November 2012 - lots of babies that can't wait for November

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1584066-November-2012-babies-arriving-early-and-impatient-mummies-to-be

Post-natal thread for the graduates: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

fatima that is a lot of money. Hope it is their mistake. I am incredibly grateful we did not have to go down that route.

Glad you are safe and sound yw

Thanks pmtc, sounds likely, it's definitely worse in some positions than others.

My bump nearly always rock hard? Assumed it was normal? You can make out body parts!!

Still not feeling pregnant apart from when he moves? It's really odd? It's like I've completely lost my bump? Everything is easy today! I'm putting it down to a reduction in work hours!! That or he's dropped?!

Pretty sure I'll pay for it tonight!!

Passme I was just thinking I could cook risotto. Do you think I could cook it now and leave it simmering until tea or would I just have to cool it later?

I always cook mine immediately before serving. I think there are recipes for oven-baked risotto though which you could do now.

Back from bluewater having spent far too much money. I went for comfort shoes rather than pretty shoes in the end. Obviously had my practical mum head on!

dh21 I live 15 mins/20 mins top drive from bluewater so find myself there loads. Plus I am going to Darenth Valley hosp so whenever I need to go there (like this morning for blood test) I magically find myself at bluewater after although I have to say I don't plan on having too many trips there now before baby is born. Shopping is tiring work! Think it will be all Internet based from now on.

Actually, fatima depends what time you want tea. It always takes me not far off an hour to cook it anyway.

Am I right to be in a strop? Or am I just ill and hormonal? (sorry, these are rapidly becomming moan-about-missmummy's-dh threads, I do love him really!) He gets a week of leave every 3 weeks atm. So basically, as of 7pm tonight he's off until next Thursday. We usually try and spend lots of quality time together when he's off and he does all the things he can't do when he's afloat. I've already agreed he can go up north on Friday night to move his other landrover (the one he's keeping) so long as he's back in time on Saturday to go to my dad's dinner party. (we stupidly agreed weeks ago we'd go and it means a lot to my dad - apparently - that we're there ). This is all fine. But yesterday he announced he was going diving on the west coast on Sunday as he needs 2 more dives for his next qual - 3/4 hour drive away, I'm feeling like crap and not wanting to be left alone and will now have 3 days without my car. I agreed (with a little blackmail that I NEED an expensive changing bag....)

BUT (and this is the bit that's really pissed me off) he's now phoned from work and said he'll be staying over on the west coast and going sailing with an old mate for 2 days so won't be back until Wednesday next week. Meaning he'll be away for his birthday where we had plans to go out, he'll miss antenatal classes and my next mw appointment (which is kinda important because it's to discuss what we're doing if they suspect junior is still breech), and I'll be without my car for nearly a week. And on my own while he's god knows where x-miles off shore.

And as if that's not bad enough, work have refused his leave when his fecking parents are over next weekend because there's noone to cover so it'll be up to me to entertain them. DESPITE me already having plans for the Saturday and a regular tutoring client on the Sunday.

I feel sick and I'm already in a shit mood, but please someone tell me I'm not being unreasonable to be very very pissed off with him right now!?!? Yes he needs a life, and all these things will pay dividends in the end because this dive qual equates to a slight pay rise, and if the sail's successful we'll be able to use the yacht ourselves next season. (and yes I am very I can't go to) but he doesn't seem to understand how unfair he's being!! Arghh.

Mega long post. Sorry. Ignore me ranting. I need a cuddle .

That's 3 or 4 hours, not three quarters of an hour. He might as well be in space...

Hello!

Can I join the thread? I am due 18/11/12. I've lurked for long enough I think!

Hell no MM. Does he have a death wish??

Seriously, that's taking the piss rather a lot

I'm on my phone or I'd have more to say on the matter!

On the food subject, DP is getting me veggie hot dogs. I dunno what I want. He text asking what's for tea. My response? Whatever you are buying and cooking. Just feed me!

Am too tired to go and shop!!

Welcome nickname! I swear I'm not this hormonal and moany in real life !! Hope you're having a good pregnancy

petite wow how are you feeling about Friday? Are you all ready? It's very exciting but nerve wracking too isn't it

pass glad triage are happy that its nothing serious but if your still worried then keep calling back, it's best just to get these things checked and it causes no harm

detective it sounds like they will be more supportive of you now and they realize they can't mess you around

fatima try not to let them stress you out, it could be something as simple as a mistake on their database that takes a click of a button to change

Missmummy you are deffinatly NBU he is completely! It's not fair for him to leave you without a car for that long and miss all your appointments, can you not try an compromise with him? failing that hide the car keys and let him make another way there

Had my second steroid jab and my god it was more painful then yesturday, didn't realise until we left that I swore when she put it in I had worked myself up into abit of a state anyway as I'm stupidly pathetic when it comes to needles but still I've never done that before

horsey he is probably engaged! Yay!

