May 2014

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Ok, I can't see a May thread in here so I guess I will start one! According to the NHS due date calculator my EDD is actually 30th April but I think that makes me more likely to be having a May baby anyway!

Am feeling very tentative about starting this thread as I had a mc in June and it's very early days for this one but...anyone want to come and chat through these nerve-wracking first few days?

Arthur's?! = Thursday!

You can find HCG calculators online of you google it, but even so they're only a guide of what is "normal".

Having felt a little queasy over the past couple of weeks the morning sickness has now begun in earnest . Threw up three times within ten minutes of getting up this morning and can barely move without feeling nauseous.

Hi everyone...

I actually feel unbelievably nervous and emotional just writing this....GULP.

This is all very new for me... on Weds I took my first ever pregnancy test (positive!) and now I'm writing on a forum for the first time and feeling a bit unsure of myself!

So, I am 5 weeks up the stick today. Due date is May 12th. It's still feeling pretty surreal for me and my husband. We've been together many years but only married in April. We knew we needed to crack on with babies (I'm 34) so I'd come off the pill a couple of months ago but we hadn't started the whole 'actively trying' thing and were in fact still trying to be careful! With one slip up....obviously. So it's fab news for us and feel unbelievably lucky... too lucky in fact... surely it can't be THAT easy? I am paranoid that something just has to go wrong but I guess it's down to mother nature now.

As it's such early days we haven't told anyone yet, other than friends who were visiting this weekend (We are all fairly boozy so I knew I couldn't get away with saying I was on a detox!) and they don't have any kids so no-one to compare preggo notes to.

Symptoms I have had though are jabby, twinge pains in my stomach, bit of back-ache, bit knackered and a rather unattractive bloated gut. Suppose I better get used to that...From reading other posts I am hoping this all sounds normal for this stage. I have shitloads of nieces and nephews and friends with kids but I have never discussed these very early symptoms with anyone, probably because people don't tend to disclose so early. So this thread has been invaluable!

Thank you already for the wisdom; looking forward to sharing this journey with you and all the very best to everyone, especially the girls having worries at the mo.

Everything crossed for everybody xx

Welcome lollywig and congrats! We have the same EDD :) those are the same sort of symptoms I'm having too, managed to avoid the morning sickness thus far (had a teeny bit of nausea) but not sure how long that will last!

How is everyone getting on? My partner has just been offered a job in the Shetlands (money is too good to refuse) and winding myself up panicking that he won't make it back in time for the birth even though it's way too early to be thinking of that yet! Think I'm slightly over emotional!!!

Hi AliOh, how lovely to 'meet' someone with the same EDD. I too have not had any sickness yet thank goodness, as I actually find throwing up quite traumatic! God knows how I will cope with the rest of the horrors that may be on the way....

Is this your first pregnancy?

I too am panicking over anything and everything even at this stage. Our house only has a shower so I am demanding a move to somewhere bigger with a bath already! I guess in reality we will wait til the 12 week mark before making any big decisions.

Yes I think there is another one or two on this thread with the same EDD too! Yes it's my first pregnancy, it did come as a nice surprise as although we have been ttc since April, we had written off August as we were so busy with visitors and visiting family etc it was so hectic! Most of my symptoms except the exhaustion are coming and going which is not helping with the panicking lol! But I'm just having to try and relax and wait out until the midwife rings me, hoping in next couple of weeks :)

I am due May 12th too!!! I wonder who will get there first??

Bets anyone? Lol, wondering how I'm going to get through the next 7 weeks n/mind thinking about baby actually arriving! And I though the two week wait was bad!!

Thanks yikes! Actually we've had to push the early scan back a week so ill be exactly 8 weeks when we have it done. Can't wait to hear baby's heartbeat! :) the early scan also tells us if we're having twins!!! I expect not but would be amazing to know this early if we were!!

Welcome lollywig! I am due 11th May but I'm pretty sure ill be overdue so I expect some of you 12 may-ers will beat me to it!!!

