Due in September 2006......nearly there ladies!!

[Coriander73]

New thread...

Cori x

So sorry to hear about the row Pol Not what you need after being up all night with contractions. Have they stoped now by the way? Hope 1b1b is okay.
Happy Birthday to your ds Coriander

Vindy - I don't know - I am so glad that this isn't my 1st baby, as my midwife has told me nothing. I wouldn't have a clue if I'd not done it before.
Pol - so sorry - don't know what to say really. Have you thought of moving out of london and commuting in, if you need to be there for work? before we moved back 'up north' DH and I lived in bedfordshire and commuted to jobs in N.london, we simply couldn't afford to live any closer to London (if we wanted a house in a decent area - which we did) , the commute wasn't great, but the upside was that we lived in quite a nice rural area and had we not moved wehn DS was 5 months I would've been happy for him to grow up there.

Hi All! Sorry I haven't been around all week. DD was very clingy and unsettled with a cold early on in the week so all time was dedicated to her. She spent a couple of nights in our room, but fortunately wanted to sleep on her mattress on the floor although it still meant soothing her constantly. Saw consultant on Wednesday and baby is mostly lying longways now, but the position is still changing daily, not a comfortable activity for me-I can turn the air quite blue when it happens. So am booked for CS on Wednesday at 10.30 and can't wait, though I am apprehensive as so much went wrong last time, and feel a little squeamish about being awake and aware (wasn't last time). Anyway had an absolute angel for a DD last 2 days so making the most of the time with her, though she's at MIL's now and won't be home until tomorrow.Would do a big for tonight me and DH alone, but daren't risk sex putting me into labour so guess I'll make do with a couple of glasses of wine to get a good night's sleep instead!

Went to the gym this morning and it felt like coming home. . Lost my plug today (ie labor could start in 2 hours or 2 weeks; doesn't mean anything) but YES - Mom's arriving today - in fact, leaving now to pick her up

Yahoo: Myrtle, you're on.

Pol, so sorry ... hope I can write more later. Housing is a huge issue as well as a huge expense.

Thanks for explanation, Homemama; that's exactly it!!

Welcome to Micromum!

Hi all
Pol - feel for you, i'm in the process of house buying -first time and the path has been - lets say bumpy.

It's weird hearing that lots of people are haveing signs of labour after talking about pregnancy for so long. Nice though -good luck girls.

Had a look at the birth plans on yahoo very helpful - is it Marls' that's on there? Extensive or what? I feel i should add more to mine, although because it's my first i don't really know what i want, have got some stuff about episiotomys, vitamin K, Skin to skin, and pain relief. So not completely empty.

I'm going to get my husband to commit everything to memory so her can recite it off by heart to the midwives (he doesn't know it yet ).

Got my pram the other day, can't believe that there'll be ssomething in it fairly soon.

Take care everyone

Pol - feel so for you - I know what my in-laws arelike and really couldn't handle liing that close to them - I completely agree they have no right to be interfering in your marital decisions. Btw - told DH about yous situation and how your DH wasn't being realistic etc and he said 'well that's just shitty isn't it' so there you go, bloke's opinion! Mine was really against renting AT ALL though as he thinks it's a tremendous waste if you can avoid it. I have to say - I like where we're living at the moment but 5 yrs ago before the boom I could have bought this house on my own on my my part time salary, I'd never have considered this area. I think perceptions really need to change - just think, everyone else moving into that area you're looking at will be in the same situation you are so the area will change over time (that's what's happening here already). Unfortunately the housing market in this country doesn't allow for snobbiness any more.

Sounds like you could do with a real talk about how much you feel his family are influencing him and that you're very unhappy with it and you need to give him some consequences for if he doesn't start treating you like his partner instead of an incubator! Harder than it sounds I know, had a few moments with DH myself where I've probably threatened more than I wanted to but made it sound so 'for real' I got him to listen and who knows, there may have been some situations I'd have followed through even though it wouldn't have been what I wanted because I couldn't have lived with him if he hadn't of pulled his socks up IYSWIM?

Any chance of a compromise with a 2 bed that has potential to be made into a 3 bed (loft/cellar/space out back)? £110k doesn't soundlike it'll go far anywhere,let alone London - shall I send you our local paper, maybe it'll give him the boot he needs!

