November 2014 - thread 9. The one with the babies.

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Waddle aboard ladies.

I got given mine by a neighbour! Took the choice out of the matter I suppose!

It is really nice reading all this positivity. You hear so many horror stories that hearing positive (along with realistic back ache and groin ache) talk is so welcome.
I have spent today organising baby clothes too. Must be something in the water.

Another vote here for chocolate flavoured gaviscon!

Yo! Positive mental attitude can't beat Marie Mongan has made me 100% excited about the birth

i am excited about birth and seeing just what i can manage and handle again this time. before- i remember just filtering all the negativity and horror stories out. sure they happen and of course women have a right to talk bout them / be heard but quality - positive ones seem to be viewed with either some scepticism or distrust.

i have found much of this pg really tough - physically but especially emotionally but as my days are numbered til his baby arrives - i remind myself that i had a great experience last time and why shouldnt i go into this labour thinking the same?

DDs birth gave me such a confidence boost and DP was in awe of mine and women's bodies. he still talks about how amazing he thinks we all are for growing our babies and delivering them - no matter what way they finally make it out into the world. i loved reading the birth stories on my last antenatal / postnatal thread and hope to do so again with all of you.

Loving all the positivity today ladies!

The human body us a absolute machine and I'm really excited to see what else it can do. Yea it's going to hurt, but what a result!

I was crapping myself about birth until I started reading up and went to the NCT classes. Now I understand the process I'm really looking forward to it...and of course meeting the little person I have grown :)

I also glimpsed at. 'Chocolate Gaviscon' in someone's post and suddenly felt excitement until I realised it doesn't exist. Heartburn here is starting to really P me off.

Any signs from anyone today? Surely all this positive thinking and visualisation should start to see some babies...

How lovely to wake up to all these positive messages

Weeonion the last bit of yours made me all emotional. I'm well aware things may not go to plan but I feel well informed about my choices at least and unless there's absolutely no other option for safety reasons I am aiming for a natural birth.

No more symptoms here yet. Boo!

Good emotional that is!

I can't see my body going into labour whilst my children keep starting the day at 5am. This time my 3yo added wetting the bed to the mix. I honesty think I would have had more sleep on a post natal ward last night than I did here.

Sorry to bring down the positivity. On the up side, I have snuck back into bed now that the GPs are up. It is a beautiful day and warm too. I have just opened our bedroom patio doors at 8am! I am off to see the MW at 11. I will ask her to examine me and try a sweep. Having not gone into labour naturally with DS1, with DS2 and this one I operate on the basis of giving labour every opportunity to start without induction. If nothing else I am interested to find out what state my cervix is in after all the twinging and cramping over the last few days (and weeks).

Kantha you're allowed to feel normal and have a moan! Pleased you've been able to get back to bed. I don't know how you girls who have little ones already do it. I am shattered at the moment - there is no way I could manage a small person as well. I take my hat off to you all.

Good luck with the MW - look forward to hearing how it goes.

Weeonion, I read jujus book. It's good! Basically she says the pain of contractions (which is healthy pain) makes adrenaline surge. If you don't burn that off, it can stop the endorphins flowing. So she recommends to start doing these exercises, which mean you'll focus on these senses instead, e.g. Movement, visualisation and sound. I've picked up a few good ideas but haven't practiced any of them yet, but I can see how it could work! I do recommend the book, especially if you're interested in an active labour.

There are loads of births stories in the book too, but I've been trying to find any videos online, but no luck. It would have helped me to see an example too.

Oh kantha - that sounds tough. Early starts and some work,on top of it is hard. I also take my hat off to anyone with little ones / preschoolers who is managing to get anything done and function in these last heavy days. DD is 7 and can pretty do most things for herself (with some 'encouragement'). Glad the gp are there so you get well earned breaks / rests.

Blambet - bah! I don't think i have time to get ju ju... I like the idea of burning off adrenaline - its just finding the ideas for that in a flat with downstairs neighbours!

40 &3 here. Just out of the pool after a few lengths, a bit of bouncing and floating around.........

Another MW appointment today at 37+5, which is quick considering I had one last Thursday. Apparently they only want to see me on clinic days which are Mondays or Tuesdays as waiting til the following week is too long. MW gave me a bollocking last week for having a Thursday appointment as they are reserved for special cases errmm, it never crossed her mind that I didn't pick that day and took what I was given by the receptionist

DH has spent the morning I'm sure he's meant to be working watching Robbie Williams act a twit in the delivery room and is now inspired to do something similar. I won't be responsible for my actions if I hear a note from the Lion King.

I'm also signing the petition for chocolate flavoured Gaviscon to add to my supposedly healthy diet. Popped into Waitrose just before closing last night not my usual shop by any means and all the cakes in the bakery section were reduced to 10p each. I went a bit wild and subsequently scoffed the lot. It was in lieu of dinner so I can be excused.

40+3 weeonion! I can't believe people have gone past their DD already!

I'm 39 + 3 and it really hasn't sunk in at all.

With the endless saga of my Dad being in hospital and my having to be over there a lot managing the utter CRAPNESS of his doctors, I have been completely neglecting my own pregnancy. And myself, tbh. Last night I was lying in bed in the dark having fierce arguments with doctors in my head, totally stressed out, and around 2am the baby started kicking like mad and I just made a conscious effort to put my hand on my belly and try to visualise what it was doing and try to talk to it. It was nice. I felt guilty I hadn't been paying more attention.

