January 2014 - Thread 4 - Heading towards our Second Glowing Trimester...... Roll on 12 week scans, gorgeous bumps and baby buys...

[LittlePeaPod]

My god ladies we can talk! Thread 4 of 6000 at this rate.

Wow, didn't realise how long it has been since I posted on this thread. Sorry not had a chance to catch up with all of it but there is so much. Hope that everyone is doing well.

We had a little scare this week with some bleeding but I was very impressed with the doctor and they got me a scan the very next morning at the epu. They couldn't find any reason for the bleed but baby is growing well, moving around a lot and had a good heartbeat (so they said anyway I couldn't make out a thing!). Nice to know that my dates are bang on too so I'm now 10+6. So my proper first scan was supposed to be this Friday but has now been put back to 1st July which we're quite happy about as hopefully we'll be able to see the baby a bit better at that stage.

Discussed with my midwife about not being sent to the midwife led unit this time as it is over 30 mins away from the main hospital and I'm convinced it was this delay that resulted in my son being hospitalised at birth due to oxygen deprivation. She said it might happen again as bed space is in short supply still but apparently I can refuse and insist that the midwife attends to me at home until a bed becomes available. I feel so much better about this as I was really anxious about being forced to go back to the other unit. The only downside to refusing is that we might end up having a home birth but to be honest this would be far preferable to what happened last time as we only live 5 mins from the proper hospital. Fingers crossed everything goes ok this time.

Finally told my parents this weekend. I figured seeing as how I've had a scan now it should be safe to tell them. Mum was really happy but I'm not convinced that my dad is, if anything he seemed disappointed which was nice to see . I think it's because he has never liked my dp and probably wishes I'd have sacked him off by now. You'd think after more than 9 years together and another child he'd realise that that's not going to happen. So glad that he lives in Canada so I don't have to put up with his attitude all the time!

Thinking I will probably tell work this week too. My belly just seems to have 'popped' this weekend and I don't think I'm going to be able to hide it for much longer. One thing I'm grateful for is my boobs were already mahoosive so if they got any bigger (not that I think they have and I'm sure they didn't for ds1) I really don't think anyone would think anything of it! So, I'm gearing up to tell them all at our team meeting this week so that I can get them all told at the same time, don't know why I'm feeling so nervous about it.

Well, hope everyone has a good week

Well message on mw phone meant she dropped my notes in today and I'm to call hospital re scan tomorrow as edd is New Year's Day according to lmp.

Morning ladies

Hope you are all well. My thoughts with everyone till feeling pants. I have been up all night not well and now feel ill and exhausted.

MrsAVB hopefully it's a one off and you will go back to not been sick again.

MrsGSR I was a 32F and now a 32F and growing. I am struggling to find comfy bras.

Enormous & Enjoying thanks. Really excited. Sounds like you get lots of one to one support in your own home and you have the same MW all the way through. You also keep the MW via your surgery. Will keep everyone posted with how it goes.

Frizz really pleased to hear the news about your sister.

Chocco sorry to hear you still feel pants too. Hopefully we will come out of it soon.

Flowers I would definitely call your surgery or MW regarding appointment. My MW said minimum you should be booked in by 8 weeks.

Good luck to everyone due scans this week

I wanted to post this separately as it may be a little controversial. Something is really bothering me and I am feeling really guilty about it. Please ladies I really need you to tell me if I am been overly sensitive. if i am please slap me with a wet fish and tell me to grow a pair!

I noticed we have removed the stats for the ladies that recently lost their little ones which we have not done on earlier threads. I remember when I mc in Feb (this year) I was on the Oct 2013 thread. I remember hovering on the thread for weeks after and I really appreciated that they had kept my stats on. I have never forgotten that because it meant so much to me and I will never forget my EDD (23 Oct). I still go back and say hi and see how they are all getting on. I feel guilty that by removing their stats we are almost wiping the memories of their little ones. I know from experience that one of the most painful aspects (outside the lose) of a mc is the fact some people move on almost like your baby didn't exsist and expect you to just move on to. Really sorry for this post and I really do not want to offend but it's really bothering me and I am feeling really guilty.

