June 2012- thread 2 nausea, secrets and extreme (hunger) excitement.

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Hi all! Well I'm 10 weeks exactly today. Can't believe I've had no sickness yet!!! I have, however, started getting pain in my lower back/top of back of thighs. If I sit for awhile I seize up and end up limping pathetically around the house. Has anyone else got this? It seems a bit early to be complaining about back pain. Considering seeing a physio if it doesn't go off :-(

Bumple I've been having that, not too painful more of an ache but a big yes to the hobbling about!

Just tucked my very tired almost 3yr old up in bed, she is exhausted after a family party for her today, my mum got her her first bike and she is thrilled she's not got off it all afternoon, I'm so grateful we have hard flooring throughout downstairs as it was dank and dreary all day! My auntie got her a lovely peppa pig tea set and velcro cut up and play cake that sings and the candles light up and various other peppa bits. She is very happy! And already snoring!

I couldn't bear to cut the cake a day early so they had cupcakes --also on profile--

I'm totally exhausted now!

I forgot to mention in my earlier post. Thanks ecstatica. All the support means a world to me.

Florin I pictured you on the beanie and got quite jealous . I have a lil bump as well. DH talks to the bump sometimes which is sweet.

Anyone else got restless legs? I seem to get them off and on.

hey bumple check it out with your midwife, but if you find it doesnt clear up, come join me on the SPD sofa. I'm having pain already too, tis my second tho so I recognise what I'm dealing with. I'll fluff a cushion for you! Hopefully its just a phase and you won't need to set up camp with me for the duration, but you're welcome if needs be!

hi everyone. i'm back home after a few days with my family. It was hard work - DS threw up all over the plane on the way up (he didn't like being strapped in, so screamed and screamed until he threw up, so I am not especially sympathetic...), and ripped the window blind out on the way home, and spent the days in between tormenting my parents' dogs :o fun times! I had some really useful, but tiring, meetings, and caught up with loads of old friends and acquaintances, did some valuable networking and promotion for my work, and got some new shoes, so apart from the usual hateful behaviour from my dad, and nagging from my mum, it was a worthwhile trip. Especially the shoes :o

morning sickness has been bad over the trip though, I was nauseous all the sodding time, and chucked a few times too :( I just can't find anything that stops it. And DS not sleeping didn't help, so I was just exhausted and shaking with nausea for much of the trip. Travelling alone with a 2 year old is hard work!! Oh, but I got him a Trunki last week, and it was just fab - can't recommend them highly enough! I thought they were just gimmicks, but wow, DS rode around everywhere on his 'gruffo' and he got many many envious looks/comments from other children and even some adults!!

my mum has said she doesn't think I'll cope with DC2, which was a helpful comment, and my father was offensive the whole trip, kept telling DS to 'shut the fuck up'. bearing in mind my dad is a respected professor, who has several of his own children, you'd expect him to know that 2 year olds a) never shut up and b) parrot every single word that is said to them there's a good reason I rarely visit them. and mum told me that DC2 will probably be stillborn or disabled because I'm so grossly fat (am a size 18), and she is very disappointed in me, so, again, helpful.

right, i am off to bed in a wee minute, I'm exhausted, but just wanted to say hi!

Whoa, sorry to everyone else I was going to reply to there but just been blown away by Kveta - that sounds like the weekend from hell! Clearly you have low expectations of your parents, they seem completely awful. What your mum said was just downright nasty and your dad seems oblivious....and to feel nauseous the whole time? You very much have my sympathies. Hope you sleep well and forget the trauma!
Everyone else, have a nice sleep tonight. I'm definitely hoping for one myself.

kveta sorry to hear you have a hard time visiting your parents the comments they said about your baby were just horrid please try and forget them. Glad you had some successes while there though.
Miniangel I am back in my bean bag it is honestly huge can completely curl up in it, I have never been so comfy so wishing I could take it home! Glad I am not the only one with a bump although quite proud of it, my dh has been saying help to baby too. I think it helps when there is something physically there as in a bump as it feels more real to them.
JJ your daughters presents sound wonderful particularly the cake toy

Hi all,

It's been a fairly busy old week as DH was poorly with the dreaded man-flu, poor thing, but is feeling much better now.

Okay, shout outs:

mini, glass you're back home now after a scary week.

Dalrymps- FIL smoking in front of children and pregnant women is gross. I know it was different in his day etc but there have been enough public information campaigns now for ignorance not to be an excuse, surely?

