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Martians 2014, thread 13. Who will win, team pink or team blue?

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LyraSilvertongue · 22/10/2013 16:52

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mrsksays · 05/11/2013 12:24

Ahhh just opened the door to a lovely big interflora delivery - we are still only just getting round to telling a few friends. What a nice surprise - glad i decided to work from home this morning now! Thanks

CookieDoughWhore · 05/11/2013 12:53

MrsKay, you did ask for people's opinions and that is mine. I feel emasculating is the perfect description for my birth if I invited anyone else to be there for support other than my husband. It's not a spectator sport and I wouldn't want my husband to feel that my faith in him is so lacking that I needed my mother/friend/Uncle Tom Cobbly there. This is how I feel regarding my birth and no-one else's.

Is anyone prepared to come out and say it was them who reported my second deleted post? PM me if you like.

CookieDoughWhore · 05/11/2013 12:57

BWP, I would imagine a threat to my life would indeed cause lasting trauma. Anything else, though, I would hope to be able to deal with sensibly and rationally. After all, birth is massively unpredictable, and I hope to keep this in mind if I am ever tempted to write a birth plan Hmm

MTBMummy · 05/11/2013 13:04

Hi all, haven't been on the thread much, have been lurking more on the FB group recently.

Had a successful scan yesterday all good and healthy, although flea insisted on keeping its knees closed, so we're still none the wiser as to whether or not we're team blue or pink, the lovely sonographer has managed to squeeze us in for a quick look tomorrow before my VBAC consultation, in the hope she might be able to see something, she does also need to double check the bowel as she wasn't able to see that clearly - but she was just so lovely she really made my day

It's DD's birthday today and I feel like a shit mum because I have to work, I had planned to slope off a bit early, but the bastards have filled up my diary with meetings.

Good luck to today's scanees

MTBMummy · 05/11/2013 13:17

On the birthing choice debate - I'm undecided, I want to try and have a drug free natural birth as I planned with DD, however that went completely tits up and I ended up being induced at 15 days over due, having a 23 hour labour, then on an epidural and eventually an emergency CS.

I'm now scared to go through the whole process again, because it left me utterly exhausted - thankfully I had no bonding or BF'ing issues with DD. But I just can't face that again

Thankfully if I do go VBAC, they won't let me go overdue or induce me, so I'll go straight for an ELCS if I hit 40 weeks, but I'm going to discuss it fully at my consultation tomorrow.

DP will be my only birth partner, and if I have my way PIL's will not be coming to visit until I've had at least a week at home to settle down, not arriving while I'm still in hospital and bitching about how clean or dirty the poxy phone is. I will probably arrange for my sister to visit in hospital as she did with DD, if I could I would have her in the delivery suite with me.

Finally on Nursing chairs, I have one, I was given it by the company I worked for when I had DD - and I loved it, it was an absolute god send. I have already moved it to the living room and it will be my chair until I at least stop feeding flea

FrankelInFoal · 05/11/2013 13:43

We're looking to buy a nice squishy armchair for the nursery for feeding too.

As far as birth plans and partners go at the moment it will be me and DH but I'm looking into a doula too as DH's job means he could be away for the birth. He works a 2 hour journey from home Monday-Friday so if things progressed quickly there's a chance I could end up labouring alone. My mum is very squeamish and I'd just feel weird if MIL were there, so a doula it is!

I've been told I'm ok to use the MLU at Addenbrookes which is great as the new wing has birthing pools in every room! I fancy the idea of using a pool so it's nice to know we won't have worry about access.

mrsksays · 05/11/2013 13:48

CookieDough More than happy to hear your opinion, and nice to get such a straight down the line, honest one :)

Breastfeeding chairs - ironically - I now have one! Given to me by my Mum's cousin. No idea where the bloody thing is going to go though!

mrsksays · 05/11/2013 13:50

Re birth plans - I know some think they are a waste of time as labour and birth is unpredictable...

The only thing I'm really adamant about is DH finding out the sex and telling me first. Even in an EMCS scenario that should still be possible no?!

Everything else, I can deal with as an when the situations arise.

HotCrossPun · 05/11/2013 14:17

I think birth plans are useful. You can't plan the perfect birth, but you can put down how your feelings on cord cutting, vitamin K, internals etc so that if you aren't able to express your wishes at the time, they are all there for reference.

FrankelInFoal · 05/11/2013 14:30

That's exactly my thoughts HotCrossBun, when my best friend had her son last year she said it was great to have little things in her birth plan that she could stick to! even though she ended up being induced and not getting the labour she wanted. She gave me a very good tip about the cord - ask the midwives not to clamp it until the blood has stopped passing through, it's only an extra 10 seconds or so but means baby gets every last drop from the placenta.

The only thing she said she changed her mind about was delivering the placenta. She had put in her birth plan that she wanted to deliver it naturally, but after a long labour decided to gave the injection instead.

