MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 7: Are you due next March? Do you have wrecking balls for breasts? Getting moist over iCandys? Then come and talk shyte with us..

[PramQueen1971]

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hottie ive been with him 4 years in november, he says and does alot of stupid things then realises after a few days of going out and being way from me and says sorry >.<

joll am just writing it now, should i speak to citizens advice? Ugh so anoying really is im not the type who can stand up for myself im such a push over i wish i could just turn around andstand my ground lol thx for youd advice she said theres a letter in the post for me dread to know what that says..

thanks fox everything seems to all be happening now im preg no problems before ;/ x

Welcome BN. Sorry you're still feeling sick!

Gaw I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Your boss is definitely not allowed. Try not to let yourself be bullied and I agree with Joll about keeping a record of all conversations like that.

MTB Thanks for clearing that one up! :)

I'd definitely recommend talking to Citizens Advice once the anticipated letter has come through. Make a note of her telling you to expect something...I'd certainly say that telling you that something is on its way is a move designed to make you feel uncomfortable.

Also a quick retort for you should she warn you not to think you're 'untouchable' because you're pregnant...

"You're right, being pregnant does not make me untouchable. Being signed off work by a doctor does. The business wouldn't be protected by insurance if I'm involved in an incident while I'm not supposed to be on the premises due to medical reasons."

I'd then be inclined to add "now fuck off back to your hole and leave me alone you haggard old cow" but I'm a lot more forthright than many people

Haha I wish I was brave enough!! Its really made me not wanna go in now but i need as much money as poss before babe is here!! Bloody assholes :(

Welcome BN!

Gaw it sounds like you are having a really tough time.

Re: breastfeeding. I will try and hopefully it will work out. I just hope this baby is not tongue tied like dd was. It was a flipping nightmare. If it is then at least I can insist on it being cut ASAP. I don't want a repeat of bleeding nipples!

Anyway ladies I'm off to drop off the sprogs at the in laws and go on a date with dh! Will catch up tonight some time.

My heart definitely goes out to pregnant women who don't get sick pay My employer is very good for it but I'm very lucky.

You're having a horrendous time my love. But it will pass eventually, I promise yoy.

As far as not being able to stand up for yourself is concerned...definitely try to. I was a push over for many years but life hardened me eventually. Standing up to your employer is a good place to start.

yoy? I don't know, I try to be supportive and my predictive text fails me!

I just thought you were putting on a Northern Irish accent

Evening ladies! Thank flip it's Friday! First four days back at school And I'm done for...

Welcome BN I'll sympathise with still feeling rough. I'm on some fairly strong drugs to combat hyperemersis, but still feel nauseas all the time. Had to beg the GP for a repeat perscription today.

Re: routine etc. I have a very good friend who is v committed to attachment parenting. To be honest she is quite boring about it and it makes me want to ignore it totally, however her daughter is the most contented least Velcro-ed baby ever who was very happy to be put down for periods of time and slept through from about 3months. Just as soon as I tell my friend I will be stealing ALL her slings!

Advice also needed, we have been offered my BIL and SIL britax b smart pram. It's two and a half years old and well used. New it would have cost £650 but they got it for £250. They are very hard up (as are we, but the couldn't come for lunch last weekend as no money for petrol!)and want some money for pram, fair enough. how much would be reasonable to offer them given what they paid etc??

They've had it for 2.5 years or it's been being used for 2.5 years total? Is it actually the pram you want? What was your original pram budget?

Personally, I'd give no more than 150...simply because you can get a cheap travel system brand new for not much more.

That's about what i was thinking jol! I think they stopped using it about nine months ago!

It's a good pram and to be honest we are so broke (with incomplete house - thanks cowboy builders) that we have no real budget for anything...

If they got it second hand and have had it for 2 years unless it is in really, really good nick I wouldn't give more that £100.

Ask them how much they would put it on sale for if they put it on Gumtree.

If you're that broke hun, why not keep your eyes peeled on freecycle for one? They do get put on there! Just make sure you tell the person giving that you're expecting...gives them reassurance that you're not just going to sell it on.

Welcome, BN.

Gawj, what a shitter of a time you're going through, I'm so sorry. Joll's advice is brilliant - do use it.

My mum is trying to buy me a pram 'with everything included' from a friend of a friend of a friend who is selling it. It is a Quinny pram, which I have never heard of - let a lone pushed or tried out - and I'm afraid I ended up snapping at mum to stop wittering about prams which I've never heard off when I'm under pressure to find a job, move house and have relationship counselling (tomorrow). Have I done the wrong thing? Would you accept any pram if it was a gift from your mum?

Becca, I, personally, wouldn't offer more than £100.

Oh my God, seriously, do you lot ever stop talking???

Bit late as the debate seems to be done but GF, I do relaxed routine. From the day they were both born my two have had a bedtime, bath bottle bed. Moses basket in the room for the 1st couple of months. I was strict with feeds but had to adapt a bit cos if I tried 4hrs with ds1 I found myself spending the last 45mins putting his dummy in trying to keep him going. Changed it to 3 hrs and problem solved. Did a dream feed and he was fine. He fitted into our life.
Ds2 was slightly different, still did 3 hours but wouldn't take the dream feed. Didn't need it. Used a sling with him cos it was easier and he's not clingy.

GF does have good theories but as you've all said, you need to adapt them slightly for each child but I'm a strong believer in routine. It's never too early to stArt and its meant that I've been able to stay organised and have a life. The kids know where they are and don't argue.

Please can I join fbook??

Feeling proper shitty today, works crap, traffics crap, other drivers are all twats and I'm sick of mil sending me stupid name suggestions. Grrrr!!!

Jolls (and anyone else with huge buzzwams), I am having a problem between my breasts. I have developed a rash there from them both being squashed together in these maternity bras and last night I howled as I applied witch hazle. I have heard terrible stories of poor women developing fungus-like shit between or under their breasts and I'm scared that's what this is likely to become. I can't think of any solution to separating my tits. Can anyone help?

lumpy just messaged you about fb

you'll all be glad to know I'm back from sushi and alive.

oh gaw thats so annoying, i would make a log of events also - perhaps even speak to citizens advice bereau and get the ball rolling and if you state they've threatened you with a letter etc it will make it a lot less 'he said she said' when it does turn up because it's almost proof - but i have no idea about these situations really tbh!

ooh pram the counselling, hope it goes well!!

becca id probably also say £100

Pram, can you go braless at night to get some air circulating?

Becca, if it's that we'll used I'd offer £100 max. If you would rather have a new one, Mothercare is doing a scheme where you order your stuff, set your delivery date for nearer the birth and pay it off bit by bit in between. They have some decent travel systems that don't cost the earth.

Pram, I don't like Quinnys. They're an odd shape. It's nice that your mum wants to help but you have to be the one to choose as you're the one who'll be pushing it every day.

Pram - topless and braless for large chunks of the day so that they stay separate! Let the area dry and breathe. Apply a very light moisturiser if it then cracks. If it doesn't clear up, it's off to the quacks to see if he'll prescribe you a cream called Daktacort. If he won't because of your upduffed status, he should be able to provide you with an alternative. Hope that helps. x

Thanks, Lyra. How late can I leave it to look at prams, taking into account waiting lists etc? I want to be able to say to anyone in RL who starts rabbiting on about the bastard things, 'shut it, I'm road-testing in January' or whatever.

Also, mummy dearest, although trying to help, doesn't get to pick the pram. It needs to be suitable for your life style rather than hers. My mum was hoping to get me a winnie the pooh travel system. I've 'politely' declined, showed her the one I want and have offered to pay the difference if cost is the issue.