May 2014 - the Maybies get even closer to Definitely!!

[ClearlyMoo]

I've been brave and started a new thread. Hope the name is ok....

Ohhhhhhh gosh samba I'm sending big hugs
I sort of know what you mean about no friends around really, but I'm glad I have my family nearby (in the same house actually, haha). My friends are at least in the same country as me, even if they are clueless about how immobile I am these days

Lots of love, chin up my darling you'll be FINE. We're all rallying for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Does anybody else find their bladder a bit more active jn the evening ;-)

Big hugs to everyone who's suffering with hips and backs and GD.

I've just realised I haven't had any blood test results after my GTT and iron level tests and that was two weeks ago! Perhaps I ought to phone up and check!

And Samba sorry you're having a hard time today feeling far away from home, that must be really hard for you (and Bush too). It's so great that we all have so much support on here.

DH was off work this afternoon and came home and sorted out loads of crap in the flat and made room for lots of baby stuff, what a legend. I think he feels a bit left out of the pregnancy stuff sometimes so he likes to get involved with the practical bits, bless him. He's currently making us a nice dinner so I'm feeling a bit spoiled right now.

On the weight thing, I thought I'd put on about 7kg but just weighed myself and it's more like 9.5kg. Oh well. Bump has grown hugely in the last week or two, it seems....

Hi mrs, I haven't felt that. Sometimes the baby moves or kicks and low down I get shooting pains but I think that's different.

bornin, my bladder is active ALL. THE. TIME.

I just sy need to whinge so please feel free to ignore, im in agony. I'm not meant to see anyone now until the 18th but I've spent most of this evening in tears, it hurts so much. I've never felt pain like it, its so deep beneath my scar. I can't last till the 18th without seeing someone but I don't know what anyone can do about it and its only getting worse as baby grows. I'm in bits, obviously I want a fully cooked and ready baby but I i can do this evening is sit here whining about how much I want it out.

Sorry for the whine. Sorry to everyone havinga crap time for one reason or another x

Thank you to everyone, I know I am a selfish poster but I feel for all of you suffering from various ailments and spd etc :( not long to go now waddles!!

And yes mrsfoo an induction at 37 wks would be a great silver lining I can't deny :) every cloud...

Oh im so sorry to hear so many of you are having a bad time of it, i am thinking of you all, lookafter yourselfs xxx

Moomin ring and speak to your midwife tomorrow! Are
You taking any pain killers? Have u tried cool/hot water bottles on scar? X

Just had a massive row with dh.

I don't even know how to explain what over really. He said he never invited me on a night out because I was no fun now I'm pregnant and it's been playing on my mind. He's also taken up running so I feel like he's trying to get away from me. He says it's only for 20 mins at a time, but it's more than that. I don't have any friends or family here, he's all I've got. And I need him more right now, not less.

It bothers me that the baby is an added good thing to his life, but for me it comes with lots of sacrifice and responsibilities. It's me who's going to be at home with him, me who's responsible for feeding him. And dh refuses to give up the things he does so he can have his "me time". Fair enough it's gym and football, it's not weekends away or anything, but it must be nice to have the luxury of having time to yourself! Why is it just the mum who loses that? My life is totally changing and his isn't. How is that fair?!

I'm probably just being idealistic and hormonal, but he's such a fucking dickhead sometimes. I was spilling my heart out to him and crying and he's sat there with a bored look on his face telling me he's not changing so I just need to accept it. Oh and I'm lucky he doesn't go out and get drunk all the time and how good he is because he's refused to go to some boxing match at the other side of the country IN MAY! Oh how fucking considerate. And he says how he'll get up in the night and take the baby when he gets home from work so I can have a break (yeah right, we'll see).

I know I'm rambling. Sorry! I'm just upset. Fuck him in the eye right now. Ugh.

Dobe Xx

Oh dobe :( unmumsnetty hugs for you!

Big hugs dobe and moomin, sorry you've both had shitty evenings

Bornin, I'm with minions, my bladder's active all the time (even pre-pregnancy! ), though it has always been particularly bad at bed time.

MrsFoo - I don't think I've had a feeling like that but I'm pretty sure your fanjo isn't falling out! Could be due to downwards pressure on the cervix though, maybe if baby's head is low down?

Thinking of you all.

We really do all deserve medals, it's such a physical and emotional rollercoaster.
Sweet dreams, i hope tomorrow is better for us all. x x

Dobe :( . They're a bit shit aren't they, men? How old was DS when you got together with DH? I think he's probably in for a complete culture shock with a newborn and he damn well will have to change his lifestyle. Is he perhaps feeling a bit on the back foot because you know what's coming and he doesn't? Doesn't excuse his behaviour though!!

I had such crappy support from exP when ds1 and Dd1 were tiny so did it all myself - don't make the same mistake that I did with ds2 and think it all has to be that way this time round. I did everything with ds2 as I didn't know any other way and it's taken over 3 years and this pregnancy for me to unclench and let DP be a more equal parent.

