January 2014 Thread 16 - More babies arrive or we make delicious lasagnes whilst we wait

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Here you go - New thread! (Procrastinating wildly)

bunt there is already a postnatal thread. We just havent moved over yet until everyone has popped. It just has stats on for now

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1952352-Jan-2014-And-lo-there-appeared-a-star-Our-babies-start-arriving

Well I've finally started my induction so hopefully will have baby cuddles by Monday / Tuesday.

I'm just hopeful that she's this chilled once she's out

Good luck fly!

Hi everyone ive not been on here since just after birth of sebastian few weeks ago. Been hiding. Nope seriously had some problems. Nothing with him bless him. He is just perfect. Just me. Just wanna say thanks to sultana coz if she hadnt come on here and written about what she had been going thru I don't think I would of ever come back on here. Rly thought I was only one having a bad time and have been reading everyday about you and your gorgeous babies but just been so down I haven't been able to write a thing. I wont go into every detail but just reading sultanas story was like reading about what I had been going through. So similar. So basically almost week after having sebastian baby blues hit. Crying all day long. Finding myself distraught when he cried and not able to settle him thinking I was terrible mother. Just everything made me cry. Felt like I was going insane. I have this gorgeous baby that we've wanted for so long. He comes along and I feel like this. Its horrible. Love him so much beyond words but also feel like u cant cope with this new life. I have been thru this before with dd who is now 6 but it went on for over a month but this time I have a very supportive oh who has been amazing and helped me so much. Also got a lovely health visitor. She thinks the awful birth rly hasnt helped and the fact I'm in a lot of pain most days with the kidney stones and irritated bladder. Having 2 other children at home makes it very manic and when oh went back to work last week I found the school run almost impossible. But am learning to ask for help and not to feel bad for feeling this way. The good thing is I like sultana feel like I'm now turning a corner already. This weekend I have felt a lot brighter and more positive and confident so thats why I'm hoping to come back and join you all.
Congratulations to all of you who've had your babies whilst i've been away. Too many to mention lol. But like I said have been reading every day and so happy to read your birth stories. Ok have rambled on enough now. Am going to post a pic of sebastian on fb group as have loved looking at pics of your little ones :)

Good luck fly.

It's D-DAY here but I think I'll be well late again

Ahh Choco glad you are feeling better - you'd had a rough time of it pre-baby so no wonder you've had a tough few weeks. Thank you for sharing - I plan on coming back here and re-reading your stories once baby arrives to remind me I'm not the only one feeling like I'm struggling!

You're doing great Choco. It's a hard emotion when you feel like you're doing everything wrong, but just remember your body is fuelled with all different hormones playing tricks! Enjoy your bundle, he can sense how much you love him already x

Aw space really sorry you had a rough week but glad you are feeling more positive. I third what the others have said about you being amazing! Such a strong brave lady!

choco sorry that you have had a hard time too. It's so tough and I have some awful days when I am not sure I can do it. Glad that you are turning a corner and have had some great support.

Well my hormones are hitting rock bottom, just had a row with dp. Saying things I don't mean. Just fed up.

Choco sorry you've had a bad time looks like you've recognised the signs early though and you're taking the right steps to feeling more positive. Would love to see a pic of Sebastian on the FB group

Oh, loulou, I'm sorry you've been struggling :(
Don't forget there are a couple of us local to you, and I can't speak for book, but I'm always willing to go for coffee and cake. Just to help you out, you understand

Sorry to hear you're feeling a bit hormonal too, littleray

I'm sooooo tired! Meredith has taken to screaming for 3 solid hours every evening. Luckily, DH is still off work for another week so he can help, but when he goes back I'll be sorting her out by myself. We were supposed to be in Dartford for rugby at 10am this morning, but I woke up at 6am with a headache so bad I couldn't see properly, so didn't really fancy driving the best part of an hour to stand in the pissing rain with a screaming baby, so we sacked it off. DS didn't mind!

Hope everyone is ok on this miserable day! There is only 7 hours of mil's birthday left so full on baby eviction mode has been activated.

If he is still misbehaving and won't shift next week anyone got any ideas for passing the time? I get restless fairly easily so I managed last week ok but the possibility of potentially another 2 weeks before baby is born is not good. Plus work keep texting me, at least when baby is here I have a better reason to ignore them.