Am I been overly sensitive and should I be growing a pair of balls over this?

Morning pod

No, I don't think you're being oversensitive but unlike you I was too chicken to say anything! Thanks for speaking up.

As far as I can see no one has been removed. I remember at least one person (sorry, can't remember who!) removed themselves but at the last update sunnysentiments, missmakes, blondbaby, donttrythisathome are all still on there. Sorry to all those I forgot.

I think it would be a good idea to include some sort of indication/commemoration of losses especially as the due dates get closer. The worst thing that could happen is someone going to the stats thread to see who we haven't heard from in a while and asking them how the pregnancy is going. Not necessarily likely but still to be avoided at all costs. Would putting flowers after those who have suffered losses be a good idea or just offensive?

Thanks [altered]. I agree, I think your flower idea would be a really lovely thought... Thank you..

Nit posted much recently, but been hovering.
I think the flower thing for those who have lost their LO is a good idea....

If it were me, I think I'd rather be taken off the list. It's difficult to know what is the right thing to do.

I think I'd rather be off too. It's tricky

I think I'm the same as you toby, although I wasn't on threads like these either time I mc'd. But maybe I would have taken myself off - maybe that's what people have done if they want to be off. Flowers is a lovely idea but at this stage it'd be difficult not to miss anyone, and that might be upsetting too. . Maybe we are over thinking!
alex that sounds stressful, but at least it seems like your midwife understands.
Is anyone else noticing that they are slower? I missed my train this morning (actually more its fault that's mine, as its been at least 2 mins late every day for over a year, and today it was on time). If I am slower now, how slow will I be further along!
Have a good day y'all
X

Morning all,

Gosh I just feel dreadful about the stats list.

When I was updating the list, I noticed that one or two people had removed their names themselves due to suffering a miscarriage. I only removed cosmic from the list. If anyone else is missing off the list, it really was a genuine mistake and I didn't do on purpose.
Brownies Promise I was just following the lead set further up the thread by the other members.

I really didn't mean to make anyone upset or unsettled. And I'm glad that you have brought it up.

I think posting the flowers next to there stats is a really lovely idea.

Apologies all,

Xx

it is very tricky, and I think that a couple of people who removed themselves were added back in, so thanks farmers for spotting and respecting their wishes.

Maybe flowers unless people choose to remove themselves would be the best idea?

alex your MW seems great. Maybe if you plan a homebirth, with a view to transferring if you need to, you can have all the kit at home, access to G&A etc? You might not need it at all if there's a bed, but at least you wouldn't be worrying.

I have massively over thought the stats list, I can feel myself getting quite sensitive / upset about it.

At this early stage in all our pregnancies, the stats list is going to change quite a bit from adjusted EDD due to scans or sadly from mc. With so many of us, mistakes etc are bound to happen from time to time.

Gosh I'm feeling incredibly hormonal today...anyone else?

Hi all. When I suffered mc's in the past I removed myself from the list but that was just my choice. I didn't want to see my name there along with everyone else who was having their babies & I wasn't. I do like the idea of including them (if that's what they want) but like someone else said making it clear that they suffered a loss. We don't want anyone accidently asking them about their pregnancy or anything like that. Everyone has different feelings soplease no one feel guilty or bad about it. Just shows u care xx
In other news... Have vommed already this morning after having a tiny bit of toast. Have now got to go & collect 6 billion avon books which fills me with the deepest joy. Then have work at 1pm. 2 weeks to my scan, countdown is on x

Hi all, just been hovering for a while - so tired!

