Due October 2006 - part 4

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there we go - I did it.
just need for you all to find it now...

re SPD-i urge you all to see an osteopath who specialises in pregnant women. if you need help finding one i can help -mostly, although i was stumped by seona's location.
can you believe that dh, who has only jus received 3 points on his license has got a letter saying he was clocked doing 80 in a 50 zone in ruislip. at 30 over apparently you can have your license taken away. i'm stunned that he could have been so reckless when he's going to need to drive me to hospital in 4 weeks or if 1 week early drive from bournemouth where he'll be working. deeply unimpressed, as you can imagine with the hormones kicking in i really let rip.

hi all,

Hope you are all well!!!

I have decided that im going on maternity leave early ive had enough of work so only got 5 days left so will have six weeks before my little one comes, when is every one else leaving or how many weeks before did everyone else leave????

hi youngmum i left on thursday, 5 weeks before due date. couldn't do the travel or standing for any longer. am so relieved, keep rejoicing at having finished.

Asa SAHM and 2 other children and a dh that works all the time (and spd), it feels like I can never give up work! if I lay down 9swollen feet) I feel v guilty! have been doing uniforms, gardening, cleaning bathrooms, hoovering all day today. Does that count?

Hi I am new to this site and was wondering if you could answer a wee question? Do your breasts start lactating before you go into labour or is it different for everyone?

its different for everyone really. In my last pregnancy I leaked colostrum from about 18 weeks and used to end up with wet patches on the bedsheets every morning!! This time I have barely leaked anything at all, which is quite nice really.

Does anyone remember when we should get measured for a nursing bra? - I will be 36 weeks tomorrow so should get it done soon, I think. (although I have been really naughty and havent been measured at all this pregnancy and am still wearing underwired bras - my boobs dont seem to have grown much, if at all)

mathahm - that good to know, i cant cope with the walking from the carpark to work glad that im not alone on this {smile} x

srry marthahm i spelt ur name wrong {grin}

Welcome Rumpel - I am 34 weeks (tomorrow), I havent noticed any leaking yet, but did with my dd.

Saka, thank goodness you are staying - hang on in there and use us!!

With regard to nursing bras - mothercare said to go in 3 weeks before due date, they did with dd too.

On the work front, I am giving up in 3 weeks, but am taking annual leave so my maternity leave will start the week I am due. Our finances are shite so can't afford to take the mat leave yet.

Is anyone else an emotional wreck?

I am finished at the moment. DD started playschool on Friday - I cried the entire time she was there and am dreading leaving her tommorrow as she gets so distressed. It is really heartbreaking.

Then on top of that, we had saved enough money for me to stay at home for the paid 6 months of mat leave, but dh has now booked a holidy for next year, using most of the savings, and now we have to find a grand, or I go back to work early. I am a mess. I am so distraught at the thought of leaving my baby with someone at an even younger age of 6 months. DH wasn't being an arse - I just can't believe that we have gone from a position where I knew I had 6 months to bond with baby, to the thought of leaving her with someone else early.

I cry at the drop of a hat, and have finally found the energy to clean my house today - after goodness knows how long, which is a sure fire sign that I'm losing it as Im really anal about my housework and like it all to be 'monica clean'!

Sorry guys. You probably don't need this. I just needed to vent!

hi all im new to this site been reading with interst and wanted to join. im due on 15th oct 1st baby afta mc of twin boys @ 20wks last aug.
so glad i found this site thought i was only one with:
leaking brests
uninterested dp most of time (just moaning bout lack of sex!)
rubbish midwives neva seen same one twice
low blood count, on iron tablets yuck
heartburn from hell!
reading this thread has made it easyer 2 know im not alone! bit freeked out abt the weight gain posts i was a size 10 @ 8st now i weigh 11st4!!! not got bigger ne where apart frm huge bump!
hope you are all well not long to go now! ive got last scan this wed cant w8 to see baby again, but worried at same time. sorry for long post its my first time. xx

hello to everyone who's new

Re nursing bras - went to M&S last week - they say go in two weeks before but you can't try them on then as your milk isn't in yet. The woman who measured me said that they usually say to go up two cup sizes and down a back size - so if you're wearing 36C you go to a 34DD etc. I waited till my milk had come in last time and think thats what I'll do again - I'm not risking spending 25 quid on a couple of bras that might not fit.

GG - I'm sure your DD will be having a fab time at playschool, don't beat yourself up about it . Know what you mean about returning to work - I'll be going back when LO is 4 months old, and my job is full time and long hours so I really won't see all that much of them. Don't know how I'll cope, but keep telling myself it will be better for them in the long run although crap initially. It helps to have childcare that you really trust - the nursery my DD goes to are brilliant and I'm happy knowing that LO will be well looked after.

I finished work at the beginning of August (due 1st Oct) - I was due to rotate to another workplace and there didn't seem much point settling into another job for a month before going. I worked till 36 weeks last time before I'd had enough. If you can afford it I think you need to give yourself time to turn off your 'work' head and adjust to being a SAHM and get things sorted out, its such a massive change and it takes a while to get used to.

