May Babies - Blooming? Us? Never!

[hockeymum]

A new thread for the final 6-12 weeks! Nearly there girls!

We’ve been in and out of hospital for measurements and scans every few days for the past week and a half. DH and I are getting really fed up of it now. The cost of parking is extortionate and the waiting around is beyond a joke: 3 hours of parking costs for a 10 minute appointment. Each time all they tell us is “Yes, baby is small!” and bugger all else. However, today we were given a date for our induction: Thursday 27 April. That’s if, of course, baby doesn’t come before then. Don’t think there’ll be any complications, but I’m not allowed the water birth I had hoped for. Oh well.

So, I’m not going to have a May baby after all! Does that mean I have to find the April list ?

Abi, there are about 5 or 6 of us having April Babies who have stayed on the May list, it's up to you but you're welcome, as are any of you who go over and have babies in June! Also, bear in mind induction can take several days so you might still be a May Baby (though I hope not for your sake). Keep your chin up about the parking costs, they're a nightmare aren't they and about the size of the baby, I'm sure he or she will be perfectly formed - how far before your due date is the induction?

Only one week – I’ll be 39 weeks. So not really any problem.

And several days??? Perish the thought!

Hi Everyone
I have been enjoying my first week of mat leave with DP who has two weeks leave (they wouldn't let him carry it into May to add to pat leave!!). Baby is engaged, I am back to complete strangers walking up an touching bump and saying 'any min now then' when there is still 4 weeks to go, don't seem to mind so much now though.
Runtus - you would be proud of me, after reading about your cooking/freezing I have done lasagne, shep's pie etc. Feeling v pleased with myself In relation to your low platelet count do you mind me asking how low is low? It could be that you have pregnancy induced ITP. Which is an immune problem which reduces your platelets, they come back up after the baby is born as a rule. Stay as clam as yuo can as stress can further reduce your count and that's not what you are wanting right now.
Mandymoo - I am in between Truro and Redruth, where are you?
My friend is 3 days overdue so I am clutching my mobile night and day!

Hope everyone is having a nice easter.

I have been getting a few more achey braxton hicks this evening. AM pretty sure that they are nothing more sinister, but is hard to tell.
I dont know if the baby is engaged. It wasn't last weeks. I do feel like i have dropped a bit though. Am also finding it very difficult to sleep, have to sleep practically sitting up with a hundred pillows.

So many of you sound so uncomfortable poor you! Having been so ill through the pregnancy I actually feel ok now with only 5 days to go! I'm nowhere near as big as I was last time even though they say the baby measures big (they said that with dd and she was a normal 7lbs so I don't believe them, those scans are often wrong!). I'm still in my normal clothes because I lost so much weight with the hyperemesis and although I'm waddly now when I walk, I can get comfy at night (not like you poor Cori) so when the pregnancy insomnia or need to pee are absent I'm reasonably comfy in bed. I think with a second pregnancy my uterus and organs must be used to their position and have given me a bit more space! Mind you at nearly 3 weeks overdue last time and going in at 39 weeks this time, there is about a months difference this time thank goodness!

Abi - hate to tell you this, but it might help to be prepared if induction takes a while. I was induced last time on 9th August and dd arrived on 31st!. That is totally extreme and it wouldnt normally happen, it turns out she would never have been delivered normally anyway. In fact, the 5 or so doses of prostin pessary over the first 5 days would normally have been enough for a consultant to realise she wasn't going to come out, I didn't even get to 1cm with it all despite a sweep every time and a c-section would have been (and was) arranged for day 6 on 15th August. But my consultant was on holiday (damn August baby!) and the other consultant was a pro-natural birth man and made me go a further 2 and a bit weeks over to try to have her naturally. After 24 hours of labour and 9 3/4 cms dilation, they realised she still hadn't engaged and was stuck because my pelvis was too small so did an emergency section.

Normally, that would neer happen and once they start an induction and give you 3 or 4 days to progress with it, they usually concede you need surgical assistance and pop the little one out. In fact, most commonly induction works perfectly well in a day or 2 and your body does what it should and starts to contract normally and deliver the baby. I hope that is how it is for you. Has the consultant mentioned what he would do in the case of a failed induction? It might be worth finding out whether he has a plan or whether he will take it on a day by day basis for your own peace of mind. Hope I have helped you with information rather than scared you. My experience was extreme and I have lots of friends who have been induced at 38 and 39 weeks and given birth naturally within 2-48 hours. Just remember to take in lots of books, music and magasines etc as it takes a while for things to kick off.

Fenny1 - I live on the back road between Hayle and Camborne. Good luck with everything!!!

Bloody-hell hockeymum ! And you're having a second baby? How brave are you?

When we were booked in for the induction we were given a leaflet and told that we should read it, then formulate any questions, and ask them when we see the consultant this Thursday (a week before the induction). I will DEFINITELY ask what will happen in the case of a failed induction!

Well, you have scared me, but I guess ‘knowledge is power’ and ‘forewarned is forearmed’ and all other appropriate clichés. (Mind you – is ignorance bliss in this case ???)

