The Definitlies - May 2014ers!

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Almost there now, May mums!

Stats page: docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0AvygwA-EKhURdDMwQWNNWGt0cHhmVkloazVVQ0hYNUE#gid=0

Size of baby chart: m.thebump.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-tools/articles/how-big-is-baby.aspx?MsdVisit=1

Loopy it is a lovely time to have a baby. I was a May baby (and dc3 is due on 24th, a day before my bday). May often has nice weather and its a nice gap when your a kid between Christmas and birthday.

My consultant said last week I won't reach my due date...
So an April baby he shall be

Hi all, hospital were very nice, took blood and did cervical inspection (weird) and sent me home as it was late, back off there in a min to get injection.

Plus side was hearing baby's heartbeat again on Doppler! Love that!

Contraception chat v interesting, off to google some...

Apparently I'm bang on for dates so who knows if this one will be an April baby or a May one?

Just burst into tears at work. Being dumped on with people's work they couldn't be bothered with. I'm sure it's just hormones and feel ok again now

Loopy re serola belt - it just holds SI joint together allowing your back muscles to work properly and learn new (right) behaviours. Well that's how my physio described it anyway!

Thistle may I ask why they said you wouldn't reach due date? I've been thinking and I reckon I might have Bean early. I just have a feeling, y'know? I'm only 21+4 today so a few weeks before next MW appointment, maybe I'll find out then why I've had this feeling Bean might be early...

Oh and hi again moo ~waves~ I'm glad the hospital seem to have it under control. Good thing you had everyone on here nagging you to go haha!

Mrs - I'm diabetic and hospital Polixy is induction/elcs around 37/38 weeks as they can't afford baby to get too big !!

For some reason I think that I am going to be so late. Although my official due date is end of April I'm trying to make myself think it's in May so I don't get too impatient.

Ahh I'm with you Thistle - thank you for sharing! I was wondering if maybe my size might come into it, I've been losing weight actually in my legs/bum/arms/double chin but I don't weigh myself at home (no scales so NO SHAME) so I'm not 100% sure if I've lost weight overall...but I've been hoping LO will arrive a bit early anyway, I was born 1wk late as was DH and we were both 8.5lb at least I hope my poor fanjo can take it! DH is 6' tall as well so LO will definitely be a loooooong baby. Hopefully long and thin-ish...

I expect I'll be irrationally grumpy and fed up if I go beyond 38 weeks!

DD1 was born at 37+3 and DD2 is very similar so far in terms of size/growth/etc. My family also seem to be prone to shorter gestations within the normal ranges. I was cooked the longest and born on my due date.

Just watch me go two weeks overdue now. That means I'll have had to spend an entire extra month pregnant over what I did with DD1! And it will make my plan to start maternity leave earlier this time an utter waste.

Both my dds arrived early.
Dd1 was early only by two days but was 8lb 8 and 59cm so thankfully tall and slim but she had a big(ish) head so I had to have an episiotomy. Always better to be cut that tear in my eyes.
DD2 was over three weeks early she was 7lb 2 and 54cm, easy birth.

But dc3 is a boy, so god knows how the game changes this time round!

I was 5lb7 and 6 weeks premature and jaundiced !!!

I had a growth scan in Friday and there was extra blood getting to him which can effect his growth ! So will just see how it goes

I was induced at 41 weeks with ds - I had pre-eclampsia and he was 8lbs 7oz. Not the 10lb monster they told me he'd be!

I really hope I don't need to be induced this time - ideally I'll go into labour a week before my due date because the last few weeks last FOREVER!

I should have been a May baby but my mum was induced a week early for high blood pressure so I was born at the end of April. I'm very excited to be having a May baby as it's my favourite month, although seeing as I'll be spending May either heavily pregnant or looking after a newborn I expect I'll miss out on fully partaking in the events that make May my favourite month. But I don't mind

I don't know anyone else IRL who's due in May or June but my best friend is due in early July (for anyone who can remember that far back, yes this is the same best friend I mentioned months ago who was just about to start IVF having tried unsuccessfully for years!)

I was on the implant hated it i trully thought i had lost it i had no controll over my emotions at all, when i came of it DH said oh there the women i married i wondered if u were gone for ever im amazed he sayed with me
Im still less hormonal now and im preggers
So tried condoms but hate them thats why little chip is here thought it would take me years to get pregnant if ever lol two months of being silly
I would like little chip to have a sibling so not sure what we going to do

Sorry to hear so may are ill

The tablets im taking for tonsalitis have given me upset tum on toilet all time, sorry tmi, phoned GP she said take last two today and then stop hope i feel better soon

Tuesday i get to hear baby heart beat yay

Had a scan today and everything looks fine yay. I'm probably going to have a c section in march though.
Contraception wise we're happy with the withdrawal method, but we'll probably use a diaphragm as well just in case. When I'm 23 I'll probably get sterilised anyway because I'm diabetic and I have rough pregnancies anyway, so it'll be in my best interests health wise.

Fantastic news Alyss! How many weeks will you be when they want to do the CS?

