NEW RM OCTOBER 2014 thread - Today we are pregnant THREAD 2

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Continued Sep-Oct thread for ladies who have experienced more than one loss in the past, so as to not scare the regular October folk!

Ah great news nearly!!!

Anyone else considering a private scan between the 12 week and anomaly scan? I'm wondering if I'm going to be able to stick it out.

Still no news jbrd?

rainy I had an unscheduled scan last week as I was concerned about the spotting. the scan was very reassuring and my very helpful consultant said it wasn't a big deal to organise in the event of any further concern. You could perhaps ask for one at 16 wks.. Hopefully they might understand the anxiety and organise that for u. Else I would probably go with a private one as its a long gap otherwise.

jbrd hope everything is ok and that you get some reassurance and good news by tomorrow.

16 weeks here - not feeling 100% and am doing a lot of mc symptom monitoring as this second trimester is my high risk time... Booked hols for wk 25, so counting down til then!!

Test results are still delayed

And apparently, the most likely reason for this is that it didn't work, as the lady from the FMC told me, I need to be prepared for news it failed again. She will call me again this evening to let me know of any further development.

Great. Just great.

CVS/amnio is looking more and more likely. I had so hoped to get away without...

Oh Jbrd.. what a nightmare.. uncertainty is the worse thing. Will be thinking of you.

oh no jbrd, completely rubbish. Will the clinic retake a blood sample asap or will they hold out for confirmation that it hasn't worked?

Test has failed again. Now provisionally booked in for CVS next Wednesday.

I don't know what to think at the moment... It's all a bit much to take in right now!

Sorry been having the a horrible day at work so not checked in and work continues into the evening.. Ugh.

jbrd that's so rubbish :( I hope you are ok. I knew you didn't want a cvs so sorry it's come to this. :(

Hey all - not posted in a while as been having secret unneccesary stress outs and extreme googling sessions.

Hi jbird that is really rubbish actually to leave you hanging on and then tell you it has failed. Bad form.

I am sorry you have been going through such a worrying time.

I agree with getting extra scans when you need reassurance. I have had three additional scans since 12 weeks (I am 19 weeks now). This was mainly due to the leakage issue. But without the leakage I would have got at least one in addition. Reassurance is priceless as far as I am concerned. With our personal histories this is a much more worrying time for all of us than average newly preggo mums.

Has anyone been on the progesterone pesseries? And are now off them or due to come off them? This is my latest worry.

I should have come off them at 16-18 weeks but I am still using just one every other day at a low dose. I run out in three days.

I went for a scan yesterday and the lady flicked to a 3d shot, the baby looked very weird. I kinda wish she hadnt done that but was still very interesting all the same.
I asked why I too don't seem to have much movement (I did last week). For example baby started moving on the scan and I couldn't feel it. And she explained that apparently my placenta is in the way. It also curves down towards the cervix. Hope it shifts soon!

Hi tum! Great to read ur update. Sounds like you are nearly half way - congrats. I'm afraid I don't know anything about progesterone... Reassuring in some ways that you could see movement but not feel it. I though I felt some movement last wk but now it's gone - though it's still too early really at 16+4. Keep well!

Yeah Tum I looked at a diagram of the size of them now (I'm also 19w) and the placenta can be in the way, also they can kind of move and just slosh the fluid about, there's still room for them!
I just can't tell what's movement and what's wind/tummy rumbles. Frustrating! Keep off google... Mumsnet, babycentre and NCT week-by-week calenders have reassuring "week 19" summaries all about how you may feel movement but not a lot and no pattern yet. One of them has the video/diagram thing linked.

fedup Your work sounds awful - hope you are managing to relax over the weekend! Any chance it will get better...?

tum Might be a bit late for that advice now, but I had the same worry about stopping my progesterone pessaries. I started reducing the daily dose from two down to one a little while before I ran out. Didn't notice any difference, to be honest, so not sure if that really helped or not.
I also think that movements before/around 20 weeks are still very much hit and miss, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Agree with squiz, stay away from Google.

Bugs I also wouldn't expect a bump at 14 weeks! What exactly are you measuring...? In any case, stop doing it and enjoy you holiday!

