August 2014 - summer beans and springtime dreams

[flymo79]

new thread here ladies, hope this works!!

2beornot I was going to decline and when I was talking about it with MW she explained it's just down to them having a different machine ready, so i'm sure it won't be a problem if you're letting them know in advance. She even said to me you could change your mind on the day but if you're in a room without the equiptment it might be an inconvenience for you having to change rooms, so told me to say yes and we can always change our minds on the day.

WeeJo08 That made snort out loud haha!!

Oh pina - virtual hugs to you that sounds hard at work especially if you would normally chat to the other person. Try not to let it get to you and stress you out, you havnt done anything wrong.

Treat yourself to something yummy (if your not feeling icky!!!) tonight and a nice relaxing bath

2be, our scanning team aren't told whether you've declined screening or not, so they will ask if you want it when you get there. I imagine most are the same. There's only one room at our hospital though, so it has the right scanner!

I imagine the midwife will take your bloods after the scan.

Piña, sorry about your colleague. I had an awful situation at work, as I sat very near to somebody who'd recently lost her son at 17 weeks, after suffering 7 miscarriages previously. It was really difficult and she often left the office in tears if I was answering a question about my pregnancy. :-( It didn't help that my team leader got pregnant 2 weeks after me.

All I can say is just try to be sensitive and hopefully she'll cone round after a while. Sorry you're feeling shit though. :-(

I'm crampy today. Hate it.

Sorry to hear that, Pina, it sounds really hard. Just remember it's her issue, it's not about you. She's just going through something and is a bit too wrapped up in that to see it's affecting you. From the outside she probably thinks you're deliriously happy with no worries and thinking about nothing except your baby. I think that until you're pregnant yourself, you have no idea of the worries of it all! I used to think that you get your BFP and that's all there is to it!

2beornot - if it would be the combined test you might need to check if they would have run the same tests on your blood. If you call up today they might still be able to?

Lucy That sounds like a brilliant idea! Thankfully ickyness seems to be getting better.

It is hard because we usually chat all day, I'm a chatty person think thats why it's getting me down so much.

I dreaded telling her more than anyone, a few years ago when her sis (who i'm also friends with) told her family she was pregnant early on (so I wasn't meant to know!) she rung me absolutely sobbing her heart out, and she always reacts badly when people are pregnant, I feel so bad for her and want it to all work out for her, I just wish she could find it to be supportive. Even when both my SIL's were pregnant not long after my MC I managed to keep it together (even if it was an act!)

Thanks Secretly Yes me too, thought it was all so easy!

Hungry That sounds like such a terrible situation to be in, and your collegue had such a rough time how awful.

I know she will come round eventually, I hate to think I'm upsetting some one.

Pina and Ruggle, I'm so sorry that this is a hard time for you both, I can't offer much in the way of consolation. I hope that your scans bring you the reassurance you need to tide you over and that you can take some comfort in the statistics. Pina, try to remember that how other people feel about your situation is of no concern to you, and that people who are real friends are able to put their own sh!t aside and support you through.
I have a friend who was a bit funny about my news, I took it on board for a short while, but now I just resolve to not share the happy stuff I have with her when it happens. She hasn't proven herself able to act like the adult, supportive friend that I need right now.
Ruggle, feeling wretched certainly won't help time fly, but it will calm down soon, and the statistics are overwhelmingly in your favour. I have a (different) friend who had a mmc and found that getting past the date with her second pg a huge reassurance. I hope the same works for you.
Everything crossed for ladies going through difficult times xxxxxxx

Goodness, Piña, that's not a normal reaction, is it? It's very extreme. Not sure I'd know how to deal with that.

She will have to deal with it, I'm afraid. to like you weren't going to not TTC because of her.

Not like. ^^

Thats what I think, does she expect me to wait around for her to find some one before we tried, We have been married 3 years I can't wait any longer! ;)

Flymo You're right, I guess if she is a true friend she will be able to be happy for me. I'm not going to rub it in her face but i'm not going to go out of the way to get her to forgive me for something I can't control.

I really don't know what I'd do without you lot you know!!

Awww Pina, you shouldnt feel worried about telling someone....I guess it depends on your relationship but if that was my friend I would be very disappointed in them. Real friends would support you no matter what they are feeling.

I remember a mummy friend of mine being told about my last pg and she was very 'off' I just couldnt understand all the catty comments she made at times and eventually put it down to jealousy. We still talk now but are not as close as before and I felt quite hurt by it all.

Im sure she will come around as hungry says but in the meantime dont worry about her

people say wretched things, don't they? A friend of a friend of mine is really catty and says off things about summer babies all the time. I think some people just go through life completely unaware that they have their own foot in their mouth half the time!!

thanks for the funny cats weejo! I am being serenaded by some particularly vocal seagulls this afternoon, they are making me desperately want fish and chips for my tea! This has to stop!!!

Jazzy, so sorry to hear this, I also thought it would be ok. I can vouch for the Miscarriage boards here, they were wonderful, a lovely bunch xxx

Flymo!!!! now I want fish and chips too!!!!!

gah! sorry lucy! I might have to make myself a small batch of something healthy and drown it in vinegar in the hope it satisfies!

Oh no me too!! Nom! With loads of S and V!

Oh jesus Ive just hunted down a half packet of frozen chips in the depths of the freezer!!!! S & V rocks

Piña - since my mmc in June I've had 4 babies born and another 4 announcements! I can honestly say I've been happy for each and every one of them. I may have had a little tearful moment at home with DH, but I would never sadden someone else's news. A real friend really wouldn't!

Oh gosh sounds like everyone is having a hard day. I have been lucky enough not to have any miscarriages or mmc in the past but for some reason that doesn't fill me will hope but dread! Feels like I can't be lucky enough to have two successful pregnancies that go full term and child fine...silly I know especially as I ttc for 13 months with this one so it's not like I haven't waited!

Tmi but me and dh finally Dtd last night, first time after bfp! I have felt to poorly before and worried I may have a bleed that would worry me! But all was fine, phew!

Hope everyone's week perks up!

I think everyone's right about the situation with your colleague, Pina - I was also very nervous about telling a friend of mine who has had long struggles with fertility and has had (at least one) MC. But she was really good about it and I played my part (if you know what I mean) in that I didn't go on and on about it, mostly because I didn't want to upset her. When DD was born she was one of the first people to come and visit which was lovely. I couldn't help but feel guilty and I know that she probably went back to her car and sat and sobbed, but she was able to move past it and realise that my being pregnant and having a baby wasn't "against" her. Hopefully your friend will come round, if not, unfortunately there's not much you can do about it, I'm afraid

Hi all, just checking in. Sorry to see some of you are still feeling crappy and others have received unwelcome news. I felt like I'd turned a corner until I came over all faint on the tube this morning and got the shakes. An hour later after eating it still hadn't subsided so called my doctors and spoke to one of our GPs who insisted I leave work early afternoon and pop by for a checkup. Dr checked everything she could and said it was probably my expanding uterus putting pressure on a vein, making me feel wobbly. She was so nice I felt a bit tearful

Pina, I think you'll just have to give her time and hope she comes round. It can't be nice for you though.

I had my nuchal scan last weds, measurement of 1.2mm, which apparently is good but still waiting for blood test results back, MW said no news is good news so hopefully will receive letter with low odds later this week fingers crossed

Given we're at 973 posts, I've had a go at starting a new thread..

Here you go August 2014 12 Week Scans And Holding Hands

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1973066-August-2014-12-week-scans-and-holding-hands

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1973066-August-2014-12-week-scans-and-holding-hands

Thanks, Bunny. :-)