November 2012 - into the third trimester

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Bumped into an old pal today. I am a year older than her, and she has three grandchildren with another on the way, and was visibly horrified when I told her my bump was baby not cake. Made my day. Not.

Peeing on demand is not an issue. Getting it in the pot is.

I'm right there with you VQ lol

I'm pretty accurate at peeing into the pot these days too - reckon I could do it with my eyes closed!

I've not got varicose veins or stretch marks (yet) but am absolutely covered in skin tags and miles that I didn't have before pregnancy. Oh, I've also got chloasma so have a nice brown patch on my forehead and, worse, a moustache shaped patch above my top lip. Pregnancy is beautiful eh.

Can't believe your friend is a grandmother valium, that's awfully young.

Miles? I mean moles

Hi all, long time no post! I read every day but its taken me HOURS to catch up the threads move so quickly. I have posted a few piccies on FB of my belly, it seems to be easier to keep up on there
Well I am almost 30 weeks and feel huge. Not been having the easiest time of it (another reason for not posting, didnt want to bore everyone with my whinging) I have SPD too but its mild compared to some people's here. Ive been having reflexology for the last 6 weeks which claims to keep it under control and touch wood (MY HEAD) it seems to have worked. Its not gone away but also no worse than the beginnings of it that I got a couple of months ago so maybe stopped it progressing? Also avoiding the triggers at all costs has also worked well, for thise who dont know you should not be hoovering or pushing supermarket trolleys. Anything that involves pushing or twisting moves. HTH someone, its a buggar of a thing but if its any consolation, it went away with me last time literally the moment after I had given birth and I had been on crutches and in agony. I know another 10 -12 weeks of this seems like a lifetime but there is light at the end of a tunnel. Cant believe its going so quickly now, I cant wait to meet my baby boy, he is to be called Gabriel William

Ooh Thats a lovely name Shannelle will you call him him Gabe for short ?

Hello all! I can't keep up with these threads! Must have only posted a few times. Hope everyone is coping well with the joys of the third trimester!

I had my GTT this morning and feel dreadful. I was nauseous all morning. I hate fizzy drinks and having to down a pint of lucozade at 8.30am was horrible! Now I'm knackered and dizzy, even after managing a meal. Ruined my whole day and haven't got any laundry done. Urgh. I know I get morning sickness if I skip breakfast so not eating for over 12 hours did not do me any good! The nurse said it was normal to feel a bit faint/dizzy so hopefully this isn't a sign that I have GD...

I think it's just dawned on me that this baby is going to come out eventually. I'm terrified. I'm worried about how my body will change, how I'll cope with childbirth and that I'll be a bad mother. : (

I've felt a bit down over the past couple of months, constantly worrying about doing the right thing - to the point where I felt unable to make any decisions on buying simple things for the baby! We went to buy a bouncer, for example, and I just didn't want to be responsible for choosing the wrong thing. I annoyed my husband in the end and ruined our day out baby shopping. I've managed to feel a bit better since, reassuring myself that I know a lot about newborns and children through working with them, but my well-meaning mother-in-law keeps commenting on how I'll need her help post birth as I'm an inexperienced first timer, making me feel like I won't be able to cope and my anxiety levels rocket again.

I'm booked in for some antenatal classes during Sept/Oct. I'm hoping more knowledge (and hopefully reassurance) will make me more relaxed.

Ah Gabriel william is a lovely name Shanelle! me and DH are struggling to find a boys name that we both agree on, all the ones I love he veto's etc.
Yes - I am just focusing on SPD being short term and that once my lovely baby is here it will improve (fingers crossed!)
I just had my Anti-D shot- oo that stung! But its not too bad for anyone who still has to have it, and I hate injections. It didn't take long, and it was in my arm (not bum as some places seem to do).

Thanks Donna and Ditsy, yes he will be Gabe. Mcsquared, Ive been very down too, I actually went to the Dr in the end and am having some councelling. I was also offered anti depressants to my surprise but am trying to cope without them if I can just whilst bub is still inside but there is no shame in needing a little help. Hope you feel brighter and more able to cope soon, the hormones in pregnancy are horrendous and I have been really low, please get all the support you need before you have baby or it may be more likely you will suffer from PND which is my concern. Hope I havnt offended anyone.

You?re right shanelle There is no shame in getting help if you need it. I have suffered from depression in the past and now I know the warning signs I would seek help before it gets really bad like before. Some people are too proud though. Gabriel William is a beautiful name by the way

Sorry to hear that you guys are feeling so low. We are all first time mothers at one point and you really shouldn't be made to feel incapable because of that. The hormones are horrendous but its great that there are forums like this where you can say how you feel honestly without being judged. Big ((((hugs)))) to you both shanelle5 and mcsquared.

Thankyou Apple- on both counts

Crossed posts- and chick too. Hug happily accepted!

