November 2012 - the ten week countdown

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Hi everyone.

I'm feeling particularly crappy today, I spent the morning with my sisters who are both lovely, yet even when in with people I feel really lonely. I never realised pregnancy would make me feel so isolated from every day life. can't stop crying today. Hopefully it's just hormones!

I'm relieved me and DH had a conversation yesterday and he has relented and has handed over the credit card!! hehe. He is not tight fisted by any means and of course he doesnt watch what i spend nor does he restrict the credit card really - but he had been encouraging me to be sensible with money for the last few months. But I am just keen to get organised now and instead of buying things one at a time over the next few weeks (he's paid weekly) I just wanna get the baby stuff bought!! So I ordered my mattress last night, gunna be delivered tomorrow, and I ordered the waterproof protector too.

I am watching a pram on ebay, I'm not too sure, its cheap (at the moment, no bidders) but it also has some wear and tear. Maybe I should message the lady and say I'm keen to view it before bidding. I having to giggle because at the moment I have 'bought' a small picture of a lighthouse for $8 (approx five quid) off ebay and its local so I asked if I could save the postage and pick it up, I said just leave it outside and I will pop the money under your doormat, but the seller isn't keen. Just made me giggle as maybe she thinks I will steal it or rob her house?! I buy quite a few things from my local facebook page and everyone just leaves things outside and money under doormat, makes life nice and easy. You do have to rely on honestly though I suppose.

Sorry to hear of those not sleeping, it can be such a bugger.

oops sorry I was typing a long waffly post then and others posted in the mean time.

tits I'm hoping its the hormones making you feel the way you are. Look after yourself.

Tits - exactly how I feel!!

Oh Tits sorry you feel so rubbish
Feel free to moan/rant here so we can all cheer you up

Right i'm going to get out of bed and do something, mainly because my laptop only has a bit of charge left

DH has just rung and instead of 8pm he may be working until 12pm!! Ah well, house to myself all day and bed to myself half of the night

I must admit I have some days when I think i'll do x y and z and I dont manage it because I feel too 'blurgh' and end up being teary, it's gotta be the hormones for me because often the next day i am fine.

I know in RL i tell everyone 'i'm fine' even when I'm not as I dont want to be one big moaner all the time. Thankfully my good friend has recently had a baby and is now admitting to finding the pregnancy hard, at the time she was like me and always said she was fine! Sometimes we just cant admit it! (but maybe we should!). At least we can all vent here - thats so nice.

I'm the same. I tell everyone I'm fine even when I feel like crap. I haven't had it as bad as some people do but I'm not keen on doing this too many times either.

I don't know what it is exactly, as I said I spent the morning having a gossip with my sisters yet still feel so down.

Didn't help to arrive home to a letter from the bank, one of the direct debits has bounced, one in my name as usual but on our join account. When DP moved in after I got pregnant i had to swap all my finances to a joint account which he funds do I'm feeling a bit vulnerable about relying on him completely for funds.

Apart from that, I guess it's all the regular pregnancy worries, will he cope with a new lifestyle? All his friends are young couples who spend weekends out and away, we can't do that much now because of my 2 boys but ATM he still has that freedom but obviously won't as much when baby arrives. I wonder sometimes if he realises the impact a baby has on a life and the enormity of becoming a parent.

I am not feeling at all social, for a start I look and feel disgusting, not just very big but spotty and bloated. I don't want people seeing me like this, plus the pain and the tiredness. It doesn't make for a social lady at all, but then I don't want to hold DP back from any social life or time outside the house so we go out occasionally but I feel so out of place, our world compared to the social groups couldn't be anymore different.

I also have major concerns over my boys, the favouritism that is going to occur with DP's family, they already favour my youngest son majorly over the eldest who has behavioural problems and through no fault of his own gets favoured by his own dad over my DS2. I worry this will escalate more when there is a blood grandchild in the mix.

None of the above I can really say anything to anyone about, it's all sill worries that no one understands or can really reassure me about and I certainly don't want to pass the burden onto anyone else, but I'm a complete wreck, I'm either crying when in alone on snappy and on the verge of tears when around people.

Gosh floodgate opened sorry.

I know how you feel tits it's tough growing a baby and dealing with all the worries that entails along with dealing with everything else in life! Think the hormones just make everything feel 10x worse too. Hope everyone who is feeling low feels better soon

donna please try not to worry, thinking of you

Evil drink loads of water as well as the cranberry juice and it will clear up in no time. I take it they gave you antibiotics as well?

MissMummy glucose shows up differently in your blood and urine. They can also tell from a blood test how long your glucose levels have been high so they'll probably get a bit more information from the blood than they could from the urine test.

They want me for a scan at 2.30 Ill let you know how I get on

Ahh thanks stunt. That makes more sense. I should really know this... Hugs for tits - it's horrible getting all teary and having no control over it isn't it? Donna I'm sure all will be fine. As some people have already mentioned, different places have different guidelines.

