May 2014 - the Maybies get even closer to Definitely!!

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I've been brave and started a new thread. Hope the name is ok....

We got this bag in grey. We wanted one that my husband would carry too :) as it was at the baby show it was also £10 off which was nice :)

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Morning everyone!

The thread moves so quickly that by the time I've caught up and read all of the updates I've forgotten who did what at the beginning but I'll do my best!

bushprincess what a hard decision to make but hopefully you feel better knowing you've decided?

moomin I'd definitely try speaking to someone at uni, you might be pleasantly surprised!

mrsmummy that's a shame about moving, but I think my poor Dh would annoy me too much not letting me do anything so I'd rather wait!

Was thinking the other day that I haven't started swelling yet... Well I've literally exploded into the third trimester with fingers and toes like sausages!

Looking after a 3 month old today, a little practice run! fingers crossed

enjoy your sundays!

Glad you've come to a decision that you are happy with Bush. I also find once a decision has been made that I feel so much better about it.

Hope everyone is feeling well after our collective under the weather feelings on Friday?

I spend Friday night in maternity assessment, nothing serious, just when I told my midwife about the light headedness and hot spells she advised me to go there as GP wouldn't be available for the weekend. They did trace and bloods etc and despite all of my hard work eating high iron veggies and taking spatone supplements my iron had still gone down as well as my ferritin being almost non existent, which was described to me as my iron reserves being empty. So I've ditched the spatone for now on the advice of the doctor ancon heavy duty iron tablets instead. DH bought a juicer a few months ago which he's obsessed with, so I'm having lots of fresh juices in the hope I can stop myself from being bunged up!

Morning All!
Quick question about Braxton Hicks- I never felt them in my last PG but I think I've been getting them. Can you start them off by having sex? Does that sound normal? I also lifted something heavy yesterday morning and my stomach when rock hard afterwards. I was a bit freaked out it was very uncomfortable but not massively painful. Anyone else getting them?

Hey vikks I get BH all the time. I'd be worried, except it was the same with my last pregnancy and I went overdue then.
Sex defo causes them, so does over exerting yourself. If they're very painful though, call the midwife, just in case.
I've been having loads this morning myself! Dh says he's going to find it weird when the baby is here and I'm not asking him to feel my belly every five minutes!

Hi all, how're you enjoying your Sunday?

I'm currently hooked up to a drip in the day case unit at the hospital, been here since midday. I was feeling so rubbish & didn't sleep with the itching all night, so phoned for reassurance.

The ALT levels in the liver function test I had taken on Friday has come back high, so I'm going to be treated for OC & will be seen here twice a week for bloods, traces & scans for the rest of the pregnancy. It's actually reassuring to know I'll be monitored so closely.

I'm also very dehydrated hence the drip. I'll be on it for the next 6 hours, which will hopefully make me feel a bit better too.

Sorry to hear that Isean, hope you're feeling much better soon! x

Still no joy with the lactulose, I'm completely blocked up again despite being on more than the 'Adult's Recommended Dose', and feeling too nauseous to try prune juice etc. So I feel sick and in pain from that, and run down from not starting the iron.

On the bright side, my toiletries bag is packed and in my hospital bag. OH insisted we sort out hospital bags in case I have to go in again, so my toiletries are done at the very least.
We also picked up a Batman babygro for Mini Moomin today

isean just shows you were right and your doc is a prick. But it's good to hear they're monitoring you closely now, that must be very reassuring!

Moomin I'm going to get my hospital bag done next week, I can't wait. You're very organised! Hope your digestive issues sort themselves out soon.

Isean I am sorry to hear you are poorly. I would consider feeding back to your supervisor of midwives that they need to have a more appropriate way of dealing with people out of hours with suspected oc. In our are if your midwife couldn't sort it you would have been seen in the day unit or triage not sent to your GP. Hope once the medication and fluids get into you you will feel better.

Moomin, I don't know if you have any underlying problem with your bowel but if you don't it might be worth seeing if you can get your hands on some senna. It is safe to take in pregnancy, lactulose acts as a softener and the senna will improve gut action so between the two they can often get you moving.

isean you poor thing but very glad you're getting the care you need now and are going to be closely monitored. hope once you're off the drip and out you start feeling better quickly

moomin hope you get everything sorted out soon and can start on the iron, sorry you're having such a tough time and with all your uni work too. try to rest if you can - hope you get some support from your tutors.

