November 2012 - into the third trimester

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Is anyone thinking of getting a co sleeping crib? Last time I borrowed a crib from a friend I placed by my bed side, it had quite high sides so I had to get up at night to pick baby up or settle. I like the idea of a crib that attaches to the bed so you can scoot them over to you without getting up but no risk of rolling over onto them in the night. My friend has got and recommended a BedNest www.bednest.com/ which I would love to get but they are £300 ! I cant borrow hers as she has just had her baby so might invest as they resell really well on eBay and you can recoup alot of the money. Anyone tried this or recommend an alternative co-sleeping crib?

My heartburn is cronic this morning, which I hadnt had that roll and lorne sausage!!

Morning all, I did ring the labour ward in the end last night as tightenings weren't going away. Ending up spending a few hours last night getting checked out (got home at 1am!) Was a bit scary, they did a test called fibrorectin?! To check I wasn't going into prem labour, luckily it came back negative! No idea what caused the tightenings and pain, but is better today.

My DP's name is James, although he's a Jim or Jimmy to me. Would love a J boys name for this DC but most of the ones I like have been used by friends.

debussy would love a co sleeping crib but just can't afford it

You can get little baby nest things that go between you and DH if you have a big enough bed. I will try to get the name.

www.snugglenest.com

Woo I did a linkey!

Oh yes we are going to use one of those nest type thingies VQ, I had wanted a co sleeping crib as you describe debussyhead, but our matress is too big and I was certain it wouldn't line up! We had a cot next to our bed, and took the side off it so that it was next to the bed. Could you do that?

About £60-70 but only ok for up to 4 months, but worth a look? I have never had one so just going by Mr Google. There are probably other ones available.

Glad you are ok kissy I did wonder if we were going to get a graduate!

Set up the PnT properly this morning, with cocoon in etc. Still not ideal in my opinion, but will only be for trips in car, which we do a lot of as in-laws a long way away, and camping etc. the little raincover flap at the back the stitching has come undone (shoddy workmanship) so will get my needle and thread out later.

No we don?t want any graduates just yet! Not for at least another month.I don?t mind mine being early but no more than a week or two.

I did read today though that at 27 weeks our babies have an 85% chance of survival! Much higher than I thought.

Yeah I've just been trying to find out when third tri starts (I'm saying 27 weeks) and someone said at 28 weeks chances of survival are 90% which is really good considering it's nearly 3 months early.

90% is still one in ten dying and survival may mean major problems too. Best they stay bellydwellers as long as possible. It is an encouraging statistic though, and better than I would have thought.

Can I just have a small vent and ask wwyd?!

My fil is being an utter nightmare. He's round our house nearly daily. We had him over Sunday night then last night he just turned up. He was moaning as all of aug is now ruined as my sil may or may not be going away so he's got nothing to do and is all alone again. He's got lots of trips away booked in sept (one of which he's asked dh to take him to the airport again) and a holiday a month until Xmas (again expected dh to take him to the airport which will take all day). My Tongue biting is doing relatively well but I'm starting to lose patience now. My sil will not give him any answers and is not helping. I'm on the verge of telling her exactly what I think and the same to my fil. I've just emailed dh and said perhaps fil should buy my flight ticket and go with him as I can see me spending a while alone as it's a walking trip and I can't see me walking what they're going to do. He's said he'd rather not but I've said lets talk about it tonight.

I'm starting to worry about how fil is going to cope when baby comes along and that he will spend more time at ours as I'll be off work. In principle this would be ok if it was anyone but him and anyone who would do something to help!! He won't. He'll moan if the baby cries, he'll moan about the dogs, he'll demand coffees (it suggest we go out and get one at my expense). I've totally lost it with him before when mil was very ill and only just managed to not call him s selfish bastard! Sleep deprived and hormonal god only knows what will happen. Last night I issued some home truths about sil which perhaps I shouldn't have said but I couldn't listen any more.