I've been fine, mostly. Apart from the odd wobbly moment, which hit me every now and then, usually when I don't expect it. For example, I was completely fine discussing the whole risk/testing stuff with a group of friends on Friday, but today, in the car, I suddenly burst into tears while hearing Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong sing 'Summertime'... Stupid hormones.
I called my hospital yesterday, to discuss options, but the phone went straight to this high-pitched tone you get when it's the fax machine

I've been reading up on Down's Syndrome, and living with it... Not easy. DH has indicated that he thinks we should terminate if Down's is confirmed, his reason being that it wouldn't be fair on DS. Which I agree with to some extent, but on the other hand, would it really be unfair? He's nealry 3, so in all honesty, he would not remember any different, if we do go on to have child with Down's. It's not as life-limiting as many other disabilities, people with Down's can live very normal lives these days.
What I struggle with is our age - I'm 42, DH is 44. So, there is a reasonable chance that our children will be on their own quite a lot earlier than if we were in our early thirties. What happens then with a person that has Down's? Will DS have to take all the responsibility of looking after his sibling? Is that fair?
But then I think, if we terminate, and then DS tells us in 10-15 years that he would absolutely have looked after his sibling, why did we do that?
I can't find any information about this issue at all...

So sorry for the rambling, but it helps me a bit to put it all down! Strangely enough, I have not yet found any thread on MN for parents with children that have Down's. Quite a surprise, I always thought you can find anything and everything on here!

jbrd, such a difficult time of uncertainty for you.

just wanted to say that people are living a lot longer now, there is a good chance that you and/or your dh would be around for another 40 years to look after any children! (I'm 40 too). Though I can understand your concern.

I really hope that this will not be an issue for you, but it must be helpful to get her as much info now in advance of making any difficult decisions.

Sending all positive thoughts your way this week...

jbrd have you contacted saggy? Her new baby lucy has downs. There is a special needs section of mumsnet too where surely there are parents of downs children?

I totally get all your fears and arguments.what I would say is that downs is such a huge spectrum - bit like autism. So not all downs people are the same and the levels of LD and health problems and their ability to independent are so very wide ranging.

I still have the fear there is something wrong with my baby.. A week and a half to go til midwife apt when can hopefully hear heartbeat. Then if that's ok I will be bricking it about the 21 week scan as that's when everything gets checked. Gulp.

Work has contined a bit this weekend but it's just the end of project hell so as of next week things should be better. Thanks for the concerns / shared sentiments that it's fucking crap!!

Just been given so much maternity gear it's great! Hopefully no more purchases required! Bought some leggings and a few tops far hopefully that's it.

Ps. jbrd I also hope all this worrying comes to nothing for you. You really have been through the emotional mill last few weeks so deserve so good news

Buggerlugs - sorry, gatecrashing again from the October thread.

Would you take any pads/ painkillers in case of a mc or am I being silly?

I've been on holiday in Thailand for the last two weeks, I was 15 and 16 weeks while I was away, and I don't have a history of miscarriage. I took my notes and my heparin prescription in case I had any questions about carrying injections. Also, I didn't tell my other half, but I had with me in my bag some heavy duty pads and a whole load of paracetamol. Not loads of pads, just enough to get me to a hospital in Bangkok - I figured if it came to it, I'd be able to get hold of nappies anywhere, even on small islands. The midwife I saw at 8 weeks (not seen another one due to holidays etc), said I'd be fine, that there would still be nothing that could be done, so just know that if you get pains or whatever, you make yourself aware of the nearest hospital and its facilities.

Reasons I did it: history of miscarriage in the family due to issues with blood that the heparin should hopefully be reducing (but untested for my personally), previous DVT on long haul flight resulting in many clots, general concern, they didn't take up much space - I did the whole trip on a hand luggage size bag, so it wasn't too much of a problem.

The good thing was, I ate loads of fruit and veg, I felt super healthy, I got a load of vitamin D, I let it all hang out in the bikini department (even though it took a few days of getting used to feeling really fat), and I relaxed so much that I'm having serious trouble getting going again today. I think you'll have an ace time, it's the right time for a holiday (even if you can't have sundowners!)

I still take pads to work with me so probably will when I go on holiday. More habit now than out of fear I will actually use them. I have been to paphos though and you can get all that sort of thing there if you should need it, which you won't.

I get the thinking though, I'm the same even though it's totally illogical.

Funnily enough I went to paphos when I was expecting my son! We went over the royal wedding. So about this time 3 years ago. My bump was bigger then I think than is now so that's my latest paranoia!

bugs sounds like an amazing holiday! And you are so much further along then ever before, which is great. Perfect time to enjoy some rays and relaxation.

In terms of pads/painkillers, I would take a few, hide them in a discreet bag and totally forget about them. No big deal to take them really. Like Rainy I still have a stash in my work bag but had forgotten about that til now. I do have a good deal of second trimester anxiety though.

Im sure you will have a fantastic hol though, then you will be back and nearly at the half-way point -yay!

Ps: hi ohthe goats. Good to hear you are keeping well! Sounds like a great hol. We must have a similar due date as I'm 16+6. hope to stick around til sept/oct (dd 1oct) - I will keep an eye out for u.