Due in September 2006......nearly there ladies!!

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Cori x

anyone else find their DS / DD is driving them insane? Ds just does not stop whining at the moment. I am not sure if he senses something or whether it is just the fact that mummy is SO BORING now and just wants to sit and drink tea all day.

on the poo subject - I did poo with DS , I remember DH being v. apologetic to the midwife who just said ' she did well to get this far without doing it before'

Good luck with house viewing pol.

Pol...your DH deserves a kick for that....what are these men like with their supposed "funny" comments?!! So Liquid, your anni on the 6th...well no use suggesting that you have a romantic meal & a little how's your father afterwords?!!!!!! Homemama lol at your comment it's like porn...!!! Blame liquid....

Compo, DH did say that it's a stupid time to have an anni as not only I have been pg for two of the 4 years...he feels we're never gone be able to celebrate it probably given that DD is the 4th & this lo will be...not long after!!!!! Kids.. (Do hope you have a little gap of sorts...)

Gosh..I can smell & taste the champagne.....!!!! Am also being a bit soppy & have found some of the music that the band played on my ipod & am sitting here listening to it & it's brought a big smile to my face!!!

I am finding DD's whining v.testing at times and DP's too... Especially when telesales have just called here and DP decides to have a go at them when DD is asleep... GRRR I know they annoy you but DP shouting and waking DD will annoy me more...

I am finding DS whiney too at the moment. Favourite saying here "Mummy can't hear you when you moan, ask nicely", cue walking off. Think he's actually responding to me being more and more fed up daily.

Very excited for 1B1B, and glad her DH got home and cleaned up!

How weird we all seem to have anniversaries around now - ours was on Saturday just gone too. We didn't do anything!

Wondering whether to ask midwife about sweeps next week as I'll be 1 day over at the appointment, and have a hospital appt the following week if still waiting at which point they'll want to do a section. I don't know if I can have a sweep with a previous section - anyone know?

It's DP and my anni on the 21st... we will have been together for only three years and on child number 2... We haven't ever really made a big thing of it as the last two years- DD was just born (3 days old) and then it was just after her first birthday and the stress of that... this year I may be pushing out another one. They're over rated anyhow, my DP is so romantic he'd forget unless I reminded him constantly.

DD is a little more clingy...& whiney which drives me mad at times..I say don't whine..tell me what the matter is etc to which she just walks off or looks at me with one of those challenging stares...I think they have a sixth sense & in their own little worlds are picking up on our stress / apprehension re arrival & realise that their little worlds are about to change..forever!!!!

Yes, we all obviously like this time of year!!!! DH didn't get me a card...said Tescos (I ask you?!!) had run out but that let's be honest he's worked 9 straight days & he hasn't had a minute etc so please not to be mad at him...I told him he will pay for dinner & the most expensive glass of champagne on the wine list!!! We don't do presents because we both find the whole thing just a tad stressful (ie. buying something but neither of knows really whate...bad enough at xmas!)...but we've managed to, thus far, always get out for meal..

Where is the 1B1B thread??

Clairemow, if I go over say by a week then I'm having a pre-elective as I will not be induced following last emergency section! MW has said that the week I'm due she'll do a sweep just to see whether labour is looking likely if not then we sit & wait for a few days then if nothing then straight into theatre which for obvious reasons I'm hoping it doesn't come to - but there is more chance of scar rupture & ending up with a section if they induce you due to the immediate strength of the contractions....you probably know all of this anyhow..

so in other words..yes you can have a sweep..!!

Thanks Cori, I knew about the risk of rupture from induction, but wasn't sure about the sweep thing. I will be asking for one next Weds if nothing happends before that!

Here is a link to 1B1B's thread - looks like she's gone into hospital in labour...:1B1B thread

Hi girls

Marls - hope your appt goes well and you're feeling better.

Pol - so sorry about your dd's nightmares - rubbish timing. hope you're not too exhausted.

mabel - well done to your ds and his Big Boy Bed!

Cori - Happy Wedding Anniversary!! (mental note to self that it's dh's birtdhay on the 8th and I've not thought about it...)

compo - no experience of back to back, but I know it's meant to be sorer so hopefully you can still get baby to move. Do you have a birthing ball to bounce on? Sit forward on an upright chair if you can (eg leaning onto table/desk...)

