue last time something genetic, or something that they've said is likely to happen again? Or was it just, hopefully, a one-off anomaly?

Hope you have some good support from friends and family in RL - would it be worth telling some close family a little earlier so that you can get that extra emotional support?

BabyFaced I am so sorry for your loss and for what you had to go through. Are you doing anything to mark the anniversary? Did you get support from Sands or equivalent at the time?

It must rather frustrating to be told to "stay positive" in this situation. I think you should allow yourself to say " thanks, I know you mean well but this is how it feels for me". Most people are terrible at handling others' grief.

All fingers and toes crossed for your bean. xxx