Due August 2013 - Part 5 - The Final Stretch - We're nearly there duebies!!

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Welcome to the thread in which we will meet our babies - woooooooooop!!

Previous thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1709005-August-2013-Part-4-Half-way-there-already?msgid=39205443

34 weeks today! And I celebrated this latest milestone with another early morning vomiting session Still, I am not needing to wee all the time, have no PGP, no back ache, and no restless legs. Determined to play the Pollyanna game for the next few weeks.

On Sunday I am going to a Wise Woman workshop on preparing for birth, then hoping to attend some NCT relax stretch and breathe classes for the following few weeks. All depends on whether I can get a babysitter, but I'd like to do something that helps me feel a little more prepared for the birth.

Off to find out about maintenance applications and child contact issues this morning with a support worker. I am very anxious about how stbexh will be immediately after the birth, and would like to alleviate that by having as much as possible organised. I am also having a dilemma about whether he should be on my "baby's arrived" text message list. I've not spoken to him since 10 May, and other than 2 emails re income tax letters, there has been no contact at all.

Good luck to those still buggy-hunting. I have a second hand bargain (£40 for a rock star baby system) which I am more than happy with. Very glad, given the situation with ex, and my redundancy, that I stuck to my guns and went the second hand route.

Sounds like a good plan waves. I feel completely unprepared for the birth and as much as I have searched I cannot find any classes etc that cover the areas I want to know and are affordable.

If I feel up to it on Friday I am going to try nd go to aqua-natal but the class is 7 miles away cos my local sports centre (for the biggest town for 20 miles) no longer does it. Am pretty pissed off tbh as the place I have to go is in a really rough village with no parking facilities and the thought of walking around somewherei don't really know sets my anxiety off grrr

Waves do all nct branches do stretch and breathe classes? I'd be interested in them. Also what's the woman thing your going to? Tell me more.

We start nct antenatal tomorrow evening. Dh is only coming as there is a shared lunch half way through the course.

I'm on sick now for sickness and pgp and spd. My mat leave will automatically start at 36 weeks.

29 + 4

is it safe to go cycling at 31 weeks pg girls?

I think the nct course offering depends on the qualifications of the tutors. Really hoping I make it to the classes though. The wise woman workshop is all about "birthing from within". I think it is mostly physical, with the focus on practise contractions, positioning and breathing, but we also think about the "naturalness" of labour as opposed to q and a to do with what ifs, technicalities etc. I understand that we will be making "labyrinth" pictures, and then at the end of the session we have fruit teas and biscuits and chat about previous birth experiences. It is scheduled to tie in with the full moon, and we've asked to go along with "open minds", a couple of firm pillows, a blanket and a yoga/exercise mat.

My ML has now officially started, confirmed by a letter today from the benefits office. I went to the supermarkets (I go to several to get the best deals ) so tomorrow am hoping to batch cook and freeze mountains of food. Veggie chilli, soups, fish pies, chicken stew and shepherd's pies I think is what my plan is. May need to enlist help though as the sickness is still pretty bad, and smells are awful even WITH the nose clip in use.

Blimmin rib pain is back. Little monkey must have wriggled back up out of my pelvis. Ouch.

Hope the batch cooking goes well waves. I've got a head under the ribs too, hope it doesn't make your sickness worse. Did you get the answers you needed on maintenance/contact?

Feed back on your classes, they sound interesting. We're doing the NHS ones and a BabyNatal Practical Parenting one as well. DM thinks its hilarious but if it gives us even the smallest bit of confidence when baby arrives, it's worth it!

babyh, everything I've read said that there's no reason why you can't cycle late in pregnancy but obviously you're more likely to be off balance/uncomfortable in the saddle & there's always the danger you'll fall off & either go onto handlebars or onto bump, I wouldn't risk it!

Hurrah for maternity leave waves! Good luck on your major batch cooking, I've not been able to stand the smell of onions since getting pg so we've been having quite bland food here.
Wise woman workshop sounds really interesting, hope you manage to go.

