Sunny Summer August 2012 Babies

[harmonyb23]

Hello, my name is Becky and I have just got my BFP after TTC for 5 months with 1 MMC a month ago.

I noticed that no-one had started a August 2012 antenatal club so thought I might start one here. Welcome to all!

Here are my stats;

Harmonyb23 (23) Due date 19/08/12 DC#3

Please let me know if I am doing anything wrong, I've never started a thread before!

Missduff, just wanted to say yr friend sounds a bit jealous if you ask me. What an odd reaction!
Firsttimer - I think a some of us are somewhat neurotic due to past experiences - I would give anything to go back to being relaxed about being pg but unfortunately I know this will be the longest 7 months of my life and I will be worried constantly. I wasn't like this before I lost a baby so don't feel it's normal. If anything, being relaxed and confident is a much better state of mind to be in for you and your baby!
It turns out everything is fine with me anyway... Went for a private scan today and saw a tiny heartbeat and measuring in line with dates. Was well worth the money - I can finally start to believe this is real. And stop worrying about few symptoms - I AM pg! There is a baby! What's the betting I will be barfing tomorrow?

Thanks augustmoon u may have a point, my friend had a termination last year as it came at bad timing, just before her wedding so she wanted to be able to get drunk on her hen weekend, wedding day and hoonymoon and she is doing well at work etc etc...she may feel some guilt so by me having our baby make her question her own decision. I'm not anti abortion (I've had one myself) but I do think her reasons were pretty poor reasons, I'm sure she must feel some guilt at times.

That's great news about the scan

I need advice: one of my closest friends seems to be suffering infertility - she and her DH have been trying for 2 years, had tests all is clear but still no pregnancies. She's very open about it, but I know it kills her inside.

I told her in Oct that I'd come off pill but wasn't really trying to get pregnant, was just taking things easy in the bedroom with DH Except I got pregnant in Nov and found out the week before Christmas!

I told her yesterday that I'd been sick a lot recently and that it was hard looking after DS when DH was working long hours, just a rant basically. She asked what was making me sick but I chickened out of telling her as a) it's still early days, b) I don't want to upset her, c) if I tell her I'll have to tell other mutual friends.

Advice needed is:- how do I tell her that I got pregnant with DC2 when I wasn't really trying to when she is crying all the time trying to get pregnant with DC1?

Should I email her? Ring her? Tell her face to face?

Thanks and sorry this post is so big!

Hello all,

Good news on the scan Augustmoon. It is always good to know that you aren't imagining it. I am trying to step away from the scans although I would like one every day if I could!!

Firstimer hopefully, you will be one of those people who can go through pregnancy and further pregnancys completely relaxed as that really is the best way and for most people there is no need to worry as things will be just fine. As for the drinking, it is probably the easiest when you are at your own home as you can prepare alot of the drinks. Can you try and have spirit and mixer and skip the spirit - they hopefully won't notice you don't have any to yourself. If you do have wine - just carry it around with you and tip some away every so often and don't top yourself up. Once they have had a few they won't notice if you aren't drinking.

Needles that sort of thing is always difficult. Personally, I would tell her on her own maybe by phone so she doesn't have to try and pretend to be ok with it in front of lots of other people. I know that around my miscarriage and PCOS diagnosis I had lots of people announce pregnancies, have babies and I just had to deal with it and it was just one of those things in life that weren't fair. Probably, don't use the 'we weren't even trying' line as that is a real kick in the teeth to someone who is having problems. I do go on the idea that if you stop using contraception and dtd knowing that it is a possibility - there is some element of trying even if it is different to the obsessive ovulation stick/charting etc. that I went through.

I am feeling really well today - i am hoping it will last as I want to go out tonight.

needles I agree with LIG, don't tell her that you weren't trying, just be honest but gentle with her. I had a similar situation when I was pregnant with DS, my friend who I work with had just had a molar pregnancy, she was in hospital at the time when I found out so when she came back to work everybody already knew that I was pregnant (I'd had to blab as we'd been on a weekend trip away so I was getting asked why I wasn't drinking).
I didn't want her to hear my news through office gossip so I took her aside to tell her, I felt awful, I wished so much that we were going through our pregnancies together and in a way I wanted to give her my pregnancy, we had a hug and a cry, she was happy for me and she appreciated my honesty but I know she was dying inside. I told her that her day would come and when it does she'll appreciate it even more because of what she has been through. 3 years on and we're now both pregnant at the same time

Well this morning I was sick for the first time . I'm happy that I finally feel pregnant, feel much more confident that everything is OK but I had forgotten actually how horrible it is being sick first thing in the morning when there is nothing to come up eewwwwww.