I hope he realises how selfish he sounds and you get an apology xx

I did wonder if maybe Bean is just having a top-to-bottom stretch and the head is down, yeah. THANKS FOR REASSURING ME GUYS

Ohhh dobe I am so sorry your H (he doesn't deserve the D bit tonight methinks) is being a git. Hope you don't mind me saying that about him! Am I right in thinking this is his first baby? Or is your DS his too? If it's his first, he's kind of allowed to be a dick for a little bit, but not when you're trying to explain yourself with pregnancy brain and tears in full flow. I am rather furious with him, as I'm sure LOTS of us will be once we've all caught up with your post. If it's his second, well there's just no excuse for being this much of a dick.

Love and hugs to you too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh dobe I'm sorry, he really is being a shit. I don't think you're being idealistic at all, and it sucks to have your opinion dismissed due to 'hormones' - tbh I reckon my monthly PMT rage was me stopping being an over-compromising doormat for a few days a month. Just because you're a hotbed of preggo hormones and emotions doesn't mean your feelings (and interpretation of the current situation) are invalid. xx

Oh dear, it sounds like most of us had a really bad day :(

Thank you so much ladies for your kind words, i really do appreciate it and I hope you all know that I'm thinking of you too.

And thanks mrsfoo for making me laugh with your is my fanjo falling out comment

dobe I think if you had a sudden knee jerk in the direction of your DH's privates, we would all back you up on it being a common pregnancy symptom

Big un-mumsnetty hugs to everyone - sounds like loads of us need it today.

Had my midwife appointment yesterday - turns out my iron levels have dropped to 99. Need to get them up to 110 or above to stay in the MLU, so iron tablets are a must and I will send some of today working out what I need to be eating more of. Other than that, all good with me and with the monster.

It was our wedding anniversary yesterday, so after a very nice lunch out we spent the afternoon getting the first coat of paint on the living room walls... We know how to celebrate!

Now on the Eurotunnel waiting to go to work. Every time I was about to fall asleep last night, the monster decided to start doing the okey-cokey. Today is not going to be fun....

Big hugs to everyone... sounds like yesterday was a pretty bad day all round for most. dobe sorry your DH is being a dick, hope gets his Sh*t together before little one arrives...grrr

tell him to take a note from Hez's DH! (glad some are being wonderful!)

moomin hope you get a mw appointment today and what ever painkillers you're allowed

mrsfoo very sure your fanjo isn't falling out!! hopefully bean is either doing a headstand on your cervix or trying to play football with it! sounds uncomfortable though!

Happy anniversary for yesterday Kally a painting party sounds like a perfect way to celebrate!!

I hope I'm not being unsympathetic, but have to add a happy note to start the day....

24 hrs and I'm off on holiday!!!!!!whooooooop!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FLy to south Africa tomorrow for a friends wedding, then on monday (taking advantage of a weak rand and cheap package holidays) we're off to Mauritius for our 'babymoon'!!!!

Can't WAIT! am going to lounge in the warm water like a big hippo and eat everything I can get my hands on (ignoring all my body issues for a week at least!) so so excited and feeling v. spoilt!!!

Happy anniversary Kally

Wow bush hope you have a lovely time

hope all you lovely ladies have a better day today

Safe journey bush have a great time.

moomin hope your feeling better today.

dobe I had the same situation as you as I already had dd1 when DP and I got together. DP acted the same as yours when dd2 was coming. They do find it difficult, im not condoning his actions or feelings but I can understand where hes coming from. He's a little boy that now has to suddenly grow up as a teeny tiny human being is going to be dependent on him. My OH took about 6 months before he really knew how to cope with dd2 and even then he was scared to have her on his own whilst I went out. My OH has even shown some of the same fight or flight traits this time round, but I know he just needs to sort his head out, he puts a lot of pressure on himself to be 'provider'.
We have it much easier in that we have already bonded with our babies, for them its probably really odd.
But of course if like me you have a shit temper (pregnancy rage) a slap on the cheek often works. As DP found out during our argument the other day. I felt bad the instant it happened, but he did then realise just how emotional I was as I couldn't explain why I reacted like that to him.

Morning ladies, so sorry to hear that so many are having a hard time. Thinking of you all, it's not an easy time even in a perfect world and very few of us have that sadly! and and try to go easy on yourselves.

mumof2 A slap? I wanted to punch him in the throat last night, but I fear that wouldn't go down well!
The weird thing is, he's always wanted a baby and he was over the moon when I told him I was pregnant. I, on the other hand, did not want another baby and I wasn't entirely happy when I found out I was pregnant. (I'm very happy I'm having him now though obviously)
My whole life is changing and is going to revolve around being a mum. It just seems that he'll be a dad when he's not doing his other stuff.

I can't remember who asked how old ds was when we got together - he was 4 or 5. So he did miss the whole baby stage, I feel like he doesn't know what's about to hit him!

The main thing that's annoying me though is how he acted when I told him how I felt. He was so dismissive and cold and insulting - there's no need! I can easily argue/fight/debate without once resorting to insults and downright rudeness and nastiness - but he seems to find this impossible. The fuckwit. He's very much going to have to work on this if he wants any sort of resolution with me.

Have a great time on holiday bush!! Not jealous at all!

Hope everyone has a pain and stress free day today.

Bush I am incredibly jealous. Your babymoon sounds unbelievable!!