Woofers, hope your nct class goes well (and the lunch is worth DH's time!).
Sorry to hear you're having a tough time of it with pgp/spd.

Going to try & buy a Tens machine this week, keep on being sniped on eBay so may have to bite the bullet & buy new!

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Gary I am not planning on going far and definitely not alone, but need to feel more active as I am starting to get severe cabin fever!! The park nr me is very flat and has well laid paths so hopefully I will be ok for a few short rides with the dog in tow.

As for a tens machine, talk to your mw and find out if the loan them out as one of our local physio depts. lends them for a small fee - £10/15 I think. If you have a large Boots store locally to you talk to them as they also loan them out. HTH

I'm going for a cycle now. Getting on the thing is difficult due to PGP but going along the flat is fine. Uphill harder work. Walking hurts for me but cycling and swimming both still great.

christelle thanks, will give it a whirl.

My hormones are all over the place this week and combined with my anxiety I am a mess. Spent last.night in floods and poor dp is no help . He is so logical.in his approach to things he just isn't capable of understanding and I can't explain why I feel the way I do. Is anyone else w complete wreck?

BabyH I'd love to go for a bike ride right now. Only two small problems - 1) childcare for DD and 2) I don't have a bike. Could really do with some time alone with my thoughts right now. I really miss "alone time". MIL is having DD for a few hours tomorrow though, so I should get some then.

Am not doing too bad with the emotions, but I am physically exhausted. Even by the time I get to the top of the stairs I feel like my legs just can't carry me any further, it's like my muscles and bones are tired. I'm taking pregnacare vitamins and eating plenty of fruit and veg (and cake), not sure what else I can do really.

33+3 and starting to feel really unprepared mentally. Logically, I KNOW there is a baby coming, I KNOW it's going to be tiring, etc etc, but it's as if the reality of it hasn't sunk in, and it's going to be a massive shock to the system when baby arrives.

mrspenny I know that feeling all too well...She is kicking like hell, so I know I am pregnant, and I know at nearly 32 weeks there isn't much longer to go and I know that once she is here all the silly things I am stressing about will be null and void but like you I cannot get my head around it all. I still think I am going to wake up and realise its all a dream.

My biggest issue is the not knowing what is going to happen. I have researched a lot and due to an allergy to codeine I am going to struggle with a lot of the pain med options and until I see the anaesthetist in mid July I won't know what my options are which is really scary as am fully aware that basically she could come at any time from now on if she feels like it and could decide she has had enough before I see him and then I am stuffed cos no one will know and it will all be a panic and my anxiety can't cope with that idea Because I don't know I can have I can't make any choices or options about the type of birth although it will be consultant led. My asthma is bad so I am not sure if entenox will be allowed which means I could be looking at a c section which scares the crap out of me - although at least I will know exactly the date she will be here.

My wonderful DP is logical in the extreme, his answer is 'but you know nothing more can be decided til you see the anaesthetist so why worry, once you have seen him you will know' but my anxiety just can't deal with that unknown element for the next 4 weeks. On top of the hormones my anxiety is causing me to be bursting into tears at stupid times and for stupid reasons, or I am losing my rag for no reason.

DSS and DSD were here last night and pratting about over eating their tea, I wanted to just lock myself away and ignore them cos I just couldn't cope with it all but as DP was due at work I couldn't. I feel awful that I just wanted them to go away especially as DSD (7) has text me this morning to tell me that se really misses me when she isn't with us - I could have cried again.

I truly feel like I am losing the plot!

Y'see BabyH you have valid concerns, for genuine reasons, so you're completely justified in stressing. Bloody logical people, they're no help at all are they? Dh is the same, it drives me crazy. He doesn't mean to be unsupportive, he just thinks if you can't do anything about it there's no point worrying.