MM you are right to be upset, but it does sound as if there is a bit of logic about the dives. Men tend to do logic. Especially when they are feeling the pressure. Cancel the in laws though! For definate!

Welcome nick is it your first?

MM1 that is truly shit. I think You would not be unreasonable to say you are not happy with that. He should be bending over backwards to make you feel supported and reassured at the moment as well as making sure there is always a plan in case you need to get to hospital in a hurry - even if he is only away for a while.

It's his last birthday pre-baby - he should be spending it with you. And as for not attending AN and mw appts - forget it!

Hello Nickname, welcome!

Mm I'd go mental.......ok to the days dive, not to the stay away. No way. Your child could come anytime soon!! Dh had his last planned night out last Friday, but is hoping to go out this Friday and Saturday if all is ok. He said no to the beer festival in Germany this weekend!!

In fact I think I'd be packing his bags. I'm currently not that hormonal either lol!!

eliza no way could I walk round Bluewater atm, def waiting for the after-Xmas sales!

nickname welcome! You're 2 days ahead of me :)

Vq would I not feel more pressure on my pelvis? Seriously apart from weeing more than normal I feel the most normal I've felt in weeks!! It was like this yesterday too?! But today even freer. Not seeing mw for another week as she's on holiday!! Oh well I'm happy!!

I'm not too bothered about him having the car as I can probably have my mum's for a few days. Or not be such a lazy arse and use the train. The diving and moving of landrover I'd agreed to as they're all practical things and he'd only be away over night. It's the extra days of sailing (which is just a jolly for him that I'd usually be doing to) that I'm really fecked off about. And the fact he's going to be away for so long.

Again, I don't mind the fact that he can't get time off work when his parents are here because he'll be around in the evenings. It's just his attitude that I should cancel my plans (which have been on the calendar for 2 months!) and just take a day off from my work because his parents are fecking lazy incapable of entertaining themselves for a few hours.

Moan moan moan. On the plus side I've managed to keep some food down today and my massive bundle of next baby clothes arrived! We now have too many baby clothes - they're being organised in colour as well as size .

I only felt relief when my first engaged. Besides, you are super-human anyway.

mm no, I think that's a bit selfish, some of it, as you say, is reasonable, but all the extra sneaky bits tagged on are a little too much I would say.

Welcome nick nothing wrong with a good old lurker.

Please, please can I flop on the sofa and get off the bloody ball?

horsey it does sound as if baby is engaged. I have read about lots of ladies who either didn't notice or whose only symptom was the sense of more space.

I am desperately trying to convince myself that baby's head is engaged but as I still have feet in my ribs I think not.

Humph

If its a long baby could it be engaged but still have feet in your lungs? Because mines starting to engage and I can feel pressure low down (like the worlds going to fall out of my fanny) and I need to pee more, but then it's still uncomfortable high up mainly when I'm sat on the sofa

MM You're being more restrained than me! Is he doing this because he's panicking about the birth and is trying to get you to explode?

Two things about it would have me needing a restraining order: a) you could go into labour any time and the roads from the West Coast to where you are are not quick, often get blocked by snow or landslips and he isn't to know that you won't be one of those women who has quick labours. He could miss it and not be there to support you.

And b) the fact that his last pre-baby birthday is going to be spent with someone else - when you've been making plans for it - what you are about to go through is a massive change for a couple and quality time and celebrating big events together cements you to cope with it IMHO.

I know his nickname is Peter Pan but he needs to grow up and stop thinking that his plans are more important than yours. He reminds me of my awful Libra ex! When's his birthday not the 20th? (in which case runnnnnn!!!! I ended up leaving mine when I came back from an MSc week away to find that he had left his (not mine!) 3 year old daughter on her own at home so he could go to the pub - totally selfish and unable to handle responsiblity - I digress.) Apologies to other Librans - but shudder, alarm bells are ringing.

I would make plans for when his family are up - an unexpected client tutoring session? And go and hide out at your Mums. Or my sisters. Or just go shopping. Or hey go for a jolly with pals on a boat?

As for hard bumps - mine is most of the time now (35+3) don't remember who was asking. Apologies for my brain. Apparently junior's big fat ass and it's constant wiggling is irritating my uterus (again). If it's unusual for you (it just seems to be a standard preggo thing for me) or it could be a UTI get it checked out?