Due In DECEMBER 2006

[meggmoo]

I would imagine I'll be the first to post here for a little while - I just found out today.

Look forward to hearing for you soon

re: due dates, my water broke on the night of my due date, but ds wasn't born until a day and a half later [shock}

My stepmum is a midwife and she advised me to think of my due date as the latest point at which they'd induce you if the baby was late. Needless to say I didn't and my due date and every day after it dragged so much. Ds was 5 days late and dd was the full 12 days late (I was induced). Going by both of those I should probably be on the January thread . I've told dh that we are going to his parents for Christmas this year, 140 mile drive or not. I'm not sitting at home doing nothing like we did the Christmas ds was due. The chances of this one being early are virtually nil .

Beep beep, I did the NHS classes with ds and I'm still friends with all the women I met there. 2.5 years later we still meet up with the kids every fortnight and go out for a girls' night every 3 months. It's so handy in the early days (and now, with the terrible twos and potty training) to have other people around who are going through exactly the same as you, I wished I'd done them again with dd.
Personally, I find the NCT a bit full on in terms of the 'natural birth', 'you are a bad mother if you don't breastfeed' sort of ethos so it depends on the sort of person you are really. I've found that the people at playgroup who did NCT classes aren't my type of people, as a general rule. However, it's entirely up to you, but NHS classes are free! We also had a physiotherapist who specialised in pregnancy run sessions after the Parentcraft classes and she taught us relaxation techniques, breathing, positions to labour in which were really helpful. I would definitely say go to some kind of class, just to prepare yourself a bit, and read up a little bit on birth because it's less scary if you know what's going on.

Sorry, that's an excessively long post, got a bit carried away

Hi

the NHS classes offered in my area are during the day and not for partners which I found very strange, so I have booked us on a course of 10 NCT evening classes. When you need time off work for all the other appointments it seems daft that the NHS don't do evening classes. Plus I thought the idea was to try and involve the father but if he isn't invited to the classes he can't really get involved and won't know what to expect. I want us to be doing all the breathing exercises together, and watching the films etc. It's not too much to ask!

My NHS classes are also during the day and would be just for me, with only the last one being for my partner also - did think that was a bit bizarre!

Hi all,

Loads has happened since I was last on here! And that was only Friday! I have also been out car shopping Have a 3 door car at the moment which would be VERY impractical with a baby in a car seat so have bought a Megane hatchback. Still quite sporty looking but 5 door and roomy in the back. God, I sound old.

Feeling a bit better now after an emotional weekend. And have felt bubs move in the queue at Sainsburys today - first time for over a week. Perhaps it will start being more regular now.

On the ante-natal classes I have booked NCT, as round here the NHS ones are renowned as being rubbish. I think it depends on the philosophy of your NCT as to how 'airy fairy' they are and how much they preach. Mine sound like nice people. We have the option of a 1 day NHS course on a Saturday that is to do with the hospital so think I will go on that too just for the hospital tour as much as anything.

Also, (and sorry for the waffling), anyone else got spots? I have got a massive spot on the middle of my chin. Look like a witch. Bloody hormones. Apart from that think I am feeling a bit more 'blooming', except still bloody knackered. In fact forget blooming, let's go with wilting.

sorry, that was meant to be rather than gin. Freudian slip. Gin would be nice.

Oh yeah some bombay sapphire [drool emoticon]

AQ: I'm not insured to drive the Picasso as I'm only learning ATM but dp says it's the same length as other cars.
It's just higher up and the engine is angled so you have more leg room.
Have to say it's so nice to get in and out of - no contortions necessary!

Lennied: With DS I got spots AND hormone hairs.
AND because of my moods I really thought I was morphing into a witch - thankfully this time round I haven't been subjected to this yet.
Although have been pukey this time, whereas I wasn't before.
It's swings and roundabouts I suppose!

Oh, go on lennied ,have a gin
Car conundrum continues....Want one that will take 3 seats across back so we can take a friend out for ds but having trouble finding anything that does that & is not bus or v.expensive as dp spent most of car budget on bmw z4 3 months ago. Really don't want an mpv, I want a honda civic waaaaah.
I went to nhs classes, pants for any advice (aside from showing me how epidural works which was v.handy when I had one) but great for meeting people which is a godsend! If you can do both (afford nct, I mean) I would & def. get a tour of the hospital(s). I'm going to see about nct this week, will grin & bear hippie extreme breastfeeders if I encounter any

gosh, I was only on here on sunday and everyone's got new cars! we 'lost' our two seater roadster during pg1 and gained two cars-a fiesta ans a focus(which was supposed to me the one the baby was tranported around in, but DS and I are zooming around in my Fiesta!)

