May 2014

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Ok, I can't see a May thread in here so I guess I will start one! According to the NHS due date calculator my EDD is actually 30th April but I think that makes me more likely to be having a May baby anyway!

Am feeling very tentative about starting this thread as I had a mc in June and it's very early days for this one but...anyone want to come and chat through these nerve-wracking first few days?

Hi impatiently fingers crossed it is all ok as should be the uterus stretching for the lil one. If you're still worried call the EPAU. Sorry , must be really unsettling.
I had a 5wk ish scan at my Ultrababy this morning. No fetal pole can be seen but we saw a gestational sac with mean size of 10.2mm and he said all look ok but asked if we wanted another scan to confirm for £30 as by next week should be able to see heartbea hopefullyt. He also wasn't able to tell me the exact gestational age even after transV scan and didn't give me a print out. But he said by next week if I come back then they will be able to.
Fingers crossed all ok by next week and positive thoughts to everyone xxx

Ally are you glad you went? Sounds like good news and if all looks ok that must be reassuring. I am hoping to go to EPAU Friday when I will be 7 weeks by my LMP and 6 based on average cycle. I don't want to go if I will only worry more and not have any answers Xx

Hi bugoven I think DH is glad to have gone but I guess this scan isn't telling us much and for extra 30quid he said defo go for a second scan to see heartbeat as that will be more reassuring. I guess if u can get it scanned at EPAU at 6wks*+ chances are you will see much better than we are and will be seen by qualified gp instead of just by sonographers. I don't know but personally I felt it was worth the while to put my mind at ease that these insomnia is indeed caused by the little bean. Hope that helps feel free to ask any questions if u have ill try to answer them if I can!! X

Last time I had a private scan at 6.5 weeks and saw a heartbeat. I think you are advised not go go much earlier as its so small and hard to locate there is not a lot to see so it can make you more anxious. But if your paying them they will take your money and scan even if they know you won't see anything and will pay to come back again.

Well I haven't had any more spotting today. Have a bit more energy but that might be because I've had a very relaxing weekend. Back at work tomorrow (teacher) and just been trying on work clothes but so bloated I look like an elephant in everything! Am seriously worried the scanner won't be able to detect anything through the thick layer of podge on my belly, assuming I get as far as a scan. Have a serious case of the Sunday night blues tonight...

Hope everyone else is well and congrats on a successful scan Ally!

Tell me about the bloat Jelly! I look about 4 months pregnant! I'm going to have to pick my clothes very carefully to avoid any questions. Do you think it will go down or is this us now?

I hope the spotting has stayed at bay for those of you suffering from it, fingers crossed for you. Glad to hear it has so far this weekend Jelly.

Good luck with sleeping for our insomniacs. Have you managed to rest over the weekend and catch up at all? I had some very vivid dreams last night, worryingly featuring Tom Cruise. I have to put this down to the film I watched before bed!

AllyPally the scan sounds encouraging to me however you didn't sound sure in your post? Are you glad you went?

I'm very pleased to report that MacBoobs are looking a little perkier . Other than than I am not experiencing many other symptoms and keep forgetting that I'm upduffed!

The 'return to work blues' have got you Jelly. Bad enough on a normal Sunday, grrrr to going back to work after a break!

cupcake I think it's here to stay! Doesn't help that I feel nauseous whenever I am not eating - so I just keep eating!

Ahh, thought of something, anyone else experiencing the annoying symptom of "forgetting words"?

MacCrackles I get that enough anyway - I can be very absent minded - but it's definitely got worse!

We told our families this weekend, they were over the moon! Now I have to work out how to tell my best friend. She's been ttc for four years, has been through several rounds of IUI with no joy and is currently preparing for her first IVF cycle, so I want to tell her before that starts as we'll be making the pregnancy public knowledge right when she's in the middle of it. I've heard e-mail is often a good method of sharing the news as it gives her a chance to take it in without having to put on a brave face for me, but as we rarely e-mail each other I think a phone call may be more appropriate, plus I would worry about her picking up the e-mail when she's out and about or on her break at work. I know she'll be really happy for me but at the same time it's going to be very hard for her. Any advice anyone has on this subject is much appreciated!

Tricky one Pixie. Email can seem impersonal however it does give the other person a chance to gather their thoughts and have a private weep/gulp/sigh as required. Text is perhaps similar if you don't email each other and you might be able to time it more specifically, however, feels a little not quite right. So maybe phone is best, especially if you speak on the phone often.

Pixie - I think a phone call would be best too. Perhaps try not to stay on for ages after you've told her, that way if she's upset but too polite/controlled to show it she can take some time to deal with it before you speak again.
Does she know that you've been TTC?

Mac I've had the forgetting words thing too. It's really annoying as I've been working all weekend which has involved running a few training sessions in front of a roomful of people.

