Due in August - part 6

[sarahlou1uk]

thought I'd start one off girls (and Salamander!)

Have you got a small bump Pucca because I can't see my bits anymore.

I'll be suprised if the MW's will see the baby come out. Its like a Jungle down there!

Unless dh wants to do it which I doubt very much.

Still catching up lol....i agree with the anbesol for teething! fab stuff and doesn't slide off the gums like teething gels do, just make sure if you go to chemist you ask for anbesol and not anusol lol don't understand how 2 names for such different things can be so alike.

we start with teetha and cammomile drops and work our way up to neurofen if it gets to the mindless screaming stage. never heard of anbesol, is it a gel?

love the idea of meetup but highly unlikely i'd be able to travel over to england anyone fancy an irish holiday?

YF...No my bump is huge lol, but a mirror in the bath should help don't care if it not neat as long as it not bushy

Feahters, can't see my bits to shave either but i do it by feel and get dp to inspect after, he doesn't complain

PT...anbesol is a liquid and is great, great for mouth ulcers too, numbs and soothes.

Anbesol is a liquid and comes in a small glass bottle. Just dab it on your finger and ut it on. Its great for ulcers too.

I'd love to come to Ireland. I've never been but always wanted too.

once we move to a decent sized house (hopefully soon) you'll be more than welcome Feathers

anbesol sounds brilliant, must check with chemists and see if they have it. she's taken to biting my finger now when i try to rub the teetha on her gums

Awwww
teething sucks.

You can get it on prescription. Its quite expensive for what you actually get. The bottles only about 4cm tall and it costs about £4 but it is magic stuff.

love to meet up , not sure I could get all the way to yorkshire , big woos on motorways , Watford is about as far as I can go!!!! Dh misery guts not into MN meet ups so no chance of persauding him to drive.

Talking of dh Im still recovering from huge huge argy last night , and hardly slept. It was all over problems with dinner and I ended up sobbing & sobbing for 3 hrs. Lets say I didnt eat till 11 , when he made me scrambled egg in a right huff. I then was in bad pain in my back and belly all night as I got myself so upset and distraught. I seem to be very close to panic attacks with dh , he seems to be a major trigger right now (although managed not to go full into one , so I am controlling them to a point). Hes being so stupid and unsupportive.Even with my sobbing and sobbing, he was still being awful and hurtful , not right at my stage or condition. I dont normally speak about dh on mn , feel funny now. Been wanting to say something all day , but felt like I was betraying him . He has apologised this morning and phoned me when he got to work, but Im sooo zombied from it today. IM just so upset that he could be so nasty , when he knows Im having therapy and panicky about hospital. Its making all thge more fearful that I dont have his support. Thankgawd my mum will be a birthing partner to. Does anyone else get pain in belly if you get tense and upset??

sorry completely sidlened everyone today.

How old is lo pink ? or have I asked before ? Camomila powders are very good if they get seriously grumpy and fractious. Not heard of anbesol, will have to try and remeber that for a few months from now.

sorry your dh is being an ass melsy, they can be such idiots at times can't they?

she's 17 months.

Do you think he's having trouble coping with you feeling the way you do?

My anxiety has been shocking since we've moved. Dh was supposed to be doing a course away from home this week so I was going to stay with MIL however it got cancelled and we found out 2 days ago they've rescheduled it for the begining of August. I went barmy as he said he wanted to go and get it done and I thought it was totally stupid time to be away. Needless to say he lost it and he did actually say that he can't cope with me having these panicy do's. He finds it hard.
For some reason I think some men do have troube with things like this. The not knowing how to react or go on without upsetting you etc.

Hope that makes sense.

Yes totally get that yellow, I think that a lot fo men (not all) find deep emotions really hard to undertstand. DH has said he cant handle it. When I say I want sympathy or empathy , he genuinly doesnt know what thats about , how it looks, how he should behave. I never know what to do. Very hard to teach somoene compassion when its an alien concept. Is there a course they can go on !!!!

So is he stll going ? Far to near to due date me thinks. Or is it not that far away ? Seems unfair to leave you overnight.

Pink , Its those darn molars hey,you can never tell how theyre gonna react with it.

For me just a cuddle and reassurance works a treat. Dh has this remarkable way of thinking though which annoys me.
When I was struggling when I had dd and I came home with a tub of pills from the Dr's he gave me a good talking too and I felt sooo much better. I told him this and he said that if I was ever struggling during the day, just to call him for a chat to cheer myself up.

If he could just do that again!

He's not going now, I did have a big strop about it though
I know its all based on what if's but for some reason "what if's" become a reality far too often in my life, lol!

Thats it though , what we need in terms of compassion isnt alot , just a "sorry you feel yuck" or as you said a cuddle and some "Im here for you". Or in my case lastnight "okay so we cant cook what we planned(dh does ALL the cooking all the time, its his hobbie) , lets see what else we can do". Rather than banging everything on the table and stropping of that dinner wasnt ready for him when he got in late and I didnt know were he was anyway and had only just got home myself from a rather unsual delicate family matter at my mums.

yerr yellow its a kinda big "what if" isnt it , was that your negoiating stance, hed be heartbroken to miss something if he was stuck on a motorway somewere.

Thats exactly what I'd said to him.
In years to come when people ask or you think about our kids you'll be able to say "Oh I missed my ds's birth because I was on a course"
How sad.

I wouldn't mind but he can go again in November and it means he doesn't have to stay over for that one as it isn't as far. He just doesn't want to do it then because he doesn't know anyone on that course!

some men are such little boys hey !!!

I think I also threw in "Oh, I am sorry I would like you to be at the birth of our son. I apologise for any inconvienience this may cause"
In a sarcy tone.

lol I say the same types of things too. It really riles him.

It makes me feel better.

God
must decide what to have for tea. Its great having MN back but the time goes nowhere!

God must decide Yellow?
Surely you have the deciding vote as mummy!

Yellow - I can vouch that I (as a man) do have trouble knowing how to deal with various emotional situations - but your DH is off his trolley for contemplating being away at such a critical time.

Course, or birth... course, or birth...