November 2012 - the ten week countdown

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Hello ladies, just popping in to say hi!

tits I hope you get better soon, I had a similar thing when I was heavily pregnant with DD, think it was just a bug though but I know how horrible it is :(

I'm also waking up a lot in the night to pee, and to roll myself over haha. Pelvis is really starting to take the strain now, but only eight weeks to go!! (32+2)

Also, I've been hearing 'clicks' from my tummy, anybody else had this? Or know what it could be? It's very strange!

I have everything ready for baby now, but we have decided to get a hammock for him, maybe an amby hammock - any recommendations? I wanted one for DD aswell but couldn't afford it at the time, but I think they're a lovely idea. Wether it'll work or not is a different matter!

Hello all!

DH is cooking roast chicken for tea (Caribbean style - he used to live in Jamaica) nom nom nom.

However VQ's comment on the noise of episiotomies might mean I'll stay out of the room whilst he carves! ewwwwww. What is everyone's view of cut vs tear. I thought I would prefer a cut - but on reading around it, the evidence seems to be that tears heal better and episiotomies are often performed when not really necessary. Any thoughts? I think I'd only have one if we have to have forceps.

Nervous my trick to get blokes to cook is simply to say - "your turn to cook today, what are we having?" And don't jump up and cook if he doesn't. This isn't the 1960s - if his Mum didn't teach him to cook it's time they learnt. Actually to be fair DH had a v high maintenance girlfriend for 12 years before me and she trained him marvellously, he knows I'm struggling and waddling so at the mo' we share cooking, and when Junior arrives he knows he'll be doing all the cooking for the first few weeks.

Well, we packed my hospital bag this morning (just my side, not babies yet) just in case of prem labour. We'd always joked that the bag of kittens in my belly has permission to arrive from 32 weeks and having had an upset tum last night and a really bad back all night and this morning - you just never know. DH has also had a dry run - running around the house and figuring where I keep the bounty pack, my handbag, iPod, phone charger etc and has a list of last minute things to grab (including his dark coloured dressing gown for me to bleed on!!!). I figure no sense packing any baby bits until mid October as if they arrived now - they wouldn't fit any of the clothes or nappies we've bought.

The bellydweller seems to be settling into a routine which involves half an hours hiccups about 10am - it's very funny - after three days of this now you could almost set your watch by it! I'm thinking from bellymapping that they are LOA - which is what you want isn't it? Though I think they did roll into transverse this morning for a while as I was feeling kicks on one side of my belly and punches on the other! There is so much more activity over the last week or so - I'm wondering if my placenta is now more on top than in front or if the fluid levels have fallen - the movements are just so much clearer.

Swiss my sis had something similar for her first born - but he was a big baby and outgrew it by six months. I would say that whilst it was brilliant when he was in it - it was a total nightmare trying to move him to a real fixed cot afterwards as he just couldn't settle in a flat, still, bed after the rocking of the hammock. He was an awful sleeper (didn't sleep thru til 18 months) so I'm wary of them. Mindst he could have slept much worse without it - who knows? My sister sold it before she had her second as she figured it might have delayed his ability to self sooth (without motion) and wanted some space back in her bedroom - hers was on a stand and was huuuuuuuuge. How much are the amby ones?

tits sounds awful, being sick is really really horrible :(

My roast beef dinner is ready soon and dh is currently cleaning the bathrooms :)

Thanks ladies, I am feeling a lot better. Slightly headachey but I've kept down plain toast and water.
I always worry with sudden sickness things because it's how DS2 labour started at 36 weeks.
Just been laying in bed watching tv. I'll get up later to sort things for school tomorrow but that will be about it I think.

Would love a baby hammock but can't justify it. We've already got a cotbed and also forked out for a moses basket despite originally planning to just have the cot in our room for the first few months. I won't lie, I'm struggling with curbing our impulsive spending. Financially we are a lot better off than we ever have been, but our outgoings (2 cars, bigger house, more bills etc) now reflect this. When I was a student we thought nothing of going out for dinner 2/3 nights a week. Now we both have jobs I'm trying to work out if we can justify something nice for pudding tonight.

I love dh cooking. He is much better in the kitchen than me. I just dread the massive cleanup operation afterwards. What is it with men and using every pan/knife/surface they can get their hands on?!

DH is quite well trained re cooking. Yesterday he announced that he had bought a joint of beef as he was cooking today, and did I want to invite my parents?

He has been nesting this morning - he has spring cleaned the lounge including moving all the furniture and cleaning behind. He cleans when I deprive him of sex. I should do it more often!

Swiss The clicking is baby's bones, my first 2 did this and it's really nothing to worry about.

As for tearing v's cuts I promise you that with everything going on you will not feel a tear, some mums don't feel the second degree tears. Cuts aren't supposed to heal as well. I ripped with my first and had 5 stitches, all I can say is that I knew when it happened, but only because once I had ripped it was a lot easier for the head to come out, it was a mighty and very welcome release, I didn't feel a thing. Well that's my experience if it helps anyone :)

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better tits that sounds awful

I thought we were going to DP's parents today for roast dinner but I got the date wrong so that's next week. Was looking forward to not having to cook but hey ho! Will have to make another trip to the shops now too. Already been out once this morning for paint!

My DP hardly ever cooks either. He also uses every pan/bowl/utensil but I think that's cos he's a trained chef and is used to having someone else clear up!!