Hello ladies, apologies for not posting for a while, have had my parents to stay for a while and just been busy getting everything prepared. No excuse for worrying you all though - sorry!

Promise to have a proper read and a catch up with everyone's news etc.

2 weeks until d day for me...........YIKES!!

Hi ladies thought Id reintroduce myself I posted sometime ago Im pregnant with my 7th child dont know if you remember me. Im on the august thread with micromum and was due on 30th same as her but Im still here too and hope you dont mind me posting again too

well DH has obviously just decided that I needed to be reminded that he can be a complete tw*t sometimes - we were mid writing shopping list and dicussing what to cook for friends who are coming tomorrow (they're real foodies like us so we like to make and effort) and I was putting up with him being semi-glued to his footy website and not paying much attention - then without even a word he picks up the phone and calls his dad! when I asked him what he was doing he said, oh I can talk to you and call dad at the same time...

What is it with men????

(sorry for ranting- usual friendly ear is touring Australia!)

Thanks for posting birthplans, Marls and LC. They were really helpful.

Pol - so sorry about the house situation...have you and dh made up at all? how're the contractions?

Welcome to August mums, micromum and dreamydowler! And hi to petrified!

Great thread yesterday, mabel, thanks for starting that. Hope you've had a lovely break from your ds today.

LC - that's so good re your midwife and BF chat. Really hope things work out how you want this time.

appyday - hope you're havign a lovley evening and good luck for Wednesday!!

Marls - exciting re your Mum and your plug! Wow re the gym - I'm in awe!!!

Bella - so glad you're OK.

Well I'm 37+1 and saw the midwife today. She seemed surprised that baby was 3/5s engaged (apparently after your first babies don't tend to engage until labour). She reckoned things might happen sooner rahter than later. I'm alternating between being v excited about that and terrified!! Have been having a lot of braxton hicks - some more painful than others...

hey everyone.

Bella, excellent to hear from you - there's been a whole thread about you, hope you've seen it. YOu have a lot of friends on here! . Also Appyday, glad things are ok, and for Wednesday...!!

Wow Marls, sounds like your sweep may have had the desired effect.... unlike my curry....!!

Petrified, don't be shy! I'm seeing my midwife now every 2 weeks (but am 40 weeks on Tues) - before that it was every 3 or 4.

Tassis, I was 4/5 engaged at my 36 week appointment with DS2 nearly 4 weeks ago, and midwife said the same to me. I am now wondering what she was on about! It was 3/5 engaged a week and a day ago. Don't get too nervous, I think it can be engaged for bloody ages before anything happens (can you tell I'm fed up??). You can even be slowly dilating for weeks beforehand.. Also because DS1 was 10 days early, they kept saying "ooh, you probably won't go to term then", and here I am, term on Tuesday... and extra frustrated because of all the expectation of an early baby... Grrr.

Rant, rant, rant.

Liquid, great about the midwife in your case though!

Well I'm having my revenge - have packed DH off to do the 'big' shop on his own (we always have done it together) as he spent too long on the phone and it got too late for DS.

Clairemow - curry for me tomorrow night, I know I'm not due for another 3 and half weeks but so fed up, have a 'dread' feeling though I'll go over!

Anyway - tomorrow is to be a day of tempting fate - along with the curry I plan to wear my best knickers (if I can still fit!), go and get my hair cut, spend the afternoon doing nails/eyebrows/legs etc, long bath mid afternoon, fake tan (oh so vain I know - sorry), then have a lovely evening with our good friends and eat the curry!

Good to see you back Bella! we kept having visitors to the thread wondering where you were!

Anyone seen angelfaces thread? she's wondering how to tell when you go into labour.

Bet there's another LO by now since we've not heard from 1b1b - how great is that?! (teeny bit though!)

AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!

I'm still here, fat and miserable.
I need tons of hugs please....

Everything stopped and I was litterally out the door to the hosp. I keep getting the odd really strong few and think it's off again but it isn't.

Ds is getting stroppier by the day, so am I. My stretch marks from ds have extended a bit which is scaring me as I don't appear to have gained any weight so does that mean this baby is a monster too?!

