November 2014 Thread 3- Counting towards the second trimester!

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Hi everyone,

A new thread for us chatty bunch due in November. Could someone repost the stats? I'm on my phone so can't do it. Thank you!

Great news WheresMrMonkey!

Thank you!! Such a relief

Amy and WheresMrMonkey - congratulations on your good news today, very exciting times

Greenstone thanks for the welcome :) - your right its such a great life experience. My Brother-in-law and wife are having problems conceiving and it really does make you count your blessings to actually be pg.

Luckily I've not been sick so far, just a few minor things - I find it so hard to complain knowing that other women out there would give their right arm to be pg!

Vomited twice more, taking today's count to 4

Luckily I'm at home today and DH is a SAHP so he's taking care of both of us. Have had to retire to the bedroom with a large pot in case I'm sick again.

Motivating myself with the thought of newborn snuggles [smiles] Wish scan was sooner! It's in just under 4wks, when I'll be 12+1, but can't go price for early as we moved very recently so v little spare cash. I'm spending what we do have on whatever food I can stomach!

Yikes alita , £150?! That's crazy. Makes me feel even more lucky that our clinic is so helpful.
If it wasn't for the condition I wouldn't bother, I'd just wait for the scan, but the result will determine the route for my antenatal care - obviously I want to go to the place where the specialists will be!

Hello, great to hear the scans went well and welcome to the newcomers.
Anyone else suddenly had a panicky realisation that;

A. This baby has to come out and it's going to be horrendous...
B. There is a LOT of pregnancy left to go; a very long time of being fat, gassy, uncomfortable, achey, sleeping badly, constipated, exhausted and emotionally unstable and sober.

Having been so desperate to get pregnant and having spent so long building up to the 12 week scan, in my head I think reaching 12 weeks has been almost been the furthest on the horizon I've dared look, but now that point is getting closer, I'm thinking further ahead, and am f*cking terrified!

I have no fear about being a mum, (15 years experience with newborns, babies and toddlers as a nanny/maternity nurse) but getting to the point of waddling in pain without sleeping and then tearing my perineum has me in a cold sweat all of a sudden.

Anyone else dared to think that far ahead yet? Sorry, if you hadn't!

I'm trying to quell the fear by daydreaming of stroking my soft, perfect chubby little newborn's head but I end up just thinking about episiotomies instead...
Help!

Congratulations to those with who got to see their little peanuts today. Glad all is well.

Had a ridiculous realisation today that I am still unconsciously holding my stomach in which was making me feel so uncomfortable. I'm a size 18 and have always just held my stomach in to make myself look/feel better. Realised I was doing this after lunch and just let myself relax and oh bejesus I feel so much better!

Still being sick but figure that's par for the course (for me) and still reassured by it.

So glad to hear scans have gone well today . Brilliant to see some of us are nearing the end of the first trimester as well! Still 3 weeks to go here, but I'm just pleased time is going a bit faster. I've decided 9 months is a seriously long time for a pregnancy!!

Thanks for the reassurance around symptoms lessening, it's good to hear how everyone else is finding things. I'm joining you with the breathlessness today. What a weird feeling!

What does everyone have planned for Easter? I am intending to sleep!!

Elliekins those thoughts have crossed my mind, though it all seems a bit unreal at the moment and so it seems like worrying about something that's going to happen in some fantasy world. But DH keeps saying things like "women are so much braver than men" and "if I were a woman I'd be absolutely terrified", so he is obviously already worrying about the birth (when he's not doubting I'm pregnant because he can't see a bump yet!) I should never have let him watch OBEM. But he's much more of a worrier than me generally. I think after the scan (assuming all is okay), when he's actually seen the evidence that I'm pregnant, he's going to worry even more.

I also get the occasional moment of "shit, I'm actually going to be left in charge of a newborn baby and will be supposed to know how to look after it properly. How on earth is that allowed to happen?"

Elliekins & caravela very funny posts, gave me a good giggle. DH and I can barely mind ourselves sometimes, we figure as long as we don't leave baby behind us anywhere we'll be doing well!

My DH is the same, he's been a star, making a real effort to help around the house and eating fish fingers with me in support of my bland food cravings. But he say's he doesn't fully believe its happening yet, even though we saw our little jellybean at 7 weeks with a strong heartbeat. I think men need to see a bump.