Will let you all know how it goes.

Hope all of you are feeling healthy, if (a little ???) uncomfortable.

Abi hav faith in the fact that despite all that I have done it again though You do forget it in the end.

Also I don't know anyone who has been so difficult to induce as me, dd was just to comfortable where she was. I'm sure your experience will be much smoother than mine I was just using it as an example of induction being a bit of an individual thing. Some people do get induced and immediately go into labour, producing a baby that day and others take days of slow progress. I hope you are in the former group and I'll be thinking of you!

Oh and Happy Easter everyone!

I also had a failed induction last time. Not such an extreme story as Hockeymums, but be prepared it can take a while. I think you want to know how many doses of prostin they are likely to give you if before starting on oxytocin
I had three doses over three days, oxytocin drip, waters broken etc. 12 hours of labour only dilated to 3 cm and then emergency section. I had an epidural early on though, so wasnt as bad as it sounds ( but that could have contributed to non progress) Just artifical induction can set off a chain of events that results in a section. Not the worst in the world to happen, but is certainly a possibility.

Yikes Cori! Anyone had a smooth induction before now?

I am due at the end of may, but last wk end i was in hospital being given steroid injections because i was having contractions. Went in to get checked over because i was dizzy and kept seeing dots in my eyes. Everything is fine but whilst being monitored the contractions strated and lasted for an hour. I have had a few sincebut I know when it is bh because its just firm and tightness but real contractions are hard with cramp period feeling, had to breath nicely through them.
I feel like a ticking time bomb. i did not hve any more contractions for a few days until last nigt (had a good walk to park) but feel fine today? Weird how it does this though. Has anyone else had simlar exp? Baby is in th correct possition apparently, i think it just wants to keep me on my toes!
My bag is sitting there ready, to be filled lol think i will make that my mission today, get it ready once and for all. CAnt see dh doing very good job if it were left too late!
Also i have been thinking for the past couple of days when i think of how much i dearly love my son (who is in his lovley 2's ) how on earth am i going to love this one as much!?? I know they say the love grows more when you have more children but i just cant picture it at all!
I am sure i will though

Ali, am sure there are plenty of people of who have had plenty of smooth inductions, otherwise they wouldnt do them would they? Maybe it is more likely if oyu have had a previous vaginal birth . I dont know.

I am having BHs on and off, dont really know whats going on. Dont think they are contractions though. Walked around Kew gardens for hours yesterday, hasnt made much difference today. But I have been told that bump seems to have dropped a bit, so suppose that is a good sign.

Dunnyjo, I know what you mean. I think both DH i feel that we are still so besotted with DS (at 4) not sure how we will be able to love a 2nd ds as much. AM sure we will be able to, just at this stage seems hard.

Dunnyjo and Cori, I know just what you mean. My dd is 3 and I'm getting all sentimental about how this will be the last few weeks with her on her own. My baby has just grown up so fast. I'm scared that I could never love another like her. (I'm an only child so I don't know what it's like to have a sibling). This baby is very much wanted but its a strange mix of emotions. Hormones eh?? Can some other mums please reassure us all?

I've had exactly the same concerns about loving the second as much as my wonderful first but friends who've recently had second and third babies have informed me that the bonding is even more instantaneous second time around and they love their second as much. I was particularly interested in one of my friends experiences as she had a little boy 3 years after her girl (same as I am expecting). She like me is really into little girls and I know she had a heck of a shock when she had a boy and took a bit longer to bond with him as she had only imagined herself having girls. This is partly why I found out I was having a boy and I've had 4 months to get used to the idea and it's reached the point that I'm ecstatic he's a boy! She did say she will always have a preference for girls who are like her first (very affectionate and girly) but that she loves her boy exactly as much as her big girl but for different reasons, he's more cuddly and cute and squashable and a real mummy's boy. I know that my best friends who I have asked about loving a sibling would be honest with me if they didnt love their second as much but they are all adamant that the love is the same, so that relieves me a bit.

can anyone else shed any light? Enid? (How are you Enid by the way? Still on bed rest or have you surprised us with the first May Baby?

Hi all,
Am new to mumsnet and may babies. I'm having my second baby girl the 28th May. DD1 is going to be 17 months so has a limited idea of what is going on. Kinda feels like a bit late to join with only 6 weeks left, but have associated with the idea of 'how do you give that much love to no.2 without depriving DD1'.
Also thought I would mention for Dunnyjo that I had on and off contractions which didn't do anything for 2 weeks with my DD. Although MW did suggest could be reason for such a short first stage! :)

Hi everyone,

Welcome Capes :)

I'm 38+1 today. Been getting BH the last few nights and have gone to sleep thinking I might wake up next day and be in labour, but every morning, nothing. This is the first time I've experienced BH, never had them last 2 times!