I, on the other hand, have already done it once, so theoretically this time should be easier. I'm just worried about managing with a toddler and a newborn, I just don't know how I'll do it. Those hours until DH gets home at night terrify me.

Bless them! DP is trying so hard but he just doesn't get it at all and I don't know how to explain it cos I just end up in tears and feeling got at which I know he feels awful about. He has actually booked some time off work this weekend so we can have some 'us time' to try and cheer me up which is lovely.

I can totally understand your worries, it scares me thinking about the weekends he works and I will have a newborn and his 2 kids to deal with. I think gp's will be well utilised til I find my feet!

Hi all. Sorry to those who have anxieties. Being pregnant makes a person anxious enough but when other issues come into play it can be really stressful.

Well, just back from my growth scan. Baby still on 97th centile and today chose to be transverse! My fluid (which they were previously excited about) is now within normal range.

Now have a date for my c-section! Consent forms done and everything! This has suddenly become really very real! I'm delighted that my maternity leave begins tomorrow!

34+0

Hi all, welcome newbies! Have had pre baby panic and now have pram/car seat etc so just a few bits to get now including a mattress for my co sleeper crib (2nd hand bargain). Not a memory foam or hollow structure one (does that mean sprung?). Any recommendations?

Feeling well, been so lucky to date, just getting very tired and irritable after a day at work so am going to need to slow down and reduce the stress for the next 5 weeks before AL then ML starts.

Gutted that boobie stretch mark has a matching friend now, guess its inevitable no matter how much cream/lotion/oil/potion is applied

Warning.....self indulgent moan coming up.....bit cross with myself for being miffed with (adult) DSS who has needed yet another £ bailout running into more than a few hundred for his own family & DSGS. We both work FT and are saving hard so I can have 9 months off as I only get 18 wks paid ML & SMP is not going to keep a roof over our heads. Seems life's necessities are different for each generation, no 46'' TV, Sky, iPad, Xbox or PlayStation in this house! I don't want to be miserly but can't help feeling anxious about our own finances when he is being bailed out again.

cake not unreasonable at all, I would be pretty pissed off too. But I guess you never stop wanting to help ur kids out however old they get.

babyh absolutely, I just wonder if it will ever stop and wish more thought would go into what they spend their money on. They thought we lived in abject poverty on their last visit due to no Sky etc and couldn't grasp why we choose not to spend more extravagantly on cars etc when we both have, what they consider good incomes. For example they both have new iPhone 5's with huge monthly contracts, just the tip of the iceberg, but have no money for the absolute essentials this month.

Hi everyone. Thought I'd update you on my adventures. Waters broke on Tuesday. Been kept in for 2 days and bean staying put for now so have now been discharged.

Now have to play the waiting game and pray bean doesn't want to come out. Very scary times. Am now 33weeks. Every day it stays put is a blessing. Really praying it stays for as long as possible. Lots of positive vibes please.

Now on effective bed (telly) rest till the end whenever that is.

Hi everyone. Thought I'd update you on my adventures. Waters broke on Tuesday. Been kept in for 2 days and bean staying put for now so have now been discharged.

Now have to play the waiting game and pray bean doesn't want to come out. Very scary times. Am now 33weeks. Every day it stays put is a blessing. Really praying it stays for as long as possible. Lots of positive vibes please.

Now on effective bed (telly) rest till the end whenever that is.

Oooh stiggle Scary times for you. Glad your home on tele rest. Make sure you change your position every now and again to make sure you give babe best chance at best position.
Do you need some tv series recommendations? What kinds of things do you like? I really enjoyed the bletchly circle and bomb girls dramas. And I'm partial to a bit of Scandinavian drama - the killing. Borgen. Arne dhal.

stiggley wow, hope you're all ok, that really IS an adventure! Everything crossed for you so much I'm in a tangle! Hope hospital was ok as it could be for you. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way, sure it's the last thing on your mind, but keep us posted if you can & want to!

stiggley hope bean stays put as long as possible xxx

Good luck stiggley