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Blockette · 30/10/2013 16:27

Yes mum fox

MummyPig24 · 30/10/2013 16:36

Glad to hear about the good scan faster.

Sorry about work mrsk.

We are on day 3 of quarantine, it's not been too bad but I'm getting a bit stressed out! I need to go out to a public place and see people!

And in other news I squeezed my nipples and milk came out.

Blockette · 30/10/2013 16:40

Well Fox I hope your happy it was freezing in there, and only cold water to wash my hands!

Glad everything went well pussycat - it seems a few of us have this anterior placenta, I'm surprised I had never heard if it before!

IceNoSlice · 30/10/2013 16:46

Great news pussycat! Are you at the Women's? I had DS there.

I've lit the fire, toasty toasty

mrsksays · 30/10/2013 17:00

Congrats to all the scanees today!

Fasterkillpussycat · 30/10/2013 17:09

Hi Ice - yes, although I have not had any appointments there yet. I seem to be on a magical mystery tour around Brum. Today, I was in Selly whereas the last scan was in town... Mind you, I did get a sneak peek by watching that Midwives programme. Did you have a good experience there?

liberuna · 30/10/2013 17:56

Oh block you got told!. I feel for you. My roof insulation haa gone and been fighting with council to come and fix since January. So house is freezing!

So happy for you faster

mummy was it weird? What does it feel like?

mrsk sorry to hear about work stuff. Im on redundancy for about 2 months now but might be taken out of 'at risk' pool. Would like to know as will affect finances.

On happy news my sister is flying in from Oz on the date of next scan so she'll be able to meet baby!

OwlinaTree · 30/10/2013 18:25

Hi guys, sorry to hear about work problem mrsk.

Love the baby names list from 1120. Drogo!! Is he in Lord of the Rings?

DH wants to go and a film tonight about the wikileaks thing. I have been to work (just popped in for a couple of hours, not a while day) and then driven to Trentham gardens and back, pretty shattered now! Do you think I'll be able to stay awake through it?

Magpieblue · 30/10/2013 18:47

Hi everyone.

I had my 20 week scan today as well - we didn't want to find out the sex but all fine with the baby, thank goodness. But...

I'm just not feeling very bonded with it. It didn't feel like "mine", just like I was watching someone's scan on TV or something. I'm finding it really hard to believe/feel like it's happening. I know everyone who has really suffered from vomming and exhaustion etc rightly won't have much sympathy for me, but I've had pretty much zero symptoms since the beginning, and not got much of a bump. I genuinely don't feel any different to how I was before.

Dunno know what I'm trying to say really. I'm not really complaining, and it was planned and very much wanted and I am happy, it's just I feel more indifferent than I thought I would (or supposed to be), and whereas other women seem really excited I'm just a bit

Sorry not to respond to everyone's news but welcome to the newbies too, though I still feel new cos I hardly ever post. Missing pram too.

MummyPig24 · 30/10/2013 19:30

It didn't really feel like anything lib. My nipples have been really dry and itchy so when I was moisturising them I decided to have a squeeze and quite a bit of colostrum came out. It was weird, very weird, but in a few months there will be a lot more!

Ds name was number 8 (I think) in 1260!!

Hello again magpie. Some people do struggle to bond with their unborn baby, but when it is born everything slots into place.

Coolhand · 30/10/2013 20:18

Becca poor you! Hope the duvet day made you feel a bit better.

Mummy glad to hear you are just about surviving, even though you have serious cabin fever.

MrsK that is anxiety you don't need. Really hope another big client comes along soon.

C

Coolhand · 30/10/2013 20:24

Oops, wasn't quite finished. Congrats on great scans today.

Magpie try not to compare yourself to how others seem to be. I was super excited with my first pregnancy and cried every time I saw a birth on OBEM. Yet when DS was born, I was in a state of shock and felt absolutely nothing - it was only later that day that I began to feel a connection. So my excitement throughout the pregnancy disappeared at the main event when everyone told me I would feel that immediate gush of emotion/love and I couldn't

Over the coming

Coolhand · 30/10/2013 20:27

Oops, wasn't quite finished. Congrats on great scans today.

Magpie try not to compare yourself to how others seem to be. I was super excited with my first pregnancy and cried every time I saw a birth on OBEM. Yet when DS was born, I was in a state of shock and felt absolutely nothing - it was only later that day that I began to feel a connection. So my excitement throughout the pregnancy disappeared at the main event when everyone told me I would feel that immediate gush of emotion/love. I couldn't understand why my body reacted as it did because I have wanted that moment so much. It doesn't say anything about how much I love my child now though.

Over the coming months this pregnancy will feel more real as you feel every kick and movement. If you ate still worried about feeling removed from it all speak to a m/w.

liberuna · 30/10/2013 20:58

Hey magpie I wouldn't worry about that. cool has said some wise words. Trying to 'connect' like others is like trying to feel what others feel when they listen to song or watch a favourite movie.