For all of you worried about spreading your love once you have 2, well when I had dd, I had spent 5 wonderful years with ds and was worried about that too, but the immediate second dd was born I loved her just as much. It did feel a little strange for a day or so, adjusting to having 2x more love to give. :)

Well all my friends who were due in april have all had their babies now, and if I get one more phonecall asking when I'm going to have mine, I'm going to sceam! I'm not due for another 2 weeks but it's all anyone ever says to me now, and it's making my feel like I just want to cry, stupid hormones, it's so silly, but I feel like everyone is just watching me and waiting, everyday dp asks me 'any BH today?' I feel like a watched kettle! I was early last time so I think everyone expected the same this time. I hope I don't go overdue, I mean, it could be another 4 weeks yet!

I have my mum visiting today, bringing yet more easter eggs for the kids, then I'm off to visit my new niece, who is 2 days old, so I will be all broody after that :)

Morning all!
Well it's my last week at work, finally, and just under 4 weeks to D-Day.
Like many of you I have been fretting about how I can possibly love another child as much as I love DS ( 2.75), and feeling guilty about the fact that DH and I won't have as much time for DS after baby arrives, but have to remind myself that women have been coping for centuries, and it's only this new touchy-feely world giving us more things to fret about!
Not been feeling too bad all in all, although DS has been playing up a bit and I really don't have the energy to cope with him as effectively as I should be.
Still have tonnes of stuff to do before baby arrives, like remember where on earth I packed away everything (pushchair, clothes, carrycot, babybath, sterliser, bottles) and sort out my hospital bag. Had been banking on this baby being late (DS was 2 weeks late and 10lbs) but had to have a scan a couple of weeks ago and the consultant told me that this was going to be a sizeable baby, and recommended I have a sweep around my due to give me a chance of pushing it out (funnily enough, the day after he told me that, I went for a MW appt, and she told me I was measuring small for my dates!!! just goes to show doesn't it!!) so I need to et my head around the fact that it could arrive on time-ish!!!
Sorry - think I've rambled on a bit!!! Looking forward to regular updates from everyone....

Hi everyone,

I've not been on for a couple of days due to easter break.

Hope everyone is ok :)

I'm 35 Weeks today, i'm not that fed up yet as i still have my son to keep me occupied. Although i'm suffing terrible back pain and can't keep get in a comfortable position when i'm sitting. I know that this is a sign of my baby being back to back with mine. I am so hoping that she moves otherwise i think that the hosp will suggest i have another c section due to my first being the same and getting stuck.

I so want a natural birth this time, i know that the recovery time is a lot quicker.

Has anyone got any tips on what i can do to try and move her round.

X

Hi to all of you hope you had a nice easter I am surrounded by chocolate eggs I am sure I asked every one not to buy them this year !!!! (for the kids I didnt get one)

I have started to swell up woe is me and suffer headaches and I am only 34+ weeks I am going to call midwife if continue to feel like this !!

I love my two boys the same amount just differently cant explain really dont have afavourite enjoy them both as they are so different and they adore each other I am worried they might feel pushed out been as I am having a girl this time but they are both pleased the are under the misapprehension this means they wont have to share anything with her!!!!!!

oh and my induction went ok I was in labour 24 hours my firends worked straight away 4 hours from pessarry to birth so some work luck of the draw and stuff I suppose x x

Hello all, not been online over Easter so just had a good old catch up on the thread.........sounds like we are all gearing up for the big push! Who is first in line to go bang then???

After days of doing and froing from the hospital and dr's last week, I was eventually told I have to wait for an emergency appointment with the haemo specialist - in 2 weeks time! How useful is that??

Morning all!!!! Have not been online over easter so just wanted to catch up. I was 35 wks yesterday,( Due Date is May 22nd) so still have a bit of time to go.... although it all feels like its going very quickly now. Hormones and emotions are still quite erratic but am actually feeling quie rested this morning.

Runtus.... how is 'in 2 weeks' an Emergency Appointment?? Are they joking??Hope you're feeling o.k.

Can i start drinking Raspberry Tea soon? Did I read that taking it in tablet form is considered to be more effective? Is there any point to taking it at all??

Hope everyone alse is well.

Runtus - they are useless aren't they, what good is 2 weeks. I hope you manage to keep your chin up despite their uselessness and spend lots of time sitting watching your tummy move and enjoying your maternity leave.

Momamia, my dd was back to back and got stuck and this one is back to back too (but I'm having an elective so its not an issue). They say spend a lot of time sitting leaning forwards onto the back of another chair, sitting on a birthing ball or slightly forwards on a bean bag and being on all fours rotating your hips a bit so the baby gets out of the pelvis and hopefully turns back to front. I hope you find it gets a bit more comfortable, a backache labour is hell isn't it?

I've been to the hospital today for another consultant appointment, they did a scan so I could see the heartbeat and they checked he wasn't breach, they dont want to open me up and find a bottom where they don't expect it! I hae to go in on thursday now for all my pre-op stuff before D-Day on Friday! A bit scary now really but can't quite believe it's happening in 3 days!

Any news from Enid yet?

I have been taking Raspeberyy leaf tabs. Directions say take two a day but have only been taking one as I find they give me quite strong Braxton hicks contractions. So they must be doing something. WHether I go into labour at all is another matter.