November 2012 - please form an orderly queue

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1602708-November-2012-its-here-at-last-were-ready-for-you-babies

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

Prob just me being a right tit, but whats IOL, ROL etc? Seen it loads through the thread but cant for the life of me work the fucking things out

Detective Sorry about your DP, hugs and for you

stunt - very sorry. I entirely missed your post. Fingers crossed that things speed up soon. I'll keep checking on here and hope to see some good news very soon.

detective - sorry to hear re today . That woukd have oissed me right off too. Hope you can make up soon once DP realises he has been a twatbadger. Don't get cut off though - go and get the battery!

Also - v sorry to hear re the nut thing. I know at the hospital I'm going to they might allow one go of inducing with a gel (I think?) and you can go the MLU as you don't need constant monitoring. I know it's not the same as a homebirth per se but would you be allowed to do something similar? By that, I mean could you go to the hospital for a go of the gel and if it started to work, go home? Not sure at all how that works so could be a totally daft suggestion. I know if it's a drip it needs to be on the ward etc and that's fair enough but at least there might be this gel option. Someone at the NCT class also said there is some kind of induction like a tampon where people can go home too - again, might be confused but wondered if it would work?

clarella - thank you! Agree re your post re stress. We've done hypnobirthing and the lady who trained us said adrenaline/stress hormones are entirely contrary to labour and stop oxytocin being produced. Also, the flight or fight response means blood is being diverted from your uterus. Easier said than done to remain calm though, I know!

Detective - not sure if your a hypnobirthing too but can you at least have a lie down and listen to your cd. If not, even bp just some relaxing music? Alternatively, take brockle's advice - the law of sod means you are guaranteed to give birth on the pavement if you walk far enough from the house!

Detective so sorry about your cr*p day, you poor thing. I agree with just trying to do some relaxing with the hypnobirthing CD. There's all sorts that the cervix object could be. Is it the case anyway that some (harmless) things are just more likely to grow in pregnancy, like skin tags? I've got all sorts of new appendages!

I think the men are just behaving appallingly while they still have their 'freedom'. I've got a pregnant friend whose DH has just taken up a very messy, time-consuming hobby, which stops him helping with childcare for the DC they have, 'to help him get his head around her pregnancy' - the pregnancy that they planned and she's suffering with. You deserve a massive apology, hope he realises this!

georgee - I am poppy-eyed at your friend's DH !

Can you say what the messy hobby is though or woukd that out him?! My mind is boggling

I really don't know how he'd cope if DH had to do all of his own thinking!

I got a call from his ex to say DSS1 was ill and as she was at a conference could DH pick him up. Her messages to DH finally get through whilst I'm on the phone to him at which point I tell him to go via the school to pick up DSS1 on his way to pick me up for the midwife appointment. He says he's turning around. I remind him to call his ex and tell her it's sorted.

At the GPs surgery he casually says "you're ok me not coming in this time?" Um no, I asked him to come to this appointment because I want his support in discussing sweeps and inductions. Part of being a father is balancing all of the children and not just the one on your knee. No reason DSS1 can't come in and anyway he likes listening to the baby's heartbeat!

I then tell DH I'd like him to wait with DSS1 in the car while I vote and that he can vote on his way to pick up DSS2. I fold laundry while he fixes the printer then point out that no DSS1 can't watch Ceebeebies because I need to work (couldn't earlier due to broken printer) and that since he has the afternoon off now he can spend time with him.

Because crucially DSS1 ISN'T EVEN ILL!!! The child gets worked up over stuff, throws up, leaves school and after endless coaxing tells us what has been bothering him. Ergo because he blatantly isn't really ill what he needs is for his dad to get him to open up about whatever is upsetting him not Ceebeebies.

DH is now looking a bit harassed and has already forgotten to get the stuff from the printer to save me getting up again. I completely fail to see what was so difficult about all this.

Sorry, that rant was a bit epic

In other news the baby is no longer engaged. Have I coughed him out?

Shiny - it involves fixing engines in the living room I believe ...

Waiting - grrr, sympathies to you too. There's obviously something in the air today with the men!!

Waiting Jonas disengaged himself two days before I went into labour - just saying

I growled at him when he came downstairs. Apparently it's difficult doing two things at once... to the heavily pregnant woman surrounded by print-outs for a client project despite being ill.

You think dear?

I honestly think he fails to see what he's just said. Oh and he has now left to pick up DSS2 from school so I'm also responsible for DSS1 while I try to meet my deadline. Still, at least the child isn't actually ill.

Ta for that YW. I'll make sure I completely finish and invoice for this project tonight!

georgee - aaaah! For some reason I thought it was paint balling! But engines in the house are even worse!

Thanks for the notice Yw re engagement. My baby is only 1/5 engaged so thought inwould deffo be overdue. Had been looking forward to lots of Real Housewives of New York in blissful peace and quiet but now I'm feeling scared..... !

