We may have been Bitter, but we’re no longer Barren! Get your *PESH* in here! All ready for the BESH clusterdiff of 2015 year of the *CuntCushion* (with added tea tree for those sore fanjo moments)!

[MissHobart]

BESH Graduates having a moan about the lack of Gin whilst actually being over the fucking moon to finally have a reason to not be able to drink it! Anything goes, especially asking the wiser CRESH for their sage advice on the horrors and amazement to come when we get the the biggest WIN in history! Bring your baybees here!

Thursday, bad? How exciting! I have a similar feeling - how can there possibly be a baby in there? That then comes to live with me forever? Good luck for Thursday and let us know how it goes.

fab fame at last! I will go and check those posts out. Still so chuffed that you and mr fab have such a wonderful success story after all you went through.

I am feeling very woeful today. ELCS is booked but not until 40 weeks (two weeks today) so I'm nervous about going into labour before then. They have said though that it will be treated as an EMCS if I do, they won't make me do a natural delivery. And I'm trying to reassure myself that I will definitely know if labour has started! Added to this is my poor mum who has to have an op for a detaching retina. I'm worried she might lose and I and also (v selfishly) that she won't be here to help after the birth. And currently I have a suspected dislocated shoulder (OUCH!). GP thinks it has come out and gone in again so it's just jolly old paracetamol and hope it recovers soon. Same thing happened in my other shoulder a few weeks ago and still feels a bit precarious. So I've been researching postnatal doulas to be an extra pair of hands. Any experiences/ suggestions? A slap with a mackerel and telling me to pull myself together would be fine too

Hey hags. Badblet - aka Olivia - born this morning, 7lbs 5oz. She is amazing. I am feeling quite strange - c-section is a surreal experience. Will check in again with further details. Right now, I think I should sleep while she does.

Bad!!!!!! A baby!!!!!! Eeeekkk!!!!

Congratulations!!!

YAYYYY!!!! Congratulations, I'm so pleased for you!

Huge congrats bad. A girly baby. YAY

Woohoo well done Badb! Awesome cooking, that's a lovely weight. Definitely right to sleep while you can - super excited for you

Fizz - dislocated shoulder?? Ffs! That must be bleedin painful! Is that due to our old pal relaxin again? It's got a lot to answer for in pregnancy that's for sure.

Will keep my fingers crossed for you that your ELCS doesn't become an EMCS although I'm sure it will be fine. First babies are nearly always late aren't they but I completely understand your worry given the circs.

Thanks fab, yes it think it must be the relaxin. Thankful it's not in my hips! Are you recovering ok from it?

After a false alarm (had my show on weds morning) nothing else seems to be happening this end. Ironically minifizz is in oblique position so looks like an ELCS would have been on the cards anyway!

lem how are you doing? Must be getting on for halfway?

Hi fizz lurking around awaiting news of mini fizz too

Hips are mostly better now thanks and I'm v impressed you remembered! I wasn't prepared for perineal aching post c section but I suspect that's because I laboured before surgery. Thankfully I don't have any weeing myself issues but it aches like a bastsrd with walking. I'm exercising now and walking wherever I can in a bid to strengthen everything down there.

Badb, how are you doing?

Ouch, perineal aching doesn't sound like much fun!

Delighted to report that minifizz, aka Harriet, was born yesterday (Sunday) evening at 7pm. She's gorgeous! Operation was brought forward due to pre eclampsia and a weird low sodium level, and then went on for several hours due to some uterus ishoos and needing a transfusion. Oh, and she was transverse! Never one to do things the straightforward way! She's safe and well and I'm knackered but fine. And just so pleased she is here! More anon.

bad hope you are doing ok. Keep us posted...

Yay congratulations Fizz!!!!!! Wonderful news sounds like it was a bit of a slog though, are they keeping you in a bit longer due to the ishoos? So pleased you and Bad now have your little girls safely out.

So next up is Driz - when are you due Hag? And we also have some fresh meat due to arrive shortly over from the BESH I believe....

Congrats Fizz!!!! An ickle baby fizz

Congratulations, Fizz! Welcome Harriet!!

First night home. I am knackered. I've spent the last two days crying. Breastfeeding is fucking hard. I got 1.5hrs sleep over the last 48 hours. I might have been hallucinating at one point last night. Plus, I've just found out that Mr Badb can't take any time off work, so I'm pretty much on my own from tomorrow. Hags, I'm not sure if I can do it.

Is there anyone you can get in to help you Bad? Why does Mr Bsd have to be in at work, surely you should be his priority right now? My GP recommended TWH take extra time off to support me after my challenging birth etc. do you have any relatives or friends who can come over, look after the baby and let you sleep? This is the tough time as the baby blues kick in right now. You CAN do this Bad despite what it feels like right now. But it would be much easier if you had someone to help.

