September 2015 (Thread 5) Bring on the scans! :)

[Treaclepie19]

Hi all :) We're a talkative bunch!

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Our family are excited. They all took the miscarriage quite hard and can't wait for this baby.
It'll be MIL's first grandchild and my Dad's first (blood grandchild) too :)

Sorry to all you worrying about other people's reactions, i hope you all get thru it. I honestly couldn't give a flying duck whst anyone thinks! Im 33 in 2 wks and OH was 40 last weekend, DS is 3 in May and as long as we're happy the rest can go fly a kite.

I feel for everyone who is worrying about telling family! Im 22 and been with my hubby since we were 17 and everyone has been fab through getting engaged and now having a baby! Very surprised!

I noticed we've been chatting about bumps and things off and on so I've but the bullet and thought I'd put a pic here of my fat pocket I like to think is a bump lol!! I'm 13+3 and a size 14 usually :) pic uploaded!

One of my friends took her son to the doctors for a check up. Two little old ladies were fitting and saying 'another young mum, so sad for the child'.

She's 31...

fitting? tutting! (but possibly fitting too)

The one I was expecting a bad reaction from was mil especially as we're not on speaking terms ATM! Sent hubby round on Sunday and she was thrilled! My mum said we're bonkers having another with a 12 and 8 year old but is excited and said she'll love it like the others.
Amusingly my niece just announced she's pg with her second, she's 18 I'm 35, we're due within a week of each other!!!

I trump a lot of you in terms of an eyebrow raising age gap! I'm 32 and my dp is 57! Divorced, 3 grown up children, one of whom will be adult about the baby though not thrilled, the other 2 will have a worse reaction than can possibly be imagined!

Sadly my dp's mother died in Dec so she isn't here. She was a great supporter of ours, knew we were trying for a baby and was v excited. It means so much to both of us to know that.

My family are entirely supportive and thrilled. My mum doesn't care who I'm with as long as I'm happy and they treat me well.

Can I also say that I don't think being in your 20's makes you a young mum (in the perceived negative sense). Don't forget this is very recent thinking. My mum was considered quite old when she had me. She was 27! God knows what they thought of her sister who was 33! Sod anyone who judges.

I know shit mums in their 40s as awesome mums in their teens. Age has fuck all to do with loving and doing your best for your child

I'm trying to avoid the judging by 'forgetting' to remind people my divorce still isn't final yet (not entirely my fault, the post office lost the papers last summer...) I've been with DP for nearly 4 years now but the jokes about having a boyfriend and a husband don't really work so well with a bump

I know my parents are happy for us (not told DPs yet) but I can see them looking at us and making the comparison between children with the laid back artist rather than the engineer. If they even consider saying a word I will point out the value of 'nice person' rather than 'difficult person' genes!! And before anyone thinks of course they would never actually say it - you've not met my Dad...

Hi all, lovely to read your stories of the relationships and ages. I'm 33 in May DH turned 30 in Dec. we ve been together 11 years and married for 9. Have dd who is nearly 3.5 and fingers crossed this one will join us safely.
Stuff everyone else's views. No one thought we would last - dh was in the army, loads of people married young and got divorced. But we re still going. We lost my FIL when DH was 24, moved houses many times, my parents divorced & that hit me hard. Some very hard times but we re still going.

hi all. still nervously awaiting my scan on Monday! Just wondering if anyone's felt movements yet? I'm 11 3. with my second. and yesterday below my belly button Im sure I felt some flutters I felt like three flutters and then again a bit later. It made me feel a little more relaxed. I told dh who said I had this with my first but midwife said it was something else but couldn't remember what... any ideas? is it baby?

Gorgeous bump natalie... Dunno if im brave enough to share mine. I'm a size 16-18 normally (18 bottom half).

This was nearly 2 weeks ago but my newest pic isn't great.

We were at a hotel btw, that's not our carpet :p

I'll stop spamming now, this was yesterday.

Lovely to hear all your ages and relationships, you've all made me feel much better, it seems you get judged whatever you do/however old you are!

Puddle duck a couple of us on this thread at 13 weeks have felt what we think are baby flutters yes! Earlier I'm not sure.

aw maybe a bit of wishful thinking then. did think it seemed early. I'm laying here hoping to feel it again so I can analyse it more

I'm 11+4 and pretty sure I've felt it.

Has anyone else found there boobs stopped hurting around 10/11 weeks? It's making me nervous, I've not had sickness at all so don't have that as a symptom either... I should probably feel lucky but I need some reassurance!

Aww loved hearing all the couple stories, us September mums are certainly a head-strong bunch by the sounds of it in the best possible way of course!

My wife and I have had negative comments from the 'don't you think it's wrong denying your child a father?' brigade.

No, we don't think its wrong or we obviously wouldn't have spent very nearly 20 grand on numerous ivf attempts. We went to great lengths to ensure that the donor (anonymous) would be comfortable with our child meeting him once he/she is 18 and answering any questions he/she has if that is what the little one wants and spent ages deciding on the qualities we wanted in the person who would help us become parents. The baby will have 2 mums who very much want to be a family and lots of friends whose parents are also same sex and some very close (heterosexual) male friends of ours plus fantastic family who will be all the male role models he/she needs.

Stuff anyone who tries to detract from your happiness. Sure, we're going to get looks when folk realise we are both mum (I don't think you'd know we're gay to look at us!) but so what. We're happy. And we'll do our damnedest to make sure our little one is too. Oh, I'm 33, DW is 32.

Hi everyone!
Just remembered I never reported back after my scan on Tues. All was good...had completely forgotten how long and detailed the scan is and it's so reassuring that everything is so thoroughly checked. I talked with the sonographer about the whole 'nub theory' thing and she said using that theory she would guess girl so that would be quite exciting, think it would be nice for ds to have a little sister to look after, though I would equally be happy with a house full of boys.
They've put my edd back to 30/08 though which us not boding well for my 'hang on til September for the school year' plan, grr!

And here is my 'wearing terrible pyjamas, got my horrible, wrinkled, 11lb first-born baby ruined me, stretch-marked tummy out' early bump picture. Have.no.tummy.muscles. All.out.front.already...

chuch I'm 10 weeks tomorrow and my boobs feel pretty much back to normal

hare are you having a Viking? Did you see that show on bbc2? Made me sob at parts! I'm being facetious about the Viking thing, but bollocks to the deprivation thing. Having one loving parent is awesome, having two is even better. If neither / both have a willy it's irrelevant.