Most of you guys appear to be having various troubles and although I have read all the posts I can't comment specifically because I'm so wound up!!
I just wanna lie on my tummy! And not be hot. And not be achey. And not be grumpy- I have such moods when I'm preg. And not be stared and commented at on my hugeness.

Owwwww......

Sorry. x

awww 1b1b - thanks for the update, I was sat thinking you'd be there with LO by now, how annoying for it all to stop like that! Hope it happens for you soon!

Hey ladies,

Sorry to have burdened you with my tales of woe but feel I really have no one else to talk to at the mo. The air is frosty to say the least and he is saying I am bieng selfish and £110,000 is a lot of money etc... Which I appreciate but it will be both of us paying the mortgage and both of us having the commitment. Made me furious when he said that I wasn't taking into account DD or new baby!!!

The pains are still here although in the day they seem to be between 20/30 mins apart and now are between 10/5 mins apart but not getting any stronger- just staying on one level. Not too sure if that is a good or bad thing and praying that tonight isn't like last night... What with worrying about our situation and being bawled at by DP, DD crying- the nightmare thing happened twice! and my pains... oh and the loo trips I think I had all of one hour sleep in ten minute blocks! Still getting me in good training for a newborn.

Also we have my sisters twins b'day party tomorrow so in a way would like him to hold on a little longer so as I can go and see my sis. I feel I am in need of some tlc despite there probably being loads of children running about and DD having a million strops!

Why is it DP/DH's are so pig-headed sometimes? Oh I hate not being in control

Oh 1B1B - so sorry to have you post!! It must be soooo frustrating!!

1 baby 1 bump sending you millions of hugs!!! How infuriating is it when you think this is it and nothing comes of it... I really do sympathise with you. I'm sending you a million wishes that your baby comes sooner rather than later for your sanity and so you feel a little cooler!

frustrating is just not strong enough a word!
i dont want to swear tho!
hes just nestled up in there, doing nothing but occaisionally squirmimg, which really hurts me coz he's so huge...

Oh Pol too! This is so not the time for arguments about houses... It sounds as though you are both pretty wound up, and unsurprisingly, as you have a lot going on, what with houses, contractions, nightmares etc.

cheers pol.
if you pop before me.... well...i dont know what i'll do!!

Pol - I'm with Vindy; know for a fact London is more expensive than NYC, and honestly have no idea how anyone raises a family in Manhattan - unless they're making the equivalent of 200,000 pounds/year. Even then, their lives in NYC wouldn't be up to the quality of life they could have in another, less expensive city.
I'm just so sorry you're having to deal with this with your DH right now, of all times. That would definitely tick me off. I think Liquid's advice is excellent about talking it out with your DH. I hope you can.

Ezri - LOL re birth plan - figured there might be more situations re: natural birth here that might need explaining to US hospital staff - plus, I'm picky. Taking 2 copies so DH will have his own - we've been through this before ... so he's ready!

Clairemow - LOL on the curry! (If you want something really hot - will post MIL's genuine New Mexican salsa recipe ... The more peppers the better ... DH says his grandma fed it to him as a cold remedy! - But it worked!)

I'm supposed to be lying down right now ... DH off with Mom to pick DS1 up from school!

1B1B - SO sorry. Definitely yuk.

Thanks for posting your birth plans Marls and Liquid. I tried to do mine, but my Word is covered with security settings from work, and I don't seem to be able to do it... It was pretty much like Liquid's anyway, tbh, except for some comments about monitoring constantly - I'd like to have intermittent monitoring, even every 5 mins re. the c-section scar, so that I can move around as much as possible.

Knackered now, so off to bed. Take care all.

Big hugs {{{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} to 1Baby1Bump and Pol26 - Pol you really don't need the added stress of worrying about all this right now Hope things start up for you soon 1B1B.
AppyDay - all the best for Wednesday, how exciting!! I know having a c-section isn't ideal but blimey, I wish I knew when lo was going to make an appearance

Good morning ladies,

Pol can you leave moving house until baby is born, as you probably know, mem can only do one thing at a time.

I did a birth plan with my first, it was a waste of time, i don't think they even read it and i was really angry, so now i just go with the flow.