I'm still feeling grim with a normal bog-standard cough and cold that has me wiped out, it's ridiculous.
The whole family have been referred to the TB Nurse at hospital due to FIL's TB, even tho his isn't supposed to be contagious, but given that I've had a barking cough since November I've got those niggling doubts again!

Had my 25wk midwife appt yesterday and heard TinyTit's galloping heartbeat, lovely! However, am now rethinking the home birth option as I really don't get an enthusiastic vibe off my midwife, and tbh would rather be in hospital than stuck at home with her. One of my mum's cousins works as an independent midwife locally, so I'm wondering about getting in touch to pick her brains...

Glad to hear all seems to be going ok, Alyss. :)

Touch wood, but so far I seem to have avoided coughs and colds this pregnancy! A huge change as I had them constantly last time around. However a combination of insomnia and nightmares last night means I shattered, and it seems the nausea returns whenever I'm tired - bleh!

You may not get your regular MW if you have a HB, LongTailedTit. I didn't last time, though I was asked if I wanted to wait for her to come on shift so she could attend me. Good job I didn't, she'd never have arrived in time!

Even if you do get your usual MW, they have to have a second MW there and you might find that one is lovely. TBH all the MW's who attended my birth were lovely. I'd never met any of them before, but they all introduced themselves and immediately became my best friends for the day.

I had four MW at one point: First MW assessed me alone, then called for a second MW who brought a student, then after the birth they called in the head MW for the area to do my stitches, as apparently they weren't quite sure what went where. I still have a vivid memory of them all crowded around examining me while the senior MW explained what she was doing...

Over the next few days I got lots of visits from different MWs, including my usual one who carried out the newborn checks. I even had a lactation specialist MW stop by a few times to help start me off with BF. I reckon I had more care and attention at home than I would have had at hospital, and I had my slave DH to look after me 24/7.

Mine have all been early babies (#1 - 36 weeks, #2 - 38 weeks, #3 - 39 weeks, #4 - 38 weeks) dd2 was induced for cholestasis so they'll be on the look out for it again this time. I loved my induction. Was 4th baby so very straight forward, just broke my waters and it all kicked off. It was really nice to be able to plan what to do with the other kids as I was really worried about finding someone to have them at short notice.

Selfish rant time, warning everyone

OH has had a call from his mum today, telling him to get me to look after him like he's been looking after me for weeks. I know this isn't Am I Being Unreasonable but I feel hurt by that. I know she's concerned for her son and probably stressed with what's happening with her brother in law and I feel so sorry for the whole family but I'm starting to feel really pushed out by their attitudes. Last weekend I saw his sister (before they knew about their uncle) and she blanked me totally - spoke to everyone else, including people she didn't know all that well, but ignored me and acted like I wasn't there. OH says "she can't wait to meet the baby" but I feel like if she's acting like I don't exist right now, why should she get to see the baby, which is completely unreasonable of me but it's making me feel really low. She's desperate for a baby but I'm not the only one who caused this pregnancy; her brother had a part in it too but he's not being treated any differently!

I think his mum is 'taking her side' (can't think of a better way to put it, but that sounds more childish and extreme than what it really is), OH is still golden boy and I'm this unwanted blot on his lifestyle, I've walked in and spoiled his time at uni and now he's having to pick up a bit more slack around the house, and get a part-time job, because I've gotten myself pregnant, but I'm still doing my share - I'm making sure he's got a meal when he comes back from work, I've had to take charge of filling in all the forms and sorting everything out paperwork-wise - I'm having dizzy spells and headaches so severe it's hard to get out of bed, what am I meant to do? I asked OH what I can do to help and he shrugged, but the way he said it made it clear that he thinks his mum is right.

I know it's self-indulgent and selfish and stupid considering what his family are going through but right now I just want to run away and go back to my mums and if he doesn't want my help, let him sort himself out and stop 'running around after me'. I'm really sorry for venting all of this here, it's the only 'safe place' I can think of and I just feel drained.

They ARE ALL being unreasonable, moomin! Whether you were pregnant or not you are in a relationship with what I can only assume is a grown man. Relationships are about looking after each other when people need it, you've needed help of late, he needs help now. I've got no idea why his mum felt the need to point it out or why he agrees with her. I love my uncles to bits but if I'm brutally honest it would barely register on my radar that they were ill if there was something DP needed my support with. You get thr

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Argh!! Anyway - you should be supporting each other. No one should be putting pressure on you or making you feel bad. Tbh I'd be super fucked off that OH even let his mother think that being there for you was some kind of burden - no matter what heartbreak their -no, YOUR family is going through.

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Long term relationships are only long term because (amongst other things!) you put up with each other through thick and thin. It's two ways isn't it and so unfair of his mum to put additional pressure on you.

Dh and I have been through some majorly testing times too, like most other couples no doubt. You'll feel better after a nights sleep, honest, make sure its under your own roof though! Ime going back to mums never helps. (No matter how tempting!). He does sound like he's feeling very fragile though and no matter how rubbish we feel sometimes seeing people we love in pain makes us forget our own gripes. Note I said sometimes ;) MN is the perfect place to vent. No comeback!

Hope you both look after each other x