October 2014 // thread 15 // hooray, here come the babies!

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Going through these fast at the minute!

How are your oh's doing? Mine has gone almost mute. Keeps going to bed at 8.30 and zonking out until gone 7. It's like he's switched off a bit. Although still needing hugs. He says he's been ill for a fortnight, but I'm short on sympathy if I'm honest. Today after waddling to screwfix for shower valves and being quite stressed by workmen and being unable to make decisions all afternoon, he came home to find me perched on a beanbag as if I'd been there all day. I couldn't stand up anymore so he had to go straight back out to screwfix to do the actual buying. I felt BAD for getting him to go. Then he just told me the things he'll be doing on paternity leave as if it's just ordinary time off. Erk.

It's such a weird time doing this waiting.

goats please tell me he's not off up a mountain leaving you with his child while he enjoys your hobby?! My dp pitched a trip to the Lakes with his mate a few weeks ago and I could have cheerfully murdered him, he knows how much I love it there.

Workmen are total crap, so many stupid mistakes but I'm sure it's actually just shit communication. They're all subcontractors it seems so think they're doing the right thing until I spot what they've done and tell them otherwise. Then they think I'm some difficult pregnant woman. No, this is my house and I'm paying you to do a job! Gah. I wish I was a it more clued in so that I could use all the technical lingo and whatnot. I'm sure I wouldn't have a problem if I was a bloke.

Thanks for the tips/good wishes. I've tried a few things from the spinning babies website but think it might be too late. Damn.

Never too late - they can turn themselves really late on.

Oh he's not planning big adventures, just has plans for things he wants to get done. I'm thinking that if we manage to wash and eat each day that'll be an accomplishment.

robin honestly makes no difference if you are a bloke. My husband is a bloke (funnily enough) and works in construction and they still don't listen to him. I too am the irrational hormansl one that hangs around giving evil stares and complains about the dirty hand prints and rubbish painting

Do the 'what the hell am I doing?' Thoughts about having children ever go away. My mind is constantly going over what a mistake this all is - well, it comes in waves. I thought I'd be over the shock by now, but I'm not really. Just lying here now with the biggest 'run away' feeling I've ever had in my life. Not having anything to do is not good for me.

goats I'm with you. I have threatened a few times that dp might come home from work to find the cats looking after the baby and me long gone. I'm terrified! The fact that I'm more terrified of something going wrong/harming the baby/baby being ill sort of reassures me that actually I'm normal and will not be a terrible mother. I think if we weren't at least a little concerned about our parenting abilities at this stage it'd be more worrying if that makes sense?

Ok so I officially can't sleep! Don't know if it's because my hubbie is away or a pregnancy thing.

Goats have you tried telling your builders they are now dealing with a very heavily (and irrational) pregnant woman!?! That's what I kept telling mine a few months back to get them moving along quickly.

Baby Felicity sounds like she's doing well. I still can't believe she was due after mine and is already here xx

I haven't managed to catch up on yesterdays chat properly, but love what I've seen, it was making me giggle which is nice at 5.30

Apart from, how did I miss the bit about being able to eat sushi when pregnant? I thought it was a total no no!

Urgh-did my usual 4am wakeup and have a very stressful board meeting coming up today which will run from 10am for several hours. Will have to have a big coffee!

Goats, you are not alone. Last night we finished our NCT and I felt very strange as means we have to face reality with the baby due a week today. DH keeps on saying he can't wait to see him and I know what he means but at the same time I'm full of trepidation about being at home alone with a small during winter! Putting my job on hold has been a really big deal, as silly as it sounds! Next week I am going to make a list of all the things to do in the area so that I can try and do something every day-luckily London museums are to hand so I might try out the British Museum with baby in a sling etc

Baby pinkfizzsparkles arrived at 2.33 this morning. 7lb of loveliness. All rather fast once it got going!

fatpony not silly to worry about a job being on hold at all! I love my job, it's hugely sociable and fun and stressful in the right way. Going from that, to sitting on the sofa for weeks, mostly alone, trying to keep a small person alive is terrifying! Not having my own money, terrifying. And so on. Weirdly I feel even worse about it when people tell me I won't even think about work once the baby is here. I don't want to not think about work!

missus the builders themselves are ace, it's the others like plumbers and tilers who aee messy abd keep doing things wrong.

Anyway, going to try positive thinking today! Reflexology at 10.. 'bring on labour' reflexology with a bit of luck. If not then just some nice relaxing massage!

A little girl by the way!

Congratulations pinkfizz!

goats I was terrified just before dd was born, wondering whether I'd made a massive mistake, I think it's quite common to feel like that. I haven't had it this time although I do keep thinking how much easier life is now dd is a preschooler and wondering why I'm letting myself in for sleepless nights again!