Just read on my Sprout app that babies dream in the womb! I wonder what they dream about....

tits I am sorry you are feeling blue. I have been inconsolable the last couple of days, but seem to have brightened up a bit today. No idea why, just general worries I think. Families are all different, and once your little bundle arrives, you will all settle into a pattern. Your DP will settle happily once he holds his child, and it is you, him and your children that matter. Other relatives are not part of this little family, and all extended families have their issues, whether wholly blood related or not. You will be ok x

donna hope you are soon reassured by the scan. I was told I could have Brufen in the second trimester but not first or third, so clearly the advice is not consistent. I chose to not take it, even though I was dying to, but I had a choice to make - you did not know. It is not your fault. I am pretty sure your little one is plenty big enough to not have been adversely affected by this, and hopefully this will be relayed to you, and the scan be supporting of this. I have seen babies born to women who have injected heroin and Valium and used God knows what during their pregnancy and have been fine. Some are not, granted, but they are pretty sturdy little things once they are past the assembly stage.

My friend lost a baby due to Brufen at 10 weeks about 5 years ago. She is convinced it was the Brufen as it is linked to early pregnancies.

Oh tits big hugs. As you said, no one can reassure you!!

My concerns are that dh does not seem to be taking it seriously!!! He seems to think we have loads of time!! And that his life will just continue as normal post birth!! I'm hoping that after Thursday he'll begin to understand some more. Probably not as he just seems think I'll get on with it as I do everything else!!

Right after a mental today yesterday, I've got an hour to kill at this work before moving onto to job 2. I feel shattered, I will try to ride between jobs though!! I think I feel shattered because I'm looking for stuff to do and there's not much on. Tomorrow will be mental though?

Good luck donna. Hopefully the scan will show baby is fine and put your mind at ease.

My parents are furious with my younger brother. He dropped out of his college course today and told my mum he never planned to go back anyway. So he has been sitting around since May doing nothing, applied for no jobs and only decided to tell us today. His car insurance runs out on friday so they won't be renewing it or paying for any more driving lessons for him. It has also ruined our holiday next week because there is going to be an awful atmosphere now He doesn't live in the real world at all and thinks he can find an apprenticeship just like that but it could be months before he finds anything and meanwhile he expects my parents to pay for everything for him. If they back down then it will cause problems between me and my parents because I was always told they would support me but only if I was in education or working, so if they bend the rules for him then we are going to fall out. What a crappy day

donna hope your scan went well.

Went to the park with a friend (who is having huge trouble conceiving her second due to a low thyroid, really feel for her :()
There was a woman there who was 37 weeks and she was trying to guess how far I was, she said my bump looked low as if it had dropped but I said no its always low it grows out rather than up!

The days are feeling colder atm, that makes it seem closer. The thought it will be cold when we have out babies seemed so far away when I was sitting in 25 degree heat at the weekend.

Phew Thanks for all your kind words ....scan went well ...no obvious probs or damage to baby...they checked amnotic fluid levels and blood flow through cord etc gosh Im so relieved. Estimated weight 4lb 3oz and paracetemol only from now on x

Glad all is ok donna. That sounds a healthy weight considering how long we've still got to go!

They couldnt believe that on my fourth pregnancy I didnt know but I can honestly say that Im not one for taking tablets and have a high pain threshold but the tooth pain was unbearable ( worse than child birth I kid you not ) and the dentist told me to take ibrufen or paracetemol and I didnt think to query it

Donna that's great you've been able to see that everything is ok for yourself, and 4lb 3oz sounds a healthy weight!

Tits I can totally sympathise with not feeling social. I'm fine once I'm out but the thought of getting ready and seeing people gets me down. Our NCT classes have helped, as it's good to be out with a group of ladies who are all pregnant too!

If anyone is in the north midlands or south staffordshire I can totally recommend getting yourself down to a Reborn sale www.reborn.co.uk. There's one pretty much every month, and last Saturday I picked up a bouncing/vibrating chair, an activity arch (with a gorgeous fleecy playmat), a birth ball and some great babygros all for less than £40. Next month's sale is in Lichfield if anyone is nearby (plus the cakes they sell are yummy too)!

Hmm sorry that link should have been [www.rebornuk.co.uk]]

Baby brain is totally with me at the moment. Couldn't find the milk the other day, and I'd put it in the cupboard instead of the fridge...not good signs for my MA assignment I'm working on!

Glad scan went well donna that's a relief!

I've started to get myself into a tizz, the baby is still moving throughout the day and I know the movements change roundabout now because of the smaller space, although the amount she moves is the same.
I keep reading if the movements decrease or gradually decrease over several days, I keep worrying that's what's happening and I'm not noticing it. I know if I'm concerned to ring the mw and I fully intend to if I think the movements are less it's just hard to know what's normal for her it seems to change alot!

I also keep coming across threads about stillbirth and I'm getting so paranoid it's going to happen to me :( I always get anxious towards the end of preg and it seems to be starting now.

Gah!!!

www.rebornuk.co.uk

DH Yes there seems to be a lot in the media at the moment about stillbirth. Either that or I have never really noticed before and it does make you nervous. The pain of labour doesn't worry me at all, I just want my baby to get here safely and be healthy.