Best case scenario is none of this happens. Dh is wonderful, he knows my concerns but also has no idea how to move forward with it. He's very much cross each bridge as we get to it.

I think I'm worried about how having a baby will affect me. But maybe I'll be a nicer mire understanding person who doesn't care so much?! Or maybe him saying one horrible thing about anything will set me off!! ESP if it's about ds!!! Dh is wonderful, but I'm worried about him as he just looks so stressed all the time. Honestly I could cry. I'm so looking forward to having a family but this cloud is just sitting over me. Perhaps it would have better after mil died and everyone settled down, but life goes on? Wed been trying for 2 years, off contraception for 4.....

Buy my plane ticket for next weekends away trip btw! Sorry for typos getting very wound up at work!

horsey sorry to hear that this situation is stressing you out so much. Not sure what to suggest beacuse if I was in your shoes I would have probably bitten his head off. I honestly love living on the other side of the world to all my in-laws and my family too, I like the space.

Ooh thanks VQ that looks really cute! Looks like there would be no smothering risk either and alot cheaper than the bed nest.

Horsey your FIL sounds like a nightmare! Some people are so selfish - you are having your baby and you would think he would respect your privacy a bit. I would want to bite his head off but am not a confrontational person so would probably bite my tongue, seeth inside and bitch to everyone else about him. I recommend you just speak to him directly rather than take my tact! Good luck!

Also looking at breast pumps and was considering a medela swing. I had the medela single mini before that I had borrowed from a friend. I would pump twice a day and DH always did a night feed with the expressed milk which worked well for us. Another friend has hired a hospital grade breastpump as it does 2 boobs at once and it much quicker but it is £65 first month then £35 for each month after that so would be way cheaper just to buy one.

This baby malarky is soo expensive!

Horsey can the tickets be transferred? What is the trip again? How long for?

It is really tricky with family, but as you say DH is supportive and understanding which is good. It is important to get things clear before baby arrives. He cannot be there all the time, moaning and demanding. He visits when it suits you only! It is a shame he is alone, but he needs to find his own way of coping. This is your family life, he has had his young family days. These are precious and never-to-be-repeated. Maternity leave is for you and your family, not him.

kissyfur glad you got checked out and all is okay!

Sorry your so stressed horsey maybe your DH needs to have a word with him and be quite firm, it's harder with old people as their so set in their ways and often think the world and everyone owes them something so they don't think about how the thing they say and do affect other people, that's how things are with my gma

I ordered my curtains and bedding off amazon yday afternoon and was suprised web it came at 9am this morning! I'm so pleased with it, it's very young and girly have been looking at it for a while but didn't want to buy anything yet but now am so glad I did I have a feeling this little girl might turn into a tomboy because we have quite alot of pink

horsey sounds like a horrible situation to be in, I'd hate my FIL coming round every day and it'll only be worse when the baby comes, you def won't want him hanging around everyday, esp when you've had a bad night and all you want to do the next day is lounge about in pjs catching up on sleep.
Tbh I'd speak to your dh about it, say how you feel and see if he'll have a word with him.

At these parent classes I've been going to, they gave us a booklet and how things work at the hospital I'll be having LO in and it says in there that you have to bring your own baby blankets, pads, nappies, milk (if FF), cotton wool and stuff like that

nervous hospitals vary so I would take a little of everything personally, plus hospital pads are not nice. If they give nappies and stuff then great, just take yours home again. Very few are providing formula now, but I am sure they would not see a baby starve.

Thanks valium think when it comes to packing I'll just pack a bit f everything and then pack another bag at home with more stuff in so if we stay in and need more DP has it hand

I was abit shocked about blankets though, I never would have though to pack them

That surprised me too. I took a blanket for mine and was not allowed to use it! Again, they would not see a baby freeze. My two also had tubigrip hats before I got them changed.

Take flip flops or something to wear in the shower as there will be other womens blood everywhere! Not nice! Crocs are good for swollen feet.

It is quite normal to pass clots the size of goose eggs, and to swell in your extremities. I wish they had told me that before it happened!!