March Mummies 2015 - ever hopeful for the return of sanity and departure of sickness as we approach second tri!

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New thread - think this is number 4?! Can someone post the link to the stats please? Thank you

I am catching up with my OBEMs I have recorded over the past God-knows how many weeks and already tears are flowing.
There is one woman who had twins at 24 weeks and they have cerebral palsy, a 2 year old and having their 4th - 4 under 4s! Crikey!
I am getting an awful lot of stretching, crampy pains in my hips, back and tummy. Not feeling very good at the moment. I am not panicking or anxious something is wrong but I definitely didn't feel this achy and sore with DS.

junk I am feeling really achy too - though today it's mainly in my stomach - feels like I've done a workout as muscles are all achy I assure you no working out has been done for many moons.

Just had to undo my trousers and feel sooooo much better! might have to send DP up to the loft to see what maternity bits I have stashed up there. I didn't have many clothes last time so might have to invest in a few more dresses - ASOS have some nice work ones I could wear for work

my trousers are starting to feel tight too! i fished out my maternity stuff last night and i have a pair of leggings, a pair of combat style trousers, and some skinny jeans - all over bump - that will see me through, along with a floaty style skirt. think i can survive another two or three weeks although i am eating soooooo much as it's the only way the nausea stays away! as soon as it calms down i must eat less and healthier! currently loving all carbs and junk!

I need some advice, if possible. I've mentioned briefly before how traumatised i was after I had DS - I don't want to go into details but essentially felt bullied into an unproven and unnecessary induction that ended badly. The worst bit was feeling like no one caring for me gave a shit - I felt bullied, controlled and abandoned when I was at my most vulnerable. A complaint and debriefing saw the health authority taking full responsibility but it's left me with a total lack of trust in anyone supposedly caring for me this pregnancy - which is awful because more than anything, I need to trust them!

My GP was sympathetic and suggested i get booked in with the same HCP but could switch to another borough if it was too much. Two weeks ago I had to go back to the hospital I gave birth in for an early scan and I came out in a cold sweat and pounding heart. My booking in appointment is tomorrow and I'm dreading it. It's the same place they began the bullying for an induction - which turned out they were completely wrong about. Should i tell them tomorrow I might be switching? Should I tell them about my complete lack of trust? It's an awkward conversation because I'm basically telling people how much they let me down but face to face and I feel like I'm tarring an entire profession. But I can't help it :(

Zebra - i had the same experience. Happy to talk to you about it all privately if it helps? I've had quite a bit of counselling to help deal with it all, but the absolute best kind was 'EFT' or 'tapping' - it was very difficult to do at the time, but I 100% trusted the therapist and wow - the difference it has made. I was still getting flashbacks, anxiety attacks, nightmares - all sorts of trauma. I was nervous about getting pg, but I feel relaxed and happy and I'm looking forward to the birth and enjoying the pg (as much as I can with the ms) the same as I did with DS.

Please do PM me if you want to talk more xxx

As to clothes, well, I work from home, so I'm just choosing stretchy, comfy things. Mostly dresses. I also have some linen trousers which are too big - especially after the ms-related weight loss. Am going to raid New Look, too, as they have some really nice looking stretchy maternity dresses for £10-£15 which will be great over winter with tights or leggings under.

And yes. Write out a letter saying everything you want and, if you can, take a trusted friend or family member with to support you. You need to be honest with them and your deserve good care.

Hi zebra. I can understand where you're coming from. I think you should mention it. I had a terrible experience when I had my MMC in February 2012 and talked it through in detail with the bereavement /counselling midwife at the hospital afterwards. When I had to go in for subsequent scans afterwards and my second MMC in February 2013 they looked after me with 100% care and thoughtfulness. I hope they treat you with the care you deserve tomorrow. Xxx

Welcome purple.