Hope all had a good weekend. Not long to go now...

Hello Rumpel & Chubszuki.

Good news Saka - hope you get to speak to a solicitor today. I think there's a lot in what MoreSpam put in her thread - Euro/Asian children are always so beautiful that they will probably always attract attention and I think you will be very proud of them. I remember having a crush on one of my work colleagues for years - he was half Japanese, half American and grew up in the states. 6ft3 and drop dead gorgeous mmm mmmmm . Carry on posting - we will get really upset if you don't as we are all concerned and will do what we can to support you until you hit a purple patch.

YoungMum - I've been slouching round the house for a couple of weeks now on maternity leave but am very glad I left work earlyish, as the baby has turned out to be whopper and is coming out early by C-S in seven days' time....at the latest - had some painful braxtons over the weekend and more last night so am not sure she'll hold out even that long. Best get the last bits of shopping in, just in case....

Welcome to the newbies ? you know you can come here to talk about absolutely ANYTHING!Well done to Saka for your decision ? you will be so much better off here than going back to Japan.

Whiffy, I cannot believe that you are due so soon. How are you feeling? Have you got everything ready?

Is anyone else really out of breath? baby must be pressing so hard on my ribs which I did not have in the last PG but I am finding it really hard to breathe. I was also awake for so much of last night with a really dry mouth. Everytime that I drank water, it was so dry seconds later. I suppose we really are on the final hurdle so have to grin and bear it at this stage as very soon we will have tiny little bambinos in our hands who are the most beautiful things in the world (as well as the most noisy, messy, etc...!)

hi i'm new on here too, due 19th 3rd baby i have dd 11 and ds6, don't know what i am having but suspect it to be a girl.
i just had to respond to what sallyrosie was saying about going up 2 cup sizes, which has fightened the life out of me! i'm already a 40E now!!! i don't remember being this big with my other two, i'm going to end up looking like jordan - i wish.
i've been on holiday since the begining of the summer holidays as luckily i work term time only and there didn't seem to be much point in going back for a couple of weeks, however i must say that i have really missed the kids since they went back last week, and don't really know quite what to do with myself now - i have spd which really limits me to what i can do and i'm getting really frustrated by it!

SAKA - here is a number you MUST CALL. 01268 550 300. It is the Basildon area branch of Homestart. Check out their website on homestart.org.uk They are there for people who are feeling isolated in their communities or need some support or just need someone to talk to for a few hours. At the very least they will have details of localtoddler groups and the like which I am sure will help....

Hello Milssnbloom, welcome....

Welcome to the new people - hope you find this thread helpful in those last few weeks

Saka: it souds like you have made the best (if not easiest) decision. It must be really difficult to be in a strange place with little support. Do get any help you can - from your GP, social services, local mums groups etc. etc. I think you're setting a great example to your kids in deciding on the best course of action for you and your family.

Whiffy: hope your LO hangs on in there till your CS date. DH was having stern words with the baby lsat night, pointing out that it wasn't allowed to arrive until everything in the flat was ready. I think he's having nesting syndrome by proxy - he even cleaned behind the cooker and fridge yesterday and has been muttering about buying new bookcases.

Tigerlion: try getting on your hands and knees - that should relieve the breathlessness a bit.

at those who have finished work already - a week and a bit to go. I'm really looking forward to a peaceful few weeks before the baby arrives - if I can manage it in DH's home improvement schemes!

Majormoo, I didn't know about the babycafe - sounds great.

I'm doing huge emotional stuff at the moment: heard a very beautiful piece of Bruckner on the radio, which I've sung with a chamber choir many times and ended up sobbing inconsolably because the music was so lovely. All over the place. Swam in the sea yesterday, which is the best I've felt physically for weeks, as well as being very calming.

I went to an active birth class with DH on Saturday morning. It was really good and almost made me look forward to the birth, though I know that sounds crazy! All the experienced Mums out there will be snorting into their keyboards at my naivety, but it was rather reassuring - put me in touch with my inner hippy and all that (should we use lava lamp in early labour for calming hypnotic effect type thing - then I hear what I'm saying and am astounded as am so not a hippy). The only worrying thing was that all the other women are due earlier than me, but my bump is the biggest... MW tells me it's because I'm short and carrying it all at the front.

Still have three weeks at work and am v envious of those of you who've already stopped.

Hope everyone is well and Monday not too depressing. Saka, my brothers and I are mixed race Asian/White and one of our headmasters thought my older brother had jaundice 'No,' said my mother 'he just is that colour.' Things are a lot better now and you will feel better as you gradually settle in, so hang on in there! You're in several types of shock, culture shock not the least, so give yourself time.

Hello all,

It's been a few days since I posted and there seems to be a lot of catching up to do!