Thanks all for your support on our 'which country' dilemma- really feeling more relaxed now, just need to sort out the logistics!

Has anyone else ventured out of our cosy little ante-natal community here on MN? I posted in 'living overseas' for advice on what we should do and luckily everyone was quite lovely, BUT today (DH is away working and I've been having a lazy day) I surfed around some of the other threads and I'm shocked by how much vitriol and bickering goes on around here!! eeek!!! makes me feel quite nervous about how people can treat each other in such an anonymous forum..

anyhow, not here, so hurrah for everyone being so lovely and supportive! long may it continue though all the adventures we have ahead of us!!!

Have a good evening everyone

This is totally an AIBU but I need to vent somewhere where DH isn't, so FB and Twitter are out.
DH has a Best Friend, henceforth referred to as BestMan or BM. BM and his gf have just had their first baby (his 4th) and so DH wanted to visit them (they live in Brum/Walsall, we live in Canterbury). I couldn't go as a) we have no money for a hotel (DH stays with BM in BM's flat - BM and gf have separate flats, him in Brum and her in Walsall so BM can visit his kids who live in Brum - but no space for me there) and b) I would have suffered really badly on such a long journey.
Now DH sleeps on BM's sofa, and BM has to wake him in the morning as DH has sleep apnoea so sleeps very deeply and can't wake himself. BM never fucking wakes DH when he says he will. They always drink too much when they're together and so DH wakes feeling rotten, refuses to accept that it's a hangover, and gets very angry with me if I mention hangover in any way. I was told that BM's gf needed him at her place to help her with their week-old DD at 1pm, so they'd need to be up at about 10:30 to leave by 12. I made a Big Deal of this last night, promised I'd ring DH to try and wake him just in case they overslept. By 2pm I had ring DH about 20times and he had just answered. He was annoyed that I had joked to BM's gf on Facebook that they were having their last hurrah before fatherhood kicked in for both of them.
Now I haven't seen him since 10am yesterday and the weekend is the only time I get to see him really, as he leaves for work at 6am and comes in from work so tired at gone 7pm.
AIBU to be upset that he's done this again? After promising that he'd be home by 6pm, he's not even left Birmingham yet. I feel so fucking ignored, stuck at home sitting on the sofa like a miserable pregnant whale.

Scuse the swearing and ranting. I just need some people to shout toward/at because DH absolutely will not brook any conversation about this when he gets in at about 9pm, hungover and starving and embarrassed and angry.

He should be growing up soon, right? I mean marriage didn't stop him doing this every month or so. Maybe fatherhood will?

Sorry he's behaving like that MrsFoo it really isn't on I don't have any advice but I'm sure between us all we can arrange an angry stampede of hormonal pregnant women to descend on him and tell him to buck up his ideas

Thanks for the advice randdom I've got long-term underlying bowel issues anyway so I knew pregnancy would affect it, I just didn't realise how much. They've tried me on loads of different meds pre-pregnancy and none have worked so I'm waiting to see a specialist, got my appointment letter through so it's just waiting for that now, I know the overriding problems won't get sorted out until after the baby arrives but some relief is desperately needed. Once the shops open again I'm going to try and take some prune juice, but the sickness is making that difficult, and I'll try senna too.

mrsfoo have an early night, "forget" to leave the door unlocked and don't hear him knocking to get in for at least an hour. That'll learn him!
I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I mean really, we've all got about 10 weekends with our partners left until babies come and ruin affect everything. Also, we can't go out because we are growing THEIR babies, so the least they can do is rein it in a bit.
Just make his life hell until he realises that this staying out all night thing isn't worth it anymore!

Hope you're okay x

Oh dobe and moom thank you. I thought I might be being a bit over-hormonal, but it is a bit double-standards-y of him innit? Promising to be a good boy and making the trip up there ostensibly to see the baby, but instead seeing the baby for all of 2hrs and then drinking/playing on his synth stuff with BM until gone midnight - ohh and not leaving until NOW (just had text from him to that effect). I know I'm right to be all I know I am! GRRRR.
But I still love him ~sigh~ and I know he works ridiculously hard. He does deserve a night off occasionally. But then so do I!!!! I think once Bean is about 6mths, onto weaning etc, I'll express a load of milk and then say "oh by the way I'm visiting my friends in London and I'll be back at 5 tomorrow" and then rock up at 11pm. Bean won't care, he/she will have milk and daddy and grandma&grandpa and doggy to play with. HA.

