August 2015 part 3

[Dozygirl]

New thread for all due in August 2015

Absolutely stinking weather here, too, and I've had another sleepless night of coughing. :( We went out and got a new copy of our mortgage promise and spoke to the advisor and test drove the pram we're buying yesterday, and I ordered it today! It cost as much as our car did...

Welcome back lily. Congratulations on your baby boy.

What kind of pram have you ordered siani? I'm obsessed with looking at them and reading reviews. DH has fallen for the bugaboo buffalo. I was thinking the same about a car being cheaper!

I hope you've had a nice, lazy day before your nightshift dozy. I have spring cleaned my wardrobe and put loads of stuff in storage. Only fat clothes left now!

Glad to see everyone is having good scans! Mine is still more than 2 weeks away!

Still no movement either at 18+2. Starting to wonder whether I have an anterior placenta... Oh well.

Really not sure on how much to buy in the way of clothes. How many sleepsuits and bodysuits is everyone planning to buy? And what sizes? Can imagine buying some newborn stuff and then having a 10lb baby -eek!

frolic We've ordered a cosatto giggle travel system because we're very shallow and loved the bright colours. :)

pinkie I've only started feeling definite movement at 21 weeks myself!

I am terrible at keeping up on here!! Feel like I have far too much going on at the moment.

Great news on the scans and lots of chatting on here!
All was fine on my scan when she decided to play ball. Spent ages on her head, then hid one of her arms. But eventually they got all the measurements they needed. Felt like we were in there ages. But pleased to hear others have had to have bed tilted etc.

Spent yesterday clearing out what will be the nursery! Old furniture is on ebay and new stuff ordered. DH will have 5 weeks to paint once old stuff has gone.....I have a feeling it will still need painting when the new stuff is here! Feel shattered now though and will be off to bed in 5 minutes!!

I have been wondering the same on clothes....How much? Sizing? I really dont want everything pink but I am struggling to find non pink!

Hi preggos!

Crappy weather here too. We were going to go for a walk up the hills but rain, gale-force wind and the fact that I couldn't be arsed put a stop to that! My aim for today was to clear the baby's room and get it ready to pain next weekend...almost clear but no prepping done.

I've had the most horrible constipation pains again today so finally caved and got some Lactulose...currently feeling very windy!!

Congrats all those who have had scans, it's just so amazing to see that there's really a little person in there going about their business isn't it?!

Can't believe it's Monday again tomorrow already. At least we have two four day weeks though, yay!

Have felt movement on and off, none today though (21+1). Listened to the baby on the Doppler last night though, it's wonderful!

frolic get the buffalo! You'll never look back I'm sure.

I wouldn't get too much baby stuff to start with because a: u don't know what size they'll be and b: u might get loads off other ppl. I don't know what the recommended amount is either. There's probably a list somewhere on the Internet these days. Oh and also it might be really warm still in August so might need to dress lightly in just a vest so may not need a lot of other clothes.

I'm so ready for some sunshine! I dont get the joys of bank holidays off work birchwood so I'll be slaving away at work while everyone else is having fun. Don't normally work them all but this time I only have the sunday off. However I think it's the crucial time that they work out my maternity pay so actually it'll work in my favour and should boost my pay a bit (or so I'm hoping)

Congratulations to everyone who had scans at the end of last week. I can't wait for our on Wednesday.

What colour are you painting your nursery LAM?

And staying on the colour theme, what colour cosarto did you go for Siani. We have a bright green umbrella stroller from Cosatto for when we don't use the big pushchair. I was really surprised by how good it has been.

I hope the lactulose helps Birch.

I'd second Dozy's comment in not buying too much clothing. Also, if you really fall in live with ale thing, but it in a bigger size, as they grow out of the small things in a matter of weeks, and if they get meconium of them, they'll be ruined. I honk last time round (winter baby) we bought two multipacks of both sleepsuits and bodysuits in newborn/upto 1 month, then a couple of outdoors pieces. We then ordered some more once we knew it fit etc, although DS didn't wear it for very long at all. I bought things I really liked at the same time, but in either 0-3 or 3-6, and they got a lot more wear.

Am finally joining you lovely ladies after having a positive 20 week scan this morning. And its a girl!! So excited.....am gonna nip to shops after work and get a little girlie babygro. Let the pram buying commence. Got my eye on an Armadillo Flip XT. Am debating on whether we will need the carrycot as the buggy lays flat so suitable from birth but I just really like the look of the carrycot.

equimum we chose "pixelate" because it has the MOST colours. :)

We're having a boy and a girl!

