See, I find it hard - because I do believe that medical intervention is indeed necessary in some cases. But it is so heavily over used, due to fear of litigation, that the true need for it has been lost somewhere along the way.
If there was an actual problem, I'd absolutely agree to intervention. But the over use is what frightens me so much. And yes, I see it in practice - midwives are almost powerless to stop this. The only person who can is the woman in the middle - but the 'fear' makes you think you are doing the best thing for you and your baby at the time. Well, not even fear sometimes - but being told you must do xyz based on what?
I take responsibility for my choices, and don't appreciate being made to feel like I am doing something dangerous, for not following along an 'accepted' path!
I am a person with thoughts and feelings, not a statistic is a phrase I utter in my mind every day right now!
Talking to my mum yesterday (and DS's dad - although it wasn't an indepth conversation!) who was with me after DS's birth, both are in absolute agreement that I am doing the right thing! I will do everything I can to not be in that kind of position again, and if it ends up the same way - well at least I can say I did everything I could - and it was just meant to be!
I'm tempted to go to where I work for the birth if I do end up going down that line - but I'm not sure I could behave myself enough to ever return! My colleagues keep telling me to go there and they will support me - but ultimately, I have to work there! And it could go down like a tonne of bricks. Plus I'd have to do something about the fanjo and I can't even see it!