I've have spots since I conceived.(In my usual period places-one on each temple-frankinstein's monster here!) Had a glass of wine on Saturday-bliss!
AcQ-you asked me about the blood.Nope, I've not had any spotting this time-i'm just totally paranoid.Did bleed once in pg1.My new midwife asked me if it was post coital during bk visit last week. I can't remember when I made love from THREE years ago! On that subject, I'm still not interested in 'loving'. Am I(or rather is my poor DH) the only one still going without?I'm still so tired and slighty fed up.

BTW I went to NHS classes last time. Agree totally useless for info(Without sounding like a swot, I knew all the stuff they were telling us already, but I am a p'cist so have some general knowledge in that area already)but did make some great friends and cemented some friendships from my yoga class. I was a bit wary of NCT-got the impression it was full of SCARY people in my area. There was a lot of competitive cake and coffee action. I want to do NCT because i've heard it's really good.(I can be a hippie B/feeder ,but I hate making a thing of b/feeding! I am NOT one of those b/feeders!)I could not do b/feeding when DS arrived and after much "helpful" bullying by a local m/w (i'm pleased with her results,not her methods!) I managed it. However she grabbed me to demonstrate to those less "able" at a later occasion when I was at the local booby cafe! I was mortified but even more so when two yrs later my friend introduced me to another mum who said" i remember you, you demonstrated b.f to a group of us" double . This time I plan to b/f in a yurt and tell any bossy m/w that I am not an object and "take her hand off my boob NOW".

Take care babes and babes!

Good morning all,

A must when buying a car is a/c!! OMG when i bough my car last year for extra room as bubs was on the way it never entered my head but o my am i suffering now! I have since parked up that car and take DPs instead. I have to go through the whole thing again to find a new on with A/C and sell my poor ole betsy!.

All well this end not feeling much movements but have a doppler for reasurance. Have a scan on the 12th July so looking forward to that. I'm also back to work again DD is taking days in the crehe at the mo so i am feeling a little sad why i dont know.

mmmmm...bombay sapphire with loads of ice and tonic, and a straw. mmmmmm....glass of wine with my tea....ANYTHING!!!! Going to be good for a few more weeks and then going to sneak a glass of red wine one night when no-one looking. Have got a half drunk bottle of chianti in the kitchen which my sister didn't finish when she visited the other day. Have had my eye on it for a few days now.

Have just got home from work and there is a strange car on my drive and I'm guessing that DH has a visitor. I am hiding in the house hoping that the visitor hasn't come to gawp at 'pregnant wife with rapidly expanding waistline'. I am starting to tire of being looked at with that 'oh, so you're not just fat' look. (DH works from home and has a separate office with its own entrance - so hiding isn't quite as strange as it sounds!)

I forgot to say welcome to the new people before - and don't worry about being worried. Just vent your worries on here and we'll all agree that they are perfectly rational. I am going through a not-so-worrying phase at the moment, but ask me in a week and I'll be having a worrying phase again. See, who said pg women were unpredictable!!

Minnie1 - I think i would be emotional too at babes going to creche. Esp when used to being at home with them, and pg too..bound to be emotional. You should see the parents sobbing at our school gates when their precious ones go off to big school!

oooo....Due March thread!!!!!

really need a gin today. i've spent most of the day on MN, reading and adding my tuppence worth and not managed to do much else. finally broke down in tears and admitted to myself and DH who came home early( psychic hubby!) that i'm having a bad day. My mum died on this day in my last pg and despite the rather random link, my mind has decided that today the Weepy hormones will visit. I had an awful nights sleep too and I'm the world's oldest two yr old when it comes to sleep depravation crankiness.
Feel better that that's off my chest.
On the drinks front. Have discovered that ginger ale and lemonade could almost be a bitter shandy if you haven't had one for month/years. Sparkly water and elderflower is a good sub for champagne. and it's only another year til I can get legless (if I b/f) And if I do it'll only take half a shandy to get legless!

Take care all. Sorry 'bout the teary bit.

Hi, Is there any other women on this thread facing their pregnancy alone? I have split up from my partner and he is now demanding a paternity test. I'm so depressed, I am getting accused of sleeping around which I have NEVER done in my life. I know i have my friends and family but its not really the same. Im just totally gutted about whats happening. Any advice? x

choccybickie, how awful for you whilst you're pregnant to have to face all of this. I'm sure there will be many people on mumsnet who are going through or have gone through this, I'm sure I came across someone who was in a very similar position recently but it's hard to find things again. Try the relationships topic maybe? Has this all just happened, what a stressful pregnancy for you, is it your first? Hug for you, here to listen.

spinamum, sorry you've been having a hard time today as well, seems completely reasonable as it's the anniversary of your mum's death & it must have been particularly hard losing her whilst pregnant. If a glass of wine would help, why not? I've been having 1 or 2 a week for the last month, better for me than anti-depressants I figure Hug to you too. And PS I know how long since I've had sex, my conception date & no, I don't feel like having any either!