Then this morning I went over to the hospital to the unexpected news that he'll be discharged today! AND my uncle is bringing him home so I don't have to make the journey!!! So that means that from this evening I can FINALLY go into my nest and actually prepare for meeting Baby! I'm all a bit emotional - I feel like I'm being released from some sort of family prison.

Not to be all dramatic or hormonal or anything, heh.

Oh anna that's great news, I'm really pleased for you and obviously for your dad too. Enjoy your nest :-)

Anna - that's brilliant news! How you're feeling is completely understandable, the last few weeks have been difficult for you. Time to ficus on you now and enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and look forward to meeting your LO.

Oh how lovely, Anna, for both your and your family. Definitely time to concentrate on yourself for a bit.

It's lovely to read all this positivity, ladies. I woke up feeling very down and a bit lonely and isolated this morning after DP was in a foul mood yesterday evening and again this morning. I had a lovely bit of quiet time with my pony this morning when I rode, only to go home and cry as soon as DP left for work because he was so indifferent this morning when I said I was feeling a bit down. Also feeling a bit stressed because he had a little dig about me not wanting to DTD at the moment and part of me is angry at the lack of consideration and part of me is a bit worried that it's obviously bothering him enough to say something. Feeling a bit calmer now, but rather weary. Just been out for a walk around the car park at work and seen the most beautiful stag trapped in the bottom field below the warehouse - opened the gate for him and watched him bounce off into the woods in the sunshine. Very peaceful and made me appreciate how lucky I am to be in this beautiful part of the world, which also made me want to cry. I'm hoping it's just hormones - sorry for just dumping it all on you, my lovelies.

Hope you're all enjoying as much rest as possible, especially those with other DCs. I take my hat off to you!

How exciting that we are getting so close to more babies. weeonion, definitely stand your ground if you're still happy with the way things are going.

Anna that's just brilliant!

work free dp also sees the Robbie clips as hilarious, he has a very naughty personality as it is and has been threatening to get a selfie stick for his phone so he can film the birth from all angles.. I think he might be shocked by how unamused I'll be by this behaviour on the day!!

10 cakes... I'll be dreaming about those!!

Been reading lots of positive birth stories online, makes me feel empowered to do this!! Although I haven't had a difficult pregnancy I've found it really hard work and now as I get to the end I feel like I spent too much time moaning and I'll actually miss it a bit. Makes me a bit sad. Does that even make sense??

twiglet you've been having a hard time lately - i've been not too chirpy either and have been feeling endlessly guilty cos I wasn't happier. Surely this should be such a happy time, right??!

But "life doesn't care about your plans" as I heard once, and thats the problem. We need to coccoon ourselves inside a bubble of warmth and sympathy and safety, but the world keeps jabbing in!

So then we feel worse, cos we don't feel as resilient as we used to. My DH has been really nice to me, but yesterday he was like an Antichrist because of all the stress I was undergoing with the shitty uncommunicative doctors. And he kept saying "I'm not giving out to YOU, its just all this interference...." but of course being around A Massive Grump when you're hormonal and upset anyway really exacerbates your own gloom. So its a vicious cycle.

We DTD in Wk 36 & no more. I felt a bit guilty and explained to him that whilst I did fancy it in my head, honestly my body was too stiff and rickety at the moment. Turns out that he didn't fancy it any more either. To quote: "He's 8 or 9 pounds! I'm sorry, but thats just waaaaay too much baby for me right now!"

I was pretty relieved. But tbh, even if he was gagging for it, my rickety-ness would be winning out. I can't be Superwoman, and why should I need to be?

Anna so pleased for you and your dad! Baby can come now and you can rest until it's time!

Twiglet I hope the beautiful weather today helps cheer you up, and if that doesn't work I recommend giving your DP a kick, that ought to do it!

We haven't DTD in a while now, my hips are just so sore and as soon as DD goes to bed we both just want to watch tv and lay on the sofa.

So far today I've taken DD pumpkin shopping, then to the park, then on a bike ride. Just had lunch and now we are making white rice crispy treats in the shape of eyeballs to take to a friend's house for the afternoon. I figure if I keep busy, the day will pass quickly and I get to have a nap when DH gets home! Yay!

Quick update as the wifi is terrible in this hospital.
DD2 was born at 1306 on Sunday after a 3hr labour and about 1hr of contractions, we got to the hospital with about 15mins to spare!! It was like watching an episode of OBEM in fast-forward! No time for any gas and air even. We are still in hospital because she hasn't got the hang of feeding yet, hopefully can go home tomorrow.
Haven't been able to read any posts since Saturday so hope the rest of you are doing ok.

Wow congrats happy! Excellent work on a quick delivery!!

Congratulations Happypotamus! 4th baby on the thread!

Which made me realise that by the end of November, when my EDD is there might me very few of us left "still waiting"...

Congrats Happy! Hope you and baby are doing well

Congratulations Happypotamus! That's great news!

Many congratualtions Happy!!!! Blimey, 4 hours end-to-end - that's something to aim for . Hope you're all doing well