Feb 2015 - Creeping closer towards the third trimester!

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Ugh, feel thoroughly beaten down. Horrible consultation.

Despite outlining my history with hypermobility, fibromyalgia, and arthritis, the consultant kept focusing on the fact I have a history of depression and kept saying I'd be fine with a bit of councelling. Somehow managed to remain calm and firm, I've done my research, I've weighed the risks and I have made my decision. But she talked at me like I was a head case that was just scared of a little pain. In the end I've had to wait on a second opinion. Just feel thoroughly gutted that my physical health was completely overlooked and my history of mental health was blamed. Horrible experience.

Oh frenetic really hope you get the outcomecyou want, could you get a letter from physio to back up your fears?

I had a letter in my maternity notes, but she scanned over it and instead just kept focusing on my history with depression. I kept saying I don't give a flying f*ck about the pain of childbirth, I'm in pain all day every day even when not pregnant, it's not that which concerns me, it's the problems with my hip dislocation (they slide out if I don't keep my knees clamped together getting out the car) and based on stories of people with a similar condition, I know what is best for my body.

Will just have to wait and see what the second consultant says, but I do feel very let down. I think it spoke volumes that the first words out of her mouth were "this hospital has a very low rate of elective c sections because of the risks associated with them". So I immediately felt like I was going to be pushed one way in order for them to keep their 'record'.

I just struggle to understand how in 2014 I've been made to feel as though my own wishes are being ignored.

Got a call from midwife, upper range of acceptable glucose level is 7.8, I'm 7.9

I now have to go to hospital for in depth tests, but they can't give me a bed, I'm on bed rest. Are they f ing serious?! .1
I'm so annoyed, I feel like just ignoring it, but don't want to be prevented from using the birth centre. So upset

Oh viper and frenetic it seems like you are both being so let down

Frenetic I have a problem with my hips and when thry put me in stirrups the mw were very good and keeping me in comfort, I had a mobile epidural and so could still feel pressure etc. the registrar who was a complete bitch came in and shifted stirrups wider I yelped in pain and she acted like she knew better, I made an official complaint about the way she treated me (this was tip of iceberg) since having my ds I now realise it is my body and I have a choice so please stick to your guns, would you consider a different hospital if you had to to get your point across?

The baby is really giving it some trying to move he is getting about 140 degrees then must get tired and flips back but he is trying and trying, its very painful but I dont care come on unamed baby you can do it! Just fed him a massive chinese....to help with his efforts obviously

Oh Frenetic, that's rubbish - don't give up- it's just one persons opinion- if you don't agree, ask for a second opinion and keep on fighting- you know your body

Viper- that rubbish news too! Is it possible to get the level down at all? .1 just seems like such a piddly amount

frantic did you quote NICE guidelines at the silly cow? I really hope you get it sorted at your second opinion appointment.

I've got my appointment with consultant to discuss getting a c section next Tuesday. I'm really hoping I'll get it sorted there and then - I've got a long bullet list of reasons for it (but then so did you). I'm dreading it now though as I've realised the consultants name in my notes is the same as the vile, insensitive, incapable of listening prick I saw at the start of this year over some gyne problems I was having. The anaesthetist I had to see (registrar said consultant would want me to have seen anaesthetist before discussing csection due to back problems and high bmi), was very understanding of my reasons and did say I seemed well informed and justified in my decision, so I'm hoping that bodes well. Plus my hospital has a high csection rate, so hopefully they won't be worried about another one. At least thats what I keep trying to tell myself!

Memphis, I'd definitely consider another host, despite it being quite inconvenient. I just feel pants to be honest. A letter from my physio and a recommendation from midwife and she still kept banging on about the fact I've had depression in the past and it's clouding my judgement. Ugh.

Hospital, not host!

Frenetic next time pull out the mental health discrimination card. Say you feel victimised bwcause you suffered depression in the past, and say even when you had depression your judgment wasn't clouded on things you knew were in your best interests.....throwing discrimination into an argument always helps

Sorry to hear all your struggles frenetic, hope they start listening to you. You haven't had an easy ride have you? I followed you through your morning sickness, I take it that is all gone now right?

Does anybody else have too much saliva? I have to spit all the time because swallowing it makes me feel sick, especially when hungry. So ladylike.

memphis that's amazing can you really feel him trying to turn all the way around? Sounds highly uncomfortable for you.

I've been researching since the phone call, inactivity will raise glucose levels. Hello bedrest....ok I'm not complaining now as it's keeping bean safe.
no more dessert, fizzy drinks, or sugar in my tea from now. Gah what a faff.
I've IBS so no gluten, I'm under house arrest, and I'm off sugar. DP is permitting me an evening of miserableness

Honeybird yes since he has been the wrong way round been feeling kicks onto my hip bones, I don't seem to have much water so can feel limbs when I poke about my belly, he was swirling back and forth so I lent forward to give him more room, took my breath away and gave me horrid heartburn, pretty sure he has gone over though the top of my bump is soft again someone in costa at next table yesterday was watching my belly move it really does go some

Jeepers, Frenetic and Viperama, you both deserve a break. Hope it comes soon for you both.
Sympathies towards the 'bum grapes'! I've always suffered with them, I've had them on and off during this pregnancy but waiting the day a big 'bunch' arrive!

So after being in for reduced movements on Thursday, I got a call from hospital yday, they want me back in on Monday morning to recheck the level of fluid around baba.
I'm going to stay away from Dr. Google, but what does/can this mean?

Memphis, pretty sure mine turned from one side to the other while I was swimming (v strange sensation) maybe that might help? Must have been me floating in the water that helped.

Hope everyone is doing okay - some of you sound like u are having a really stressful time! Hope things get better for u soon.
Didn't realise how quiet I have been this week, thread fell off my 'I'm on list!'
In good news, aquanatal was great memphis really relaxing and sociable. Also have our first nct class today so meeting some local January mummies to be
In bad news, have been in some pain and now been told spd so physio referral. Not holding my breath given how long I know u had to wait frenetic!
Ahh well!

We've had a grumpy morning!

Brought out our ancient pram to make sure all the bits were there and I couldn't remember how to collapse it! I wanna new one!!!

DH sorted out how to make it work, motivated by not wanting to spend any money ;)

No more babies for us, so actually I'll be glad to start getting rid of the mountain of stuff we have everywhere.

Off to buy a new cosy toes though :D

Morning all, feeling productive this morning- washing out, kitchen clean, stuff tidy, and just about to head out for a day with my best buds. Happy saturday everyone :)

Morning all!

Sorry to hear some of you are feeling low

I had my diabetes check in the week and all clear phew! Off for another 3D scan today as they didn't press record for the DVD lol! Oh well just gives me more pictures and another chance to see my gorgeous baby! Taking my mum this time too she's so excited bless her, they didn't have scan in her day

Can I join the grumpy club? Flu jab appears to have given me flu :-(

OK, I've been googling. I don't have flu, just a cold. The jab only has inactive virus so various people are talking bull saying it's cos of last weeks jab. Still think I'm entitled to be in the grumpy club though!!

Littlemiss hope scan was lovely for you

Geeky yes I was told you may feel throaty/rundown and some peole think of it as flu. You don't need an excuse to be grumpy though being pregnant is excuse

I have been in a lot better mood today since baby flipped, feel so much more comfy. Been work and had lots of people telling me I look shitty though (yeah thanks )

Mil came over for a cuppa without warning at 8.45 luckily I was just leaving for work.

So tired this afternoon though

Fab day at nct class, really glad we're doing it now

Jen I just had first nct class today as well. Loved it!