Ahhh don't talk about men and the washing up they leave when they cook. My DH is like sodding Delia Smith - every ingredient once chopped, is in its own wee bowl until he uses it. I can't wait until we move - a dishwasher is on my essentials list for any new house!

As for impulse spending, I think we are at the point where we have everything bar a car seat base, baby bath (am not sure if we'll def need these so will see how we get along) and some open front nighties. So I'm hoping to put my entire income from October into savings and we'll just live off DH's money. I used to be a real impulse spender but am now addicted to saving and paying off debts. I think it's possibly an age thing. I'm much more frugal now I'm in my 30s and we're both on good money. I think I was more of a spendthrift when we were living pay cheque to pay cheque and after a tight last week of the month on beans on toast, I'd go nuts when my wages arrived because I felt so deprived and sick of having no money.

You've all seen I'm a spreadsheet geek. I keep a spreadsheet of how much we have in different accounts and how quickly we're paying off the credit card we used for renovations (once we went over the contingency as you always seem to do with moneypits fixer-uppers), I have to say, I actually get a bit of a buzz each month when it's updated and I can see the progress we're making. Also you don't get any of the buyers remorse which I personally get when I've been a bit too spend happy and take the time to add it up try to ignore what I've spent.

Fingers crossed we'll have 2 months combined salary in savings for emergencies which we've put aside from earnings this year, enough money in another account for my tax bill, and the house deposit hopefully will be enough for a 15-20% deposit on a new house when we find one, the latter two sums will be in a not to be touched account, and we'll have cleared the credit card, by the time the baby comes. It's a real weight off my mind, well it will be once the house sells. There are a feck of a lot of assumptions in my plan I'm well aware. It all depends on what we sell for. On the plus side DH's work have offered us relocation funds which should cover movers and packers so that's one big expense gone. Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhh roll on Thursday. Closing dates are so cruel!!!

I tore with ds and needed stitches but I had no idea at the time. It's painful enough when the head is coming out that a small tear doesn't register! The stitches though are a different story

The roast dinner was v v nice, unfortunately all that was leftover was 2 potatoes! I'm now quite sleepy, might have a doze on the sofa.

I don't remember the stitches, but I remember the crunch as said previously, cannot remember the pain over any other pain I was feeling at the time. My cut healed well, but still causes me discomfort when in certain activities in certain angles and that is 6 years on.

yw training men to actually load the dishwasher is a whole other battle. We have one and on the rare occassion he thinks to remotely tidy up after himself, things are just piled on the unit on top of it. His excuses so far have included: "I didn't know if it had been on or not" (wtf?) and "I know you have your own set way of doing it". I can just about forgive him for it though. He is a very good cook!

Haha we had one in our last house and as DH had had one before and I hadn't, am afraid I was the tardy one with the "don't know how to use it" excuse he's a bit OCD so I can also use the "you have your own set way of doing it" line.

Ahh there you go swiss a happy user! So make your own mind up I reckon my dear. Have you seen one in the flesh? Go and have a nosey I reckon. xx

Ha YW andMM - when I'm staying at my Dads I can see him watching me as I load the dishwasher, and then he goes in there as soon as I leave the room and re-loads it his way! (he also tidies DD's Lego according to colour, but that's a whole other issue!)

I tore with DD and didn't notice, but like VQ it can get uncomfortable at times.

I like the idea of the hammock but don't think I can justify it when I already have a cotbed, moses basket and crib They do look very comfy though.

Someone's selling one on my local buy, sell, swap group on Facebook for £50. It does look lovely, but having just shelled out £38 for new moses baskets' mattresses, plus the cost of the (admittedly second hand) moses baskets themselves, I don't think that I can justify shelling out :(

tits I hope you feel better soon and the rest helps

yellow if I said that to DP I would get either I yogurt from the fridge/KFC or dominos lol he does load the dishwasher up each night though and he has "his" way of doing things

Your meals sound wonderful, I'm on the train to bath so I'll have to wait till bath for my hot meal.

Hammocks sound nice, but I've got a Moses basket.
Evil
( on the train)

We have an excessive amount of places for junior to sleep - having just totted it up, the proper cot and carrycot for the travel system - both of which we bought. Then a traditional wooden rocking cradle for them to idle in during the day and a bedside cot - both of which were given to us. I bet they'll prefer to sleep on us and in none of those places out of choice!!!!

Come home from work to find that - although dinner isn't even started - DH has spent all afternoon stripping out his beloved landrover. He's finally decided it has to go and despite months of hassling him to get shot of it, I'm a bit teary . Maybe it's seeing him being all grown up and making sensible dad decisions or maybe it's because I know how much that thing means to him. I can't criticise him for being upset too. He's just aptly reminded me of the night we spent in the pub in April just after we found out we were pregnant where I cried my eyes out because my little car had been towed away to the scrapyard. (I had also spent the best part of an entire date stuck at the side of the road and throwing up with ms after the bloody thing had blown up). But still, I'm crying again tonight over a landrover I've spent 3 years resenting. Fucking hormones.

Good man! Fucking hormones indeed! What a star - that's one weight off your mind. Sod roast dinner get fish and chips for tea to celebrate xxxx

I'm bored on the train, so what can I do???
Mm1 get a take away!

Evil