1B1B - keep us updated...

We went to a one-off NCT refresher class last night which was excellent and lovely to spend an evening with dh thinking through virth stuff.

I'm 37 weeks today and still have to write birth plan (anyone want to share theirs?), finish packing bag and choose names...

Ds started swimming lessons today and had a blast. He suddenly seems so grown up!

Mabel - Congrats on the big boy bed!!

Pol - DS had nightmare last night at well! He usually goes right back to sleep afterward though, with a little reassurance ...

Claire - Thanks! And as far as whiny, DS is the same ... admitted that he's "scared." Well, I don't blame him, but have tried to reassure his position in this house won't change! That's exactly what my mom used to say - "I can't hear you when you're fussy" - I think it worked very well!

Liquid, thanks!
Woke up this morning with no migraine! Numbers normal! Still, with the up-and-down of this (just last last time), Dr. is anxious to end the pg sooner rather than later.

Had the sweep today, and it was not very painful at all! When he finished I said, "Is that it?"

Dr. said cervix was v. soft, and currently 2 cm dilated, but we'll see. Going to revisit gym's elliptical machine tomorrow (with DH); see what happens this weekend. It will officially be Labor Day Weekend ...

If nothing happens by Tuesday, I'll be induced. (Would opt for cream first rather than breaking waters, as that might buy more time to labor...)

Another complication is I'm Rh-negative; unsure if that's been contributing to bp or not. (I'm A- blood type; DH and DS are both +.) Sobering that without today's scientific gains, would have lost LO long before now; body would've rejected him. Yay for RhoGAM.

Hi Marls, posts crossed!

sounds like things are hotting up for you...when does your mum arrive?

Hi all, just a quick post as theres a horrible waspy type buzzy thing in here and I'm a bit of a coward when it comes to these things!

Had a trip to Ikea yesterday which was fun and a Chinese buffet. I started having tummy ache last night which I thought may have been the food but it's not stopped. I had my bp checked again today and it's come down alot. The mw told me that stomach ache is a good sign (why do they have to say it in such a cheerful voice?) and that Lo's head is now engaged but although thats a sign of things moving in the right direction there's no way of knowing if it'll be days or weeks. I am SO fed up of waiting now!!!

Tassis - the only reason I'm organised is that I've been out of work since March and I absolutely hate it! I've had far too long being sat in at home, twiddling my thumbs, packing and re-packing hospital bags and re-arranging furniture. I really hate not having the daily contact with people and am looking forward to starting training for my new career as a driving instructor next year. Much as I'd love to be a stay at home mum, I can't afford to so at least this way I can work from home and work flexible hours. All I have to do now is pass all the exams!

Hi Tassis - Mom arrives tomorrow around noon! I'll be happy to e-mail you our birth plan; it's pretty detailed.

Manda - So glad your bp is down!! Sorry you're so bored though ... try to enjoy it ... you won't be bored for long

Marls - 2cm! that's great hopefully it means things might get moving soon especially with your mom arriving

Mandaz - Ikea? - you're a braver woman than me. Although rather masichistic of myself I chose to go while I was labour with my first baby (late miscarriage) to take my mind off it - weird what you do in these situations!

Tassis - I'm happy to post my birth plan on the group site - have you joined?

posting birth plans on the yahoo site is a great idea...

ok, I'll post it up now for you, just be a few minutes as some completely irrelevant migraine stuff in there too.

Tassis - have put mine on yahoo also.

Manda - I'm actually jealous!! I LOVE Ikea. Have to travel by plane now to reach the nearest one.

Hey ladies,

Been to see house and really liked it, but as usually DP didn't. Said he had his worries... but would not say any of them. Have asked him why he is so worried about it and he has said that something else will come along, We have been looking since last JULY!!! He said the area wasn't great, yes it is on the edge of a not so great area but then everywhere round here has bad areas... the bus stop near his mums and brothers had a mugging and knifing just back, his sisters was broke into etc... What does he expect when we live in a London borough??? And what does he expect for £110,000... Which is waht the house would be if we did part ownership.

Have tried to discuss it with him, without the raging hormones but can't. Feel I sold my three bed house in Derbyshire and left my sister for him, his family and our child. Now number two is on the way- imminently hopefully and we have nothing, we spend out all on renting and just getting by when we could be £50 per month better off and actually have something to show for it!