I’m pissed off with DP for making me throw out my maternity clothes. I was going to keep them and remember saying I would need them when we had another. He gave me daggers at the time and said ‘IF we have another’. Six months later he was desperate to have another baby so now I’ve got to buy them all over again.

zebra you are totally justified in how you are feeling and I don’t think there’s anything wrong in expressing it tomorrow. If they are unable to reassure you that things will be different this time round then I would be looking at switching. Don't feel guilty about it, you need to make the best decision for you.

Think I need to check out New Look!

Hi perse!

Zebra I've no experience with this, being a first-timer, but I think just be honest with them. Especially as they took full responsibility for what happened last time. They can't exactly not listen or react badly after that. I would feel really awkward too, I'm terrified of confrontation, but in any situation like this, I feel it helps to know that evidence is on my side, if that makes sense? Your feelings of going there lately sound like some sort of post-traumatic stress. Maybe you would be best trying elsewhere, just so that you don't start out with that feeling before anything has even happened. I'm sure other with more experience can give you better advice though.

Is anyone else feeling ridiculously emotional? I am crying at anything and everything, which is not normally like me. I'm fed up of it! I know I have nothing to complain about really as I'm not sick. Think I just really need to be back at work (preparing to be shot by other school staff for saying this!). I don't do well during the holidays! I could have done overtime in the residential houses of my school if I wasn't pregnant.

Teehee it took me so long to write that post that plenty of people came along with advice.

Coaster I'm just sooooo grumpy and miserable all the time!!!

Thanks everyone, so much perspective really helps. I feel quite bereft at the lack of trust I have...I need to trust them! But it runs so deep, I feel like I wont even be able to trust a new set of MWs. I suppose I won't know until I meet them.

purple I'm glad it's not just me.

Am also very grumpy all the time!

I tried on loads of maternity dresses in new look and they were all too big on the top (as in boobs upwards). I'm a size 10 with FF boobs and this has never been an issue before, usually things are too tight so I'd be interested to see if anyone else found the same thing. I might just be looking at the wrong sort of style.

Zebra Do whatever you feel you need to do and don't worry about causing any upset or having difficult conversations with people. You are the priority, look after number 1 (well and 2 if you include baby)

Oh and I finally booked in today at 10+1

Yes coaster girl I am crying at the drop of a hat. At all the emotionally manipulative clickbaity facebook crap that would normally make me roll my eyes. On tv when anybody achieves ANYTHING I'm a goner.
I was telling my other half about Derren Browns show the other night, remember the one where the guy got to be a hero and fly a plane in an emergency? And I was in bits trying to tell him, literally had to stop 3 or 4 times and compose myself.

The last few weeks I have cried at anything but it does seem to have passed now, so hang in there! By my dates I am 12+2 today but had my dating scan today and they have now put me at 13+2. So EDD has moved from 3rd March to 24th Feb but I'll stick with this thread scan was amazing, it was moving all over the place, somersaulting, kicking, waving, wriggling it was fascinating to watch! On my phone at the moment so can't see everyone else's scan picture, looking forward to seeing them all later.

Here's the picture :-) great to see other's scan pictures!

Hi there, I hope I'm not too late to join? I'm due march 3rd with my first baby, had my 12week scan yesterday. Signed off work with extreme tiredness at the moment, please tell me it goes soon?!

Just did my risk assessment for work - I basically get to stand there and look pretty. Can't work past 6 months which would mean my mat leave starts on 23rd of December which would be really sweet but I'm sure teyll move my dates.

Morning all, trying to catch up with this thread, it moves so fast!!

Congrats to everyone who has had good scan news, so lovely to see the pictures. I'm feeling more and more nervous about the scan now, scared in case something is wrong. Still got ages to wait and haven't even got a date yet.

Had the most horrendous headache yesterday; it started when I was out for the day with the DCs and I didn't have any paracetamol with me, so by the time I got home it was awful. Went to bed and stayed there. Woke up at 4.30am and the headache was back so had to take more pills. Now worrying about the effects, but there's no way I couldn't take them.

Welcome leo

I'm now on the 'sleeps' countdown till my scan - this next week can't go fast enough!

Got to open up and run playgroup today but I have zero motivation. Maybe a cup of decaff tea will help....