No idea how we're going to manage another human being, but the beauty is we have no idea of what's coming - we're like to excited rabbits caught in the headlights.
Roll on end October

Hahaha caravela that made me laugh, I have the exact same thoughts! I'm still a child myself! (a 28 year old one but still)

After feeling rotten all day yesterday I decided to clean the house today and hoovered top to bottom. Now I'm sat down I'm panicking....should I have done that? Is that allowed? I was leaning down to get skirtings and all sorts and never thought. In this beautiful weather the lawn is turning into a jungle too.....can we mow it? I am so protective over my little peanut already I don't want to move!!!

amy yes, do what you like within reason! I spent the last three months of last pg doing a full-time house renovation, mostly up ladders or bent over painting/tiling etc...

Ellekins Last week I had a really awful week where I suddenly felt really overwhelmed by it all. It's ridiculous as I wanted so much to be pregnant, but found myself feeling just overwhelmed last week, with quite a few tears. I think it's because it still doesn't feel real for me, and I can't quite equate the crappy physical symptoms and constant sickness with a cute newborn baby! Had a chat with hubby who said he thought it was normal and that it will probably feel a lot more real and exciting after the 12 week scan. I did have a private scan at 7 weeks which did the job and reassured me, but didn't make it seem that real, as it didn't look like a baby!

It's so exciting to see time moving on a bit and seeing the 12 week scans starting to come round. Mine is 2 weeks tomorrow. Excited but getting nervous too, having heard too many horror stories. Glad there has been some good news on here today for a few of you- too much sadness recently. Let's hope it's only good news from here on for us all!

I'm sure I typed out a party earlier but it's not here! Pregnant brain strikes again!

Saw my mw today. She's very nice but too laid back. I told her about my blood pressure feeling really wrong and she just kind of went "Oh well, it's normal, hey ho". No, it's not normal to feel so ill from the tiniest little nothing that you end up in bed for 3 days trying to get your blood pressure back down to normal and because if you get up you're passing out and going to A&E with chest pains and fainting fits. I then told her about my SPD and how last time it started at 20 weeks and by 35 I was in a wheelchair screaming in agony, and this time it has started at 9 weeks and by 11 I'm already wincing a lot and not getting about so well, having problems getting in and out of bed and turning over and the baby is not even putting any real weight or pressure on anything yet and asked her to refer me to physio and anything else that may help and again it was "hey ho, there's nothing that can be done, you'll just have to put up with it, you'll probably be in the chair by 20 weeks and you'll just have to deal with it really". No, you don't understand, I was begging the hospital to get her out, I didn't know you could survive pain like that and live through it, every resource says there IS stuff you can do if your mw sorts it out early enough and that you have to start treatment immediately, that you don't have to suffer like that and you can massively help it, and I am petrified of feeling like that for 20 weeks, I couldn't take 2 weeks of it last time. I had to sleep upright, I am now single, no carer, and living in a country cottage in the middle of nowhere and if I'm in a chair I'm fucked - last time I was married in a ground floor flat in the centre of town. I don't want to hear "Oh well there's nothing to be done so don't even try", I want to hear "right I'll refer you today, and you can take these painkillers and you can have this help and that assistance and you can use this and do that and try this". In the end after asking 4 times she gave me a form which apparently I should have got anyway, which entitles every pregnant woman to go to a course in posture at the physio dept and "maybe I can ask them". WTF?? I may call my GP this week and see if she can be a bit more effective!

I have my scan next week to look forward to and I'm going to really push this spd treatment now.

This week has not been great. I'm just bone tired and a bit sore in the boobal area so considering how bad it could be, I am very lucky. Hubby is less lucky as I keep being a total bitch to him. But it doesn't feel real, I know there's some weird stuff going in in my body but the brain isn't processing it.

I found myself crying to Ridin Solo on the radio by Jason Derulo this morning. Lord help me.

Random. I'm sorry to hear your MW was dismissive. Keep on pushing for the additional support. Hope the GP comes through for you

Ellie I am trying not to think about it. I used to have no fear of birth... now I do :p I am also freaked out by the idea of a caesarean, so I can't win really!!

Happy for everyone who had scans, and welcome to anyone new :)

Random, that sucks I would talk to my GP about potential referrals!