Mr Badb owns a business with his dad, who has had to go into hospital unexpectedly for some surgery. He's out for 6 weeks, and there's nobody else to run things. Ironically, mr Badb Snr had also had 'major abdominal surgery' and is on a strict regime of rest, no lifting etc. Unlike me, who is expected to mind a tiny baby on my own.

My mum is coming up, but not till Thursday (family all live three hours away). PIL live close, and they are lovely, but I don't feel comfortable having the boob out around them. Since most of the stress is around feeding, that makes things difficult.

Oh Bad I know this isn't my thread to post on but I promise it gets better. My two best friends felt exactly the same, honestly they could have written your post but within 10 days things picked up, I won't lie being a mum sounds like bloody hard work, but it won't always be this torturous hard, cockles of comfort to you Hag.

If you got one of those swaddle wrap things to cover your boobs when feeding would being with your PIL help?

Thanks Blue. The problem is that Olivia doesn't latch very well, so there's a lot of screaming and crying (from both of us), and the whole thing takes an hour minimum. Then is repeated an hour later. I have a lactation consultant coming on Friday, so hopefully she can help. I'll look into the swaddle thing though. I do love PIL, but - and I never thought I'd say this, as my own family are difficult and I've always liked living so far away from them - I just really want my mum.

The lactation consultant should be able to help you Bad - they can be geniuses. Breast feeding is hard work. Fablet never had any problems with latching (apart from the fact that he rather meanly insisted on sucking my nipple in through his curled tongue (Cue toe curling pain). And then on finishing he liked to go for a gentle licking. Who knew it could be so painful? What everyone says is right - if you can make it to 6 weeks then you should be good - your nips toughen up like battleship rivets! I have one of those draped things you can cover up with if you want? I never used it as I found it much easier to be able to see what I'm doing and also I found I just don't give shit what people think. It came as a surprise as I thought I would but I figure the baby's got to feed so everyone will just have to lump it!

Good luck, even if you can get your PIL's to come over and look after the baby so you can get a couple of hours sleep id really recommend it. They don't have to watch you feeding just protect you from the world. Please accept help when offered. If ever a person needed help it's a new mum, especially one who's just had the major surgery of c section.

Sorry was half asleep when I typed that so apols if I came across as a nobber - was trying to say I didn't have a latch problem and it was still bloody difficult so please don't beat yourself up. Especially when you're starved of sleep. It's not a form of torture for no reason. It's fucking hard work. Hugs.

Bad - you are awesome. Hang in there.

Fab you are a legend :-)

Blue - post away! Still waving pom-poms for you.

Hanging in here. No sleep since 5am (they all said get some sleep today but constant stream of doctors, observations and midwife visits) balancing eating food, drinking enough, moving because stitches, get h in the cot so she doesn't become dependent, doing skin to skin to establish bf, learning about latching (fack me this is hard), expressing etc. Tonight monster feeding kicks in apparently. Enjoy the baby they say!

Fortunately gfbw is here overnight and tomorrow night my big sis arrives. Am in hospital until Friday as still on pre-eclampsia watch.

Can only imagine how you must feel bad. Can we rechristen you 'Not in any way bad and in fact pretty cool'? We luffs you.

Thanks fab - you didn't come across like a nobber! I find I also need to see what I'm doing, and latching takes quite a few tries, so the boob is out quite a bit. Also, the feeding is just constant. Today was very hard on my own. I didn't eat anything until 2 o'clock. PIL were over in the afternoon, but only got a chance to make a quick lunch and have a shower before she was back on the boob. I'm exhausted.

Hugs to you, Fizz. I know it's not very hag-like, but I don't care. I hope things go ok for you. Enjoy the baby indeed. There's no time to think about actually enjoying anything yet, is there? Just getting through each minute.

How is Harriet?

Thanks bad.

Fortunately H is great - thank fuck we bonded - and getting a good latch now 80% of the time. I am on the psych list so getting a few extra questions by again thank fuck those services exist. And thank fuck I had the section after all, because I would have had the uterine ishoos and gone in for major op here anyway. Better not to do that after a long labour and forceps! Listen to your body they say! Well thank god I did when it was screaming st me to give birth in a nice medicalised setting. And breathe.

Only one more day to get through for you before you mum arrives. Hopefully she will rise to the occasion and if she doesn't, well at least it will get you through. Has your Dh got a deputy who can help him do half days or something? Also what are your thoughts on formula? Spoke to very wise old feeding support worker today who bf her first, still encourages people to bf, but ff her second and makes it her business to make people fell ok about doing the same. Sorry if this is like asking women with raging hyperemises about ginger biscuits!