Still nothing happening for me. I've got a sweep this morning. Not looking forward to it, but fingers crossed it works. My mum is visiting today which would be convenient if I go into labour as she'll be looking after dd while I'm in hospital and she's usually 2 hours away. Although she will be asking if I'm OK every two minutes all day so I might be ready to murder her by the end of the day.

Congratulations pink!

Congratulations pinkfizz!! Wow that all must have happened quick!
kirsti sazzle hefner goats and anyone else with early due dates. I don't know about you ladies but I feel cheated! All these babies arriving and it's not ours!! Today is will mostly be bouncing. Good luck guys!

Congrats PinkFizz and baby girl PinkFizz!! Hope you are both well.

x

Congratulations Pinkfizz!

mrsB I can quite understand you feeling that way - I went 10days overdue last time and was sooo pissed off especially when people I knew who were due after me we're having their babies before me! Once they're here though you do quickly forget those frustrating days I found. Sending you all positive imminent labour vibes.

Rowan and I are doing well. I am so happy in fact, I haven't felt like this for ages. I had a really traumatic birth last time and have only just realised how much it affected me afterwards and how I resented DD if I'm honest. We then had a really stressful time conceiving Rowan so I somehow can't beleive he's here now and we're a family of four. Probably just post baby happy hormones and I'll be tearing my hair out in a few weeks but I'm making the most of it right now.

Congratulations pink!!! Look forward to hearing more if you're up for sharing in a few days :) Hope you're both doing well!

Mrsb I can relate hehe, going by my LMP today is my due date, maybe something will happen today or over the weekend hopeful face?

DH swapped his working weekend from next weekend to this weekend as there's more cover for if he has to duck home early, a good plan but still wish he was gonna be at home instead .
Got a sore back this morning and some bump ache, but trying not to read too much into it as I'm prone to morning backache anyway and BH's yesterday went on for ages so I'm not surprised my bump aches!

Congratulations, pinkfizz!

Congratulations pinkfizz

I'm no expert, only been doing this parenting thing for a year, but I'm very much a fan of winging it; you just get by, initially minute by minute, then hour by hour, sometimes even day by day (though that is a rare luxury!) and you get it wrong and feel like the worst mother in the world, and then you get these waves of incredible love and wellbeing and happiness and you feel like you could take on the world.
Then, one day, you realise that it is actually ok and you've fallen into a manageable routine where showering is not a challenge and brushing your teeth is not an optional luxury.
But the most important thing is that it feels so totally worth it - I'm no super-earth-mother and I kept in touch with work via email, weekly, going back in for a half day when DS was just five weeks old. I was back at work when he was 8 months old (partly through financial necessity and to qualify for my second maternity, but also because I was ready to have that aspect of myself back - I'm not designed to be a full time SAHM, ideally I'd like part time of each).
I miss the life I used to have and I mourn the loss of 'myself' - but I think that's healthy! Everything has changed, doesn't mean I want to change it back.

Sorry for the essay, but I have the same fears now going from one to two - it helps to reflect on the madness of this last year.

Congratulations pinkfizz!

I reckon my due date is 4th October by LMP, so not feeling too cheated yet. After 8th though, I'll be getting annoyed. To be honest I don't feel ready yet - physically or mentally, which I know sounds insane because I've had 9 months and it's not up to me anyway, but still. I still need to get my head around certain things, I'm not excited at all for example... although given the timing now, I'm starting to wonder if I ever will.

Congrats pinkfizz

Congratulations pink! Wonderful news.

Still pregnant and now officially overdue. Can't believe I didn't go early like last time, put out is rather an understatement.

Going to head into town with some friends and see if I can get my hair done to make me feel better... Doubt I'll be able to get a last minute appointment though so we'll see. And off out for dinner this evening so at least I have fun stuff to do.

I don't understand how I can be nearly 3cms dilated and yet nothings happening. Grump grump grump!

Many congratulations pinkfizz and what a beautiful name bump glad all is well

Thinking of you ladies who are overdue ... You glass of is so so close

I think im still in denial ... I want this baby here due to the pyhsical pain im enduring but feel im not ready for another child, i really havnt thought about it much as my new house & dd has kept me busy, dd has just recently started sleeping through the night 4 years later i cant beleive how much better i feel mentally now im getting a full nights sleep after so long .,.. And in less than 2 weeks its back to square one, i feel terrible that im more apprehensive than "excited" i know i will fall totally in love her when i see her but i am seriously worried that i wont have the "stamina" to deal with two children ?? I have no choice this time to stay in my pj's for 3 days and not go over the door if i dont feel up to it as i have 4 year old this time, but maybe that isnt a bad thing ? Probably better to have more structure to my day ? I guess i will find out soon enough