Told him i'm fed up of not being able to hang a picture or even decorate babies room because the house isn't ours. Fed up of spending out all this money and having nothing to show for it. Tired of just getting by and me going without to fund him or buy things DD needs/wants and the baby when he works full time and a decent job too. Fed up with nothing ever being done unless I do it, he had forms for the part buy part let for over two months before he actually did something even when I ask him (nag ) to do it all the time.

All I can see is I gave up nearly everything to move to somewhere I didn't know with no family or friends here for him and his family or we would only be together and he would only see DD late Friday night, Saturday and Sunday morning which is no good for anyone... I gave it up, sold my own house, spent any savings I had because he had none moving and buying baby stuff etc and now he can't be bothered to commit to anything. He won't even listen to me or take anything in to consideration.

I think he thinks we're going to be able to get buckingham palace... the way he talks. Everyone has to start somewhere and it's better than the bottom...

Oh sorry ladies just feel so bloody miserable.

Good morning to all the september ladies,

I'm in the August thred, was due on the 30th Aug but still no sign,(i thought this one was going to come early). Hope you don't mind me joining your thred too.

Aw Pol,I think you have a right to be feeling a bit let dwn from what you describe. I've had moments like that with DH - I gave up a really good job with plenty of prospects to move back to him when I got pg with DS (Though married I'd been living in Bangor and him in Lancaster, which was supposed to be until he could join me). Anyway it all turned out that it was me who left my job and he kept his which was the "right" decision financially but it's impossible to help feeling a bit bad about it all. What made things 10 X worse with DH was that he kept saying how ready he was to be a Dad and howmuch he waslooking forward to having a baby but then the moment he was born he backed right off and didn't support me at all - just used to get home from work, sit in front of computer all night and go to bed, never spent any time with me or DS - tell you what, things will be different this time!

Does your DH know how you feel - I know I'm really good at knowing howI feel but useless at articulating it to DH - too scared of a row! I think you're right - he needs a bit of a reality check (as did mine when house hunting recently) - why don't you take him to see what you describe as 'the best you can find' (sorry for the glimpse inside my scheming mind), If the prospects are as bad as you think they are you'll have no trouble proving the situation to him. Then drop lots of comments in like, 'have you noticed prices are going up again - we better get a move on!' I did this with DH, he got so depressed with what was on offer that when we saw our current place his eyes lit up - but I'm positive if we'd seen it at the beginning of or search he'd have dismissed it. Eitherthat or if he'smoreof a figuresman you could make a spreadsheet documenting all the money you're throwing away and what the difference would be if you bought. Also remind him it's a first step - not where you'll end up.

Sorry if all these suggestions are useless or you've already tried - my way of trying to send you some virtual support! He (and family) have given you a bit of a tough time recently, time you got something back imo!

Marls - like the style of your birth plan, might revise mine a bit, yours is more easy to follow! Can I ask about the not cutting cord until it's stopped pulsating bit - does that benefit baby?

Hi micromum! Course you're welcome- if helpfulscroll down a bit for links on how to get things going (but beware, some of the techniques you may prefer to skim over!)

POl - you sound so fed up. I think men are generally crap in these situations - they won't just take that leap of faith. Agree with Liquid , maybe if you got the figures down on paper, you know what men are like they like to see things in black and white rather than emotionally.
MIL has taken pity on me and had DS for most of the day today (it was supposed to be just an hour this morning), I don't think I could cope with his whining all day today, although felt a bit guilty as DH thought he might be teething again.
My pelvis is just SO SORE now ( feel like doing a NIkki from big brother, except instead of 'i'm so cold' - i'm so sore!!!!! ).
I started a thread yesteday about Artificial Rupture of Membranes and whether it made labour worse. Some really interesting stuff on there from Mears, needless to say I have now added it in to my birthplan that I don't want my waters broken artificially - unless absolutely necessary)

Mabel - great thread, advce from Mears was very helpful and I feel like I can trust her opinion - she's bee really helpful with my migraine meds. Think I said before but I've put in my birth plan this time that if I need an ARM I want an epidural before they do it and the midwife said that shouldn't be a problem.

My DS is whining already - keeps asking for his daddy - drives me nuts when he does that as I really don't know how to get accross to him that daddy's at work and won't be home for a while