Feb 2015 - Creeping closer towards the third trimester!

[hanflan]

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Ha ha they sound like the responses my oh wanted to say. I just wanted to say that I've got a 12yr old upstairs (parents consultation day so was off school) and I think he turned out ok.

My doctors and mw didn't tell me about the flu/whooping cough vaccine. It was something I saw on here and booked myself.

God I'm so sorry ladies but I really need to vent.

I'm going to say something terrible....I hate being pregnant!!

I know how lucky I am and I feel so blessed that I can fall pregnant quite easily and after losing one I was so chuffed when I fell pregnant with this one, especially as it was very much wanted. I know pregnancy is a miracle and the fact that I've got a little human inside me is amazing. I am really so excited to meet my baby! But I just bloody hate this part! I wish pregnancy only lasted a month!

I'm so sorry if I sound ungrateful I'm really not, I'm so grateful for this special gift, I just struggle with my body not being my own and for so long. It feels like my personality is taken away and for the whole 9 months I just don't know who I am

Does anyone else feel like this??

And the worst part is my pregnancies seem to be fine! I'm pretty text book, very little sickness, no health problems when other people suffer so much. And do you know what's ridiculous?! I was the same with DD but then was dying to be pregnant again and was always saying how much I missed it?!

Bang - I am RIGHT there with you. I know I should feel elated, and I do in a lot of ways. I don't take for granted how easy I fell pregnant when I know a lot of people struggle. I've drawn the short straw on symptoms.. HG, SPD, bag ligament pain, stress and anxiety. And now I have a head pushing my lungs up, making breathing a bit of a chore.

So maybe a bit different in terms of 'ease' of pregnancy, but I'm certainly not enjoying it. You don't sound ungrateful and I certainly hope I don't either - even though people frequently behave like I don't deserve this.

*bad ligament pain.

Although if bag ligament pain was a thing you can bet your ass I'd have that too.

Bang you are not alone so don't feel bad. I wanted this baby so badly, the day I found out I was pg I had a virus so it was found on a day dh and I were ill on the sofa then all the stuff that has happened during pregnancy were rubbish but apart from my recent fall I have quite liked the kicks and feeling healthy etc but the thing that really really gets me down is I am a person in my own right I am not just am incubator, the mums at school want to talk about nothing else but my bump, names, gender, how I am feeling and I just keep thinking can we talk about work, pub my new lipstick anything but the baby.

They say a lot of women struggle when the attention goes from them to the baby or the next pregnant person but I cannot wait!

I mention I am popping into the attic 'oooh you can't do that you are pregnant!' No shit thats what that bump is! i can go in attic I have legs and arms (ok one arm at the mo) so no bang you are not alone

On top of all that I am full of worry and anxiety so constantly on edge that something will happen and won't relax until baby is in my arms.

Anybody got any tips to make my day at work go quicker - only me and another colleague in and my will to work has well and truly left the building - ive resorted to making lists of things we need for baby ??

I'm not having a great time either, that's the great thing about this group we can complain about it to people who are going through the same thing at the same time

Ended up phoning the hospital this morning cos my cramps have been really bad, but the midwives reckons it's just braxton hicks, she took me seriously though

I like baby lists, I can entertain myself for ages making lists

Argh advice please ladies... the last couple of days it seems like little Pickle's movements have been significantly reduced. She's usually very active and gives me hefty kicks. I have been feeling SOME movement, but it's just been little rolls here and there and a couple of gentle pokes, no kicks at all. As I am still feeling some movement, would I be silly to call the antenatal unit?! I don't know whether she's just been in a different position for the last couple of days and I'm just being a paranoid first time mum

Phone, ask advice, better to worry about nothing than to regret it later!

Bang- I feel exactly the same about being pg, though everyone keeps saying I must love it having had an easy pg so far.
Memphis- I hate the attention too, I want to talk about something else! Though not many people at work know/have noticed (I was there for a fixed term and then was in the process of being made perm, and didn't want to wave it about that I'm doing this while pg) it's quite a relief as nobody discusses it all day.

Mini- my work was v quiet for a couple of weeks, I made a lot of lists for baby, Christmas and DIY things we need to do, sorted all my personal paperwork I had out off for ages and did a lot of mumsnettimg, it passed the time and I feel quite accomplished now!

Han- just call your midwife, mine said they'd rather you call than didn't. Though I experienced this earlier this week and then started feeling bigger movements again just as I was about to phone the mw. Think he was changing position. Better calling than worrying

Thanks guys, I've just had some chocolate with my lunch so I'm giving her 2 hours to give me some good kicks. If not, then I will call them and ask for advice :)

Bang, while I'm not hating it, and have had a spectacularly easy time of it, I'm already very much looking forward to my body being mine again- I really really want to go out for a good run without my back hurting, and to be able to put my tights on without wheezing!