Greengoose & sillywmama - my sympathies go to you both and I hope you have managed to get the smell of sick out of your noses. Normally after a cleanup op like that I'd recommend a stiff drink, but...

Florin - I am very jealous of you being in Cornwall and hope you have a fab time. Her you forgiven your H?

Welcome to mrskitchen, whyalwaysboris and Katyj26!

Kayzr - I have a considerable bump as well now: we just had the inlaws over and tbh they must be bloody blind (they don't do tact, bless them).

Kveta - well done you for surviving all that: how did you not go mad?

My scan is tomorrow afternoon. I think I'm 13 weeks bang on but I guess this is where we find out, eh?

I feel mostly better now, pretty much over MS and food aversions: we had sausage casserole for tea tonight, which is the first tomatoey dish I have been able to face for ages.

Can I have a slap in the face with a big dead fish for being worried that this might mean Something Bad? I have (for 13 weeks) a huge tummy and my boobs have doubled in size so I am trying not to look a gift horse in the mouth but it is almost less than 12 hours to go and I am terrified the sonographer will say, "what baby?" or words to that effect.

I do feel so much more human, though: I have made Xmas puddings as well today, for the first time ever. I will not eat them until Xmas day. I won't.

By the way, did you know that Tesco does mince pie icecream? It's not bad at all.

Oh my god kveta I am speechless at the behaviour of your parents (this is coming from someone who has toxic parents who I have no contact with) Your mums comments were awful and your dad language terrible, what a way to speak to a 2 year old, poor thing

Well done on managing to travel alone with ds despite the vomiting and blind ripping, you're a stronger woman than me, especially whilst having nausea too. Hope you can relax now you're back home

kveta I would have probably told my Dad to shut the fuck up if he had said it to either of my boys. Whay are really horrible thing to say to a little boy. Ignore your Mum if possible, I am sure you will cope perfectly well.

kveta have a hug! You must have the patience of a saint. Please ignore your mums comments, I'm bigger than you and have two perfectly healthy children, ds spent some time in scbu but it was completely unrelated to me,b trust me I checked! I can't believe they'd say things like that. Have to say I'm completely in awe of your courage and competance to travel alone with a 2yo, I fail to get a 4 and 3yo into the car without some kind of drama! And I don't even drive so dps always with me!

Dd just woke up, I popped up to tuck her in and she said, "mummy thank you for my cake present" I said she'd get her presents from us tomorrow and she said "wow more" she's a sweetie!

Hi Starlight here with Christmas namechange.

Kveta I have a disabled child. They are given to normal people with good lifestyles, health and diet as much as they are given to anyone else. I would have cut off all contact with my mother if she had ever said that to me.

FFS have you grown up with that kind of emotional abuse? How is your self-esteem generally. I'd be surprised and proud if you had any left!

Hi all, hope everyone is geared up for a good week. I was feeling quite positive but then read the post from Kveta, poor you, I can't quite beleive any Mum of Dad would be like that. Ignore them both is what I would do.

34 days til Christmas Eve

Morning all

Hope everyone had a good weekend...can't bear the thought of another full week in work! 5 to go to Chrimbo!

Kveta that's horrendous of your parents. I assume you won't be back for a while? Ignore what they are saying, your weight will have no impact on the baby. You must have been really hurt though.

Florin cornwall sounds fab...I have a bump too. I'm only 10 +4 and already I notice it. I bought though belt bands from Amazon which will be great etc. i don't want to tell work for a while though so just hoping I can hide it anotehr few weeks!

Thankfully I felt more like myself this weekend and the crippling tiredness has subsided. Although I'm wrecked today but think that's Monday morning blues!

DH bought books on being a good dad which I though was sweet (a little premature but don't want to curb his enthusiasm :)

Good luck today open I'm sure all will be fine.

Need to chase up booking apt today....surely I should have heard something by now.

Kveta that truly sounds like a weekend from hell. Poor you, hope you will not let your parents attitude ruin this joyous time. We are here for you. A big hug x.

Good luck Openerofjars. 13 weeks wow.

Morning everyone!

Haven't posted for a while (mostly because my phone was playing up) but have been lurking and catching up with everyone's news. I'm so sorry for those of you who have had scares/ awful symptoms/ unsupportive families. Fingers crossed for a better time from now on.