The scan went really well - it turned out that we weren't on the right list, so that's the reason that we haven't had more appointments, but they're sorting it out now so that we get a scan every four weeks!

I'm so excited - I think I'm going to order this Cosatto today!

You may think me boring but I have gone for the Britax Affinity after losing my temper a bit and deciding we needed to choose one and get it over with. Just in plain black but it seems sturdy enough to deal with the terrain around here. Plus is was £110 off for the chassi and there was £10 off the colour pack... so a bit of a bargain. I will probably pick it up once I am 30 weeks ish.

Another scan on Wednesday to see if bubs wants to play ball and behave!

We had a kick this morning! We were still in bed so I felt first obe and DH felt the second! Was quite special!

Yay for kicks and finding out sexs of babies so exciting.

My lil dude is kicking loads now (21+3).

I think ive decided in my head now on the cot I want but prams etc I can not get my head around lol

siani, the giggle is very cute. And loads of nice colours.

dozy I'm sure the bugaboo would be ace. But it's so much more expensive than the jane and doesn't have the lie flat car seat. I'm utterly torn between them both. I think I'll just have to wait and keep obsessing until I can look at them both in a shop.

Loving all the advice about not buying too many clothes until you know what size the baby is. I would have just gone nuts and not thought of that.

Congratulations on the good scandani.. How lovely to be having one of each.

Welcome lades.

< Waves to blueberry > Come and tell us about your pram / cot choice! Obsessive baby stuff browsing is much more fun than the obsessive symptom spotting of our days on the buses!

I hope everyone is having a good Monday. I'm struggling after being off last week. And the weather is shit. Surely we deserve some sun by now?

Welcome LadesC congrats on your baby girl.

dani Congrats on your baby girl and boy. That's lovely. love the pram too. Glad you're finally on the right list now so you'll get monitored more closely. I think my friend might have them more frequently because they are identical and sharing a placenta so slightly more risks. Its all very exciting now more of us are reaching over the 20 week mark.

Let the shopping commenced! Feels better to be browsing and researching stuff now than it did in the early stages.

Howdy!!

We went to bluewater yesterday and I took DH into Mothercare, I swear the poor boy almost had a heart attack. He was like there is so much stuff, what is this? What do you use that for etc etc. Totally overwhelmed. He seems particularly fussy on prams, he would like to get a travel system where the carrier fits into a car base, slots into pram etc without removing baby. I'm just after something that is light, compact and easy to get off buses, the tube etc as I can't drive. I know when we actually come to purchasing i'm going to have to reread everyones tips and what they got lol.

I'm trying to eat healthier although chocolate and biscuits seem to be all I fancy and i've never had a sweet tooth. I'm just back to my usual regular weight now, tbh I thought i'd be way heavier due to bump, boobs and cake.

Frolic Hope you had a lovely time at the hairdressers and managed to ignore the mirrors. I bet you're excited for your scan, 2 more sleeps! I'm not sure if mine is RLP, but i've certainly had a bit more pain the last couple of days and my back is killing me! I've had aches at the bottom of my bump and lots of baths seem to help.

When is your scan Pinkie? Mine is a couple of weeks away too, I'm counting down the days!

Congratulations on your boy Lilydreams, glad you got there in the end with the scan :D. And a big welcome and congrats to LadesC on your little girl :). Happy news all round! And to continue the balance – woohoo Dani240, one of each! Thrilled for you all! xx

Colours...Equimum nursery will be cream as I am going for the tusk range in Mothercare. In keeping with my rant about everything pink, I can't be doing a pink nursery. Furniture is Rialto which is set for delivery in May. Oh and I have a Snuzpod on order too!
Have given in to mum's demands to go shopping for the pram, have already decided it will be an icandy but should probably humour her shopping for a bit as she is kindly paying for it. So this Friday we go shopping, I suspect I will be spending a lot of money.....

Love the Cosatto Dani240. Did you but it?

Dani240 congrats on the twins that pram is beautiful!

Augustwedding what a lovely way to share first kicks- its so nice getting the DH involved isn't it- I realise all our DPs have obviously had involvement but I think being able to share kicks etc is so lovely!

Fabby I'm with you on the sweet tooth I have a particular new love for blueberry muffins I literally can't stop eating them! I've put on 13lbs so far which I think is healthy ish as I've read a healthy prey should put on between 22-28lbs total so I figure at half way I've done about half- that's what I tell myself as I'm cramming the muffins in anyway!