Luckily though I managed to avoid anyone noticing I wasn't drinking at the work night out on Saturday. I think it helps that I'm normally a spirits drinker anyway so I could cunningly disguise a coke as a JD and coke. Well, nobody said anything and someone accused me of being hungover this morning (just suffering pregnancy insomnia tiredness...) so I think it worked!

Pixie I probably agree about phoning her, especially if you don't stay on the phone long once you've told her. Especially if there's a risk she'll get the email while at work.

Tonight has been so emotional! It started with me crying at the new Ariel advert(!?!?) and ended with me crying after having crossed words with my brother. I have warned everyone to prepare themselves for a hormonal mess for at least the next 9 months. Will reply properly tomorrow when my eyes are less sore. Spotting is minimal =)
5+2ish based on cycles etc. 6+2 Based on LMP

I figure if I phone my friend then I can make sure her husband is there as well for comfort and support. I think that's going to be the way to go. I'll give her a bell tomorrow evening I think.

She doesn't know we've been ttc. We didn't tell anyone at all and I was particularly wary about telling her in case it happened really quickly, which it has! Of course I'll tell her we were trying but I won't tell her how long it took. If she asks I'll be honest with her but it's going to be tough enough hearing that I'm pregnant without me telling her that it only took two months

Good plan. Yup, probably wise to avoid telling her how quickly it happened for you.
I feel weirdly guilty at getting pg with our one-hit-wonder (literally one cycle TTC, DTD once ) knowing how hard it can be for so many, and haven't shared that with friends who struggled in the past even. I feel like they'd prob want to slap me!

Been up since 4.30 with churning nausea. Great for my first day back at work! Can't help getting really worked up - I hate and fear vomiting so much I get into a real state about it which only makes it worse. I would have thought the amount of puking I did last pregnancy would mean I got used to it a bit but I'm still dreading starting to actually throw up. Just telling myself it's a good sign that things are going well and I'd rather this than spotting [wibble].

Pixie I really feel for you and your friend. It is so unfair that some people struggle so much and it's sad to feel that your joyful wonderful news may cause pain to someone else. I guess just be honest and let her have space if she needs it. Hopefully IVF will work out for her and you'll have babies close together!

Cat is glaring balefully at me as I'm up but cannot bring myself to open the catfood for him, even holding my breath. Poor kitty!

Poor you Jelly ! Have some ginger 'tea' hopefully that helps.
Pixie I completely understand you as I'm also struggling to tell my best friend who had a stillborn at 35wks. But if suggest communicate the usual way and if that's phone then do it but don't linger on the subject for too long i guess. Good luck!
Mac - thank you - I'm happy I went for the scan , I guess I was sounding unsure as the Sonographer asked to return for clearer idea of gestational age etc but I'm pleased it went well
Have a happy and positive start of the week girls xxx

I went for the far less healthy remedy of a glass of coke . Not very good for me (or baby) but I have now managed to feed the cat at least...

Well whatever works I guess! Hope you feel better soon!
Still not much symptoms other than a lil swollen bb and insomnia!
5+6

Hi everyone,

Can't believe it's Monday morning again! I spent most of my weekend sleeping.

I'm starting to get so hungry. I find that 3 hours between meals my stomach is rumbling, which is so unlike me. I've also started to feel a bit of mild nausea on a night time too.

Have most people on this thread told their parents! So far we've only told our 2 friends who we stayed with for 4 days. Was talking with DH about telling parents and sisters last night and he said we should wait for 12 weeks which seems like such a long time away! When did you all tell/plan to tell your parents/siblings?

5+3 today

I've found that I can't go long without food either but then I'm always a bit like that! This morning I'm starving but everything I put in my mouth makes me gag.
We've told my mum, my sister, my best friend and DH's best friend.
I think our plan is that after we've been for our private scan we'll tell my dad and DH dad and siblings, maybe grandparents too. Then everyone else after the 12 week scan. I find it so hard not to tell people though!

Hi May-Bies

I am sorry to not have better news this morning but unfortunately my blood test results from Friday show that I am not carrying a viable pregnancy and I have started to miscarry.
I have had a bit of a cry, told everyone I need to and am now looking forward to the next part of my journey as I have been told so many times how quickly a healthy pregnancy can happen afterwards. I am so lucky to have had those few days of excitement and there are some lovely ladies on here that have been a wonderful source of support. Wishing you all healthy, happy pregnancies.

bugoven xxx

Oh Bug! What awful, awful news. I can't tell you how much I admire your positive attitude though. You're absolutely right, there's amazing chance you'll fall quickly and go on to have a healthy pregnancy.
Make sure you take time to grieve and look after yourself. Please check in and let us know how you're getting on

Bugoven I'm so so sorry. It's I'd such awful news and like cupcake says please allow yourself time to grieve and look after yourself.

Thinking of you xxxxx