November 2012 - please form an orderly queue

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1602708-November-2012-its-here-at-last-were-ready-for-you-babies

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

Thanks Lilliana the hospital midwife said they weren't concerned since I was having breaks between contractions whereas if I was bleeding the contractions would be continuous. The last four were all over a minute but the gaps between were 6, 6, 2.5, and 6 minutes so I don't know what to make of that at all. The pain is definitely ramping up now so it looks like today could be a good day for miniStunt to arrive.

stunt!! You're next I just know it, good luck to you today :)

Good luck to everyone with good signs, and fingers majorly crossed for Swiss

I've been contemplating middle names today, dh is being an arse and won't discuss it. He is moody coz he's tired, guess who nearly had a punch in the face last night because he was snoring while I was breastfeeding!? He even told his mum he was tired after watching me birth our daughter!!? Men???? Good job he has some redeeming features.

Good luck kissy and stunt, forgive flying visit, really chuckling at sat nav detective - welcome on Dec thread we've been getting in a terrible pickle about which food stuffs should be shoved in the fango compared to down the gullet

Good to know I may not have a ring of fire (stunt?) - first (late) massage attempts last night noticed if I pushed down there was no ring of fire.

clarella - interested to hear re the massage! I've done sweet FA on that front. Suddenly thought in the bath last night that I should have a go but can't really get my hands in the appropriate places . Think I must have really short arms!

I'm not sure I can be bothered to try again! Lamely sticking the odd ep capsule up there but let's face it a million years of women never had boots 3 for two vitamin offers.

Our nct lady who is also a doula tried to perform a sweep on herself but found her arms too short- everyone was a bit but she did point out it belongs to her so why not!

They really can be muppets can't they Iheartpasties! DH told me he found his ex's labours with my DSSs "boring" I bet she was having a whale of a time

I told him I found that view really unsupportive and would expect more from him. I'm fairly confident that it was illustrative of a poor relationship (not that this really excuses it) as part of our hypnobirthing homework was discussing what has formed our views of childbirth and he felt sidelined in the past and as though he couldn't do anything. This time around he has a clear role to play and check lists

clarella - sorry if being thick but are you sticking vitamins up your foof.....?! Have I missed something else I should be doing?!

Oooh sounds promising stunt

I feel like turd today. Struggled to sleep last night, felt achey and fluey. Ended up watcing tv, then had a bath 2am-3am then cleaned the kitchen and bathroom then went back to watching tv. Managed to fall asleep about 6am and woke up at 9am with awful hip pain. Managed to get a bit more sleep but not tremendous.
My hips are killing today.

I'm thinking I may as well go to the Twilight midnight showing tonight as I'll probably be up watching tv anyway. My sisters going but DH doesn't fancy it, don't know whether to drive and meet my sister there but that leaves DH carless if I go in to labour at the cinema. Although that's highly unlikely.

Shiny - apparently evening primrose oil has prostaglanins - that helps thin cervix, but, as i say, no boots in the past and google only bin about for 15 years

and fatima, id go to cinema if i were you. Could dh get taxi to cinema in the unlikely event? Not seen any of those films but as a buffy fan im sure id like them

Oooooh - really?! Am wondering if I should give this a try. Not sure how I'll get them up far enough. Might have to ask DH to help poor sod!

Slightly worried that I've been a bit remiss re the old perinanal massage so might have to get some "assistance" there too.

Also just realised that I've hardly done any pelvic floor exercises either do frantically starting now.....I'm doooooomed, amn't I

Clarella - He could do. At that time of night it'd be a 10 minute drive from the cinema back home so if I start getting contractions I could just drive home. I doubt with it being a first pregnancy that i'd suddenly go in to ramped up labour that requires me at the hospital within minutes.

I've just ordered some dresses from Next for the funeral on Monday, I've ordered them for next day store collection at a store a bit further away from us but that has a Mamas and Papas next door so I can look for a nursing dress at the same time. Just text DH to see if we can drive over tomorrow afternoon and he doesn't fancy it I've been stuck in the house all week so I want to get out and do something even if it is only to the shop. Bloody bore. Looks like i'll have to go alone

I've found the one spot in the hospital with 3G so may not be able to update for a while. Only 2cm dilated despite contractions every 2.5 minutes and cervix is waaaay back and baby's head isn't engaged. So I'm walking the hospital corridors having mild contractions and probably in for the long haul. They won't send me home because I'm bleeding and apparently my waters have already gone - don't know how I missed that! Don't know what to think about the bleeding as in the movies pregnancy bleeding always means disaster but they don't seem too concerned as baby's heart rate is good.

