June 2014 Bus for those with RMC issues

[NorahVanstone]

Hello everyone, welcome to our new hopeful but slightly paranoid bus!

NorahVanstone edd 6th June, 4 previous MC

Tiny, how are you doing? I hope that the pain is not unbearable. I'm thinking of you.

London I'm sorry your husband is not being supportive. It's no wonder you need a bit of time to hide from the world and deal with it in your own way. Tell him it's now his job to keep them all off your back.

Medical management is one option to deal with an incomplete miscarriage. If you are already bleeding you have to insert a pessary of misoprostol vaginally, usually repeated after 24 hours. This makes the uterus contract to expel whatever is in there. I've had it once and found it quite painful, so if you choose this route make sure you also get decent painkillers prescribed. The other option at that point would be an ERPC.
More on both from the Miscarriage Association here

So sorry london . And sorry that your DH isn't making things easier, I'm sure he thought he was "helping" but sometimes they have funny ideas about how to do that.

Glad you have a small nugget of good news about the referral though.

London hugs...have just read thread :( I'm sorry your going through this and have no experience of medical management to offer advice. Im sure the hospital will look after you, just try to rest up.

I hope your DH pulls his socks up, men really don't understand at times!
My DH was in complete denial when I had mc so I can sympathise with you just wanting space to get over it.

X

Hello all

First great news Seat we needed to hear that!

To everyone that asked, thanks, I am ok, no pain but very very tired.
Not helped by the fact I was told not to breastfeed for 24 to 48 hours, so last night my husband tried to put our daughter to bed (which he can do when I am not home) and she was just crying mummy mummy as she knew i was here. then I went down and cuddled and let her twirl my hair and she ended up falling asleep... BUT THEN woke at 3h40 and would... not... go... back!!! ahrgh
Ended up with me lying on the floor of her room while she climbed on me saying horsy horsy and poking books in my face and making me read them...

At 6am I went to my room and told my husband it was his shift. (if i was working we would have shared earlier)

Now he tells me she fell asleep on the pram on the way to the nursery and he left her sleeping (so at 8am)

I got up at 8ish to get some cereal and been sleeping on and off all morning.

I have some closure now, need to book a GP appointment and will go back to work monday or tuesday.

And my husband has been great respecting my wishes not to tell. we never told anyone officially and i only mentioned the miscarriages to my mum after i had my daughter.

in 2010, the year we had 3, we went Miscarriage Association christmas cards to a few people hoping that was a hint enough (his sister and mum did get it)

London :( awful. it sucks. I am sorry that you are at this stage and DH is not supportive.

Tiny glad it wasn't painful.

Jen, Tiny, and London... Hoping things are improving for you. I haven't known what to write for the last few days, but I've been thinking of you.

My first day back at work today. I haven't slept much and DS2 has been awake and restless since 5am.

Work colleagues all knew last time around, as I was very open about why I was off sick, and I think they'll have guessed this time. My boss is a bit of a dragon, and very passive aggressive, so I'm really not looking forward to seeing her...

On a brighter note, I have a referral to see a gynae on 21st November for my rmc testing. It seems to be a general gynae referral, so it might take some time. In the meantime, we're still ttc again, and got my baby asprin ready.

The general rmc thread looks interesting, but busy, I might join in sometime nearer my appt.

Better get going...

Do come join the RMC thread, tanny I've just started a new one and encouraged everyone to recap where they are up to because I lose track. You'll be made very welcome - that applies to any of you.

Hey everyone,

Just went for what I thought was my routine appt with gynaecologist (blood test to check HCG) and the bloody level has gone up instead of down so had to have another scan (aka Engels fanjo flashing ). They can't see any reason why the HCG has risen (womb is most definitely empty and she checked tubes) so now have to go back next week for another blood test and possibly scan.

Feel so annoyed with my body. It's trying to hang on to something that isn't there. I just want to move on and start trying again! Sorry to post all the depressing details here (ponders moving to mc board).

Sending hugs, and hot chocolate to everyone who needs them. x

Hey Engles, is fanjo flasher your new name? You made me snort my tea!

What a weird time you're having, I hope they don't find anything, and it's your body playing silly buggers...

I'm getting into mn in a big way and posting all over the place, but this is my mn home, so make sure you keep coming back. You're not depressing us, we're already depressed!

Aw Engels how odd, bodies are strange things... I so understand you... I am now finally with some closure after the ERPC and it's what you need to have...