And I thought it was time to summarise who's due & when, maybe as I'm losing track as to when you're all due? If you haven't posted your vital stats to the other thread, here it is. vital stats
I'll summarise tomorrow (well, that's if anyone wants me too!) You can tell I've entered energetic phase now!

AQ, glad it's not just me who hasn't had sex since their conception date. With all 3 pgs my sex drive has COMPLETELY (can't stress that enough) disappeared, to the point where I could actually punch dh if he so much as tries to rub my back without permission.

Poor bloke, when I got pg with ds he thought I was going to turn into a nymphomaniac and he couldn't have been more wrong. The only time he's got to do 'it' both times, is once I was overdue and needed a dose of prostaglandins!!!!!!!

Also, well done on the stats thread AQ, I was losing track too. BTW, we've got a Zafira that takes 3 carseats across the back - crucial as we'll have ds in a stage 2, dd in a stage 1 and d? in a stage 0. It's not that much bigger than a picasso and you've got the option of the 2 seats that pull up out of the floor of the boot if you want extra seating. We love it.

Choccy, have you tried the 'lone parents' threads? Even starting a new one on there would probably bring you quite a few people who understand what you're going through. So sorry to hear you haven't had a very happy start to your pregnancy.

Spina, hope you're feeling a bit better. I had a terrible weekend, shouting at dh, bursting into tears, being totally irrational - classic hormonal nightmare with no obvious trigger. It's strange what random links can set you off though, I imagine losing your mum while pg was incredibly hard so it's only natural this stage has brought back a lot of memories.

Hi all, I don't often get on here these days, we are selling our place and under offer now so spend every spare moment driving around looking at places to possibly buy.
my dd 2.5yrs roughly(3 in Oct) as also decided to start waking at 5am!!arrggg and if that is not enough about a month ago we were going to start the dreaded potty training as she was showing all the signs. But since even mentioning the potty she will not even go near it, even to the extent of saying 'girls wear nappies mummy' oh what fun....

has anyone given birth in Epsom hospital here. We are hopefully moving to the Dorking area and the estate agent said Epsom would be a good place to transfer to if needed.

choccybikkie, so sorry about what you are going through right now, just try to think of the lovely baby you will eventually have even if there is a lot of heartache now.
Like others have said there must be lots of others on mumsnet who have been though similar so why not start a thread in antenatal or relationships section.

spinamum, hope today gets a bit better for you. I know the feeling about hormones, have been in tears for no reason at all myself over the past few days. Have also had days when I have been so bad tempered. Don't think dh knows what to do these days. Was never quite like this with dd.

Olihan
you're not the only one - can't think of anything worse, but it makes me feel SO bad when DP is 'fancying it' and I turn him away AGAIN he says he understands, but it still doesn't make me feel much better.

chockiebic, sounds really awful what you are going through, I'm having trouble with my mum over the pregnancy & the fact that i live 200 miles away. i think she believes i have chosen to live so far away just to spite her, & then to become pregnant - how dare i be so far away?! anyway she is totally ignoring my pregnancy & everytime the topic comes up she is really 'off'. my sis has a 2 month old (1st g'child) & the mother was SO excited & 'into' it that i think she has used up all interest, concern & enthusiasm on her that my preg is 2nd rate to hers - oh joy!! (sorry to go on about my probs), make sure you make the most of your friends & family being around, but most importantly look after yourself & bubs.

Just to say hello, I joined the thread right back in the begginning but have been off line for a while. I am due around the 8th of December with my second child. I have had high blood pressure and have been put on medication. It has taken me 2 months to get used to them and I have had a terrible time, basically not being able to function. Anyway enough moaning, it´s just good to be back.

Welcome back lucy!
glad to hear you're feeling better now.

1st list of edd's in order. I think a few are missing (phaps moved onto Nov or Jan threads?) & edd's might have changed so I'll update it later.

Contentmum 3/12
beepbeep 6/12
Lucy5 8/12
choccybickie 8/12
dublindee 10/12
Calmriver 12/12 (c/s earlier)
jabberwocky 15/12 (c/s earlier)
accessorizequeen 16/12
Carameli 17/12
Devongirl 17/12
cupcakes 21/12
Magnolia1 22/12
spinamum 25/12
lennied 26/12
Olihan 26/12
Loulou000 26/12