Sympathy choc I too feel a complete mess. I feel like I've been run over by a train. LO won't stop crying. It's colic I think and I'm not dealing with it well. Am trying lots of things but feel vv tearful and tired and upset and really not enjoying all this at all and I feel guilty for feeling like this. There are periods in the day where he is calm and I'm calm but the majority is a major stress. I hope it does get better. Everyone says it does. 12 weeks is a long time to go through this though am even thinking of forking out for some help. I just need some reassurance and a cuddle and some help getting him to settle. I'm terrified!

choco i feel almost exactly the same! Honestly, it's pants.

being a mom is hard work, there are times (often) i wondered why we had kids. I love both my boys but it is hard

choco I just don't know how you manage with Sebastian, DD and the pain you are in - you're amazing. I'm so glad that you are starting to feel a bit better now. Like toby says, we can all meet up anytime if you're feeling down

Feeling for everyone waiting to pop. Hoping you don't have too long to wait....

mythree HTH. Last Saturday I started a weeks course of antibiotics for bloody mastitis. This Saturday I was given a second course as it seems I now have an infected nipple, meaning I have to express from that one for now and also a course of treatment for nipple thrush for both me and Henry, although thankfully Henry not showing any signs of it currently. I was getting the most horrendous shooting pains in my boobs after feeding - had them for three hours on Saturday night and I couldn't stop crying!

It's taking me an hour to express each time three times a day and where he won't let me put him in his bed for naps, it's making it impossible for me to do alone and DH is back to work tomorrow.... However, this morning by some miracle I managed to football hold feed Henry on the non mastitis boob and express from mastitis boob at the same time, by pressing buttons with my feet. I am woman, hear me roar! Not looking forward to attempting that three times a frigging day though!

Ekkk toby! Am praying I don't get an abscess.....

Amazingly Henry slept for six hours last night and has let me pop him in his crib next to the bed for a nap which is unheard of! Can't bring myself to go downstairs with the monitor and leave him upstairs, so taking the opportunity to catch up on mumsnet with two hands free!

frizz it's so hard sometimes isn't it! This will make you laugh hopefully... I was in the pharmacy, stressing because Henry was kicking off and I had to wait for his prescription, when he vomited chunky white stuff. I was just digging in my bag to get a muslin when he then sneezed and sprayed vomit all over the pharmacy floor! I have to say I laughed....poor little guy,

nature what great news about Olivia! Fingers firmly crossed things keep moving in a positive direction...

humpty yay for being home!

choco bless ya! It's just awful isn't it. Never have I experienced such a horrendous time that just went on and on and on. DH is going back to work tomorrow and I can feel some panicky feelings coming back, especially after this afternoons feeding and pumping fiasco, but am desperately trying to keep them in check!

bitofcake yep! terrified! That's a great word to describe how I feel a lot of the time, especially when it comes to feeding as it's such a crucial thing!

I feel as though I need a health visitor with me 24/7 for a week so I can get reassurance and ask "why is he doing that?" Ten times a day!

toby arghhh that doesn't sound fun with monkey Meredith!

Does anyone else's baby have little white spots all over their face? They look like hard white spots.

Frying Sylvie had some on her nose and my mum and sister said they were 'milk spots' but couldn't answer me when I asked wtf they were...

Milk spots, frying. She doesn't have them but they're very common.

Thanks, they look different to the flat white spots on his nose. These are raised and white. Are they the same thing?

This is exactly what they look like, looks common enough

community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a19742465/milk_spots

We are home Lumbar puncture results came back clear so we were allowed to leave this afternoon. Still have follow up tests for the kidney but no-one seems overly concerned about it. I've had a bit of a cry tonight as it finally hit me everything we have been through the last few days. Just suddenly found it all overwhelming. I'm so happy to be home though. Dh has been great and hopefully it will be a bit easier without all the tests and observations and we can get settled into life as a family. We've said no visitors for next few days which should help.

I'm sending hugs to all those that need them choco, sultanajo, frying and anyone I've missed.

Hope you are feeling better toby, sorry to here about Meredith's crying, that must be hard.

I can't remember anything else so apologies to anyone I've missed.

It all sounds good, nature, if unsurprisingly overwhelming for you. I hope you have a lovely quiet few days.