November 2012 - into the third trimester

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I have a MW appointment a week Friday so that's only nine days to go. I didn't have the GTT in my last two pregnancies so I'm not too worried, it just appears I might have missed out on some appointments. I can't remember how many appointments I had in previous pregnancies but with DS2 I didn't go to all my midwife appointments because the midwife was terrible. She pulled off DS1's cord stump before it was ready and it was left bleeding and infected and he has a HUGE belly button now. Then when I was pregnant with DS2 she refused to listen to my concerns about discharge and it turned out I had bacterial vaginosis and ended up having to have an internal exam, two courses of vaginal antibiotics (nasty!) and putting my baby at risk of stillbirth. Needless to say I am not too enamoured with the community midwives. And don't even get me started on their care post-baby...

Oh stunt that's awful, not surprised you feel the way you do about your community midwives! I have got to have a GTT next week at 28 weeks, I had one with DD too, think they just routinely do them in my part of the UK? My DD has quite a prominent outy belly button because they cut her cord a bit short.

Having an off day today, feel quite sad but not sure what about, weird

stunt and kissy I get so annoyed about the national variations in routine care. I am all for it being individualised, but basic routine stuff should be national, not dependent on your postcode.

stunt I have such gripes with the MWs who looked after DD1 that I could only consider having another child after I moved to another country! There was one in particular who was very cruel on day 3 after a traumatic delivery (day 3 is snot and tears anyway) and told me I had to 'buck up my ideas, otherwise they would put me on the mental health ward, and I would not be allowed my baby' I phoned my DH at 6am to come and get me, and discharged myself as I was so upset and angry. I was forgetting you have older children. That makes the GTT less concerning.

kissy I am sorry you are feeling sad. Hopefully just hormonal, and hopefully it will soon pass.

Oh dear. Hadn't even thought about looking after the baby when it gets here! All this talk of cords has got me worried as I have no idea what ur meant to do!

Need to find somewhere that sells Emma Jane bras n get fitted there I think.

Had a dream I was painting the nursery yellow m blue. Looked so nice

I just typed a lovely long ranting post! And deleted it. But I feel much better for it, phew.

I'm just exhausted. Think I need to speak to work and ask to stop my night shifts. Luckily I have no more for 4 weeks, but I can't cope with them anymore. It's the after effects of trying to get back in to a day pattern that is the problem.

I was crying just thinking about doing them when I go back to work with a baby who probably won't be sleeping through the nights, and trying to get back in to a day pattern. When I'm being woken at night

Hope everyone else is a little happier this morning!

My eBay bargains are arriving daily now, this has cheered me up! Lots of cute baby clothes!

Have just cut my toenails! A bit sore in the bump now. Gonna have a long soak of my feet in a bowl now. Not brave enough to get in the bath as nobody home (bliss) and my fat arse would probably get stuck too.

Dinner in slo cooker, washing on, Mat Leave calculated and form completed, Dr appt arranged, so had a productive morning. Feeling better mentally too.

detective I am amazed you are still doing nights, as there is clear evidence according to the Daily Mail that it is not good for pregnant women. Glad you are pleased with your bargains. Shame about that swing. I was gutted about the first PnT I saw, and did not pay for that either. It is amazing what some people are happy to sell. Well done for being firm!

misslaughalot I just can manage to cut my toenails albeit slightly squashing belly last time. Think I may have to get a couple of pedicures from now to birth .... U can always get dh to do it?! I don't trust my dh to do it, might end up with a missing toe or two!

stunt that sounds awful. Midwives are ppl ur suppose to trust wholly :(
My midwives All seem very nice and it really makes a difference as thu give me confidence. Could u ask to see another midwife if ur not happy with ur current one?

Oh my ante natal yoga was so fun. Really nice to meet other up the duff ladies too. I have my 3d scan 2mo. Ah I can't wait ESP seeing everyone else's super cute scans :) looking forward to seeing real baby pics of everyone's bubba in a few months time. Not long left!!! Scary ....