Detective Un-mumsnetty hugs! I'm cross at your DP for you. He needs to get his arse in to gear pronto
Waiting Sorry about your DH being useless as well.

I have the joy of DH being at work so no annoyingness from him, but then he makes up for it at night when I'm trying to sleep. He is the worlds noisiest and fidgety sleeper this week

My friend came over about 2pm and we sat for 2.5hours having a good gossip and catch up. I've got a Chicken and Chorizo Spanish Stew simmering and smelling yummy and then a cinema trip to look forward to.
After my friend left I realised I hadn't eaten anything apart from cornflakes at 12, I was feeling a bit shakey and in need of sugar so I've scoffed a double decker, a strawberry shortcake yoghurt and a bowl of Neapolitan ice cream

Sorry about your shitty day detective I do hope all is well and you get your lovely home birth and your cervix is ok. I am horrified she would tell you such a thing at this time. Surely it could have waited, but I guess as you hold your notes you would be more worried to read it, and do have a right to know. The MW the other day did not mention it, so try to put it to the back of your mind for a while, and concentrate on chilling in preparation for your lovely birth experience. Big to you, and big kick up your DHs arse!

Wow! Iheartpasties brave gent to complain at being tired after watching you give birth

Been having irregular contractions since this afternoon, had a bath with DD1, DH put my Tens on at about 4.30ish. Midwife is on her way to come and check me out. They're getting a bit more regular now. But the Tens is great! Hoping for a baby today or tomorrow...
Would be lovely for DD1 to wake up to...

Good luck Stunt and Bluetinkerbell! Looking forward to more birth announcements in the next couple of days, seeing as my baby doesn't look to be making an appearance any time soon...

Good luck Stunt! I missed your update earlier. Hope it all happens quickly for you!

I'm still . DP eventually came upstairs, and claimed he didn't know I had come home. Perhaps because he was sat with fucking headphones on playing on the computer maybe????? He then asked me what had happened. I gave him the shortest answer I could. He said what does all that mean... well DEAR, if you had been there, you would have fucking known, wouldn't you? Arsehole.

He's being all sucky ass now, but he can go kiss mine, he hasn't even apologised.

I did have a lovely 3 hour nap, and have sweated off half my body weight in the process .

Going again tomorrow after Twilight for monitoring again. I'm so anxious though. I can't seem to see the light for the fog clouding my vision. I'm questioning myself over and over. If something happened I'd never live with myself. But if I succomb to IOL/section, and something happened that way, I'd be just as bad. I feel like I can't win.

I just wish the baby would frickin' behave on the monitor. When it is moving it is giving itself decelerations, the variability is good, but it isn't really accelerative. The absence of accelerations in an otherwise normal CTG is of unknown significance. But the decels are giving me stress. Every movement it makes now I'm worrying... opposite of normal! The movements normally reassure me!

GODDAMNIT!

Cooking a chilli. With shit load of chilli. .

Evening lovely ladies, quick update.. It's a girl! Francesca Jessica Ruby born today at 2:27pm weighing 8lb 10 and a half. She looks just like her big sister did. Feeling ok but quite sore, will post a pic to FB later.

Good luck to anyone else things are happening for! Xx

Congratulations Kissy Looking forward to the pic! Good weight!!

Congratulations Kissy

Detective What have they said about the decelerations at the hospital? If monitoring goes well, what have you got planned for the birth? Lots of ((hugs)) to you, you sound like you need them.

Good luck Stunt

Same as me - don't really know what it is up to in there. But after 2 hours, she took me off, got the consultant to look at the trace, who signed it, and asked for it to be repeated tomorrow.

I've got a cough which wasn't helping, because the coughs were making the baby move, and my uterus tighten. I also didn't feel great. I hadn't had a proper breakfast. So going to make sure I'm very well hydrated and fed before I go tomorrow. It is in the afternoon - big lunch for me!!

detective Hopefully your DP won't be a nob before you go tomorrow as well so then you'll be less stressed out

My DH is currently moping about all forlorn because he's got sniffles, I've felt like poo most of the week but he's got a runny nose and he's all quiet and sulky and doesn't want to do anything tomorrow afternoon now. I need to get out of the house!

Congratulations Kissy! Look forward to seeing a picture

Congrats kissy and good luck bluetinkerbell !

I really hope the chilli works tonight detective . It must be really stressful. Your DP is still a dick and needs much more sucking up.

Congrats kissy and good luck bluetinkerbell !

I really hope the chilli works tonight detective . It must be really stressful. Your DP is still a dick and needs much more sucking up.

He can't stress me tomorrow - as he will be in work . Thank fuck. Knobber. .

I'm looking forward to Twilight...! That will get me relaxed. .

I'm sweating after the chilli, but not sure it was hot enough in the end! I've got some more in the pan... will have some tomorrow with extra extra chilli!