November 2012 - into the third trimester

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YW if nothing else but to reassure us! Remember how remote you are too. It is important you are extra careful. BH should not be frequent or painful AFAIK.

Definitely give mw a ring YW just to be on the safe side

Rock solid for that long would make me think infection or some such YW. I would definitely call the midwife. If only to stop us all worrying!

Hmm prob should get a new mattress then.

horsey I've had the email but haven't been on the pc to print the voucher yet.

yw I'd ring your mw and see what she says.

I would say pillows are essential to take in. Both times I've been in (once for childbirth), was given one thin pillow and was like I was asking for tge world when requested another! Not great for getting comfy especially as i was used to sleeping with several pillows behind me, between legs, under bump by that point! Also don't underestimate tge amount of emergency food needed! Although I didn't eat much during labour, we were there for so long DH ran out. He was just in the canteen about to tuck into breakfast after 12 hours with nothing when I got rushed into theatre! He had to abandon it! And when was in for my op a few weeks ago, it got to 10pm before they decided it wouldn't happen until the morning. They said I should eat as been nil by mouth since breakfast, but they weren't able to provide any food at all. DH ended up nipping to tesco for sandwiches for me and tge girl in the bed opposite! Also my hospital def didn't provide nappies or pads, although they did have them around of course in case of unexpected need. Did provide blankets though.

Lovely day at Marwell Zoo today. DS (almost 2) really enjoyed it. He even ate okay today. He is tge fussiest little so and so. For some reason being given sausages in his buggy he'll eat them but not say at table. Tonight he even tried a mouthful of spag Bol. Spat it out, but at least he tried! He basically only eats cereal, fish fingers, chicken nuggets, waffles, sausages and Swedish meatballs . Oh and yoghurt, fruit sometimes, jelly, ice cream...! Used to make all these healthy mushed up meals but by 10 months he started being a fuss pot and has only got worse since. We count it as a triumph when he eats chips, not quite what I expected when I imagined how I'd bring up my children! Hoping when he's older we'll be able to reason with him a bit more...????!

I'd second the emergency food- as a vegetarian, I was given a 'cheese salad' for tea. That consisted of a couple of lettuce leaves a couple of chunks of tomato and cucumber and a bit of grated cheese on top. As I was supposed to be breastfeeding twins, my midwives went mad and complained on my behalf! If you're unlucky enough to just miss one of the set meal times, you can be sat there empty for hours!

Dixie I think the secret is to just keep presenting them with the food. I read the results of a study that said that children (and adults in fact) needed to try a certain food an average of 19 times over a month before their tastebuds adapted to the taste and they started to like it. My kids are fiends for anything green, so there must be something to it!

Blimey - my Internet goes down for 3 weeks and I miss a whole thread!
I have tried and failed to catch up, although I have read the last few days worth!

horsey that sounds like a nightmare. Unfortunately I think you're going to have to nip it in the bud now or it'll be a nightmare when the baby arrives :(

I am 28 weeks tomorrow and have definitely put weight on all over:( I feel very different to last time, when I was all bump. There are some advantages to hyperemesis it seems!

catbag, yes I know the theory! My trouble is getting him to even try it. I must confess I have got v disheartened to cook him lively food only to have it rejected without even a taste, and although I try and include say peas with his fish fingers, I know they won't be touched and the effort of cooking them seems pointless! Also it's not that these are new tastes for him to get to know, he used to eat spag Bol, chicken korma etc and just stopped eating them!

I feel v emotional tonight, feel like everything re the home and ds is all my responsibility and dh swans in and out being fed.
He hardly talks to me, doesn't make me feel special at all, and I could really do with a bit of extra tlc during pregnancy as its not the most glamourous time.

I had a little cry with ds while dh is in the bath, I don't even know why. I hardly get adult interaction during the day and it really wears me down then when dh gets home and I can have a decent convo with someone he just mumbles and says mmm to everything.

hoping its just my hormones making me feel like this.

dh21 you are very special, and I am sure that your H thinks so too, sometimes men, in general, don't think to tell us because they don't need telling very much. If you hide your tears then he still doesn't know that you are missing something you need. My DH is very quiet, he doesn't share much and shows his love in a different way to the way that I show it. This means I sometimes don't get the tlc I need in the way I need it. So if you feel that you aren't getting something you need and you feel like you can't cope without it then ask, in the nicest possible way I.e not saying " you never.....blah blah blah" is best to say " I could do with a cuddle" or something.

Sorry if I'm rambling, having been through marriage counselling in my last marriage and now being married to an original alpha male, I have felt everything you are feeling and I know how lonely it can feel. My DH grunts as well, so I force him to sit at the table for dinner and tell us about his favourite part of the day!!

Also, on the blanket in hospital discussion, don't take in a blanket that is nice, I made that mistake with DD2 and someone pinched it off the end of my bed.