Good luck with your scan yikes! Bet you're excited! :)

Welcome lolly :)

I'm mentally drained been speaking to my parents and I just want everything to go back to normal they don't think I'd be able to give the baby away and they don't think I'd be able to raise it but I know I wouldn't be able to get rid of it! Need a good but at least things are civil and my parents have said they'll support me no matter what.... but they're not sure they'll ever want OH around again Not sure how that's going to work...

Awww moonin Just remember this is YOUR life and YOUR choice!!! We are all here for you whatever you choose sweetie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Midwife posted me an NHS Screening tests for you and your baby booklet this morning with a conformation of my 1 hour appointment with her on the 30th :) Feels official now!

Hi again,

Struggling to concentrate on work so figure a quick break is perfectly acceptable.

Thanks for the lovely welcome ladies. I have never won a 'race' of any kind in my life so I suspect I may be bringing up the rear baby-wise, if my performance at school sports day is anything to go by! (Every time I write/think about anything that far down the line re pregnancy/childbirth etc I am convinced I am jinxing the whole thing). Roll on 12 weeks!

Moomin, I would be struggling big-time in your position. I am sure you will come to the right decision for you, follow your instincts and try not to succumb to what others around you want you to do. Your parents sound like they will come round in the end if you decide you do want to keep the baby. I am new to all of this in every way but I do work in adoption... I feel a bit unsure as to how much I should say really but I have come across a few women of your/our generation who have 'relinquished' babies (adoption-speak, sorry). Of course it was much more common a few decades ago. I don't want to impose my opinions on you but I can't help but think that in both the long and short term this may be the most painful/harrowing of all three of the options you are considering. Others will disagree though. I hope I am not over-stepping the mark and I wish you luck, whatever happens xx

Well not looking good for me, HCG levels haven't moved on three days so it looks like it's ectopic. I'm lying with my feet in the styrups waiting for the dr to come back and finish the ultrasound. He can't find the coil or the sac .

In some ways I feel relieved but mostly disappointed .

Next step is an X-ray to try and find the sodding coil.

PFG that is exciting!

I rang my doctors the day after the BFP but was told no need for an appt there -fair fucks, I barely visit my GP anyway. So have an initial appt with midwife booked for 19th, couldn't fit anything in sooner due to hectic work schedule. But I got the impression that would be just a 15 min thing, I think it is followed up by something a bit more in-depth.

I am unsure about an early scan, hadn't really considered it... but had been thinking about doing the odd pg test once a week or so as am scared of having a mc without really knowing. Can this happen and do others continue to test (hopefully not obsessively) until the 12 week scan?

Viking, none of that sounds pleasant or easy to deal with - very sorry.
If it is ectopic you are in the right place.
Take care xx

I'm so sorry to hear that Viking, huge hugs and best wishes to you, take care xxx

Really sorry to hear that viking. Fx for you.

Lolly I hadn't even thought of that either then I started doing some research into early scans & it is called a missed miscarriage if it dies but stays in there :( I've been scaring myself with all these awful thoughts! An early scan will allow you to hear the heartbeat & check the pregnancy is viable.

Thanks for that Mrs. Feels like so much can go wrong...Stay positive all. Do you think if someone had a missed mc they would start getting negative preg tests? I guess hormones would change? Starting to wish I'd paid more attention in Biology... I am an ignoramus!

I will talk to DH about early scans tonight, although I know he'll be up for it if I want one. Poor boy is in for another evening of my gasps and yelps, my twinges seem to get worse later on in the day. It feels so weird! I have never so much as suffered with period pains! Think I may be in for a bit of a shock....

Hi Ladies,

Sorry to hear about some of your troubles. Fingers crossed we'll all have healthy babies next year.
I'm due beginning of May, and would classify as an older mum (38), first time pregnant, haven't told anyone (apart from a few shop assistants). First scan will be next week, at 8w. Can't wait.
Anyone in central London?
Take care

Oh viking I'm so sorry

So sorry Viking

Pixie sorry about your vomiting. It is awful. I have only had nausea so far and terrified of the vomiting starting. Hope you're feeling better now.

Welcome all newbies!

I'm keeping my name on the list for now. Today's exams were inconclusive, they can't rule anything out yet; ectopic, intrauterine, viable, non viable. It doesn't look good, but you never know, so I'm not giving up all hope just yet. More tests on Wednesday.