I am 11 weeks now and still waiting for a scan date! Going to chase my midwife today I think because I'm getting worried I've been forgotten now! Had my booking in at 8 weeks and she said to expect an appointment via the post asap. Still nowt.

On the plus side I am feeling much better, the nausea is dying down, just bad first thing in the morning now, not all day. Flip side is I'm now STARVING all the time. Dying to eat last night's pasta leftovers for "lunch" already and it's not yet half past ten!!

Have told a few friends now but hoping to get away with not telling work (and the wider world) until after Xmas because I've only been back from maternity leave with DD1 for 3 months and several other team members are upduffed so it will not go down well! Trying to come up with more and more reasons for not drinking and have actually started turning invites down because I think it'll be awkward explaining my sobriety!

Literally obsessed with baby names, keep playing with differnt combinations in my head all day long! Several close friends have announced pregnancies this month (which is lovely, I will have some maternity leave buddies!) but I hav to confess amid my congrats I did think please don't steal use my favourite names!!

Ta, I am supposed to be doing some uni work but I am shitting bricks a bit too twitchy to concentrate. I don't really feel that the whole idea of having an actual baby has sunk in at all yet so if all goes well then the scan should help with that. DH is much more with the programme than me: he said "what about names?" the other day and I said "for what? Ohhhhhhhh yes, the BABY. Doh".

warlin, that's sweet of your DH: much better that way round. Btw, when you say bump bands do you mean the kind that let you keep wearing your non-pg jeans for longer? I have been meaning to get one again this time but are they cheaper on Amazon? Topshop does them for £7 but that seems a lot for what they are.

kveta, how are you doing today? How your parents can say things like that to you, well... Hope the nausea lets up, too. Mind you, a friend of mine once threw up on her very unpleasant MIL. Just a thought.

JJ, bless your DD. DS was more like, "can I have more presents today?". And in 5 weeks we do it all again!

Speaking of which, my Xmas puds went all wrong, so now we have to eat them or turn them into icecream or something. Grr.

PS Kveta I'm a size 18 too and my dad bangs on about the need to lose weight all the time "for the good of the children". He seems relatively nice in comparison to you mum though! I would probably have got violent if someone had said that to me! Why on earth would you ever utter those words?

Midwife never even mentioned my weight when I booked in but maybe that comes later. Am half a stone heavier than I was at this stage with DD and much less fit so a bit concerned -but not that it will "cause" still birth or disability, FFS!

thanks everyone. my parents can be great sometimes, but mostly they are bastards. I try and limit contact with them to max two visits a year, and this year have managed 1, which is plenty! they would have been less awful if DH had been with me... mum has said she will come and stay in a B+B near us when this baby is a few weeks old, and do cooking, cleaning, and DS distraction for me for a week, so if she does that, I will most likely forgive her for her awful tactlessness! Dad, less so. He has a chronic health condition, and uses it as an excuse to be vile all the time, and just seems to be getting worse and worse :( luckily, all us kids have left home, so we are exposed to less of it!!

Starlight - I have next to no self esteem, but DH and DS are fabulous and loving, and I'm slowly becoming more confident. DH is NOT a fan of my parents... DS loves Granny, but that maybe more to do with the fact that she has dogs for him to play with :o

the thing is, I know my wieght could have an impact on the baby/delivery etc. But it's too late to do anything about it now, and I don't do anything else wrong, like drink, or smoke, so it is only a single risk factor to worry about. A big one, yes, but I trust the midwives and doctors to help me make the right decisions, and look after me and baby!

good luck with the scan today opener - I was the same last week, was convinced there would be no baby there! But he or she was indeed there, and investigating hands and feet, and generally looking normal! I still can't quite believe I'm pg again though, although the constant nausea is going some way to convince me!!

greengoose and silly - hope you and kids are all feeling better soon. I am just about recovering from my flu-thing, and still knackered, luckily DS and DH didn't get it, or if they did, they got it very mildly.

jj the cake looks great! happy birthday to your DD! it is my brother's birthday today, and mum made him a cake as he was visiting them too at the weekend, so DS hasn't stopped talking about Uncle's happy day cake!

thedogwalker 34 days, noooo! I still haven't decided what I want for christmas, DH keeps asking me! anyone got any ideas?!

miniangel how are you feeling now?

sorry not to catch up with everyone, I am 'working' and really need to get on with it, so will read through what I've missed over the next few days!!

