Due In DECEMBER 2006

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I would imagine I'll be the first to post here for a little while - I just found out today.

Look forward to hearing for you soon

The baby will almost certainly die as result of the treatment - she has already started chemotherapy despite only finding out on Weds that it is cancer. I think that because of what Jabberwocky said about it spreading quickly she has been told there is no chance of waiting and delivering early (like in neighbours), she has to start treatment now. They have advised that the pg be terminated, rather than letting things take their course. Feeling really emotional about it all. Can't imagine what it must be like.

Cupcakes, it is breast cancer.

I'm so sorry.

I thought maybe this was the case. There was a woman in our town in the same situation only they didn't catch it until just after the baby was born when she was having problems bfing. Sadly she only lived about 2 years more. I wonder if they have mentioned anything to your friend about storing some of her eggs for later IVF? Or will the treatment affect her fertility in any way? Definitely something she should ask about but I know it would be a difficult thing to talk to her about

cr- yep, I'm one of the few on here who is an American living in the US rather than the UK. Just stumbled on MN one night when I had PND and it has been a lifeline ever since.

Hi Everyone, Ive just been reading up on this thread and im so pleased im not the only one who worries about everything! Im due on 8th December with my first baby and every single pain or niggle in my stomach I have paniced. My midwife is useless seen her once in 14 weeks and she doesnt want to see me again til il 26 weeks. My 12 week scan was fab and everything was fine but I cant help worrying something might go wrong without me knowing about it. Any one else experience these fears and have any advice? x x x

Oh, goodness yes! I had said before I got pregnant that i would be more relaxed this time around, and maybe I am just a little, but for the most part I worry. Of course, I've had the amnio looming over my head all this time and won't feel better until it's over with. Only a week and a half to go now...

lennied. so tragic about your friend. I'm sure she'll appreciate that you understand what it feels like to be pg even if you can't manage to think of the "right " thing to say. Just be honest with her and keep it simple when you write/phone her. I've found trying to come up with some "perfect " thing to say in these horrid situations means that i've either not said anything or have said something that didn't help. Thinking of her.

thinking of you too ,lennied.

hi my name is Debbie im 22 and im expecting my first on the 31st of december

Hi choccybickie i do the exact same cause i get bad cramps and always worry

anyone still here

still here ,but popping onto potty training thread i'm on too. Congrats and welcome.

I keep getting cramps(well severe trapped wind actually, but it really hurts) I'm still checking the loo roll for blood every time I go to toilet.

I'm hoping this is the week my energy comes back. Off to bed for a nap now while footy's on. I used to pretend to care about footy, but one and a third kiddies later, i decided to be true to myself and admit i'm not a footy fan.

take care

Just got up from nap (taking advantage of footy also!) Lennied, so sorry to hear about your friend, cannot begin to imagine what she must be going through.

Welcome Debz and congrats!

Oh, lennied, what a tragic situation for your friend. I know what you mean, it's so hard to know what to say but sometimes people just need a hug or distractions or a funny story when it's that bad. Is this her first child?
jabberwocky, how are you feeling this weekend? It seems a lot of us are exhausted and anxious, but depression just puts everything on a more negative slant so it's harder to deal with isn't it? Just getting to deciding about triple test tonight, wld hate thought of amnio hanging over my head too.
have been shopping for bigger car this weekend and am v.sick of cars, car salesmen & being thoroughly ignored & patronised even though I am more informed than dp!
Welcome Debz & chocciebiccy! I think the anxiousness is the worst bit of being preg. 1st time round & also feeling silly for worrying or asking qu's. I did feel bit shocked when m/w said come back at 29 weeks, thought if it were my first time I would be getting anxious about that. Only answer is surely to live on mumsnet?

I've had trapped wind too, spina, sick of waking up every morning with it & horrible headaches resulting too - only thing that's helping is sparkling mineral water. Why are you expecting blood, have I missed something? Have you had earlier spotting?
take care everyone

Also been bigger car buying this weekend, have gone from my sporty little number to a Volvo V50 in one leap - feel like i hve suddenly aged! didn't want to be someone who is pregnant for 1st time and goes out and buys 10 seater mini bus but at same time we have the puppy as well and as my parents are 200 miles away had no choice but to get a bigger car!
have midwife coming round tomorrow, saw her for 1st time last week but didn't get time to have everything done as now 17weeks and that was my 1st time seeing her and only had a 20min appt!! oh well, more time off work - gutted!

Also been bigger car buying this weekend, have gone from my sporty little number to a Volvo V50 in one leap - feel like i hve suddenly aged! didn't want to be someone who is pregnant for 1st time and goes out and buys 10 seater mini bus but at same time we have the puppy as well and as my parents are 200 miles away had no choice but to get a bigger car!
have midwife coming round tomorrow, saw her for 1st time last week but didn't get time to have everything done as now 17weeks and that was my 1st time seeing her and only had a 20min appt!! oh well, more time off work - gutted!

oops!

volvo sounds v.sensible beepbeep, everyone seems to love their volvo! we have faffed around for nearly 2 weeks unable to face an estate or mpv. drove a mazda 5 2day and it felt like bus! am fed up with it & called it off for a couple of months, will borrow car to drive to scotland next week.

Hi AQ, I am definitely feeling better today. The higher dosage of Zoloft must have kicked in and I have been trying to be really careful not to aggravate my back, so it has improved as well. Am trying to think positive thoughts about upcoming test. Ten days is feeling like forever right now, though...

maybe a bit too sensible, but am sure it'll do the job!!

Glad your feeling better jwocky.

Beepbeep if you find a lot of the "baby friendly" cars too big you might want tot try a Citroen Xsara Picasso. We have one and, while it's got isofix points and is very child friendly, it doesn't feel like you're driving a tank!
Went to the zoo yesterday and felt sooooooo tired after it, but was glad I got out for a bit with DS as well. When can I have my energy back?

Lennied, another Boxing Day baby! I don't know how often your due date is the date you really give birth, though. Aren't first babies supposed to be late?

Met midwife last week and feel at last like I know how all this works in terms of what care you get.

And over the last few days I'm just beginning to suspect that I'm not as tired as I was before. I hope this is the start of a second trimester trend! I'm starting to panic that we still need to move house, buy a car, and find out how to look after a baby, all before the end of the year. But that's probably a good sign, as I don't think I had the energy to panic until now.

dublindee, it was me who found lots of cars like buses - thought picasso looked big too really, but phaps should try it. I lack confidence in driving. Leaning towards estate at present but I think we have a couple more months to sort this until I get 2 huge to test-drive.

Glad ur feeling better jabberwocky!
loulou, very few women give birth on their due date & yes, many first-timers go over. The stat I read is that 95% of babies are born within 2 weeks either side of the due date & that makes sense. Moving house in same year as having a baby sounds stressful for you loulou, but easier to do it before than after (which I did). I hope your energy surge is on its way!

Just seen midwife this morning, wants to see me again after next scan, at about 22wks, so 5 weeks time which i didn't think was too bad. Apparently i have to see my GP around then too.

Anyone have any preferences between NCT and NHS parent-craft classes, apparently i have to book them soon. My midwife seems to think the NHS ones are good and are more in conjunction with the hospital where i'll give birth, whereas she says the NCT are good if i was planning on a home birth or planning on a 'fully natural' birth - ie.e going to our local community hospital (only gas & air, and run just by midwives i'm a worrier & couldn't do this 'in case something goes wrong, a friend had to wait 3 hours for an ambulance to arrive to take her to the hospital which is a good 20 miles away!).

anyone able to give any advice on past experiences or what you've been told?

thanks.