Same as you , I had very few symptoms and sometimes forget im pregnant. If you've read through the threads you'll know people are talking about food, bodily functions and how to get through them; tv shows; food, family or work politics; food, celebrities, worries and general rants. We haven't spent 13.5 threads just gushing about the joys and love for our unborn children.

As this is my first ,my personal opinion is that the 'connection' is a personal thing , can't be compared and will happen when it happens. And if you're are worried that's ok too :) talk to us and/or your mw.

I'd love to hear from others who are on 2nd child or more

IceNoSlice · 30/10/2013 21:44

Evening.

Yes Fasterkillpussycat I thought the Women's was a high standard of care. DS's birth didn't go to plan - EMCS in the end - but I think that is likely to have been the case wherever we were. It isn't the most local to us now though, and whilst good I haven't fought to go back there as I am feeling good things about Worcester too.

Welcome back Magpie and congrats on a healthy scan. I forget I'm pg all the time (oops) despite defo having a bump now at 23 weeks. What you've said is perfectly normal I think, in the same way that feeling emotional and excited is perfectly normal - it is our reaction and means nothing in terms of how much you'll love or bond with your baby when he/she arrives. You'll be fine, don't worry.

If you want to try to feel a bit more now (not saying you should, just if you want) then it might help to take some quite time by yourself and think about your baby. Not practical stuff like prams and hospital bags, but about the little person inside you. Can you imagine them? What hobbies and books do you think they will like or can you imagine sharing with them?

I find preg yoga really good in this sense as it is 90 mins a week when I'm not thinking about the million other things going on in my life, just thinking about the baby.

Coolhand · 30/10/2013 22:06

Just ordered myself a JPMBB sling. Spent l

Coolhand · 30/10/2013 22:11

Argh - why can I not use my bloody phone tonight!

To continue...spent ages selecting the colour (focusing on the impt things here). I'm a novice into the world of slings and a teeny bit excited. Spent this evening watching videos of how to do the knot/positions etc. no doubt when it arrives I'll either get flippin frustrated trying to sort the thing out or I'll get it down to a fine art until I have to actually put a live wriggling baby into it. You've all seem how good my fine motor skills are this evening. It doesn't bode well...

Rockchick1984 · 30/10/2013 23:42

Cool JPMBB are gorgeous! What colour did you go for? I'd defo try and go to a sling meet once baby is here if you're a novice, basically you want the fabric to be tight against you when you tie it, then pop baby inside. Should be close enough to kiss, and tight enough that there's hardly any give once babyCool is in there.

Magpie I didn't really bond with DS when I was pregnant, think I just didn't acknowledge that there would be a baby at the end of it For me I got the instant rush of love when he was born, but I know friends who have kids his age who admit they didn't feel like that until they were hours/day/weeks old. I think you just feel whatever you feel, and know that eventually they will be the centre of your world.

JustCallMeBaldrick · 31/10/2013 00:18

Magpie Congratulationx on the good news ftom your scan.
If it's any comfort I don't really feel any bond with this baby yet. The pregnancy was such a surprise that it still sometimes feels like it's happening to someone else (even while being booted as I type!)
I was mega excited with my first pg, as it was done months in the planning, but when the boys were born I didn 't get the rush of love you're 'supposed' to feel. That crept up on me, but I remember when they were about 3 weeks old sobbing on DH because I was such a crap mother who didn't love her babies.
With DD (also a surprise!) it took a while to come to terms with the pregnancy, but it was sooner than this time around, and it was pretty much love at first sight.
I think what I'm waffling on about is that everyone's experience of how they feel about being pg and their baby is vastly different, and there is no 'right' way to feel.

liberuna · 31/10/2013 05:11

Hey cool the sling sounds great. Do you mind me asking why that one?

I want to go with a wrap for new born but there are lots of options. Confused

PiratesMam · 31/10/2013 07:28

Morning all - scan day for us today! am mainly looking forward to brunch at this really nice cafe afterwards - they do a great bacon with pancakes and maple syrup!

MummyPig24 · 31/10/2013 07:50

Hope your scan goes well today pirates!

Insomnia has returned. I'm waking up about 1am and not getting back to sleep until 4ish so I'm knackered all the time. I also have noticed that baby's movements are reduced but I guess it's too early for them to have a real pattern anyway? We have our scan in 2 days and I'm excited and worried at the same time.

HappyHoppy · 31/10/2013 08:32

Happy scanning pirates! Pancakes sound yum!

Magpieblue · 31/10/2013 08:42

Thanks everyone, that makes me feel much better. I think so far for me the pg has just been switching wildly from forgetting it's even happening to intense anxiety that something is wrong, plus arguments with OH about names and how much to spend on baby stuff, and lots of "advice" from the MIL. So it's all seemed a bit of a downer so far. I haven't really given any thought to what the little person will actually be like and all the nice things we'll be able to do together. Preg yoga is a great idea, thank you.

Hope your scan goes well pirates

And hope work woes sort themselves out mrsk and lib

OwlinaTree · 31/10/2013 08:49

Good luck for the scan pirates.