Sorry - weird random poster alert!!! I am not pregnant but I have read this thread as this time last year it was me in the same position and it makes me all nostalgic reading this as I keep getting blasted back to this time last year! Anyway, now I've outed myself as a bit of a weirdo I wanted to say to shiny black grape (only reason for admitting I am lurking ) that I was induced at Wythenshawe and have to say that they were fantastic. Only complaint was that it took me forever to be 'next in the line' to have my waters broke but everything aside from that was brilliant - midwives amazing and they really listened to me during my labour too. Just wanted to give you a positive story to take into account re Wythenshawe.
Congrats and god luck to all the posters who are supposed be on here.....!

fatima - I would deffo go to the cinema. We've been 3 times in the last two weeks!

Daiso - thank you so much for the post. That's great to hear! It's always nice to hear good stories.

We're friends with an anaesthetist who works there (not obstetric) and I know they are taking steps to address the pain relief issue too. So that's good too. I don't want to ask him too much though as know it's annoying when people ask about your work out of hours and it feels like you need to justify working practices so really good to hear from someone who's gone through it. To be fair, he was very open about it as an issue and it has been recognised as such.

I'm so fucking angry I could burst. I really hate DfuckingP right now. He's a tosser of the highest order.

I had an appointment at 1030 this morning for monitoring as I don't want IOL. I asked him to come, woke him up at 8.30 this morning. I went on the school run, he was still asleep when I got home. Woke him back up, he said he was getting up. This was at 9.15. I came back downstairs at 9.40 to get something, and he was still fucking asleep on the sofa. We had to leave at 10. He said he could get ready in time - that's not the fucking point. He clearly didn't give a shit that I was stressed about the appointment, and wanted someone there to support me. I can't believe he just cared so fucking little.

Ended up going on my own, because even though he got ready, I didn't want him there by now, wasn't going to talk to him, and he didn't bother apologising, instead telling me to fuck off being annoyed with him.

I'm home now, and came straight upstairs, and am on the bed. He hasn't bothered his arse to find out if everything is okay or not. I'd just like to curl up and cry to be quiet honest.

Oh, and I have a magical fucking disappearing cervix to go with it. 4 VE's, all different findings. What the fuck are they feeling in there? Coz today my cervix was massively posterior, and barely reachable again. She just about managed to do a sweep, but it is very unfavourable. Fucking brilliant. I was on the CTG for 2 hours, because everytime the baby moved, it decelerated. Now I'm worried, and stressed, and labour just isn't going to happen, is it? I should just give this up as a bad job.

Oh, and the midwife found something on my cervix that felt like a nut apparently. Excellent. I was already on 6 monthly smears before being pregnant. Now I'm going to worry until I get my next one, and convince myself something terrible is wrong. I also think that whatever she felt means my cervix isn't going to cooperate with labour.

Off to strop sulk. Battery on laptop is almost dead, and I'll be damned if I'm going in the living room to get it.

Oooh stunt good luck with everything, maybe your contractions are so close because your cervix is so far back iyswim, and your body is really working on it! All the best anyway, I hope you're not in for too long.

Thanks for all crossing of fingers, had a bit of a cry earlier as I'm feeling pretty fed up and also huge, none of my clothes fit any more and I'm just a big fat waddling time bomb, it's no fun. I just want to have my baby now and move on from this horrible limbo!

Daiso - sorry but nosy question. When were you induced? Did you go post 40+10? I'm happy to discuss with the consultant but would be up for waiting another few days after with expectant management if all ok with me and baby. Wondered if you had done anything similar?

All the very best stuntnun x

Shiny - i wouldnt worry - my mw told me its not proven to work (massage) and i just read (and someone mentioned to me) that prostaglanins are better absorbed thru gut anyway. It just makes the actual attempt to try a massage a little easier. Only reason im bothering is this mws claims to be v good at successful sweeps which translates as vigorous in my book (plus her hand were huge) its more mental prep for me! There was research on eating dates though we were told at nct and i found tye paper online - not a massive number of women involved but did have results which warrant a randomised trial. apparently a tradition in many parts of the world. plus I'm a greedy pig who will find any excuse to eat 70% dark chocolate and dried fruits

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That's nice of you to post daiso! My mum blames her very stressful job of factfinding social worker sorting out that hospitals child protection policies in the 70's for my early birth - plus trying to drive a renault 4 over snake pass in a blizzard.

Xpost detective, massive hugs for you. So sorry you've had such a shit day :( your DP needs a slap, he should be supporting you. Stress is the worst thing for any of us right now! When will you be going in again for more monitoring/another examination?
Do you have any idea what your next step will be?
I really hope all is ok in the end x

Oh dear detective I'm cross at him for you

I am a first timer with no medical training but know a lot about being stressed! Try and relax the best you can and save the worry about what she felt till afterwards (there will be an afterwards) - did they gave advice on how to help/ next steps etc? Can a cervix move back cos you're a bit tense? Like being wound up can cause constipation?

detective you have every right to be pissed off. Your DP is being a complete twunt. I would write down everything that happened today, give it to him and then go out. If that doesn't make him realise what a dick he has been then kicking him out for a few hours will.

You know what you want. Don't let today put you off. Keep up with the monitoring and take it day by day.