FoxMulder · 05/11/2013 14:55

Hi! I'm back from my scan!! All is well with my little bumpy Grin He is so cute! He looked like he was sucking his thumb! Aaaaah! I've not been this happy since my wedding day Grin

I've got a whole new set of notes now - birth notes. I have a shit load of notes, basically.

Re: birth partners, it's just DH for me too. I'm close to my mum, but the idea of her being there while I'm in labour makes me uncomfortable. I think it's a cultural thing. I bet more traditional societies still have all their female rellies there and no men. On OBEM USA they seem to invite everyone they've ever met.

Blockette · 05/11/2013 15:01

Glad everything went well Fox was this your 20 week or did you get an extra one? (Sorry can't remember, I seem to be the anti cookie she stole my memory functions to add to her own super memory power!)

Didn't we have a few other scans happening today? Who are we missing?

FrankelInFoal · 05/11/2013 15:02

My colleagues daughter had her baby in the US (married to an American), she had to tell her MIL that as much as she loved them all she would not be having his entire family in the delivery room! She even had to ask them not to camp out in the waiting room as she didn't want the pressure of a dozen relatives pacing up and down waiting for news! Her MIL was a bit hurt but respected her wishes.

MummyPig24 · 05/11/2013 15:03

Glad you guys had good scans fox and MTB.

Birth partners: just dh will be with me. I'm not close enough to anyone else to feel like I need or want them there.

Birth plan- I want a water birth but there is only one pool so it may not happen. I'm planning on only using gas and air and hopefully things will go smoothly.

FoxMulder · 05/11/2013 15:09

Yep Block it was 20 week scan. Jols and BakingNotEating are up today too.

mrsksays · 05/11/2013 15:27

Congrats on your scan Fox Smile

April13 · 05/11/2013 16:37

On the birthing plan debate, I plan to have the baby at the hospital. I don't think we have a MLU and don't fancy having to clean the sheets after the birth, so that ruled out home :) I am happy to take on any advice, and will not be adverse to drugs (this might be due to the fact that I worked in Pharma and am in clinical(ish) science field so my opion of drugs is tainted Grin). That said, I do want to try without anything first :) I haven't really considered a water birth, and I'm not going to lie here, thats mainly due to the fact it takes possible drug options off of the table and because it will be like Shamu beached out in that tub I have recently come to the realisation that I have convinced myself that I will get a section and have blocked out any thoughts on child birth. Must get over this Confused.

I also plan to have DH and mum with me whilst giving birth. This is purely because DH is a bit of a pussy when it comes to blood etc., and I think he will pass out. My mum is also like this, but hopefully they can alternate passing out. Mum suggested that I have my dad in with me, but I think she went a step too far there Wink. My mum has yet to agree to this. She just laughs.

Breast feeding chairs....I really want one, but think I could spend the money elsewhere. That said, I have been dropping huge Santa hints to anyone who will listen. After I had ruled out buying one, Asda emailed me to tell me they were selling them for £120 on offer. Surely that was Gods way of saying "buy one"?

Cassiopeia01 · 05/11/2013 17:23

Congrats on the scans mtb and fox. Only a week to go for me now!

My DH and sister will be in with me. My sis and her DH can't have kids so this will be her only opportunity to be involved in labour. She cried (in a good way) when I asked her. She is very pragmatic and will be a good foil to my DH who is very squeamish!

Had a busy day in London today. Cannot wait to get home and get on my sofa...

mrsksays · 05/11/2013 17:24

Oooh first fireworks are going off!

Pantomime · 05/11/2013 18:26

Congrats to the people who have had scans.

I am hoping to have a water birth with the other half as a birth partner. I don't mind feeling a bit like shamu :)

Jolleigh · 05/11/2013 18:37

Baby is a healthy little girl Grin

BunnyBump1 · 05/11/2013 19:20

Hi Gals, I am new to this forum, quite a late comer ;-) . I am 20 weeks & have a scan on Friday. Very excited :-)

MummyPig24 · 05/11/2013 19:40

Great news joll!

Welcome bunny, will you find out the sex on Friday?

I'm absolutely shattered and stiff today, hips and back very sore. Hoping poor ds doesn't have any more nose bleeds tonight, he is just as tired as we are especially after his first day back at school. Poor little guy.

PainAuxRaisins · 05/11/2013 20:48

Long time no post - had a manic half term and still catching up. Will post more on Fri when I have my scan (and I hope to find out the gender if it co-operates!) but in the meantime I'll have some dinner and then try to catch up on the FB instead (easier to see what everyone's been up to on there). Welcome Bunny - I'm 20 weeks this week too - we must have a similar due date. Have you been onto the March stats thread yet?

OwlinaTree · 05/11/2013 20:51

Congrats joll! A girl, how exciting. Is it you who has boys already?