Farmersdaughter hormonal is the mood of the moment for me - found myself crying at a pampers advert last night much to dh's amusement! Plus feeling very sensitive indeed not a good combination with a 14 year old daughter! you don't need to worry about anything, you have done a good job with the stats list

With reference to bras - I went to Debenhams on Friday having gone up 3 sizes to a 38G! and bought 2 maternity bras for £20, which are soooooooo comfy, the assistant in there was really helpful.

Hi everyone. Not posted much over the last week but will explain below.

Firstly just wanted to say enormouse congrats.

To all of you struggling with bras, I found normal sports bras/tops replaced bras when I got huge in the past. Think I might go for that again.

mrsGSR I just completed m BA (hons) last year in History with OU. Loved in but it was a big relief.

Ok so I have my scan tomorrow. Last scan showed pregnancy not progressing well and this is the big will it be Ok or not.

I am really struggling with this. This was an unplanned (but not unwanted) pregnancy but Dh and I already know that we will not try again if this LO does not make it.

4athome just wanted to send you hugs and wish you all the best for tomorrow. Whatever happens I hope dh and you look after each other and there's no rush to decide about future pregnancies yet even if you have a gut instinct about it. Good luck!

4athome fx everything is perfect at you're scan tomorrow!

I hadn't thought of Debenhams, will have a look on their website. I have a sports bra (that might now be too small) that I left at my parents last time I stayed there so I'll pick it up Friday and see if that helps! Its from m&s and really comfy, went in Saturday and they didn't have the same so tried on another but hated it. Stupid boobs.

I think the flowers is a lovely idea, but we would have to make sure no one was missed out.

farmers please don't feel bad about the list! Keeping it up to date is a mammoth job anyway and we are all grateful! X

4athome, best of luck for tomorrow.

farmers, please try not to worry about the list. There's no way to do the right thing for everyone.

I feel awful today. Sick and utterly wiped out.

Does anyone have any bets on when they are actually going to go into labour? I have a feeling little one will be born on the 19th (4 days late by lmp) which will be exactly a year since mum died. In a way it will be nice to make the day into a positive day :)

MrsGSR I don't mind (assuming all's well, that is) when it is, but we'll be in Northumberland over Christmas and New Year so it has to wait until we're back home - any time after January 5th would be fine .

I'm still in my normal bras, must get around to buying some new ones. My boobs haven't really grown much, other than feeling a bit fuller, so they sort of still fit. I'm a bit of a weird size though, and I suspect non wired bras in a 28 or 30 inch back will mainly be found in the teen section. I'm not doing that.

Flowers, so sorry that your helpfulness has ended up making you feel bad - there's no right or wrong way.

Enjoy the afternoon everyone! I ate my entire lunch by 11:45, so am sitting here starving. This is why I don't usually bring a packed lunch.

4athome hope all ok tomorrow - thinking of you

Toby hope you feel a bit better soon. x

MrsGSR I had my DD on Christmas day and have a horrible feeling my dates are out and that this one will be another Christmas baby!

4athome thinking of you and really hope all goes well for you tomorrow
farmers as has been said there's no right for everyone and I for one am really glad that I don't have to update the stats; I love you for doing it!
I've found out my scan will be 3rd July, when I'm actually 13+4, so a wee while to wait yet. I'm not sure about telling people, I was feeling really paranoid about MMC but I have now heard these are really rare after a heartbeat has been detected, I had a scan at 8+4 which showed a normal developing fetus and a heartbeat. I've told by boss at work but she is now keen for me to let her go public as she feels my going on mat leave will impact on how they want to manage a reduction in a co-workers hours. I'm also really keen to tell my family and wider social circle, a lot of whom I am avoiding due to the fact that me on soft drinks is equivalent to a neon sign saying "I'm pg" .
Good to hear all the tips on bras, I'm not very big anyway, but for the last few weeks all mine have been digging into me or just too small, I don't have much of a bump as of yet but again I am really petite and I have been really bloated, much to dh's amusement.
Cant believe I'll be 12wks on Sunday; hoping I literally wake up with all the exhaustion gone.