Hi, I think I'm about 7 weeks along with baby#1. Eating more, sore boobs, super emotional, plus sleeping loads (I recon I slept for about 14hrs yesterday, lucky it came at a good time with days off of work over xmas. How on earth do you cope if you've already got little one/s?). My mum tells me that she slept alot when expecting me but is this normal? dreading going back to work this next week, I'm a receptionist so nowhere to hide for a doze! how long does this bit last?
Still working my way around the lingo... but I'm jipsey (27) due date 21/08/12 (I think) dc#1

Lig & missduff thanks for the advice, will prob do it on the phone as by the time I see her face-to-face again I might well be showing. Will just tell her I'm pregnant and if she asks I will tell her we tried for one month, but won't mention that bit unless she asks. Breaks my heart as she and her DH would be great parents :( hopefully one day it'll happen for them.

jipsey the tiredness is normal as the hormones make you sleepy, plus your body is going through a lot at this early stage. From memory when I was pregnant with DC1 I think the tiredness lasted until 16 weeks! But I'm sure each person is different and quite a sleepy person anyway, love to sleep whether I'm pregnant or not! This pregnancy I make sure I have a lie-down or a nap when DS is napping. Basically the only time I don't feel like I'm to vomit is when I'm asleep :( :(

Hi jipsey and congratulations! We're due around the same date, I'm 23rd August.
I'm exactly the same, sooooo tired, I can have a 3 hour afternoon nap and when I get up I still don't feel any better than before I slept.
Today is my first day back in work and I'm really struggling, only been here 1 hour and 20 minutes too!
I was adamant I wasn't gonna put loads of weight on with this pregnancy, I thought ''i'll snack on healthy stuff and not as often'' but now I'm remembering why I put on weight last time, I feel sick when I get hungry and unfortunately the things which I fancy are things like cake and chips lol.
Looking after a little one isn't as difficult as I thought it would be, you just kinda get on with it because you have to and I am lucky that my DS loves to sleep too . It's the working that I'm struggling with, if I was at home with DS I could just sit watching Peppa Pig with a brew, go for a walk round the park, a bit of lunch n then an afternoon nap. Easy. Sitting at a desk being polite to people, trying to act and look un-pregnant, it's hard.

And yes I seem to remember last time as soon as I hit 12 weeks the sickness and tiredness lifted a lot as that's when the placenta takes over a lot of the work, I think by about 16 weeks I was feeling pretty much normal. And that's when all the good bits start, u start to feel movements, your hair goes thick and shiny, hardly need to shave your legs, skin and nails are better than ever etc.

Thankyou Missduff and needlescuties! I've only told a handful of people and it's great to hear from others going through the same that it's all normal! I'm lucky so far (touchwood) in so much as I haven't felt queezy at all. For years I've struggled with anxiety-related queasyness in the mornings so I was really worried about morning sickness, but it seems to have had the opposite effect on me. So hungry though! I was up at 4am this morning stuffing marmalade on toast! One embarrasing side-effect is farting, my otherhalf has given me the nickname 'trumper' as I just doesn't seem to stop!

jipsey I think you should change your Mumsnet name to Trumper! lol.
I've not noticed any extra trumping but it's weird the changes that you get with pregnancy, I even snore more when I'm pregnant, something to do with the tissues softening. I'm glad that DP gets to suffer too

Hi All,
Have been looking at joining for a while but had a heavy bleed with clots on Christmas Day, so was really worried I'd MC'd early on. Went to EPU yesterday and had a scan, all seems ok. I'm only 6 weeks but there was a faint heartbeat and everything was in the right place, so greatly releaved. Due on 25/08/12.
This was a complete accident, we weren't using anything, I was trying to work around my cycle, unfortunately my cycle isnt fully back to normal after DS1, he's 11 months, so I'll have a 19 month old and a new born :( that soo wasn't the plan. But both DH and myself are happy as we were going to try towards end of 2012 anyway, so just earlier than expected.
I'm having nausea already, although eating is keeping it at bay but with DS1 I was severely ill with it from about 8 weeks to 11.5 weeks, I'm not looking forward to that. I also have itchy boobs and am always tired, luckily DS1 sleeps twice a day so I get to nap :)