Han- deffo give them a buzz- my MW even emphasised it at the last appointment- always better to make a fuss and it be nothing :)

I agree, better to call even if it's just to put your mind at rest.

I am having a tough day as well so sympathise with just trying to get through the day. I am really struggling with working full 5 day weeks. I feel like a zombie and my concentration ability is zero. Not helped by people eating apples etc noisily and listening to music whilst at their desks which is really distracting.

At least my counting up the days I have left to work yesterday has been useful. I have had more work pile on my desk since and I have been able to go back to people to say "you do realise I have only 42 days left, what do you actually want me to prioritise?" Very useful and makes me feel better.

ooh, girlies- for anyone that liked the idea of hypnobirthing (like me!!), I just found a free offer- it's videos, rather than classes, but might be of use to some- thecalmbirthschoolfreeclasses.instapage.com/

I just subscribed so no idea what it's like yet, but I am tight and like the idea of getting something for nothing!

I suggest calling mat unit my mw said she prefers 50 wasted visits to ward to be safe than not getting something checked

I've just called the unit, midwife said to go home from work, have a glass of cold water and then lie on left side for one hour. If I don't feel at least 10 movements then I should pop in. She was so nice about it, she said she had a girl call the other day with the exact same thing, went home from work and baby started wiggling around like crazy. Fingers crossed!

Hi Bangles - thanks for that - I have signed up, I'm really intrigued by hypnobirthing so this is great.

On another note... whooping cough vaccine?? I didn't know anything about this, not been mentioned at any of my (numerous) doctors or MW appointments. Is this something I definitely need?

My little girl is doing brilliantly and I am actually quite enjoying second trimester although am slightly gobsmacked at the things some people think to say to an expectant mother.

march it is recommended as it covers baby for first 6 weeks of life. from 28 weeks onwards they say to have it.

Hi girls,

There are times I enjoy being pg but times like yesterday when I'm having a rant at my DH why he can't be pg :-) it's especially in the evenings when my back and scarred bump hurt and I feel uncomfortable.

Also felt a bit bad yesterday after I made a decision to stay on sick leave until the birth. I guess I would feel bad if something was not right with our princess and I would blame myself if it was the trauma i went through or me being stressed at work. Thankfully I'm on full pay so it doesn't affect us financially.

Ah ok thanks Memphis - I'm not quite at 28 weeks so I will ask about it at my next appointment and book if necessary.

March I a, shocked it hasn't been mentioned mine was mentioned at my booking in appointment and then I was 28+1 and was being asked why I hadn't booked myself in.

Its the one thing I feel is important I got whopping cough and as an adult it still effects me, if a baby got it it can be life threatening it is actually on the rise too so this is why they are trying to get banies covered....its also a lit less traumatic than when the vacinstions start for babies, I only ever took ds to one vaccine appointment but dh has said i have no choice this time he won't be booking time off to take him for me.

All I do is sleep at the moment, waiting for dh to get home as his job was rained off so he can take me to Asda, he hasn't moaned yet about having to do all the cleaning, laundry, food prep etc but Asda may tip him over the edge

Hi ladies,

Bangles, I've also signed up for the hypnobirthing videos. It certainly can't hurt. Thanks for posting the link! I gave myself a silly fright googling instrumental birth complications the day before my 28 week appointment and mentioned it to the midwife, who has organized for me to discuss my fears with a consultant midwife in a few weeks. I feel a bit foolish, but it will be nice to get some proper advice.

In other news, starting my first NCT class on Tuesday AND have ordered the pram (Mothercare Xpedior) but waiting to get the colour pack we want. I'm pretty excited :-)

Happy it's Friday! x T

Baby has had hiccups a lot today supposed to be good for their lung development apparently but it looked like I had a tic!

Anyone strugglng still with baby names? i have no clue at all still and its bugging me

I'm lost with baby names too memphis and EVERYONE seems to have an opinion! Lol!

This may seem a really silly FTM question, but what is everyone planning on using in the way of furniture in baby's rooms? We have a changing table which we have been given (open style) but I was wondering what I would be best with for baby's clothes? Small chest of drawers, little wardrobe (tho won't be much hanging stuff for a while I guess!)? Not necessarily going to buy 'proper' nursery furniture as it seems they hike the price when the put the work nursery in! Just wondering what others had found most useful?

Jen I have a baby changer that fits onto the top of the cot and an old vintsge unit that has 2 drawers and a cupboard, I have all of the newborn vests, bibs and socks in one drawer and baby grows in the other, blankets, knitwear and outfits underneath in cupboards. With ds I hung up everything inc babygrows and had vests and bibs on a shelf....I ironed everything back then inc vests and bibs....not sure I will this time but who knows as I get nearer the time

On name front yep you are right regarding opinions mil likes Simon ds said Baby Stephen today, dh is really leaving it to me thank goodness as his choices are pretty bad. Everrything I like people pull faces at wouldn't bother me if dh liked them but he pulls the face too