oh, bird I am obsessed with names too - loads of friends have had babies recently and used the names I liked, and some of the names I like are REALLY popular at the moment, so I am not sure. I asked for inspiration from family, and found that both grandfathers, all 4 great grandfathers, and all 8 great-great grandfathers had the same first name!! and a combination of the same 5 middle names, all of which have been used recently in my family!! my wee brother and wee nephew have 3 of the names between them :o so we are struggling hugely, esp with boy names.

think I'm 11+5 today, eek!

kveta I am too opened mouthed at your parents. I don't blame your limiting time spent with them. I'm not surprised DH isn't keen on them. Glad to hear DH and DS provide you with lots and lots of love.

opener good luck with the scan. Excited we're all getting close to checking there is actually a little baby in there and we aren't all going mad! You can get waist extenders Which allow jeans to be worn a little longer from eBay for a few pounds!

bird yes, I'd chase. I'm almost 11 weeks and hadn't heard anything friday. Chased and appointment arrived this morning.

Appointment was when Dean is away for weekend so re scheduled. Also, like I had thought, our hospitial doesn't allow young children as it's a 'medical examination' so will have to call on my mother to come & stay and have DD (almost 3)

open I got my jean extensions from amazon--- paid £13 but you get 3 of different sizes and cloth coverings in 3 colours...not sure what they'll look like on but a great idea. I'm definitely noticing a bump now. Just wish I had my booking apt as its 3 weeks until my next scan and I need to feel I'm "in the system". It still doesn't really feel real to me.

I've told a good few friends now...DH doesn't seem to be able to keep quiet on the subject and has told more than me...he has been asking them all for parenting advice which is really quite sweet.

bird I'm the same re work. I'm only in the job 5 months and we have so much on next year. It's so hard when I'm agreeing to all this work and secretly knowing I won't be here. Ah well, it's their problem. I'll be glad when it's out in the open though. I am wearing some truely hideous outfiits at the moment to stay comfy so they must be wondering why I've let myself go! It's our christmas do on the 16th so I might tell them before that.

I figure that my boss will be in better form at Christmas and may be more annoyed if I tell her in Jan! Plus by the time I get back after the hols it may be obvious and I won't have to say!

Dying to tell everyone though...but scared something will still happen...do you start to relax at any stage or just worry the whole way through???

Evening all!opener how did the scan go?
I am desperate to see how baby is getting on and all looks ok so booked a private scan when I will be just 10 weeks. I know I am impatient but I don't care just want to check all is ok.
bird we have already decided on our boys name dm is driving herself mad trying to guess and we are not giving it away. Girls name is another matter dh and I just can't agree on any names at all we just like completly different things!

Hi all, welcome recent additions!

kveta I think you seem an extraordinarily strong woman. You can't choose your parents but you can choose how their actions mould the person that you and it seems to me like your parents negativity have made you a much more positive mother as a consequence. My dad has a tactless tongue, shall we say, and likes to make 'helpful' comments about my weight and lifestyle, none of which are appreciated. All they've done is made me determined to have a healthy approach to life in front of DD.

opener hope all was great with the scan. I can't wait to get my date. Am only 9 weeks so not expecting to hear anything for a couple of weeks.

mini I'm so glad you're out of hosp and have your mum looking after you. Take it easy. X

Am feeling a bit fed up at the moment. DH's immediate family is fairly vast and really close (a typical Sunday lunch has about 16 people!). So when we told my niece, who I'm really close to and a recent new mum, we did realise that other family members would find out cos she's not subtle! Not a problem as they are people that love me and if anything was to go wrong I'd be happy with them knowing that too. I'm very lucky to have such a supportive in-law family. Except now I've received emails from a couple of my s-i-l's friends, who I know but wouldn't call friends, saying 'congratulations'. I'm livid. My s-i-l knows well that we're not broadcasting our news outside the family as I'm only 9 weeks and I can't help feeling there's some negative motive behind her doing something like that. I know that sounds cynical. I just feel this happy moment for me and DH has been taken out of our hands. Sorry girls, rant over! Grrrrr!

ellybett Grrrr for you about your sil. Sorry you didn't get to spread the news yourself. I have one of these 'broadcasters' tucked away in my extended family and i'm really wary of them now due to their previous form (not with me but with other family members). If it helps, everyone in the family is aware of what they are like, and are secretly appalled when they do this.