Well... the news is that we have had the most almighty row. Feeling even more cheesed off as no matter what I say or how I put it he will not budge and unfortunately for the first time ever he holds the purse strings and I just have to go along with whatever he decides.
Last night when he got back from dropping him mum home, as she had babysat DD (an even she had agreed with me) he said that he had been speaking to his dad (who had said before we had even gone 'I wouldn't even bother looking on x road') he had changed from being 70% sure it was ok to only 30%. He doesn't understand he can't afford to be that snobby! It would mean our children having a room each, which if we go to two beds we are going to have the expense of moving/stress again at some point probably either at school age or soon after. He won't even listen to me which makes me more upset because it's as if i'm a good enough incubator and good enough to have supported him through uni, sell my house, spend my savings and now he just doesn't want to know. Hence the huge row last night and then I had contractions from 11:30pm every 6 mins lasting about 40 seconds all night til about 4am... Joy! I also had a lot of mucus (sorry if tmi!)
Then this morning his mum is on the phone at the crack of bloody dawn asking what HE has decided- not that I actually have to live there too! and he is quiet happily chatting away saying it's a no and we have come to an agreement on that!!! He then starts calling all other schemes he had enrolled in, after having the forms for months and trying to prove to me he is trying to make an effort- yes too bloody late now! I hate creeping at the best of times, let alone when i've been up all night with pains and fretting and i'm so hormonal. Then his dad calls and he's on chatting about he wasn't happy that there was a parade of shops opposite on a side street etc... the school wasn't so great as the one where we are now- but who is to say in three years when DD goes it will be any good then??? And as Liquid clocks said and I said to him we don't have to stay there forever.
Just feeling blooming cross as then he has also trawlled through the paper and looked at houses saying the one we looked at was expensive for the full price etc... Even though we would only have a 50% share- what does he expect for where we live??? What does he honestly expect for a semi with three bed and huge front and rear garden and immaculate inside with three double sized bedrooms??? He won't listen to sense at all and it's driving me mad, i'm the one preg and supposed to be loosing my marbles!
So he then has pointed out all houses in paper for the same money- mainly terreced or end of I might add which is ok but we can't afford anything unless we go to part buy part let which these houses he is suggesting aren't! Our lease runs out in Jan (6th) and theres no promise she won't put the rent up another £50 she has done the past few times again and we honestly can't afford it which he seems to brush over. Also even if we renewed we have to spend out another credit reference fee with the letting agents and it's just money that we might as well throw away.
I am just furious that he thinks- something will come along... nothing does unless you are actively trying, which he never is. DD has been waiting for her first class car seat since last July! and still waiting even though he knows the baby seat and hers won't fit in the car. I have been asking for the moses basket and bouncing chair from the loft so I can wash it all but nothing as yet- how much more of a kick up the back side do you think I need to do?
It'sall very well his family butting in and saying don't live there etc but they aren't chucking their money away. I said to him if your dad is so keen on having a say in where we live and how much we spend out, let him pay the extra rent money and put money into a house for us. It's all very easy for them to comment when they have their nice houses and enough cash to live on.
Sorry ladies i'm just fed up.