I've done loadsa googling on how much to buy clothes wise and generally people recommend 6-8 newborn baby grows and vests as should be enough to get started but not wasted too much money if baby is big! We've bought a few clothes already (mainly in one go the day we found out we were having a boy!) but all in 0-3 months to make sure they will get worn- I'm thinking ill go out and buy newborn stuff once on maternity leave at about 38 weeks, keep the receipts and that way I can return if they are no use- ill only open and wash a few ready for hospital.

Talking of buying stuff I want your opinion ladies- this could turn into a long post so apologies in advance! PIL have been very generous and given us a large sum of money to buy the things we need for baby, nevertheless we have got things off eBay to save money as I don't see the point of frittering masses of money on items we can get in mint condition for much less. Plus it meant we had put some of the money to one side to get clothes and the nicer things closer to D day because as much as I've enjoyed choosing pram, car seat, cot etc they are more practical necessities when compared to gorgeous knitted blankets, soft teddy bears and adorable baby grows you can hardly believe anything could be so tiny to fit that I am especially looking forward to getting and enjoying doing once all the big essentials are done and I can relax about having got them covered. BUT despite their generosity which don't get me wrong I am so grateful for PIL have ten gone out buying clothes left right and centre- clothes that in my opinion are a little ridiculous such as a Marc Jacobs baby grow!! I had to beg MIL not too spend £250 on a coat for baby as I would probably never dress him in it for fear of ruining it plus I don't want to look so pretentious- hope I'm not offending anyone I've just never been one for designer labels preferring to buy 5 items for the price of 1 designer item! They spent £300 in total in one shopping trip and as it was the first I thought it was initial excitement at finding out the sex. However since then not only does MIL talk about NOTHING but the baby but she rings/ texts at least 3 times a day to do so and is buying more stuff on a daily basis- latest was newborn baby grows, teddy bear and blanket- the exact things I've been looking forward to doing ourselves that we were saving till later!

Am I wrong to be upset?

DH has so far agreed that she is overbearing- kept referring to 'our baby' texting me everyday 'how is our baby?' Which when I was vomming everyday took every fibre of me not to reply 'MY baby is fine what is this OUR? It wasn't US with our head down the toilet 5 times today or US awake all night uncomfy' but I didn't and DH very kindly challenged her gently about saying it only to be met with TEARS!!! So since then feel like I'm on egg shells and can't challenge about anything- he only stopped the tears by saying he was joking- although she has since stopped He even humoured me ranting about being upset about the above clothes (ones we were waiting to get) UNTIL I dared mention to our closest friends that MIL was suffocating me and as grateful as I was wish she'd step back abit- used the football kit they'd bought as an eg of something we might like to have bought his first one- DH later told me there was a way of diverting texts/calls from my phone to his from MIL which I was suprised by and said 'that seems abit much she's bugging me but I'd not do that why you saying that' to which he said that I'd been a bitch saying the things to our friends the way I had and it sounded nasty! I'm now utterly flummoxed he said its ok to discuss to ourselves but not with our friends- who we discuss literally EVERYTHING with!! Making me even more irritated by MIL I just feel like she's ruining pregnancy for me taking things that I want to do when I'm good and ready and causing arguments along the way! Am I being a bitch? Is it the hormones? Anyone relate?

I will admit I am a control freak, fiercely independent and don't have a speak everyday relationship with my dad (which suits me fine) so might just not be use to it but I can't shake this anger that bubbles up everytime she calls!! Huge apologies for long post needed a rant/ opinions as since DH expressed I was being nasty I feel like I can't mention it and its niggling away at me!!!

lily. I'm half asleep, so sorry if this doesn't make much sense, but I didn't want to leave your post unanswered over night.

Your mil sounds like a nightmare. She is probably just over excited and isn't thinking that she's over stepping the mark. I think your DH needs to tell her that, whilst you appreciate their kindness and generosity, she needs to calm down. This is a special time for you and it's ok to want to keep some 'firsts' to choose your self. Hopefully she is a reasonable person and will understand.
As for spending £250 on one item of baby clothes? That's madness. But, I'd be tempted to pick my battles and only ask her to stop getting the things you planned on choosing. And you can always sell things like that on e-bay or keep them for re-gifting .

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. You should be able to enjoy this special time without this crap. As for your DH calling you a bitch for getting support from your friends with the issue - well I think he owes you a big apology. I'm sure he's lashing out because he knows her behaviour is unacceptable and he's probably embarrassed. But it is NEVER OK for him to speak to you like that. I hope it's not a regular occurrence.

Good night my lovely, get some rest and things will look better in the morning

Frolic thankyou soooo much for replying when its bedtime and your tired!! I MASSIVELY appreciate it! It's good to know I'm not insane or out of order! And I will sleep better tonight knowing its not just me!