Spanner- I too feel exhausted, and I'm barely doing anything, as I'm a student nurse my placement has finished and I'm on essay leave, how those of you working are managing is beyond me!

The birth doesn't bother me at all because it will be an elective c-section again and having done it once I know it is an absolute breeze and the best birth I could ever imagine - no pain, no panic, all planned, calm and back to normal within days. Actually rather looking forward to it!!

But I am terrified of the spd getting like it was last time, especially if it's sooner like the mw thinks. That's the only bit I think I can't do. Everything else - birth, being single throughout, breastfeeding, nappies, sleepless nights, none of it phases me, but the spd has got me scared. Very scared.

It wasn't so much that she didn't refer me for the spd, but that she didn't check my BP despite my concerns about it, that she didn't have a listen on the doppler, didn't examine me physically at all, didn't really talk to me about anything, just asked a general "how are you?" and whatever I said brushed it off as normal. I told her I had a private scan and she didn't ask anything about it. She really seems to have taken a very easy version of the job where she just floats along ticking boxes assuming everything is fine and not actually having to do anything to make sure. In all honesty the appointment today was a complete waste of time. Feel pretty disheartened to be honest. Will be interesting to see when others have their second appointment if it is any different as I'm sure she should have at least taken my BP, felt the size of my uterus, listened on the doppler and asked a lot more questions about my health, how I'm coping and feeling, and taken an interest in issues especially when they have a previous history.

Oh Random, what a horrible experience. Mine wasn't great either, ended up with an emergency c-section last time after 49 hours, and as a result of this she just kept writing "high risk" on all my notes. DESPITE me saying I was quite an anxious person when it came to health.
I actually had to ask her why she was writing it, and she said it was just standard due to c section previously, but offered no reassurance. I then said in desperation "I will be alright won't i?" And she simply said "your consultant will talk through your risks at 20 weeks",
Great!!!! This is again despite me explaining how much more anxious I feel second time around.

Truely believe that the midwives sometimes forget that there every day are our most important days? They don't understand that we go away going over everything in our heads, and googling ourselves mad.

On a plus the nurse I saw after the scan today was lovely and really reassured me.

Definitely think your GP is the way to go, much easier to get appointments with and generally provide more support throughout a pregnancy. Hope they can make you feeling more cared about and most importantly taken care of

Most importantly taken seriously I meant to say!
Sorry for all the errors above, your post just struck a chord and made me jabber away!

elliekins & caravela I know exactly how you feel/felt.. Iwas pretty fine after the first trimester last time but freaking out about the birth completely - up until going 12 days overdue (nature's way of persuading you even labour is preferable to yet another friend/relative cracking hilarious jokes about "it's still not arrived yet"!)

The thing that worries me this time round is dh is clearly way more scarred by seeing the state I was in than I remember it being. Hormones are wonderful things it seems...

Any tips for keeping away spots- I would rather not look into medication while pregnant, but seriously my face is covered, I'm embarrassed to go out and look about 12...
I've done a bit of research and so I did a bicarbonate of soda face mask today and my mum gave me some of her manuka honey to put on my face :P No idea if it will work... But yeh any personal recommendations would be amazing :)

Good evening all!! I have just spent an age trying to catch up on teh past 2 threads and found it hard to keep track of who all we are / what we are up to and how we are all feeling! Apologies for no personal call outs to people - I really should have had a seperate word doc open for that! You are a chatty bunch _ i dont remember my last antenatal thread on here with DD1 moving as fast as this one!

I had my booking appt last week. really lovely mw who spent 2 hours with me - really focusing on how i was feeling and why so low. I am now moved over to the home birth team and feeling scared / excited to meet them. I am also hopefully seeing my doula in next couple of weeks which will be fab.

DD1 still doesnt know (nor does anyone else tho' for once i am glad of my IBS to use as a cover up

My parents came over form ireland at the weekend to visit and it was a job to hide the morning / all day and through the night sickness and hormonal weeping.

i also got my Bump to Breastfeeding DVD at booking in... did any of you get it yet??
DD1 and I are in it. On one of my insomniac nights I sat and watch dit al again and wept - at how wee she was, how much younger I looked and how bloody untidy my flat was!!

i hope to keep more in the loop with you all as we move into 2nd trimester...

If I send my dog into work on my behalf do you think anyone will notice?

Lol spannertime Go for it!!