I'm crying. I don't want to go to work :(

Hi ladies,
I'm afraid I am feeling very sorry for myself. My SPD got significantly worse on friday and I could barely walk at all. its all in my left side on my hip and into my back and it hurts like nothing I've felt before (granted I haven't given birth yet though!)
We were at our new house over the weekend decorating and I had to just sit and so was literally "watching paint dry". So frustrating.
I worked from home monday and had a midwife appt, but she couldn't refer me to a physio as I am moving this sat so no point, but doctors in my new town won't register me until I move and then I can make an appt and then they can refer me so it could be a long wait. I went into work yesterday but the walk in between tube platforms was too much and i was in agony all day. So work have told me to work from home this week, but I am scared I am not going to get better again really whilst still pregnant so I'm not sure how I'm going to manage going back into the office next week.
I ended up making a private physio appt for next friday which was the earliest i could get, but still over a week away! i've ordered a support belt too and dh bought me a walking stick yesterday, but I think I might need crutches.
Its just such bad timing with moving house this weekend too, and I just can't imagine staying in this much pain for another 12 weeks!
Sorry for the epic post!

Ditsy, ring the triage number, ask to be seen today in the hospital, then you can have a referral done.

I'd do it myself. If I could!! Although to be honest, the private appointment will probably be quicker than NHS one...

Ah thanks Detective. I called the physio dept this morning in my new town who said I couldn't self refer, but your right I asked how long appointments take and its a few weeks so I may as well go for the private one next week and then get the nhs one when I can register when I move house next week. I just can't believe how the nhs can't handle people moving areas very well, and how long it takes to be seen.

Hey up! Hope everyone is well! Have been south playing with my wee niece and nephew and having a lovely catch up with MissMummy - am so amazed by how differently shaped our bumps are - I wonder if we are having different sexes of baby? But then the heart beats sounded pretty similar... Hmmm and MissMummy's mum thinks I'm having a boy by my bump shape and even my sister (a long time backer of team pink) is wondering if we're team blue. I dunno. The little bugger is proper active at night though - it feels as though they are caving or trying to tunnel underneath me when I sleep on my side.

We are about to put our house on the market. At 27 weeks pregnant. Do I need my head read? DH is at home with the home report man now - please god may he have hoovered and made the house look nice... Can't wait to be back in the central belt and close to family. Am loving the idea of a herd of cousins growing up together. Also ladies of central Scotland can I recommend the Edinburgh Pregnancy and Parents Centre birth preparation class - it was so amazing and a really bonding experience. DH is now feeling super confident that he has a role and is going to be my hero and protector during labour. Bless him. I'm feeling really upbeat and confident and (dare I say it with the last four births in our family being EMCS) excited about the big day. He's giving me regular massages and we're about to work on a birth plan together - am so thrilled about how supportive and excited he is (this is a guy who likes nothing better than trout fishing so wasn't expecting this at all!)

Psychologically this week is so important to me - tomorrow I will be 27+3 which is the date my lovely niece turned up in my sisters pregnancy last year (on a calendar I'm literally 2 days behind her, she was due on the 17th Nov and I'm due on the 19th), so once I get past that date I'm going to be so much more relaxed. Have even been having dreams about prem births (including one in which my subconscious was trying to convince me that eating a big bag of granny smiths was a sure fire way of avoiding early labour - WTF????)

Also, just to wind folks up - but here on the isles - pee pots are ten a penny - my midwife gave me five at the last visit to make sure I don't run out - so we have a collection in the bathroom...

Epic post - sorry xxx

Oh and if Missmummy doesn't mind - am going to put a photo up on FB of my prem niece sandwiched between our two bumps (at pretty much the same stage in pregnancy that she arrived last year) - it's so cute!!!! You'll see how different our bumps are - MissMummy is beautiful and neat and I look like a dugong - and there is only 10 days between us. eeep!!!

yw don't mind at all! It was sooo lovely seeing you and can't wait for you to move a little closer! Both our neices on ts side are in northern ireland - with molly (7) about to move to australia with sil - and i think i've hopefully put both my sisters off having kids for at least 20 10 years so will be lovely for our baby to grow up with yours!

ditsygem if it's any consolation nhs and my mw cant cope with the fact i've moved house - and I'm still in the same area and close enough to still be registered at the same medical practice!! Your spd sounds trully crap though - really hope physio eases it a little for you. Hugs!

