December 2015 #3 - riding out the first trimester!!

[ChandlersFarang]

Noticed we were getting a bit full in the last thread! Roll up, roll up for more scanning, puking, worrying and other distractions to take us through the first trimester!

I have my booking appointment with my midwife this morning pretty scared because last time I saw her I found out my daughter had died :( still absolutely shattered

Here to hand hold Vodka. Milestones like this will always be tough when you've suffered losses in the past. Hope today's appointment goes as well as it can do and that things get easier from here on in. X x

Morning all!

Sorry I have been MIA, strangely browsing MN these days is making me feel even more nauseous

For the stats:
TheBabyFacedAssassin
Baby No#2
EDD: 20 - 23 December
Booking in: 28 May
12w scan: 28 May (Though I will only be 10 weeks)

Vodka also holding your hand. The scans I've already had at the hospital have been tough going so I understand how you're feeling. Being back in the same place, seeing the same people I saw the last time really does trigger quite a lot of anxiety. Let us know how you get on.

It's my daughter's first birthday/anniversary of her death next week and I can't stop thinking back to what I was doing this time last year. Have booked the day off work to spend with DH, we don't plan on doing much, just want to be together. Then my booking in is on the Thursday, 2 days later. I am DREADING it. I just don't want to have to sit and go through all my history with someone who doesn't already know what has happened. I wish my consultant could do it who knows all the ins and outs. Am also dreading people finding out that I'm pregnant. I am dreading the whole, "Is it your first?" line of questioning. For me, my DD is and always will be my first, though I have never had a newborn, so how do I answer that? I don't want to say, "No, this is my second, but my first baby was stillborn" because that is a surefire way to make everyone feel uncomfortable but I could never not mention DD either. Ugh.

Maybe I just won't tell anyone and keep them guessing even when I'm waddling around with a huge belly

Sorry for the me, me, me post. If anyone has any advice please send it my way!!

Cariad I've had a couple of instances of bleeding this pregnancy and an early scan because of it, and all seemed fine. I hope you're ok, I'm sure it will be alright.

vodka sorry to hear about your loss I hope it all goes well today.

Just back from lovely birthday break in Madrid (no iberico ham, no rioja but otherwise lovely) and checking in.

So sorry to hear the news from Honey and Wifey. Not sure if you are still checking in ladies but thoughts are with you both.

Sorry for the silence, i've barely left my office

Chops My course doesn't finish until 2018 (it's 5 years long) will be half way through when baby arrives. Allowed to take 2 months or 1 year out, will wait and see how things go before deciding. They have been very lovely, and said I can take the 2 months then say if i'm coming back then or in another 10. DH very keen to share maternity but obviously it's going to depend on how the birth goes and the baby
DH not coming to booking in, think it will mostly be questions for me? But I guess he could... I hadn't even considered it! Is your DH going with you? I'm stupidly nervous about it and not really sure why. Midwife sounded a little brash on the phone so perhaps it is that

Jebel I take it you are in the middle east? It seems to be the way at the moment. Someone mentions something delicious and I HAVE to have it

Chandlers so great to hear your scan went well!

Waiting if you have a good idea of your husbands medical history there's no need for your husband go really.

Withalittle Oh ok that's great! He has none at all, never even had a day off school!

How's everyone's sickness at the minute? 'Morning' sickness my backside - all day everyday for a solid 9 days, feeling sorry for myself hope everyone's scans all go well - got my booking in appointment for the 11th June, seems so far away! Just wish I could see if everything is okay

Withalittle... or work.... he isn't still IN school haha

Waiting he could be really young, just sitting his GCSEs

babyfaced so sorry, that must be really tough. I would do whatever feels right, I completely see why you don't want to not mention DD. If other people feel uncomfortable for a moment then so be it, they'll get over it. If you lead the conversation they will follow - so for example if you say it's not my first pregnancy but sadly we lost DD, but I'm looking forward to experiencing the newborn stage, they will probably move past it and talk about the new pregnancy.

good luck with it.

I have been away from the thread since Saturday and I'm SO behind!!

Hope everyone's doing well and today's booking appointments have gone OK. Special hugs to vodka and babyfaced on difficult days for you.

chandlers, good to hear your cysts are more or less behaving (so they're 2 of 5/7cm, rather than one of 12?). Hope they continue to do so

Withalittle haha I read it back and thought... what am I yabbering on about? He is never ill whereas I seem to catch everything, cold seems to have developed into a flu, terrible cough keeping me up all night, surely no one else is ill this time of year?

I am ill too, sadly, waiting Hacking cough and bad cold combined with constant nausea and tiredness like I can't believe....I am a barrel of laughs at the moment haha.

Trying to get to the bottom of if I can have my London consultants recommendations carried out at my new local hospital after our move. Hope so as don't want to have to trek up there every fortnight. No one is being particularly helpful on the phone. Doesn't bode well. Grrr.

Sorry to all those feeling ill and tired. I'm not feeling too sick or ill, but over the last few days I am absolutely SHATTERED. Have slept 9 or 10 hours the last three nights and am still feeling like a zombie. Not quite sure where it's come from!

Maybe at 10+4 it's something to do with the body having one last big push to get the placenta ready to take over? Anyone else at the same stage going through this?

vodka and baby-faced holding both your hands and sending big hugs, you are both so strong.

Cariad yes, should know the sex in about 2.5 weeks if all goes well. Am hoping my insurance company will cover the cost (am not in the UK).

Babs exactly the same, I just coughed so hard I threw up on DH. I am the most attractive and happiest person right now lol! Meant to be booking in tomorrow but feel absolutely dreadful, no idea what to do.
Hope you feel better soon. When do you move?

Shit - not again! does anyone know when spotting in early pregnancy is supposed to stop? I'm 8+1 today and this is the 4th time this has happened (just light spotting, lasts about an hour).

All the other times were before my 7w scan which confirmed all was progressing according to plan and found a heartbeat but now I have another 30 days to wait until the 12 week one and I'm worrying myself sick!

sweets I'm 10+3 and was absolutely shattered yesterday, but think it might be because I overdid it a bit on Saturday. Had a relatively good day on Saturday nausea-wise so went for a long walk, but the last couple of days have felt pretty rotten again.

TMI but does anyone else get yellow discharge? I'm not sure whether to worry about it, I've had it pretty much since I got my BFP and it doesn't smell, I'm not itching etc. but everything I read says yellow = infection.

Waiting we moved last week. My DS1 has cerebral palsy so struggling to get all his care moved over, as well as my pregnancy stuff, new longer commute (although I do a few days from home I can't bring myself to sleep at lunch, feels like I'm taking the piss too much).

Too much going on! Still, no bleeding so far this pregnancy which sets it apart from last time.

Good evening all. Hope you had a good weekend.

I was feeling much better this morning but my sickness has really come on this afternoon even though I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow. You'd think it would get better not worse! Saying that though with ds I didn't get any ms till 12 weeks for a week where I couldn't eat anything without being sick

Metal yes I have that too and had it the last time as well. It's called leukhorrea. All totally normal!

edinburgh, I think spotting can happen throughout your whole pregnancy for some people - it seems just to be the luck of the draw. Maybe call your midwife or EPU if you're worried, see if they can help explain the spotting or maybe give you another scan for reassurance?

metal, glad I'm not the only one with the exhaustion!

edinburgh I had spotting last week and all was fine, it is quite common. Can you call the EPU and get another scan just for reassurance?

Metal yes I have that too and did last time.

Abi I have been better the last few days but felt awful again today. Hope you feel better soon.