Ladies, people will always judge, but who cares? It matters none at all. If family members are judgey, ignore them (or tell them to bugger off, they have an issue with you being pregnant, maybe they won't be interesting in spending any time with the baby once he/she's born ;) ), it's them who has the issue, not you. My DH is 10 years older than me, when we first got together people at work said it was 'disgusting' as they assumed I was younger and he, older. I was 19, he was 29, seperated from his wife for a couple of months and just going through divorce. When I got pregnant with dd1 (on my 21st birthday!) I got looks when I had a bump, I assumed as at the time I had no ring on my finger, people would assume I was a young single mum etc (not that it matters!). Once she was born I got know it alls pointing things out, one lady felt it her duty to point out that my dd had a gummy eye (pretty darn common in babies and was being treated) people will talk down to you, even when you're expecting your 2nd one, people assume their opinion and knowledge if far greater than yours. But you know what I learned? You can flip out at people when you're pregnant and it's totally acceptable! Ha ha ;) Anyone giving you 'advice', ignore or tell them to bugger off,it's your life, you will be the one nurturing this baby while it's growing and once it's born, you'll be the one providing love, care, food etc for him/her.... unless you're expecting them to provide constant childcare or lots of financial help, they are not entitled to an opinion :)