Needles I was in a similar situation, a friend I've known at work for about 4yrs has been TTC for about 2.5yrs with nothing yet, her and her DH are having test, but in this time I have had a DS1 and am now PG with DC2, also there are 4 other pregnancies on our team, when I went back after mat leave she was telling me about the tests she's having and then I find out I'm PG again. I talked to her in private, she was really pleased but I could see in her eye's it was killing her :(

So after that enormous post I'll just leave you with my stats and hope to get to know you all :)

Damikeh (28) - Due Date 25.08.12 - DC2

xx

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Daclaireh (28) - Due Date 25.08.12 - DC2

Welcome Daclaireh and Jipsey,

Jipsey i have had awful unexpected burbs - it is quite embaressing in the middle of meetings, meals out when these huge burps take me by surprise - it is like I have lost all my manners!

Typically, now it is nearly home time I have started feeling yuk again......

Welcome Jipsey, firsttimer and declaireh.
Can't wait for Jipsey to name change to Trumper or trumpet even!

mmmm toast and marmite

So much for keeping it quiet from most of my colleagues. I had my head down the toilet at work this morning retching LOUDLY. Why can I never do it quietly?! Had to call in the on call to scrub in theatre for a section because there was no way on this earth I could have stood scrubbed up feeling the way I did. Never had this with DD, could it mean this one's a boy?

Thanks LIG1979 and geekette

PictureThis I had terrible sickness with my DS1, 3 weeks of constantly needing to be near a toilet, so I really feel for you. Maybe a boy? Is that what your wanting?

Don't mind either way to be honest so long as everything is ok. 3 weeks! Oh Lord.

Picture I've been on here moaning a lot about my constant being sick :( I have felt awful this pregnancy and sick about 3-4 times a day, usually just retching but sometimes proper vomit :(

I have a boy and never had this with his pregnancy. Urgh!

Happy new year everyone!!

picturethis poor you sounds horrid. If you nibble on some thing does the nausea pass?

I'm 8 weeks today really hope everything is ok. Dreading dating scan - plus have no one to have dd2 for me - and paranoid it will turn out to be some thing horrid

Happy new year everyone! Hope everyone enjoyed it even though we were sober!
We had 2 parties yesterday, a kids birthday party in the morning n a nye party in the evening. Everyone is gradually finding out my news. I'm a bit pissed off tho cos I told my friend the other week cos I was supposed to be going out for her birthday but had fallen asleep, I didn't want her thinking I was just a crap friend so explained it was cos I'm pregnant, I also mentioned tho that I wasn't really telling people yet. So what does she do? Tell everyone? Well maybe not everyone but some people, even told a random person who I've never met before yesterday at the party.
FFS she's 36 years old, surely shes a bit old for idol gossip ? I'd never tell someone else unless I knew that I was ok to. It just seems wrong that random ppl know our news when DP's family don't even know yet.

Also it came out at the party last night, I thought they were believing the 'I'm on antibotics' line but when I was leaving one of the girls shouted 'bye have a nice pregnancy', which was actually quite funny , especially as she spent most the night trying to make me drink shots!

Happy new year everyone!
I am also 8 weeks today - 12 weeks seems so far away.

Did anyone do anything good for NYE? I had my 1st one ever home alone and since I was about 15 sober. DH is a police officer and worked till 5 am. I couldn't face a night out with single people and in any event wasn't sure I would make it to midnight. In the end I was woken up at midnight by all the fireworks.

Picturethis - sorry your sickness outed you. It sounds pretty terrible. My nausea isn't too bad but it is most of the time and keeping busy makes it worse so my life seems to have stopped - tried initially to keep going but it was getting so difficult to put a smiley face when all I wanted to do was lie down. Hoping the placenta will kick in soon and I will feel normal again.

Hi all, Happy New year.
My sickness and tiredness got far worse this week (i'm 8 weeks today). I saw a chart somewhere with the levels of hormones on it and they really ramp up massively, then again between 9-12 weeks, then start dropping a bit. Today feeling slightly better so far but had a lie in and slept well and tiredness does make the nausea far worse. Also boobs less tender than yesterday- wonder if your body adjusts to the hormones?
I was at work yesterday which was awful, even though it was so quiet. I work in front line customer service position so can't hide as much as i might if i were in some jobs (or at home). I also knocked over our christmas tree yesterday and couldn't face picking it up- so odd for me as i'm usually Little Miss Tidy. Really forgetful too. Lost midwives appointment card between surgery and home- so not me!

DP picked the tree up in the end, he made me laugh, when i asked if anything had broken he said it was like the Somme in the lounge, decapitated fairies and angels all over the floor.