DH is lovely dont worry he is never abusive etc it was more of a 'your being a bit of a bitch' said none threateningly (arghh I can't explain this without sounding like I'm justifying it)!! Trust me I'm no door mat we both work in an environment with lots of swearing, abuse etc and its sadly become part of our daily language- I have very thick skin it was more the fact he was saying I was overstepping the mark than the language!

Glad you agree about the coat hadnt thought about ebaying stuff that is a great idea!

You are also right I need to be selective in picking battles and I defo don't want to cause friction- MIL will probs be having baby a day a week long term when I'm back at work so don't want to bite the hand that feeds so to speak but also want to lay a few ground rules down so she doesn't do similar things re child care when baby is here!

Thankyou again Frolic and sweet dreams x

Oh lily so sorry you are having a hard time! I would only second what frolic has already said. You are not being unreasonable at all. I think it really is your DH's place to set her straight and explain why you may be upset. I hope you manage to resolve it somehow without any major problems.

LadesC congratulations on your healthy little girl!

Dani congrats on your little boy and girl, I really love that pram!

LAM1 I feel the same about not buying everything in blue. I really like the neutral things, and we plan to paint the nursery a light green (Dulux wellbeing) but people we have told love to buy us blue clothes, which is fair enough I suppose!

How lovely for those of you getting proper little kicks now! That's so exciting! I lay in bed last night trying REEALLY hard to feel something, but alas, there was still nothing. Plenty of time though!

Thanks Dozy and Equimum for the advice on clothes, we will just get bare minimum for time being. My best friend has mentioned throwing me a baby shower later in the pregnancy, and I'm not sure at all. How does everyone feel about them?

Fanby my scan is on the 14th. Feels like I've been waiting forever for it to come around! When is yours?

OMG Lily I feel your pain! Apart from the designer clothes issue my MIL is similar except her texts says 'hows MY bubs?' Also..... my parents have agreed to buy the pram, this is a kind of tradition thing as they have bought the pram for my older brothers and sisters. However, my MIL has acquired not one but TWO 2nd hand prams 'to keep at the PIL and SIL house'. I have no idea what to say when they say stuff like that.... I mean I plan on taking the pram I have agonised over picking everywhere with us. So I feel bad... but I haven't said thanks. They also keep going on about having a 'set of stuff' at my PIL and my SIL house and it is upsetting me because I feel like that they are planning on looking after my baby but right now I only want me and OH to look after our baby... like give me a chance! I just think that if they want to help they should kit me and my OH out BEFORE kitting themselves out?

And THAT is without the smoking issue.... both PIL and SIL smoke in their respective houses.... the baby isn't going there and will not be looked after by them until i can trust them not to smoke around the baby.

They also want to wait in the hospital cafe when I am in labour and were upset when I said I wanted my OH and my mum as birth partners!

I know they are excited and maybe I am being unreasonable but I don't even know how to broach the subject!

Anyway it probably isn't helpful to you lily but misery loves company!

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time with the IL's Lily and Happygojo. I'd be a little miffed too, choosing all those little lovely things is so exciting (and the fun part to make up for the puking, back ache, hormones, wind, constipation etc etc)! However if you'd like someone to take the Marc Jacobs babygro off your hands i'm more than willing ;)! I know from reading other IL related posts on Mumsnet it's a controversial issue. My IL's are lovely, but I do have some issues with them too. The biggest thing i'm worried about it when baby is here and DH goes back to work that they're going to want to pop in and i'll be expected to 'entertain' them, I'm going to subtly push for weekend visits when he's in too for support etc. We'll see....

pinkie My scan is the 10th, so a few days before yours. Definitely getting impatient after seeing everyone else's lovely ones :D I'll be 22 weeks then too!! Bring on April lol :D
Lovely shade of green for the nursery, it's really light yet not overpowering. Good choice! I think i'm hankering for a yellowish shade and perhaps a bit of a Hungry Caterpillar theme? But then everytime I go on pinterest I change my mind lol! I've always liked the Cath Kidston cowboy wallpaper too...

Bloody hell, lily that MIL stuff sounds way beyond suffocating to me! I've spoken to mine on the phone ONCE. Ever. We visit once or maybe twice a year, for a day. Even my mum isn't planning to come over (she lives overseas) until baby is born and we've settled in!
Otoh, I reckon I could get used to it if they're so astonishingly wealthy they can spend £250 on a baby coat! My coat only cost £30, and it's lasted 3 years!