Saka, I'm glad you have decided to seek a solicitor and stay here for now, I lived overseas for 5 years and found settling back to the UK not as easy as I thought it would be and that was without being pregnant and going through what you have, plus I didn't have the same cultural differences from where I lived to contend with. Hang in there and I can only back up the sound advice others have given you on this thread.

Thanks for the advice about the NHS classes for those that gave it, I will be going along tomorrow to check them out.

Girlygale, I saw a video in my NCT antenatal class about how a newborn wriggled it's way to the breast after about an hour been born, it was so lovely to see I just about held off the blubbing.
Which is more than I can say I did this weekend, I completely lost it over our house rennovations. Our kitchen is a building site, our bathroom builders have really let us down and put our plans way out so my poor dh was plastering and tiling the floor this weekend as I had a fit over potentially going into labour with builders in the house and then having to master bf in front of them. I don't mind if it's not all finished and perfect but with walls coming down there is dust everywhere so I haven't bought anything for baby for fear of it being covered in the stuff and just want it to get to the stage of not having rubble and dust all over the house! We started at the beginning of July and I naively thought that it would be done by now having got in so called professionals!
I start mat leave next week which I am hanging out for but didn't expect to be sharing it with builders showing up if and when they fancy. Not quite the build up to motherhood I had envisgaed!

Hope some of you out there are getting some sleep!

Gosh didn't mean to moan on quite so much, will pop out for a choc brownie and all will be right again!

Good afternoon ladies. Wow I go away for the weekend and so much is happening on here.
Welcome to all you new comers feel free to vent your fears,anxcieties,plans etc here.
Well done Saka. Hope your solicitor is helpful and can point you in the right direction. Let us know. What a brave woman you realy are.
I had a lovely weekend at my parents. We went to a friends 21st birthday party. Ds loved it. He danced nearly all night much to the delight of everyone. We all had a great time.
He started pre school today and loved that too. He was a big hit with all concerned and the play leader couldnt believe how good he was and polite! He had a 2 hour sleep after which was realy good cause I did too.
Apart form heart burn that feels more like a heart attack and fat feet all is ok here.
Take Care ladies. xxx

Hello everyone. Is it too late for me to join in. I am expecting my first on 19th October. Had growth scan last week and they estimated 6.5lbs at 34 weeks. Yikes is that big?? Sounds like it to me as colleague had her baby 5 weeks early and weighed 5.5lb. Just trying to get organised and get bag packed. Any advice???

Hi Everyone

Has anyone had nosebleeds? I am 37 +1 and had a MAJOR nosebled today. Had eaten previously, so not low blood sugar. Felt v wobbly and shaky. any ideas?

MSTG: I had one in my 2nd trimester, no idea what caused it. If it helps, haven't had any since. I seem to remember that nosebleeds are pretty common in pg cos your blood volume is increased.

Welcome agrimum: never loo late to join!

More at Dashingredhead for being able to swim in the sea. Sounds lovely.

Gingeme: glad your DS is settling in well at preschool. Obviously a charmer!

Clon: sorry to hear about your continued building problems. Hope the chocolate brownie worked. If not, Green and Black's chocolate ginger ice cream is great.

Gosh, didn't login for 3 days and missed an absolute mammoth load of postings. Glad you had a good weekend Gingeme. Our party was fab too. I even managed to keep going until after 01.30. (Knackered now though!)

Welcome to the new ladies. Haven't packed my bag yet agrimum, but would appreciate some advice too...

MSTG - I would say DP is very supportive, but he does need an occasional prod. I think my hormones lead me to expect more of him than he can manage. If I ask for anything, he jumps to get it for me but it would be nice not to have to ask occasionally. I keep reminding myself he's only a bloke.

Saka, I'm so pleased that you've decided to stay. I don't mean to be judgemental, but your mum sounds like a mean old trout who needs a good slap round the face with a wet fish. IMO the welfare system is at its best when it protects women and children from abusive partners. You do belong here, it can just take a while to feel like it when you return from abroad (as Clon said.) I lived in Germany for eight years and it took about a year to feel normal again. I've also been through a marriage break-up and it took quite a long time for self-esteem to return - don't worry, it will. It just takes time. I agree with Marthahm about writing it all down. It's amazing how much it helps. You only need a notebook, nothing flash. Another thing you could try is writing letters to the people concerned telling them what you think of them. Don't post them of course, but it will really help you to get your feelings straight in your head. It might feel silly at first, but persevering is worth it. Hope it goes well with the solicitor and I'm going to back whiffy up: call that number she gave you! Avoid poisonous people and surround yourself with support instead.

Can't believe it's only 7 days Whiffy. Anyone fancy trying to get in first?

I'm still on for 3 October, Catgirl. Eating sounds good. Pizza Express or Pitcher & Piano or anywhere, we can always look for a cake shop for after.

Dogmum - You are exactly right. Just a bit of initiative would be nice. Then again, this weekend he has been pretty nice so a bit ashamed now at my whinging