I love Gabriel - if I could have got DH to agree to it that would be our first choice boy's name. All in all a beautiful name Shanelle. I just think it's the sort of name that works well over a lifetime - cute for a child but dashing for a young man and wise-sounding and respectable for an older chap. No offence if anyone has used this name or intends to - but I don't think names like Kaiden or Jaiden are going to age so wonderfully as names like Gabriel. A friend gave me a great tip - say the name out loud and imagine you were in court - if you think the name suits the barrister go for it but if it sounds more like the name of the accused then ditch it!!! Gabriel is deffo the barrister's name

Lots of love to those ladies feeling down.

I'm a bit stressed today as we find out our home report valuation tomorrow and that'll determine the approximate ball park for our house buying budget. We're going to go into rented initially as I'm NOT doing a chain when preggers - but I can't help but think that big falls are coming and wondering if we stay in rented for a bit longer than a few months to see how it all pans out, it also means that if any big house items go tits up it's a landlord's expense not ours - which is definitely appealing with a newborn and dropping down to one wage. I know everyone claims that renting is dead money but so is overpaying for a falling asset and mortgage interest is just as 'dead'. I'd rather not get a bigger mortgage than we need and every pound spent on a house costs you £3 over the lifetime of the loan so - every penny we can save would be wonderful (i.e. if our target house falls by £20k then we'd pay £60k less over the lifetime of a mortgage).... Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

It is indeed a beautiful time rowing. My face is just looking freckly rather than patchy. Bobbi Brown concealer goes everywhere!

I'm not convinced leg beats fanjo valium. Nobody sees my fanjo. Well, not for a while then I guess everyone will be taking a look

I don't think anyone feels like an expert mcsquared but talking really helps. I was suddenly terrified when I met my friends newborn and as she passed her to me I realised I had no idea how to even hold a newborn. But as long as you put food in, remove the poo and give them love they'll be ok. Something I learned in hypnobirthing that applies to everything I think is to go deaf to negativity. I believe labour and birth will be fine and I'm confident I'll learn how to look after my baby. Bottom line, he'll be new to EVERYTHING, he won't be judging me and who else really matters?

I love Gabriel! We are considering that, and Raphael. Let's hope he is a little angel!

I love Raphael as well VQ. It was on our shortlist.

Please could you ladies tell me what type of mattress you bought or are planning to buy...foam or spring?

According to lady in Mothercare, spring is better but not sure if I believe her. Ideally want to keep costs down but wouldn't scrimp on comfort or safety. Not relishing spending 200 on mattresses this weekend.

Fanjo ones are more painful than leg ones apparently. Thankfully I do not have one.

garden spring is better, but if it is a cot they will quickly outgrow, I would spend my money on the next size bed. If a cot bed, then it would be worth getting a sprung mattress.

dectective I'm still working nights, I'm doing four this week. Then three in two weeks time. I'm not a fan of nights but it's generally less crazy than days. As long as I do my work by eight in the morning, no one cares.

I saw my manger this morning, and said "oh, I thought you had finished." I told her I still had two weeks to go and the last week I had nights.
Her replay was oh but I told people you had finshed!

As for the nights, I don't feel my son like I used too. I blame the nights, everyone tells me it's cause I'm working, and I'm tiring him out. But on nights I get to go to the loo, and have a break.

On a brighter note, I have my first antenatal class tomorrow.
!!!!!!!!!!!TMI'!!!!!!!!!!
I've got a pile, and it was throbbing. My poor ass, that huge poo did some damage on the way out.I didn't want to sit down for at lest half an hour. Also my my farts, are deadly.

Evil

Tk maxx do loads of baby sleeping bags if anyone is thinking of getting one. I've got some left over from ds so don't need anymore but the range was huge in there.

Aww you guys are all so lovely! I am going to accept all your much needed hugs. : )

I think it helped just to write all that as there isn't really anyone I can talk to about this. I don't want to worry my mum and my close friends haven't had kids yet so they'd probably think I'm nuts! I will definitely chat to my midwife about things next week as well to make sure I have her support.

On the bright side, I think my piles have spontaneously gone!

All I can say to the first time mothers is that once you have this beautiful bundle, you will get to know it like NOBODY else will. You will know what every cry means, a hungry cry a tired cry etc. I Promise you that you will. As long as your little mite is clean, dry and fed then you can't go wrong, they sleep for the first few months most of the time anyway so you can slowly build your confidence with your little one.

As for childbirth, well I personally enjoyed the last 3 and am really looking forward to the whole labour thing this time too. It does hurt but give yourself up to your body and you won't go wrong, it will tell you what to do no matter how daft it may seem at the time. Cravings are an evolutionary thing to make you get what your body needs and we all obeyed them () and childbirth is no different in your body knowing what it needs to do.

There is no shame in asking for help and make sure you take up all offers of help around the house and cooking so that you can rest after the birth.

Anyway, that's my experience as a soon to be mum of 4, hope it helps

I went to a tkmaxx today, they had tons of gorgeous sleeping bags for babies they also had a few cosytoes for £12 each.