Feeling really weird today. Not tired, just drained if that makes sense? According to dh i have 'cant't-be-arsed-itis' - roll on him going back to sea tomorrow!!!

Ooh, the Edinburgh Pregnancy and Parents Centre YW! I have to pop down there soon, need to drop off a book to their library that I've promised them (one that I edited - it's not on pregnancy and birth but relevant to babies and young children) and was going to check out their VBAC resources. So glad your DH has taken to the whole birth idea. I found that the most valuable thing about ante-natal classes. I'd read up loads on it anyway and fed stuff through to my DH but he didn't really seem to believe me until he did the classes!

For those that are moving house, we are moving house this Friday so I'll let you know how it goes. Slow and steady is the key with packing, we've been doing it for about four weeks now. Still feel knackered after doing every box though. Nice to have a sit down with MN!

I got a pee pot last time I went to the MW. Before that I had to improvise with mayonnaise jars! I'm definitely one of those who can't pee on demand so it was the best I could do!

How does the fb thing work? Be nice to check out pics etc. I'm not even sure people can PM me on MN because I've probably let my profile lapse. Will look into sorting that and will let you guys know when it's done so someone can PM me a link or something!

It's such a lovely centre isn't it Georgee - am so impressed as it's a charity too and the work they do is awesome. For those closer - they have some amazing classes for Dads to be to teach them how to do practical stuff like bath the baby. I wish I were closer as the preggo yoga is meant to be amazing. It's run by such an inspiring bunch of ladies - you feel you can do anything after chatting with them - even naturalish child birth (though I'll not be averse to gas and air if needed, I would love to try for an intervention free birth.... must have been reading too much Ina May Gaskin) hell we are built to do it, so why not try is my view.

I just bought one of those smoked Austrian cheese things and ate the entire pack in about two bites... whoops, I'm probably not making bones this week but really fancied a calcium hit. And a chocolate orange bar for errrr vitamin c?

GT you don't do anything with the cord stump, just keep it clean with plain water and wait for it to fall off by itself. That's why I was so annoyed at the midwife pulling it off as I was diving across the room shouting Nooooooo.

Abso-bloomin-lutely YW, we sometimes forget that we're designed for it don't we! You should go in to the whole process with the most positive attitude you can muster, I think. Ina May helps! Glad you got a big hit of inspiration from those Edinburgh ladies too, will definitely go seek them out soon. Mmm ... chocolate orange bar ... might seek one of those out too ...

I must order myself some Ina May and a pregnancy pillow when I get paid.

My bump feels ridiculously heavy today and it aches so I?m feeling sorry for myself. DP has been off work with a bad back this week. He?s due back in tomorrow but it still isn?t much better. Can?t afford for him to be off too long though because he won?t get paid so it?s compounding my money worries I don?t want him going back if it?s not any better because it will aggravate it even more but we will lose so much money. Shit.

I hit enter without finishing my post. We?ve got a heavy month coming up money wise as well. My car is in the garage next week for an oil change, we?ve got Center Parcs in three weeks, got to tax the frigging car for 12 months and pay another £200 towards our holiday for next year. Moan moan moan

apple I do hope DP is soon mended. It is horrible when there is no sick pay entitlement. I will have a party when my DH gets a contract.

Shaved 2 mins off the school run each way.

To add to the pee pot debate, I get a new pot each time and pee on demand. Peeing on demand these days is not an issue these days! They also take my old pee from me so I don't have to carry it home. It seems a bit gross to have a pot of pee sloshing about in your handbag!

Am thinking of signing up to pregnancy yoga. Now I know I'm being made redundant I'm doing as little work as I can possibly get away with so I have a bit more free time during the week to do such things when DS is at nursery.

I feel a bit daft now as there are so many of you with proper ailments or financial concerns but I've been sat in tears over discovering a varicose vein on my right leg below the knee. I know it's shallow and stupid but I'm gutted. My legs are my best feature and I live in dresses. I'm sat in support stockings feeling really sorry for myself.

waiting sorry to hear about your vein, but at least it is not on your fanjo hopefully it will go once baby is here and the pressure is eased.

Peeing on demand is not an issue. Getting it in the pot is.