Hope you get some answers soon!

How odd engels!! This is the right forum for these things for sure. Keep us posted.

Have had a small amount of bloody discharge and light cramps this afternoon. Hoping the end is in sight. Will let you all know how I get on tomorrow afternoon.

fanjoflasher I hope your levels have dropped when you go back. HCG can rise because of a tiny bit of retained material, sometimes too small to visualise on a scan, so if you've passed some more that sounds hopeful. They are just cautious because they need to rule out molar pregnancy, but that is rare so don't worry about it. Hope you are given the all clear tomorrow.

Thanks baking. Someone has just mentioned molar pg to me on another thread (had never heard of it) and now am going a little crazy after googling as it fits with the symptoms that I have.

Heading to hospital in less than an hour for blood test. Friend is coming with me to hold my hand.

Will definitely BBL to let you all know how I get on.

Step away from Dr Google! Cross that bridge only if you come to it.

Wise words baking

Dr said def not molar as HCG nowhere near high enough. HCG had gone up again a little bit.

I just have to wait it out and be patient. They wouldn't do a D&V (if that's what it's called?) because there's nothing visible on the scan so they wouldn't know where to look.

Just have to go back next week again fro HCG checks. If it really doesn't go down by itself I will have an injection but they'd rather let nature take it's course if possible. Injection would have impact on when we could take ttc further. Dr said it could take 3-4 weeks for HCG to drop naturally.

I'm taking the next 2 days off work. So frustrating to still feel so pg

I'm sorry engels it must be crap to have it all dragged out like this. I'm sure all you want is to be able to draw a line under the whole thing. It sounds like they are not too worried, just want to keep an eye on you.

Oh no engels it's tough not to get closure...

my ERPC was tough but that is it... just one cycle and i can try again...

engels could it be that you have retroverted uterus and they can't see the sac? I know some people that have that and their sacs while small were not visible in ultrasound. I do hope that you get resolution.

I think our thread is getting too quiet. Hopefully the June mummy to bes are now past the scary early pregnancy part and there won't be new members joining here.

It was a pleasure to get to know you all and I am sad to see that most of us went through what we feared most. May all of you become pregnant soon again and take your beautiful babies home.

I pray that those that were lucky from this thread get their wishes come true and give birth to beautiful round and chubby June babies.

I am not saying farewell, although I do feel that this thread is just coming to an end of its bumpy road, and will keep on checking and reading updates as long as there is something to read.

Hello All

This has been a desperately sad thread but of great support to myself and I think the rest of you too.

To give you all some hope for the future, I am now a success story.
I had a 2nd early scan today at 9+2, the baby has grown, is exactly the right size, and heart beating away.

If I can achieve this at 41, after 3 RMCs, infection requiring 2 sets of horribly strong antibiotics after mc2, suspected partial molar preg after mc3 (thankfully further testing concluded it wasn't), then there is hope for you all.

Given everything I have already been through, this is absolutely my last attempt, and FX it will actually succeed.

We told my DD(7) today, she is so excited and thinks it is a dream. She never thought she would get a sibling (apart from the imaginary ones, who numbered 4 this morning...)

I wish you all the very best for the future, and hope that you are lucky next time. Big hugs all round!

Hi everyone, I feel a bit like Jen, I keep checking in, but don't have so much to say, on any thread, not just this one.

I've joined the main rmc thread, as have a few of us, and one about ttc after mc. Everyone knows each other there, and with not much to say and no advice to give, I am a bit redundant.

My rmc appt is on 21st November and I am half expecting hoping that I'll be up the duff again by then, having decided that I've got nothing to lose.

It has been a truly moving experience spending time with you all. It has made the journey less lonely, and I think my recovery has been helped along by your support.

Stay in touch as and when, or feel free to pm me xxx (I know it's not the done thing)

Hi everyone. I had my 10 week scan today and all looking good so far. I'll be scanned gain at 12 weeks and if still ok signed off by the RMC clinic.
I'm so sorry for all the heartache so many of you have been through and feel profoundly grateful that this time it seems to be working out for me. I'd encourage you not to give up, (though after 4MC I have considered it many times) to pursue a diagnosis and treatment, and to get some support along the way. The TTC after MC, preg after MC, RMC threads have been all that has kept me going. There are strong friendships forged on those threads because we've been through so much together, but there is always room for more, please don't feel excluded.

Lovely news baking