DH21 my DH is like that too - it's is very hard going sometimes :(
I try to tell myself that is just the way he is and he doesn't mean anything by it but I still get frustrated by it sometimes often

Dixie, Catbag is right in that perserverence is the key. My DS1 is a very difficult eater but we keep giving the same things and ask him to try them, even if he doesn't eat them. He gets one star for trying everything on his plate, two stars if he eats everything, and three stars if he eats everything and has seconds. It has taken years but he has gone from being 'allergic to mushrooms' to happily eating spaghetti carbonara, he has just started eating potatoes (we went from chips to smiley faces to roast potatoes to the point where he will now occasionally eat a boiled potato). The biggest change was in spaghetti bolognese where he used to only eat them if they were separated on the plate. Then he allowed the spaghetti and bolognese to touch. Then he started to mix individual strands of spaghetti in with the bolognese. Now he has to have the spaghetti on top of the bolognese but we are nearly there! And it only took five years lol. In my opinion, it's not just about getting your kids to eat a health diet, you also need to give them the skills to cope when they are presented with rubbish food which happens to us all. The first meal my DH made for me was pizza which I'm not keen on but it was supposed to be a romantic dinner for two so I had to grin and bear it.

yellow I would call your MW just for peace of mind

I won a Gro egg off eBay was a need and not a want and it's finally came :-) got it really cheap and I'm soo pleased with it, ha sat and read the instructions then plugged it in and felt so pleased haha easily pleased or what!!

My 2yo is a human dustbin. She will eat everything except sweet puddings (odd child). DD1 was a good little eater until about 4 and now is a little fussy pants. Stuff she used to hoover up she now hates. She has been to bed without any dinner before now. I try to give food they will both like but that is hard. She does however always eat broccoli, peas, carrots and fruit.

Hallo,

Those bed side crib things are cute - shame we have a tiny house.

YW have you called the midwife? Sounds like it would be worth it.

horsey that whole situation would drive me bonkers. I like my own space and unannounced visitors would do my head in.

Can I ask what tightenings feel like? Is that a stupid question? My bump sometimes feels tight or hard but I think that is baby moving.

yw and valium I've had bad tightenings today too and they were sore a bit like 8 weeks ago when I ended up in hospital.. so we drove up to triage.. took an hour to do a 15 min journey becuase of the traffic I was better by the time we arrived so I left again!!
I am more worried about the fact it took an hour to get to the hospital... hope I don't go in to labour at 5pm cause I've heard second babies sometimes don't wait for traffic jams!

catbag I used the cds the last time. They didn't work for a full hypnobirth but I had all sorts of things go wrong and I really think that the fact I used them was great becuase I stayed really calm and got on with it even though everything was a bit hairy mary.
This time my friend, who has recently quailified, is giving me birthing hypnotherapy. Hypnotheraphy is fantastic in general. I have ben using cds every night to help keep my stress at bay and it';s working pretty well.

Do you have do the hypnobirthing with your other half or can you go alone? I would like to do it but it's not DH's cup of tea. My other concern is that If I have my hypnobirthing cd on a portable cd player and then a tens machine how do I keep track of all the wires and electrical goods strung around me?

While we're on the topic of dickhead husbands and partners, mine's just had a massive go at me that I need to 'step up to the plate and make more of an effort' ?!?! Hello, I do all the washing, cleaning, food shopping, cooking, lunch making, drive him to work at 6 am then stay by my phone all day to go and pick him up again, run my own business.... I have no idea what he means - I'm not bloody superwoman!! Would love to do nothing in the house for a week OCD won't let me, boo and let him see just how much I actually do for him!!!

My little sister's having a really crap time at the moment too - usual teenage dramas (I hate mum and dad, I think.my boyfriend wants to dump me, I did crap in my exams.....) - and has spent all afternoon venting to me.

Oh and dh also doesn't seem to understand that sometimes I just need a cuddle either.. Grrrr! Sorry for ranting. In a shit mood. Sometimes prefer it when he's offshore....

Debating whether or not I tell my mum that my sisters planning on moving in with our dad. It would break her heart but I can sympathise with my sister that she doesnt feel part of my mum's new ready made family and wants to rebel against my mum's control freak ways. and to be fair I hated my mum when i was 16/17 as well

YW have you phoned mw? How are you feeling now? Hugs your way xxxx

MissMummy I'd have bludgeoned him with a saucepan.

I'm with catbag missmummy that would be like a red rag to a bull with me! Honestly men what are they like?!

Lol we've just had a similar conversation..... Basically he still wants to keep up his hobby 3 nights a week, plus football etc. Have had to say 'erm hang on' you do realise I'm already worried about Pnd and feeling isolated will seriously compound those feelings?!

If the tightenings are constant then call the midwife YW Let us know how you get on.

I hated my mum when I was 16/17 too!