Oh Isean I was hoping it wasn't :( my bile acids are still coming back normal 4 weeks into chronic itching but my ALT and AST are both raised so they're treating it as OC still. I'm so glad you're being looked after properly now x

Evening ladies. Hope everyone has had a nice relaxing Sunday?

Isean, obv not great that you potentially have OC but great news that you got taken seriously and are being treated, hopefully you'll start to feel better soon. Horrible to be in the hospital but must be such a relief!

Bush Princess I'm a bit in awe of you and your logistics! For what it's worth, and I obv have no experience whatsoever of where you are, you need to feel as comfortable and confident as its possible to be when going into labour. It's a heck of a time anyway, but doing it somewhere where you are neither of those things would be awful. So, crazy logistics and flights aside, I think you've def made the right decision, and you'll have your mum for after, which is WONDERFUL!

MrsFoo, I agree. I'd be pissed off and need a sweary rant too! They can be selfish effers eh?

Not much to report here, except I spent the morning digging out and running through the wash all DS1's teeny stuff, a, I forgot he was ever so tiny, b, I don't need to buy a single thing and c, Jesus god how come we have so much stuff, where on earth am I going to fit another load for a whole other person!!?

I made a start on my bag too, last time I did a labour bag and an after bag which we left in the car, DP fetched after I got transferred to the ward, and I just had a bit more stuff. Labour bag was just basics for during and immediately after.

Hips and fanjo bone still on bloody fire, walking like a cowboy is normal now, and will be until I get that physio referral through!, no sign of weeping fanjos though

I have had braxton hicks all bloody day. All day! Two or five minutes apart at times. They're not painful, so I'm not overly worried, and baby is kicking about loads so he's fine. But do you think I should call and mention it to the midwife tomorrow? I've been googling what the NHS say about them lasting all day but I'm coming up short. I know bh are normal, but is all day bh normal?

dobe I would call just in case I had lots of periods of Bh is last pregnancy and they wanted to check them out a few times when I was having them every 10 mins for 24 hours. They also gave me steroids as a precaution at 26 weeks as the hospital couldn't tell the difference as between them being contractions and Braxton hicks. I was diagnosed with an irritable uterus in the end.

Lots of Braxton hicks can also be caused by dehydration so try drinking a few glasses of water and see if they ease off.

The home birth midwife came around yesterday so we are all cleared for the home birth if needed. It will take a midwife 30 mins to arrive with no pain relief or resuscitation equipment and another 30 mins to fit the second one to arrive. Hoping that the first one arrives before the baby turns up if it's any quicker than last time, but reassured it is now an option.

Drinking more water now to see if it makes them ease off!

The midwife yesterday also said to avoid touching your uterus as it can cause it to contract if it's irritable. Not had to try it try but might be worth a shot.

Dobe, I got brax hicks for nearly 24 hours back at 18 or something weeks. They were like labour pains in the pain category and 10 mins apart. I was checked by doc and mw and concluded I would come back or ring an ambulance if the pain got worse or I bled. I took myself to bed and they eased off the next day. I had been overdoing it. I stopped then and started acting like the pregnant woman I am and haven't had a repeat of that again.

Are you trying to do too much? Second the water advice too.

And my question is, can the baby kicking my bladder cause any damage? I'm seeing a small bit of blood but not feeling like I have a proper UTI.

Dobe Thanks for the info on BH this morning, I will endeavour to not ‘over exert’ myself and let DP do the work.
You sound like you've been going through it today, I’d definitely talk to your midwife all day seems a lot. Glad it’s easing tonight, early to bed maybe?

Isean I hope you’re feeling better and out of hospital. Let us know when you can. x

Foo Good luck with that man of yours, I’d feel the same as you. Defo get your own back when you can, I would!

masterflea I don't think I've been doing too much. I've had the week off work and it started this morning before I got out of bed! It could be dehydration though. Normally at work I drink water at my desk all day, but because I haven't been at work, I haven't been drinking it all day. I'm now lying on my left in bed and haven't had any for half an hour so

vikks I'm ALWAYS early to bed! Need my sleep! The bh don't hurt, they just feel tight so it doesn't feel like a big deal. Hopefully the midwife will see it the same way! I'm determined not to start my maternity leave until April!
You take it easy too!