is anyone else getting really fecked off with their dh/dp? I know it could just be me/hormones but I swear he is actually trying to make me miserable.
Granted like everyone we've always had our little problems, but he was so much more sympathetic when I was pg with ds. He'd chat to me in the bath, be encouraging if I got any pains, give footrubs if necessary (bad swelling) get any food I craved etc etc.. granted I'm not talking hand and foot waiting on but if I asked for anything or told him any pain/uncomfort he'd generally do something to help, plus he was soooo excited about the baby even though it was a total unplanned shock.
This baby was planned (well by me anyways, dh says he 'didn't think it would happen this soon after trying' ) and he's really not excited about it and seems to view the preparation as more of a chore than something to savour ('more baby names to discuss?' 'more baby rubbish to buy') don't get me wrong I know he's looking forward to another baby, and he's a great dad, but he couldn't be less enthusiastic with me
He rarely asks how I'm feeling, but is usually complaining about how tired/sore/whatever he's feeling. He agreed to take over majority of household chores to help in the last couple of weeks and to date has cleaned... pretty much nothing. He dusted half a room. My end of the bargain was doing all cooking, washing up, clean kitchen, clothes washing etc... which is all spotless every day. Regardless of the fact that I'm still working a 50 hour week too.... and all he ends up doing is saying it's not proper work. But that's another thread!
I'm just so pissed off right now. He came in from work after we had a mini argument on the phone, we had to go to a meeting where we were told ds doesn't have a preschool to go to (it's probably closing down) and he's come home, and started complaining he ate a dodgy panini yesterday and how sick he feels. Can't actually rememeber the last time he asked how I felt. He's moped around complaining that I have no sympathy (which to be quite frank I don't, we seem to have a policy of no longer giving a crap about how each other feels, sadly) and ds was in floods of tears earlier as he wanted to go out on the bike with dh but dh is 'too sick' so mummy had to try and comfort him. He's now eating icy poles on the couch and watching tv, and complained there was nothing to eat in the house (as in junk food... he did eat dinner before this moan about a dodgy panini!) when I said I fancied a milkshake he said he did too and started listing the things we should have in the cupboards to make one... I casually (it really wasn't that pointed at least I didn't mean it to be!) said 'when i was pregnant with ds you'd have gone and got me a milkshake if I fancied one!' and he went off the deep end with comments such as 'you used to be nicer' 'you asked nicely' 'you didn't ask when I was ill' etc etc. But really nastily. And then announced I'd left him no choice but to sleep on the couch as he's fuming with me (?)
Sorry I've gone into a rant... I'm just so wound up with him. I'm trying to look at it like it's my hormones but I'm fairly certain it's his!